talking about today. - Yeah.

- What are we talking about today?

- I want us to tell the stories of

the first time we got vibrators.

- What? (laughing nervously)

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Vibrators are super important and every woman

should have one and not feel ashamed,

and I felt the shame for a long time.

- Oh my god, I hadn't been into a sex store

until maybe two years ago.

- Yeah when we went to Palm Springs?

Was that when it was? - When we went to Palm Springs

- Whoa. Spoiler alert.

I bought Ella her first vibrator.

- She did. (laughs)

I feel like sex stores

are very intimidating. - Yeah.

- I was very naive and kind of prude, and like I had

never watched porn really, - Okay.

- I'd never even entered the realm of like vibrators,

knew nothing about it until I was an adult.

- You were the Jon Snow of sex.

- Yeah. - You knew nothing.

- Yeah. (laughs)

- Amazon is probably making it so

much easier for people to like - Oh, yes.

- you ship it to your school, or to your friend's home,

or to your work or something. - Your school.

- Probably not to your school.

Do you have a very real fear of

when you're traveling that your vibrator is gonna

go off in your luggage? - Yes.

- Or that they're going to stop you?

- I'm scared that TSA,

it's gonna get flagged - Yeah

- in TSA, and they're going to be like, "What's this?"

and I'm gonna have to be like, you know what it is.

- I have had that thought so many times

and then I wouldn't bring my vibrator with me

and then I would just be mad, and then finally

I had to just be like, you know what?

If they ask, then it's yes,

it's a vibrator. - It's a fucking vibrator.

- But you have to have that in your head, mentally

you have a scene where you're like yelling at the TSA

with two vibrators, just like yelling.

- Well, I looked it up actually and it's not something

that they'll flag. - Oh yeah.

- So you're fine.

- And hack: just take the batteries out before you travel,

so that your bag doesn't start vibrating.

So I got my first vibrator like most people at a Brookstone,

I think, that was a foot massager.

You know what I mean? - I used to be that kid

that was putting it all over. (laughs)

- You're like "Oh, it's for my neck!"

- And now I'm like, wow.

It's just so funny.

- It reminds me of that episode of Sex and the City

where she tries to return the vibrator and they're like,

"What was wrong with it?"

And she's like, "It didn't get me off."

And they're like, "It's a foot massager."

And she's like, "Well, this foot massager

"didn't get me off." (both laughing)

- It's weird now 'cause we talk about it all the time

and our friends, our group chat is constantly

giving each other recommendations.

- Like this one's really good,

you should get that one. - I need to now get into the

phase where I have multiple vibrators.

- Yeah, I just did that.

- Did you? - Yeah.

- Okay, so wait, tell the story of your first vibrator.

- First vibrator.

We were all hanging out--

- How old were you?

I was like...

18 or 19.

- No, it was whenever we went to Palm Springs.

- So you were like 25.

- Yeah, I was like 25. (laughs)

- Too long!

- Yeah. And I just--

- You just weren't getting off?

- No. - Oh my god.

- I don't think I actually had like...

- An orgasm? - Yeah.

- Oh, that is so... - Yeah.

- It's like we're living - Maybe I had like,

- in the '50s. - two.

- Yeah.

It's hard to orgasm just through normal like P and V sex.

People don't talk about female orgasm.

- No. - They just don't,

and it's assumed that when you're having sex with a guy,

the guy always finishes, - Yeah.

- Or for the most time and that's when it's over.

And so if you don't have a partner who is

also encouraging you and knows what you need,

then you could be 25. - Yeah

- and not really, you weren't sure right?

- I didn't know. - You had no orgasm?

- Yeah I was like, I had think so

and I definitely had had, like, one or two.

- And we were like you would know

- You would know, and I was like, what?

- Everyone was like, "We get off, like, every day."

- And I was like, what?

And they're like "We're going to the

"sex store right now, we're finding you one."

- In Palm Springs - And I was like, no!

And I was so embarrassed but all of my friends were like

"No, this has to change" - Then finally I just

bought one for Ella. - Yeah, I couldn't do it,

I was too embarrassed in the store to even buy it.

- I was like this is good, wasn't it just like a little one?

- The tiniest little... - Yeah.

'Cause I was like, sometimes honestly it's

(censor beeping) intimidating to go into a sex store,

and it's just a giant, like, dildo vibrator.

- Oh my god, yeah. - And whether or not,

it's hilarious to me 'cause they're all pink and purple

or something, - Yeah.

- I want a cool space design or something, but it is really

(sighs) intimidating, so we got you

just the smallest one. - The small one,

and then I was like, okay, wow.

I didn't know this.

(laughs) - I can't believe...

So now I'm comfortable talking about it.

And I just want other women

to not be embarrassed about it and be like, you know what?

Even if you're having sex with a guy,

- Have a vibrator. - you should have a vibrator,

like you shouldn't just...

- It's also for your own pleasure,

- Yeah. - it doesn't have to be

at the same time.

Honestly it's just relaxing. (laughs)

- Knowing what you like. - If you want to go to sleep.

Yeah. (laughs)

- Knowing what you like is important too,

and being able to tell people.

- So now have you kind of graduated into--

I'm still, I will admit I'm still kind of afraid

of just sex stores at large.

- Okay, I've 360 - Really?

You're the guru now?

- I wouldn't say guru but I've been now, like,

three or four times - Wow.

- to a sex store.

You know what?

It's actually kind of fun.

It's like, ooo, what is this thing?

(whip slashes) - You've got to go to a good.

Honestly, I think the people who work there

are professionals too.

You can look up and see on Yelp where their reviews,

if it's a generally female friendly store

or if it's sex positive.

So yeah, I definitely have a secret vibrator

that I felt really bad and guilty about,

and I didn't talk to any of my friends about it.

- Oh yeah, no no no, me neither, not until I was an adult.

- Like, two years - Yeah, literally.

- I started talking to my friends about it.

- It was very, we all, I think,

one day were like, "So do you have a vibrator or what?"

You know.

- This is great, I was - Yeah.

- a little afraid at first, - No.

- but it's just a conversation - It's just a conversation so,

you know, talk with your friends about it,

or talk with your internet friends below

and let us know what you think.

- Yeah, if you're too afraid to talk to your friends,

just comment below.

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