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  • Hello.

  • This is Elliot from E.

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  • English.

  • Are you a shy person?

  • Do you get nervous when it comes to talking to other people being around other people?

  • This is that something which I definitely have been at some point.

  • Especially when I was in school, when I was surrounded by people a lot, I found that I was a shy person.

  • I think a lot of us are.

  • Some of us are naturally born confident, and some of us can be shy.

  • Some of us are in the middle.

  • I consider myself now to be one of those people that are kind of in the middle.

  • Sometimes I'm confident, and sometimes I'm shy.

  • But when it comes to speaking English as an English learner, when you're in English learner, it can be quite scary to actually speak to people.

  • You're worried what people will think of you.

  • You feel anxious, Nervous about speaking English to other people.

  • You're worried your mess up or that you don't.

  • You won't understand them.

  • This is what we would call being shy.

  • You're too shy.

  • Thio, use your English.

  • But I need to tell you that the only way you're going to really improve your English and really get somewhere with your learning.

  • So it's not a waste of time is by overcoming your shyness.

  • Now I'm gonna kind of teach you a few ways that you can overcome shyness.

  • Stop being shy and feel more confident.

  • There's a few things you can do.

  • First of all, you might not be very confident with your English.

  • Now this simply means you need to learn.

  • You need to keep learning until you do feel confident.

  • Also, when it comes to feeling nervous about speaking to someone, the best thing you can do is practice speaking to yourself or even to somebody who you feel close with, whether it's your mom, whether it's your sister, brother, best friend, somebody you're close to.

  • Practice your English with them until you're ready to take the next step.

  • When I say practice talking to yourself, what I mean is, you could practice talking to yourself in the mirror.

  • You could practice talking to yourself by recording your voice and listening back to it.

  • It's okay to talk to yourself.

  • Many people do it, and...

  • It's fine.

  • I think that I always found useful, particularly in school I've told you before, I used to do a lot of drama in school.

  • I used to act in school.

  • And...

  • I always found it was really easy to be to pretend to be someone else.

  • When you're acting your acting as another person, a character, Sometimes people find it easy to overcome shyness and feel more confident if they pretend to be someone else.

  • When it comes to the time when you want to practice your English with a native speaker, for example, just imagine in your head that you are a native speaker.

  • Have that feeling that English isn't your second language.

  • It's your first language for some people.

  • You really will feel some kind of power.

  • You'll feel like everything is OK,

  • and that you don't have to feel shy, pretend to be a really confident person.

  • This will work for some people.

  • It won't work for others.

  • For me, this kind of thing works.

  • Now there's something which I've brought up a lot in a lot of my videos in my life lesson that I did a few days ago, I mentioned about the comfort zone.

  • The comfort zone is one of the main things that could be making you too shy to practice your English and to build your English.

  • The comfort zone is simply that little place that we kind of put ourselves in every day.

  • We're used to doing the same thing.

  • We don't like to do things that scare us the most most successful people in the world.

  • Business people, all kinds of people like this.

  • They follow, ah, particular quote, which a lot of people, I don't know who the quote is originally by, but now this quote is spread on, and it's kind of spread onto all kinds of different people.

  • On this quote is simply do something that scares you every day.

  • Obviously, it's not very nice being scared.

  • We don't We don't like being scared, but it does build your confidence.

  • For example, if you feel really uncomfortable doing something, just do it.

  • Take some time out of your day and just do something that makes you feel really uncomfortable on.

  • Then the next time you do it, it won't be so bad.

  • It's that initial first kind of thing that you do, which will get you out of your comfort zone.

  • And then, like I said, the next time you do that thing, it won't be so bad.

  • You'll know what it feels like to do that.

  • So if you're scared of speaking to someone in English, maybe just try having a really short conversation with someone you could send me a video of you saying something in English and ask me, How does my pronunciation sound?

  • And I will tell you, and I will be really pleased because it means that my videos air helping you.

  • So that's something you can try.

  • If you feel nervous about talking to a native speaker, try sending a video to me or try.

  • Try speaking to someone on Skype for maybe five minutes and just see how it goes, because you'll get an idea of how you sound, how people understand you and how you can understand other people on the next time.

  • It won't be so bad.

  • So do something every day that scares you.

  • This will get you out of your comfort zone, which is the number one thing which holds people back from being confident and taking the next step.

  • This is the most common problem that advanced English speakers have.

  • Those ones who want to reach a higher level.

  • It's their comfort.

  • It's their shyness.

  • It's just that general kind of bubble that they stay in that stops them from becoming fluent English speaker They can be.

  • If you really want to get out of your comfort zone, book a lesson with me.

  • I will help you build up your confidence with English generally getting the practice of someone who it's okay to make mistakes in front off that will help you build your confidence.

  • And you won't feel so bad speaking to native speakers.

  • So if you feel like it, you can book a trial lesson with me.

  • Onda, just see how it goes.

  • I'll post a link as usual in the description box below.

  • Remember, don't forget to try and do something that scares you every day.

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  • Now What I recommend you do is that you don't look at the transcript.

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