So many fun reasons for me.

I found that when I suddenly find myself filled with anger with no discernible reason, it's often because I've had poor boundaries, whether by being polite and agreeing to something I don't want to do.

Hey, do you mind helping me get rid of this body?

Yeah, yeah, of course I can.

Or allowing someone to negate my emotions.

Wow, that makes me really upset.

No, it doesn't.

Well, yes.

Yes, it does.

No, it doesn't.

Oh, okay.

Boundaries are these weird, invisible and symbolic fences that are meant to allow us to protect and assert our authentic Selves.

And they're in every facet of our lives.

I mean, we have emotional boundaries, physical boundaries, spiritual and intellectual boundaries, and, of course, sexual boundaries, something stronger than others.

So I'm available Monday, Wednesday and Friday evenings with the occasional Saturday morning, but absolutely no two consecutive nights in a row.

Though I am okay with the morning following evening permitted that you weren't drinking the night before and if you were mints are 100% necessary.

Uh, okay, let me let me Just let me just take some notes here.

Also, missionary preferred other positions available, but it really depends on how inebriated I am.

And if you're like me and you tend to have really bad boundaries, you'll often find that you're resentful of yourself and others because you're often in situations you don't wanna be in.

And the thing is, we Onley have ourselves to blame.

I mean, bad boundaries or learned, but good boundaries could be relearned.

And it starts with taking responsibility for your actions and emotions.

So sexy.

I know we fear being rude or people not liking us or being viewed in a certain way.

So in the moment, it's easier to violate our own boundaries and say yes to things we secretly don't wanna dio.

Hey, Anna, Do you want to fight crime tonight?

Uh, yeah, sure.

Okay, let's go.

Great.

Now crime never sleeps, and now I'm awake, Okay?

Yeah, school.

Right now.

Okay.

Lets go reading a really good poetry book about death and I'm really comfortable and I have no pants on, Okay, But the thing is by not vocalizing.

Our boundaries were disrespecting ourselves.

And boundaries are flexible and dynamic and constantly changing, depending on the context.

So it's something that you just have to listen to your gut about.

I mean, you'll know when something isn't sitting right with you.

Don't bulldoze over your intuition because you're afraid of a little confrontation.

It is possible to assert yourself without being a dick.

I'm sorry.

I would I would love to help you get rid of this body, but it seems like it's just gonna be a really, like, physically taxing thing.

And I've just got too much work on my plate right now.

So if you find yourself randomly upset, check in.

Are you needlessly over exerting yourself?

Are you saying yes when you really mean no?

Are you letting someone just take over what you want?

And if the answer is yes, get excited to have a lot of uncomfortable conversations because the rewards are worth it.

Hello?

And I need help.

Shut up.

If you want a front fight crime and doing a problem closer.

Hey, I'm so sorry to interrupt, but I don't use my phone past 10 PM anymore, so I'm really sorry, but I'm gonna go.

Okay.

Good luck with everything that you're doing.

I am rooting for you.

Goodbye.

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