I've always hated ghosts.

Whether they were those little freaks and Pac Man who gave me crazy anxiety evil spirits that do really inconvenient things like move your keys or until your picture frames or this guy boo You don't get to call me that until you commit.

Now I hate them even more because I got ghosted for the first time.

And, wow, it really hurt and was scary, so I really like getting to know you.

Would you like to hang out on Thursday?

What does that mean?

You're a ghost.

You're not invisible neck, Nick.

It's fine if you don't wanna hang out with me, but just respond.

Just answer me.

Just tell me.

But what was even worse was when I told my friends about it.

E just didn't see this coming like at all.

Well, didn't you say that he consistently flaked out initially when you guys were trying to connect?

Yeah, but that was coffee.

And we didn't really know each other then.

And didn't you say that he'd never follow through on anything?

He said he was gonna dio, but he was busy and he apologized for that and didn't you say that?

He said that he didn't think marriage would work out except for with penguins.

Okay, but that's different.

Okay, You don't give someone a pebble unless you're serious.

But of course, you can't really blame those of us who act like total idiots when we like someone.

Because fun fact just found this out.

When people begin falling in love, your frontal cortex, which is vital to judgment, shuts down.

Isn't that insane?

Your brain literally deactivates the part of itself that can criticize and judge because it knows if you can maintain your critical thinking, you probably won't put up with as much bullshit.

And then you won't reproduce to ensure the survival of your species.

So what do we dio?

What do we do when our brains literally shut down our ability to think clearly?

It's very simple, but very hard.

Sit back and observe their patterns.

People show you who they are all the time.

Listen to them.

They're always giving you information.

So my cat is a Capricorn son, a cancer moon and a Pisces descendants.

So obviously she's actually this way.

Wow, Cool.

When you're bored with your site, I'm a Capricorn Oh, you're a Capricorn.

To my God, you're just like my kitty.

And even if it's someone you're not romantically attracted Thio.

Even if you're just wondering whether or not you should stay friends with someone or go into business with a colleague, wait and see what their patterns are.

Don't judge them on what they say.

I know I'm a ghost, but I will always be transparent with you.

Don't judge them on their actions.

Come on.

Trust their patterns to tell you exactly who they are.

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, so keep your hopes and expectations low.

Go slow and take note of the values in the person that you're watching and do those values line up with what you want in a potential friend, partner or colleague.

I, for one, tend to leap all in before I even really know a person.

And let me tell you, it has not served me.

It's caused me a lot of heartbreak.

Pain, frustration and disappointment were my kids.

I'm Anna Khanna.

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