So many fun reasons for me.

這麼多有趣的理由對我來說。

I found that when I suddenly find myself filled with anger with no discernible reason, it's often because I've had poor boundaries, whether by being polite and agreeing to something I don't want to do.

我發現，當我忽然發現自己沒有任何可辨別的理由就充滿了怒氣時，往往是因為我的界限不清，不管是客套還是同意了一些我不想做的事情。

Hey, do you mind helping me get rid of this body?

嘿，你介意幫我擺脫這具身體嗎？

Yeah, yeah, of course I can.

是啊，是啊，我當然可以。

Or allowing someone to negate my emotions.

或者允許別人否定我的情緒。

Wow, that makes me really upset.

哇，這讓我很不爽。

No, it doesn't.

不，它沒有。

Well, yes.

嗯，是的。

Yes, it does.

是的，它是。

No, it doesn't.

不，它沒有。

Oh, okay.

哦，好吧。

Boundaries are these weird, invisible and symbolic fences that are meant to allow us to protect and assert our authentic Selves.

界限就是這些奇怪的、無形的、象徵性的柵欄，是為了讓我們保護和維護真實的自我。

And they're in every facet of our lives.

而它們就在我們生活的方方面面。

I mean, we have emotional boundaries, physical boundaries, spiritual and intellectual boundaries, and, of course, sexual boundaries, something stronger than others.

我的意思是，我們有情感的界限，身體的界限，精神和智力的界限，當然，還有性的界限，比別人更強的東西。

So I'm available Monday, Wednesday and Friday evenings with the occasional Saturday morning, but absolutely no two consecutive nights in a row.

所以，我週一、週三、週五晚上都有空，偶爾週六上午也有，但絕對不能連續兩晚。

Though I am okay with the morning following evening permitted that you weren't drinking the night before and if you were mints are 100% necessary.

雖然我沒事的早晨次日晚上允許你沒有喝的前一天晚上，如果你是薄荷糖是100％的必要。

Uh, okay, let me let me Just let me just take some notes here.

呃，好吧，讓我讓我 只是讓我在這裡做一些筆記。

Also, missionary preferred other positions available, but it really depends on how inebriated I am.

另外，傳教士優先考慮其他職位，但真的要看我的醉心程度。

And if you're like me and you tend to have really bad boundaries, you'll often find that you're resentful of yourself and others because you're often in situations you don't wanna be in.

如果你像我一樣，你傾向於有非常糟糕的界限，你會經常發現，你對自己和別人都很不滿，因為你經常處於你不想要的情況。

And the thing is, we Onley have ourselves to blame.

而問題是，我們安利要責怪自己。

I mean, bad boundaries or learned, but good boundaries could be relearned.

我的意思是，壞的界限還是學來的，但好的界限可以重新學習。

And it starts with taking responsibility for your actions and emotions.

而這要從對自己的行為和情緒負責開始。

So sexy.

如此性感。

I know we fear being rude or people not liking us or being viewed in a certain way.

我知道我們害怕被人無禮，害怕別人不喜歡我們，害怕被人以某種方式看待。

So in the moment, it's easier to violate our own boundaries and say yes to things we secretly don't wanna dio.

所以在當下，我們更容易違反自己的界限，對自己偷偷不想dio的事情說好。

Hey, Anna, Do you want to fight crime tonight?

喂，安娜，今晚要不要去打擊犯罪？

Uh, yeah, sure.

嗯，是的，當然。

Okay, let's go.

好了，我們走吧。

Great.

厲害

Now crime never sleeps, and now I'm awake, Okay?

現在，犯罪從不睡覺，現在我醒了，好嗎？

Yeah, school.

是啊，學校。

Right now.

現在就去

Okay.

好吧，我知道了

Lets go reading a really good poetry book about death and I'm really comfortable and I have no pants on, Okay, But the thing is by not vocalizing.

讓我們去讀一本關於死亡的好詩集，我真的很舒服，我也沒穿褲子，好吧，但問題是通過不發聲。

Our boundaries were disrespecting ourselves.

我們的界限是對自己的不尊重。

And boundaries are flexible and dynamic and constantly changing, depending on the context.

而邊界是靈活的、動態的、不斷變化的，要根據具體情況而定。

So it's something that you just have to listen to your gut about.

所以這事，你只要聽從你的直覺就可以了。

I mean, you'll know when something isn't sitting right with you.

我的意思是，你會知道什麼時候有些東西不適合你。

Don't bulldoze over your intuition because you're afraid of a little confrontation.

不要因為害怕一點對抗，就用推土機推倒你的直覺。

It is possible to assert yourself without being a dick.

不做雞巴也能堅持自己的觀點。

I'm sorry.

我很抱歉

I would I would love to help you get rid of this body, but it seems like it's just gonna be a really, like, physically taxing thing.

我... ...我很想幫你擺脫這個身體， 但它似乎只是要去 一個真正的，喜歡，身體上的稅收的事情。

And I've just got too much work on my plate right now.

而我現在有太多的工作要做。

So if you find yourself randomly upset, check in.

所以，如果你發現自己隨意的不開心，就來看看。

Are you needlessly over exerting yourself?

你是否無謂地過度勞累？

Are you saying yes when you really mean no?

你是在說 "是 "的時候，真的是 "不是 "嗎？

Are you letting someone just take over what you want?

你是不是讓別人隨便接手你想要的東西？

And if the answer is yes, get excited to have a lot of uncomfortable conversations because the rewards are worth it.

如果答案是肯定的，就興奮地進行很多不舒服的對話，因為回報是值得的。

Hello?

喂？

And I need help.

我需要幫助

Shut up.

閉嘴吧

If you want a front fight crime and doing a problem closer.

如果你想正面打擊犯罪，做一個問題接近。

Hey, I'm so sorry to interrupt, but I don't use my phone past 10 PM anymore, so I'm really sorry, but I'm gonna go.

嘿，我很抱歉打斷，但我不使用我的手機超過晚上10點了，所以我真的很抱歉，但我要去。

Okay.

好吧，我知道了

Good luck with everything that you're doing.

祝你做的一切順利。

I am rooting for you.

我為你加油

Goodbye.

再見了

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我想對廣場空間贊助今天的視頻說聲謝謝。

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Squarespace擁有屢獲殊榮的模板，並且都在一個平臺上，所以永遠不會出現安裝補丁或升級的情況。

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如果你沒有域名，Squarespace提供了簡單而獨特的設置體驗。

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另外，如果你遇到問題，他們有24小時客戶服務。

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前往squarespace com slash anna開始您的免費試用，並在結賬時使用優惠代碼Anna享受9折優惠。