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Uploaded: 2022-05-17T18:00:28.000Z
Duration: 15 min 19 s

你好，我是喬-納瓦羅，有25年了。

And today I'm answering questions on Twitter.

This is body language support at McX foul and it comes with a photograph.

這是在McX犯規時的肢體語言支持，並附帶一張照片。

Is analysis of the body language in in this photo one of them is in charge.

從這張照片中的肢體語言分析，他們中的一個是負責人。

One of them is the subordinate and their body language clearly is detailing.

其中一個是下屬，他們的肢體語言顯然是細節化的。

Because when you're in charge you can sit any style you like.

因為當你負責的時候，你可以坐任何你喜歡的風格。

When you are the supplicant, when you are there asking for help.

當你是祈求者，當你在那裡請求幫助。

Your arms are more restricted, your legs are restricted.

你的手臂更受限制，你的腿也受限制。

And we see all of that here at the ulterior kid asks, are there secret handshake identify Irs asking for a friend.

而我們在這裡看到的都是，在別有用心的孩子問，是否有祕密的握手鑑定Irs要求的朋友。

There are many groups out there that have all sorts of secret handshakes.

有很多團體有各種祕密的握手方式。

Unfortunately what happens is and you run into this all the time.

不幸的是，發生的情況是，你經常遇到這種情況。

You go to shake hands with somebody and they've interlocked their fingers in a weird way.

你去和別人握手，他們卻以一種奇怪的方式交握著手指。

And all of a sudden you find their index finger right here on the inside of your wrist.

突然，你發現他們的食指就在你的手腕內側。

這給人留下了非常消極的呃感覺。

Or you get these social art barks who want to squeeze your hand to demonstrate that they're strong and very ill and and so forth.

或者你得到這些社會藝術吠聲，他們想捏住你的手來證明他們很強壯，很有病，等等。

It just leaves a bad feeling in our mouths.

它只是在我們的嘴裡留下一種不好的感覺。

Try to avoid them at Nike sandals poppy asked.

儘量避免他們在耐克涼鞋罌粟問。

So a female legs shaking means what she just cold.

是以，一個女性的腿在顫抖意味著她剛才的寒冷。

Well a lot of times we see behaviors that are repetitive.

那麼很多時候，我們看到的行為都是重複的。

Some people will twist their ring, some people will crack their knuckles, some people will play with their hair.

有些人會扭動他們的戒指，有些人會敲碎他們的指關節，有些人則會玩弄他們的頭髮。

All repetitive behaviors are self soothing behaviors advocate my world asked.

所有的重複行為都是自我舒緩的行為，主張我的世界問。

Bad people are identified by bad behaviors.

壞人是通過壞的行為來識別的。

No one is bad until we see demonstrable bad behaviors if they decide to assault somebody, if they decide to cheat someone, if they do things that are unethical, immoral or illegal.

如果他們決定攻擊別人，如果他們決定欺騙別人，如果他們做了不道德的、不道德的或非法的事情，在我們看到可證明的不良行為之前，沒有人是壞人。

At Courtney Renay asks, do men not know what non verbal cues and body language mean or do they just ignore it?

在Courtney Renay問道，男人不知道非語言暗示和肢體語言意味著什麼，還是他們只是忽略了它？

Some people are better at reading non verbals and others.

有些人更擅長閱讀非動詞，有些人則更擅長。

Is there a difference between men and women and their ability to read nonverbals?

男性和女性在閱讀非謂語的能力上有區別嗎？

The answer is yes and it's obvious and it's for biological reasons.

答案是肯定的，這很明顯，而且是出於生理原因。

It is the mother who spends the most time with the child and can look at everything from the texture of the skin to how much humidity is in the eyes, to the color of the lips.

與孩子相處時間最長的是母親，她可以觀察到從皮膚的質地到眼睛裡的溼度，再到嘴脣的顏色。

That traditionally has been a female function.

這在傳統上是一個女性的職能。

Now, that doesn't mean that we cannot develop these these skills, but from a pure biological perspective they have that advantage and that carries through throughout life.

現在，這並不意味著我們不能發展這些這些技能，但從純生物的角度來看，他們有這種優勢，而且這種優勢貫穿整個生命。

But it's one that we men can also um grow.

但這是一個我們男人也可以嗯成長的問題。

So at P Rittenhouse asks a very complex question ordering is shawarma today and the young lady wouldn't look at me in the eyes.

所以在P Rittenhouse問了一個非常複雜的問題，今天點的是shawarma，年輕的女士不肯看我的眼睛。

Does she Does eye contact mean something important in other cultures.

她 是否在其他文化中，眼神接觸意味著一些重要的東西。

Eye contact is both cultural and personal.

眼神接觸既是文化的，也是個人的。

In the United States, for instance, in New York were allowed to stare at each other for 1.28 seconds.

例如，在美國，在紐約被允許盯著對方看1.28秒。

It's somewhere around between four and six seconds.

You may find yourself in a place where it's personal and maybe you don't want to make eye contact.

你可能會發現自己處在一個涉及個人的地方，也許你不想進行眼神交流。

I wouldn't put too much emphasis on eye contact other than we all have personal preferences.

除了我們都有個人偏好外，我不會太強調眼神接觸。

Lack of eye contact should not equate to anything other than this is what the person chooses from.

缺乏眼神接觸不應等同於任何其他的東西，而應是這個人從中選擇的東西。

Which who asked Why do hand gestures have such an impact?

哪個人問為什麼手勢會有如此大的影響？

Humans evolved to be very expressive with their hands.

人類在進化過程中對自己的手有很強的表現力。

100,000 years ago we were all in the African Savannah.

10萬年前，我們都在非洲的大草原上。

We were surrounded by predators, hyenas, lions, lionesses, these large felines and we had to communicate silently.

我們周圍都是食肉動物，土狼、獅子、母獅，這些大型貓科動物，我們必須無聲地交流。

But effectively we use our facial gestures close up and we used our hand gestures to further communicate things such as direction, anxiety, Fear, approach me and so forth.

但有效地，我們近距離使用我們的面部手勢，我們用我們的手勢來進一步溝通，如方向、焦慮、恐懼、接近我等等。

這是我們的古生物學電路的一部分。

We know this because when we study Children who are born blind then they've never seen, they use the very same hand gestures are hands attract attention.

我們知道這一點，因為當我們研究那些天生失明的兒童時，他們從來沒有見過，他們使用的手勢也是一樣的，都是用手吸引注意力。

In fact, if you look at your hands, no matter how dark your skin, you always notice that the palms of their hands are very easy to to read.

事實上，如果你看你的手，不管你的皮膚有多黑，你總是注意到他們的手掌非常容易看。

We think that this has given us an advantage because when we reach out, when we gesture and so forth, even in low light, it sends that powerful but silent signal.

我們認為這給了我們一個優勢，因為當我們伸手，當我們打手勢等等，即使在光線不足的情況下，它也會發出那種強大但無聲的信號。

這些手勢吸引了我們的注意力。

The message at P prag asked what our power poses that I can use in zoom talks, trying to improve my online presentation skills.

在P prag的消息問我們的權力姿勢是什麼，我可以在放大的會談中使用，試圖提高我的在線演講技巧。

So we've talked about power poses in in other videos and as amy Cuddy made famous in her her ted talks.

是以，我們在其他視頻中已經談到了力量型姿勢，正如amy Cuddy在她的Ted講座中所說的那樣。

These have to do with expansive gestures where if you're sitting down, maybe you spread your hands on the table.

這些與擴張性的手勢有關，如果你坐下來，也許你把你的手攤在桌子上。

If you were standing up, you put your hands on your hips with elbows out.

如果你是站著的，你把你的手放在臀部，肘部伸出。

Even if you're relaxed and sitting with a group, you put your hands behind your head, elbows out.

即使你很放鬆，和一群人坐在一起，你把你的手放在腦後，肘部伸出來。

But um when we are in a virtual environment, all of that goes away because the camera can only see so much.

但是，嗯，當我們在一個虛擬環境中，所有這些都消失了，因為攝影機只能看到這麼多。

And so what you need to do is bring them here have them more in front of the camera.

是以，你需要做的是把他們帶到這裡，讓他們更多地出現在鏡頭前。

You're using gestures that are formed so they look like for instance brackets or the letter C where you demarche and you set boundaries and it serves not so much as a power pose but as a confidence pose.

你使用的手勢是成型的，所以它們看起來就像括號或字母C，你在那裡做了手勢，你設定了界限，它的作用不是作為一個權力的姿勢，而是作為一個自信的姿勢。

And that's what really matters when you are on a small screen at Madame Ambas K.

而這才是真正重要的，當你在安巴斯K夫人的小螢幕上。

And she asked do you agree that every Myers Briggs personality type has a specific body language signature?

她問，你是否同意每個邁爾斯布里格斯性格類型都有一個特定的身體語言特徵？

這是她的問題，我的回答是不。

So great question from at Sonja the freeze.

是以，從在Sonja the freeze的偉大問題。

And she asked, enjoying your power of body language book, thank you going through it a second time and I'm wondering what the hell is up with?

她問，很喜歡你的《身體語言的力量》這本書，謝謝你第二次翻閱，我在想這到底是怎麼回事？

Close talkers are need for spatial distance is both cultural and personal.

近距離交談者對空間距離的需求既是文化的，也是個人的。

And so because each one of us has different needs, what I try to teach is to always start further apart.

是以，因為我們每個人都有不同的需求，我試圖教導的是，總是從更遠的地方開始。

So let's say you shake hands, maybe you do a fist bump, maybe you shake hands but you do it at a greater distance.

是以，假設你握手，也許你做了一個拳頭碰撞，也許你握手，但你在一個更大的距離上做。

And then from that greater point you self adjust, maybe you move in closer or maybe you stay where you're at.

然後從這一更大的點出發，你自我調整，也許你更靠近，也許你留在你的位置上。

But we want to honor spatial differences simply for this reason anytime somebody violates our space, no matter how benign it is, we feel uncomfortable.

但我們希望尊重空間差異，僅僅是因為這個原因，任何時候有人侵犯我們的空間，無論多麼良性，我們都感到不舒服。

它導致了我所說的肢體劫持（limbic hijacking）。

It makes us hypervigilant, it makes us uncomfortable.

它使我們過度警惕，使我們感到不舒服。

It also limits the amount of time that we want this person to be near us or around us.

這也限制了我們希望這個人接近我們或在我們身邊的時間。

So if you want to increase what we call facetime.

是以，如果你想增加我們所說的面子。

One of the things that you want to do is to have an appropriate space so that everybody feels comfortable that can be cultural but it can also be personal natalia, M.

你想做的事情之一是有一個適當的空間，使每個人都感到舒適，這可以是文化的，但也可以是個人的，Natalia, M.

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