Name: 害怕承諾？ (Afraid to Commit?)
Uploaded: 2021-01-14T05:07:50.000Z
Duration: 10 min 48 s
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Hi! This is Tajci and thank you for tuning in! Thank you really for showing up,for

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and most importantly for being open to make the change within and then bring that

change into the world. I love the comments and one of the

first ones was from my friend Zoltan who said "Hey Tajci, are you

going to be able to keep up with it? It's a big commitment you're

making, to show up every week!". He knows my schedule with the concerts,touring,

with my boys and he also puts it, with my wifely duties... Yes, it

is a big commitment, a change in my schedule also in the

way I come here to you, it's different and every change that we make in our

lives, every commitment to the change is a little scary, even when we feel passionate,

joyful and ready to make that change. Now some of us are so afraid that we

won't be able to keep up with it, that we don't even commit to it. We are so

afraid of failure that we never even try. Some say "OK, I will take 40 days

of Lent, and I'll make a change and will see what happens." Some, smokers usually do this,

they only commit for 1 day, "I'll just do it for one day", and the next day and the

days turn into weeks, into months and into years

and there you are! You made a big change and you committed to it. now there's

a different way to look at the commitment and take the fear out of it.It's

just how we look at it, is it sacrifice? Is it a burden? Or is it a joy?

Is it going to bring us to a better place? Is it going to serve other and

the world differently? So, one of the good examples is marriage!

When we fall in love, we are so excited to make a commitment, to spend the

rest of our lives with that one person that we fall in love with! If we look

a it as a sacrifice then better... Listen, do NOT make that commitment! If you

say "I'm gonna have to wake up next to that person for the rest of my life!"

That's something or someone with a little voice saying "Huh-uh!". It can also

be your job, you got your dream job. You are excited, you just can't wait to begin

and make that commitment, you got to sign the contract, no problem! But we are human,

and even the most passionate relationships, the most passionate jobs go

through phases! So I learned this on a great retreat! There are phases and this

can be applied across the board. First is romance, we you fall in love and

everything is just fairy tale, OK? you can conquer the world! Second is disillusionment,

when you realize your husband is leaving dirty socks all over and

never picking them up! Then disillusionment is "Well, I guess he is not as perfect as

I thought he was!" or the job! You love the job

but your boss keeps asking you to work on Saturdays and you're missing too many of

your son's baseball games and you become disillusioned with your

job, with your company and if you don't anything about it,

the disillusionment turns into misery. "I'm going to kill that guy! I'm going

to kill him! I can't stand his dirty socks!" or "I really have to quit my job!"

Sometimes... well, then the next phase is awakening, we have to awake into our situation

in order to change it! We have to say "OK, I am miserable and I have to do something

about it because I don't want to get stuck in this place." Then we make the

change! We either pick up the socks, or say "Look, you can leave them but only on this

corner!" (hey, there's a solution!) or go to your boss

and say "Look, I'm going to make sure the job is done

, work is done, but just let me not be here on Saturdays because it matters to me, I just

don't want to miss my son's games. There is always a solution and sometimes the solution

is to just give up, to say "Maybe this is not the right job for me!"

When we do awaken, we make the change and then we go back to that first joy we felt.

Now I would love to go back for a moment to that disillusionment state. It's there

that we have to have tools and we can really practice this tool on ourselves

before we apply it to our marriage, to our job, in our relationship with God

The way to do it is, for exmaple, me and exercise. I can't make the commitment to exercise, it's

really, really hard. Now if you told me I was exercise because

I was doing this tour and I needed to be fit I would be up with my running shoes on and

I would be training every day, but for some reason I can't motivate myself.

So I go through romance, I got this new dance class and I love it, but after 2 or 3 weeks

I get disillusioned, it's not really that great,

I feel horrible, I don't like it, it's boring and I stop.

Then I just keep going from one exercise program to another, to one gym to another from one

thing to another, when really the change that has to happen is the

way I look at it. Do I want to be healthy or not? It's not really

whether the programs works for me, it's doing what I wanted and what's really the core,

the essence of why I am willing to make this change. When we

do this often on our own and we become mindful of it and aware of what we're doing, we can

apply it to relatonships with somebody else, which

is harder, because in a marriage both people have to awaken, especially

if there is a struggle, and make this change together. Now I believe that it is hard because

we are all on a different path and sometimes timing is not perfect, but if one of us makes

the change within, we will change the way the other people are around us

they will see the chance and they will be inspired, and if they cant see it, then maybe

not good! But it is important to awaken and decide whether

we want to just give up or keep up with it, keep believing, keep loving

nd keep committing with the change within. Keep believing that all is possible and don't

be afraid to commit to a change! You can do it, I can do it and we can do it

together. Thank you! We'll see you next week! ★☆★

This episode was brough to you by Bill & Kathy Thurnau in honor of their work

with the Worlwide Marriage Encounter, so please check

out the links provided here and thank you! ♪♪♪♪♪