Placeholder Image

Subtitles section Play video

  • Hello, hello, hello. It’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be

  • to create a business and life you love. And this is Q&A Tuesday. And today’s question,

  • it comes from a woman named Veronica. And Ms. Veronica writes,

  • Hi Marie, I’m in desperate need of help. I’ve realized that sometimes I sound like

  • a crazy person when I’m under a lot of stress. Once in a while I say things I don’t mean,

  • and make myself out to be one of those insecure, crazies when I’m really not. What do you

  • do after situations where you goofed and weren’t thinking straight when apologizing just doesn’t

  • seem like the appropriate thing to do?”

  • Girl. What are you thinking? I’m just kidding, that’s a great question.

  • Veronica, this is an awesome question. All of us have said stupid things, weve done

  • things we later regret, and we say things we wish we could take back. Now, before we

  • go into the answer to this question, I wanna dial it back a little bit and see if we can

  • train ourselves to not even go there in the first place. Here’s what I mean. I think

  • it’s possible that we can prevent at least 90% of the crazy messes that all of us get

  • ourselves into.

  • Look, when we human beings get stressed out and emotional, we almost always say and do

  • things that well later regret.

  • That’s why it’s vital you put a new standard in place where you check yourself before you

  • wreck yourself.

  • Here’s what I mean, when youre frustrated or upset, do not respond to anyone, and I’m

  • speaking from experience here. You need to zip it and cool off emotionally so you don’t

  • say all the crazy things that youre actually thinking in your head.

  • If you need help keeping it zipped, I found this on Amazon, and it ships Prime. Youre

  • welcome.

  • To be honest, I even have a 24 hour rule for myself. If I’m pissed or upset I wait at

  • least 24 hours before I respond to anyone. I invite you to try this one for yourself

  • because it really works.

  • But let’s say you forgot to zip it. Something stupid popped out of your mouth and now you

  • need to clean it up. Here’s what you asked me in your question, you wrote, “What do

  • you do after situations where you goofed and weren’t thinking straight, when apologizing

  • just doesn’t seem like the appropriate thing to do?”

  • Here’s the thing Veronica, I can’t think of any situation where apologizing is inappropriate.

  • If you think you goofed, then say youre sorry. And, as Lynn Johnston said, and it’s

  • a tweetable: “An apology is the superglue of life. It can repair just about anything.”

  • If you want a quick tutorial on how to apologize the right way, you need to check out one of

  • our first ever MarieTV episodes right here.

  • Now, if youre talking about a situation where you didn’t directly offend someone

  • but you think you made a bad impression in your stress filled state, here are 2 go to

  • scripts you can use.

  • Hey, I’m feeling self conscious about something I said yesterday. I think I came across like

  • an insecure, crazy person. What I really meant to say was...

  • Or...

  • Please disregard that little outburst. I was under a lot of stress and talking out of my

  • you know what.

  • As a rule, if you suspect that you offended someone or came across as crazytown, you can

  • never go wrong addressing it. Don’t wonder if they noticed or wonder if theyre mad.

  • Be proactive and take control of the situation and your reputation.

  • Veronica, that is my A to your Q, thank you so much for asking it. Now I wanna hear from

  • you. Have you ever said or done something you later regret? No, not you, right? Of course

  • you have! Well, what did you do and how did you undo the damage? I wanna hear about it

  • in the comments below.

  • As always, the best stuff happens after the episode at MarieForleo.com, so go there and

  • leave a comment now.

  • Did you like this video? Hmm? If so, like it and subscribe and share it with your friends.

  • And if you want even more awesome resources to have a business and life you love, plus

  • some personal updates from me that I only share in email, get your butt over to MarieForleo.com

  • and sign up for email updates.

  • Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams. The world needs that special gift

  • that only you have. Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time on

  • MarieTV.

Hello, hello, hello. It’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be

Subtitles and vocabulary

Click the word to look it up Click the word to find further inforamtion about it