They're just having that blind faith that, you know, whatever is happening to you right now is meant to happen for you, Um, for a greater good.

他們只是有那種盲目的信念，你知道， 無論發生在你身上的事情，現在 是為了你，嗯，一個更大的好處。

And I know it's gonna It's tough right now for you to hear that, but you can you look at it two ways.

我知道你現在聽到這個消息很難受，但你可以... ...從兩個方面來看。

You Can you look at it that this what was me?

你能不能看看這是我的什麼？

This is gonna happen this happening to me, and I'm going to, you know, blame everybody else and respond in a way that's gonna make my life worse.

這是要發生的事情，發生在我身上， 而我要，你知道，責怪別人，並回應的方式 這是要去讓我的生活變得更糟。

Or I can acknowledge that I'm using the situation to become a better version of me to be able to help other people going forward.

或者我可以承認，我正在利用這種情況成為更好的我，以便今後能夠幫助其他人。

And I think with that, it kind of gives you a positive approach to it where they can look at and say, You know what?

我認為有了這一點，它種給你一個積極的方法，他們可以看，說，你知道嗎？

I'm going through this pain right now.

我現在正在經歷這種痛苦。

I acknowledge I'm going through it, but it's gonna make me one hell of a man growing up and that ultimately, is going to save my ass.

我承認我正在經歷它， 但它會讓我一個地獄的男人長大， 而最終，是要救我的屁股。

You know, as I grow up, you got yourself here.

你知道，當我長大後，你把自己弄到這裡來了。

You're here right now, and, um, you can you know, man up and do what you need to do to get better.

你現在在這裡，而且，嗯，你可以... ...你知道，男人起來，做你需要做的事情，以獲得更好的。

Or you could be a go cry in the corner Blame everybody for your problem Say what was me?

或者你也可以在角落裡大哭一場 把你的問題歸咎於每個人 說什麼是我？

I think sometimes in our lives, when we're feeling that hopelessness were in that rat race of just feeling sorry for ourselves and saying your life is never gonna get better, it's tough.

我想有時候在我們的生活中，當我們感覺到絕望的時候... ...在那場老鼠賽跑中... ...只是感覺對不起自己，並說你的生活是永遠不會變得更好，這是艱難的。

And I think especially we don't believe I have that belief in ourselves.

而且我覺得特別是我們不相信我對自己有這種信念。

When somebody says I believe in you and you could do it and I'm gonna help show you the way to get you started I was like, I've never had anybody do that to me before.

當有人說，我相信你，你能做到，我會幫你指明方向，讓你開始的時候，我就想，我以前從來沒有人這樣對我。

That unconditional love I just felt like this void being filled.

那種無條件的愛，我只覺得這種空虛被填補了。

Whether we believe we can, we believe we can't, right.

不管我們相信我們能，我們相信我們不能，對吧。

It's the same answer.

這是同樣的答案。

And for me, I always believe that I couldn't.

而對於我來說，我始終相信我不能。

I'm not gonna deal to do it.

我不會交易去做。

I'm not.

我沒有

You're your own direction.

你是你自己的方向。

You're your own power and you're your own beginning.

你是你自己的力量，你是你自己的開始。

This is the power that you deserve into power.

這是你該有的力量，成的力量。

That honestly, you should trust.

說實話，你應該相信。

Remember, your life is in your control, not anybody else's.

記住，你的生活由你自己掌控，而不是別人的。

A lot of people are gonna tell you to do this or do that or say I'm just a part of my environment.

很多人都會告訴你做這個或做那個，或者說我只是環境的一部分。

That's not true.

這不是真的。

In your hands.

在你的手中。

This very moment is your journey the journey that allows you to be someone fueled by your potential.

這一刻就是你的旅程... ...讓你成為一個被你的潛能激發的人的旅程。

Keep going.

繼續走吧

Keep going.

繼續走吧

Keep going.

繼續走吧

Now isn't the time to wait Now isn't the time toe waste Let this be the power that takes you towards your success?

現在不是等待的時候，現在不是浪費的時候，讓這成為你走向成功的力量？

This'd is the opportunity you've earnt.

這是你贏得的機會。

This is the potential you've always had.

這就是你一直以來的潛力。

Step out of the crowd and step into your success.

走出人群，走進你的成功。

And I think in life we can't change the past, right.

而且我覺得在生活中我們無法改變過去，對吧。

We can only learn and grow from it.

我們只能從中學習和成長。

So there's no sense in, like, harping on the stakes.

所以，沒有意義，喜歡，喋喋不休的賭注。

You made their done like I always say, fail more because if you never made a mistake, it means you never tried.

你讓他們做的就像我常說的，多失敗，因為如果你從來沒有犯過錯誤，就意味著你從來沒有嘗試過。

If you never tried, it means you never took a chance If you never took a chance, you never believe in yourself.

如果你從來沒有嘗試過，就意味著你從來沒有抓住機會 如果你從來沒有抓住機會，你就從來沒有相信自己。

You never had faith and faith.

你從來沒有信仰和信念。

We need faith.

我們需要信仰。

You need to believe in yourself.

你要相信自己。

It doesn't matter how many times you failed.

不管你失敗了多少次。

What matters is you keep getting up every day and trying again.

重要的是你每天不斷地站起來再努力。

And that's what really is important knowing that each day you have an opportunity to change, Keep going, keep going.

而這才是真正重要的，知道每一天你都有機會去改變，繼續走，繼續走。

Keep going.

繼續走吧

Take the risk that allow you to become something more that allow you to change your view on life that allow you to look through a different pair of eyes.

冒著風險，讓你成為更多的東西，讓你改變你的生活觀，讓你通過不同的眼睛看。

One that grants you the power to see something and to know how to change it, to look at life as an opportunity, an opportunity to feel like somebody knew someone with the potential that they can keep moving forward.

一個賦予你看到一些東西的力量，並知道如何改變它，把生活看成是一個機會，一個感覺到有人知道有人有潛力的機會，他們可以繼續前進。

We're not defined by our circumstances were defined by the choices we make in response to our circumstances.

我們不是被環境所定義的，而是被我們對環境的選擇所定義的。

And I think people don't.

而我認為人們不。

They don't like to look at pain like they don't People like afraid of pain.

他們不喜歡看痛苦，就像他們不喜歡人們喜歡害怕痛苦一樣。

They don't wanna be hurt.

他們不希望受到傷害。

They wanna be coddled.

他們想被寵愛

They want this.

他們想要這個。

They want that pains, great man.

他們要的是痛苦，偉大的人。

And I think we need to change the way we view pain because pain can really be the catalyst for purpose.

我認為我們需要改變我們看待痛苦的方式，因為痛苦真的可以成為目的的催化劑。

I mean, you think about working out, right?

我的意思是，你想過健身，對嗎？

One of things I love about fitness is how it can be such a influential part in so many other areas of your life.

我喜歡健身的原因之一是它如何在你生活的許多其他領域中發揮如此大的影響力。

You have to fail to grow stronger.

你必須失敗才能變得更強大。

You have to fail to run faster.

你必須失敗才能跑得更快。

You have to be in pain.

你一定很痛苦

And so using that pain to get better and you grow from it graft until you feel pain, rise from your toes up to the highest point of your head.

所以利用這種疼痛來改善，你從中嫁接成長，直到你感覺到疼痛，從腳趾頭上升到頭頂的最高點。

Not until then will you know you've made it.

直到那時你才會知道你已經成功了。

Made it past the fear past failure and towards achievement.

做到了超越恐懼超越失敗，走向成就。

You're in the right place.

你來對地方了

Your place is here.

你的位置在這裡。

This is where it all starts, where your life finally falls into place where you don't just see progress, you become it.

這就是一切的開始，你的生活終於落到了實處，你不僅看到了進步，你還成為了進步。

You have it.

你有它。

You feel it within you.

你能感覺到它在你體內。

Thing is, when you know you've made it when you know you've grown trusting the process, being patient, if they're not seeing results as fast as they want quitting isn't gonna help them get there.

事情是，當你知道你已經做到了，當你知道你已經長大了信任的過程，耐心，如果他們沒有看到的結果，因為他們想要的速度，戒菸是不會幫助他們到達那裡。

So I just try to help them see that Just change your mindset, change your perspective.

所以我只是試圖幫助他們看到，只要改變你的心態，改變你的觀點。

Be grateful, be as positive as you can be because I think positivity is one of those.

要感恩，要儘可能的積極，因為我覺得積極是其中之一。

It's like one of those buzzwords not be positive.

這就像那些流行語之一不積極。

Be this be that which you can't be positive about.

這是你不能肯定的事。

Everything because there's some things in life that suck.

一切都是因為生活中有些事情很糟糕。

You gotta be looking at me like, well, £100 overweight like that sucks.

你得看著我，好吧，100英鎊超重這樣的吮吸。

But I think the key is being positive about the way you're going about doing things is what changes things is if you're pessimistic and negative, you're not gonna do E.

但我覺得關鍵是要積極地去做事情，是什麼改變了事情是如果你悲觀消極，你就做不到E。

I think so many people are afraid to look at themselves in the mirror and realize that there's a problem.

我想很多人都不敢看鏡子裡的自己，意識到有問題。

Like realize that they're the ones complaining, bitching and moaning, and that them being coddled and at sugarcoating everything is the reason that they're not getting anywhere in life.

就像意識到他們才是那些抱怨、抱怨和呻吟的人，而他們被溺愛和在糖衣炮彈的一切是他們在生活中沒有任何進展的原因。

Reaching a gulf sucks.

達到鴻溝爛。

It takes a lot of hard work, but not achieving the goal sucks even more so Choose your suck.

需要付出很多努力，但達不到目標更爛，所以選擇你的爛。

Do you wanna suck by not achieving it?

你想通過不實現它來吸嗎？

Or do you wanna suck by working hard, putting in passion, putting in discipline, commitment, hard work and then achieving something on?

或者你想通過努力工作，投入激情，投入紀律，投入投入，努力工作，然後在上取得一些成績來吸？

That's how you build confidence is, you know, tackling things you never thought you could do trying things and failing and getting back up and keep going.

這就是你建立信心的方式，你知道，解決的事情，你從來沒有想過你可以做的嘗試的事情，失敗了，並重新站起來，繼續前進。

Keep going and like it doesn't matter how many times you get punched in the mouth.

繼續走下去，就像被打了多少次嘴巴都無所謂。

It matters how many times you fight back.

反擊多少次很重要。

And I think a lot of times, Tom, like, I love this analogy because it relates to so many people in a fight.

我想很多時候，湯姆，我喜歡這個比喻，因為它涉及到很多人的戰鬥。

If you and I were to sit here and I would just you were to start punching me at random, sucker punching me like when I stand here and let you beat the piss out of me like I would hope not right.

如果你和我坐在這裡，我會只是你是開始衝我隨機，吸盤衝我喜歡當我站在這裡，讓你打我的小便，我希望不對。

But in life, we let life beat the piss out of us.

但在生活中，我們卻讓生活打了水漂。

We make our circumstances even worse by one of negative event happens.

我們會因為一個負面事件的發生而使我們的環境變得更加糟糕。

We get depressed, we feel pity for ourselves and return toe quick fixes like drugs, alcohol, and it makes our situation worse.

我們會感到沮喪，我們會覺得自己很可憐，並返回到快速修復，如毒品，酒精，它使我們的情況變得更糟。

So when you unpack the layer and you give that tough love of saying, you know what, like you need a change like when you look at yourself in the mirror and stop being a victim, stop blaming other people and take ownership for yourself and stop waiting for other people to fix your life.

所以，當你解開這一層，你給那個強硬的愛說，你知道嗎，就像你需要改變一樣，當你看著鏡子裡的自己，不要再做一個受害者，不要再責怪別人，要為自己做主，不要再等待別人來解決你的生活。

What is it that you're waiting for?

你還在等什麼？

How much do you want it?

你要多少錢？

Ask yourself this.

捫心自問。

What's more valuable waiting or your time your power and your action.

什麼是更有價值的等待或你的時間，你的權力和你的行動。

This is where your journey starts.

這是你旅程的起點。

This is where you grow, grow, adapt, improve to become the person you admire.

在這裡，你會成長、壯大、適應、提高，成為你所崇拜的人。

This is you.

這就是你

This can be you.

這可能是你。

I think our belief system about ourselves can be so like hijacked, based on what people others say about us.

我覺得我們對自己的信念系統可以如此像劫持，基於別人對我們的評價。

And then we start to believe it.

然後我們開始相信它。

Whether it's like you know, you're ugly, you're a pussy, you suck.

不管是像你知道的，你很醜，你很娘，你很爛。

You suck your own athletic, your on that.

你吸你自己的競技，你的上。

And then, sure enough, if it happens over years, you start to believe that about yourself.

然後，肯定的是，如果它發生在多年來，你開始相信，關於自己。

If you have no confidence in who you are, and I think the more you can own who you are and just chase after your own dreams and stop worrying about everybody else, Then those things start to become lies.

如果你對自己的身份沒有信心，我覺得你越能擁有自己的身份，越能追逐自己的夢想，不再擔心別人，那麼這些東西就開始變成謊言。

And people are saying, You know what?

人們說，你知道嗎？

Your pieces, you suck when you know if you know about yourself like that, that's not true.

你的作品，你很爛，當你知道如果你這樣瞭解自己，那是不對的。

I mean, that's what self love is.

我是說，這才是自愛。

It's just really knowing truly inside of you who you are.

只是真正的知道真正的你內心的你是誰。

Well, I think I look at your why why you're doing because I think when you have a strong enough why, like what's in the house become your relevant.

好吧，我想我看你的為什麼 你為什麼要做，因為我想當你有一個足夠強大的為什麼，就像房子裡的東西成為你的相關。

You remember why you started?

你還記得你為什麼開始嗎？

Because I think we spend so much time worrying about what everybody else is.

因為我覺得我們花了太多時間去擔心別人是什麼。

Then we've lost track of who we are as a person, right?

那我們就失去了我們作為一個人的身份，對嗎？

And just looking within, whether that's a meditation or prayer or journaling, it's really figure out like the things we like, the people we like, You know where we like going and all that stuff.

而只是尋找內， 無論是冥想或祈禱或日記， 它真的找出像我們喜歡的東西， 我們喜歡的人，你知道我們喜歡去哪裡 和所有的東西。

And then you kind of filter that into your life organically in order to get where you're going.

然後你就會把這些東西有機地過濾到你的生活中，以達到你要去的地方。

You know where you're at.

你知道你在哪裡。

Keep going.

繼續走吧

Keep going.

繼續走吧

Keep going.

繼續走吧

You have this power.

你有這個權力。

Communicate your problems, communicate the power.

溝通問題，溝通力量。

You know that you have things is the beginning of your power.

你知道你有事情是你力量的開始。

Start of your progress.

開始你的進度。

This is where it starts thistles, where you become something something better than now where you build a life for yourself.

這就是它的開始蒺藜，在那裡你成為一些東西比現在更好的東西，在那裡你為自己建立一個生活。

One where you hold the reins where you make the final cut where you have that power.

一個你掌握著韁繩的地方，你在那裡做最後的切割，你有這個權力。

This risk is what will take you in the direction where you control your life at last.

這種風險是會帶你走向最後掌控自己人生的方向。

So you have to deliberately practice the weaknesses and make them a strong as you can while also practicing your strengths and making those the top of your performance.

所以，你要刻意練習弱點，讓弱點成為你的強項，同時也要練習你的強項，讓這些強項成為你的表現之首。

Most people are too lazy to do that.

大多數人都懶得這麼做。

They just want to practice everything or they don't want to even bother to figure out which pieces the most important, you have to dig the well before you're thirsty and you have to give without the attachment to getting something in return.

他們只想把所有的東西都練好，或者他們根本不想去弄清楚哪塊最重要，你要在口渴之前把井挖好，你要在沒有得到回報的情況下付出。

So when people want to reach out, stop thinking about what's in it for you.

所以，當別人想聯繫你的時候，不要再去想對你有什麼好處。

Start thinking about Onley, What's in it for other people, and if you don't worry about what's in it for you, you will find opportunities that come later down the line.

開始考慮安利，對別人有什麼好處，如果你不擔心對自己有什麼好處，你會發現以後的機會。

And to sort of illustrate this.

而為了某種程度上說明這一點。

When I moved to L.

當我搬到L。

A.

A.

I had a toothache and it started to get more and more painful, and it really was starting to dig into my brain.

我的牙疼，而且開始越來越疼，真的是開始挖腦洞了。

I couldn't think I didn't have a car and moved from New York.

想不到我沒有車，從紐約搬了過來。

Things is pre uber.

事情是預uber。

I didn't have dental insurance because I was 27 you know who cares about your teeth?

我沒有牙科保險，因為我27歲了 你知道誰會關心你的牙齒嗎？

Right?

對吧？

You think about those later, you'll get new ones.

你以後再考慮這些，你會有新的。

And so I started to desperately called dentists and they were like, Look, I don't take new patients, or I can see you in a week.

於是我開始拼命地給牙醫打電話，他們就說，你看，我不接受新病人，或者我可以在一週內見你。

Go to the ER if you have a toothache and I'm thinking a week I haven't slept.

牙痛就去急診室，我想一個星期我都沒睡。

You know, this thing is killing me.

你知道嗎，這東西讓我很痛苦。

So I posted on Facebook, and obviously I didn't have my privacy setting set correctly because of random Stranger filled in the comment and said, My answer, Dentist near you.

所以我在Facebook上發帖，很明顯我沒有正確設置我的隱私設置，因為隨機的陌生人填寫了評論，並說，我的答案，你附近的牙醫。

Do you want me to give you a call on I said?

你想讓我給你打電話嗎，我說的？

Sure.

當然可以

Yeah.

是啊。

So I went to his aunt the next morning before they officially opened.

於是第二天早上，我在他們正式開業前去找了他姑姑。

Got that thing drilled the hell out.

把那東西鑽出來了

Got it filled.

把它填滿了。

She didn't overcharge me.

她沒有多收我的錢。

I send this guy message.

我給這傢伙發了資訊。

Thank you so much.

非常感謝你。

He goes No problem in I don't know what you dio.

他去沒有問題，在我不知道你dio。

I heard you have some show that my friend likes, but I'm glad you got your tooth taken care of.

我聽說你有一些我朋友喜歡的節目，但我很高興你的牙齒得到了照顧。

And I said, let me know if there's anything I could do.

我說，如果有什麼我可以做的，告訴我。

He said, Well, I'm a graphic designer, but I'm working at a cafe right now is a barista.

他說，嗯，我是一個平面設計師，但我現在在一家咖啡館工作是一個咖啡師。

I would love to just not make another cup of coffee again on I said, Well, I don't have any work for you, but I'll keep my ear to the ground, he said.

我很想就這樣不再做一杯咖啡上我說，好吧，我沒有任何工作給你，但我會保持我的耳朵，他說。

Whatever you could do, no problem.

不管你能做什麼，都沒問題。

I don't expect you to give me a job.

我不指望你給我一份工作。

Four days later, another entrepreneur friend of mine, she writes me and says My Web guys are blowing it.

四天後，我的另一個企業家朋友，她給我寫信，說我的網絡人都吹了。

I keep firing them who can create good branding for me?

我一直開除他們，誰能給我創造好的品牌？

I said, I've never worked with this guy but here's a portfolio.

我說，我從來沒有和這傢伙合作過，但這是我的作品集。

He's a nice person.

他是個好人。

That's really all I could say.

我真的只能說這麼多了。

That guy got a full time job is far as I know still works there years later, designing websites and templates and themes and branding for this woman's company because he helped me find a dentist on Facebook.

那傢伙得到了一份全職工作，據我所知多年後仍在那裡工作，為這個女人的公司設計網站、模板、主題和品牌，因為他幫我在Facebook上找到了一個牙醫。

So if he had been thinking, how do I get a job?

所以如果他一直在想，我怎麼才能找到工作呢？

He would never have made that introduction to a dentist because the connection the nexus is unclear.

他絕對不會向牙醫做這樣的介紹，因為聯繫關係不清楚。

The opportunity lie over the horizon.

機會就在眼前。

But since he was helping without the attachment or expectation of anything in return, he ended up finding an opportunity through me that I didn't know about and that he didn't know about.

但由於他是在沒有任何牽掛和期望回報的情況下幫忙，最後他通過我找到了一個我不知道、他也不知道的機會。

But you won't find those unless you are constantly reaching out, digging the well before you're thirsty and giving without that expectation of anything in return.