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  • Hey, it's Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place if you want to create a

  • business and life you love, and this is Q&A Tuesday. Today's question comes from Ben and

  • Ben writes:

  • "Hello from South Africa. Thank you so much. Your videos are an endless source of motivation.

  • I'm not yet 30 but I've worked my way fairly high up within my company. I'm the youngest

  • senior manager and I've worked tirelessly to build a solid reputation, but unfortunately,

  • last year my physical, spiritual and mental health took a dive. I got through a serious

  • illness and burnout, but in the process, I dropped so many balls, missed so many deadlines

  • and let so many people down. Luckily I was able to get back up. I just wish I could say

  • the same for my reputation. I fear I've lost the respect of my business partners and that

  • the damage may jeopardize future opportunities. I've reached out to people to explain what

  • happened, but I fear I'm no longer being given the chance to prove myself. How do I rebuild

  • trust with my business partners and colleagues? Thanks so much -- Ben."

  • Ben, great question. You've got to know every human being on earth makes mistakes. However,

  • it is possible to make a comeback. I know you've said you've explained your behavior

  • but I'm curious. Did you do it in the most effective? If I were you, here's what I'd

  • do.

  • #1 -- Take a walk in their shoes.

  • First, I'd list all the people that I let down and the exact ways that my behavior affected

  • them. This is a great tool to allow you to see everything from another person's point

  • of view, which is awesome for communicating more effectively.

  • #2 -- Have a heart to heart and put it in writing.

  • Doesn't matter whether it's in person or over the phone; you just want to start calling

  • your peeps, and you can say something like:

  • "As you know, last year was rough and while I'm thrilled to be back -- it may be hard

  • for you to trust me again. I apologize for the problems I caused and you have my word,

  • it will never happen again...

  • "I'm committed to this company and to its success. In fact, here's my plan to make sure

  • it never does, and here's what I'll do to make it up to you, if you'll give me the chance."

  • After you've had the conversation, follow up with a "thank you" note and reiterate what

  • you said. Remember, it's one thing to say you're going to change and a whole other thing

  • to put it in writing.

  • #3 -- Don't talk about it, be about it.

  • It may be a cliché, but actions do speak louder than words. Don't let your mind keep

  • screwing with you. Don't think about what other people think. Just commit to being a

  • pro. I want you to remember this and yes, it's a tweetable:

  • "Positive action is the best way to put your mistakes in the past."

  • Ben, I know you're afraid that people won't give you a second chance but I'll bet you

  • can get them rooting for you. Remember, everybody loves a great comeback.

  • Ben, that was my A to your Q. I hope it helps. Now I would love to hear from you. Have you

  • ever let a bunch of people down? How did you make your comeback? On the flipside, has someone

  • ever let you down and really come back strong? What did they do? I would love to hear your

  • story.

  • As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com, so go

  • there and leave a comment now.

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  • Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world needs that special

  • gift that only you have. Thank you so much for watching and I'll see you next time on

  • MarieTV.

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