So in order to shoot this video, we had to do it basically the way I haven't done it in seven years, which is like completely by myself.

So this is the most lo fi thing in awhile enjoy.

He held an emotional gun to her head like a bargain christian bale girls.

Hey, I needed to get the out of my house.

Ted was driving me nuts.

Why?

What was he doing monster who dances to hold music.

I know he's a freak.

He was having a great time on hold.

Oh my God, he's gonna snap one day and kill us all.

He's like ted lasso to ted Bundy.

Yeah, She's the reason I like every day I should send her the bill for all the doctor's appointments.

She always cuts me on the beach.

Right?

I don't think I could booze.

And that's like, seriously?

I just tried to write a pregnancy test in melissa's bathroom and it's positive.

Congrats.

I'll get you as soon as planned parenthood appointment.

Who's the dad?

I don't know.

I mean, I do know obviously, I, I know who the dad is.

That that information.

I definitely know.

It kind of seems like you don't know.

I know.

Look on the bright side now.

You can eat whatever you want now that I can't have wine.

I don't know you guys what if what if I should have this baby?

Should I be a mom.

I mean, you're already bossy and overbearing.

So your natural Michelle what you're exactly like my mom.

I love my mom.

I've never wanted kids.

I need fred signed paperwork agreeing that he understood this in full prior to getting married.

Like actual paperwork, yep.

Family lawyer taking each other initial here here.

Yeah.

Stay here, teenagers.

Date there.

Okay, great.

Now we're ready for the blood oath ceremony.

Put your hand up.

I fred agreed to never have kids.

So melissa, you have never wanted kids When we were little melissa didn't even want to play with dolls because she didn't want to be saddled with the responsibility of the trophy.

Oh my God, how come you've never wanted them?

How did you make that decision?

As like a tiny little melissa?

Well, there are a lot of tattoos that go into that.

I mean, think about it.

It's so much physical labor for the woman to endure and then the pregnancy, not only being risky and potentially horrible things happening during the pregnancy, long time, financially, physically, financially, it can be really tough, especially if you want to, hey melissa, the ted talk convinced me.

Oh my God, I made the planned parenthood appointment hours ago.

Yeah, I mean, all that being said, it's, I'm actually having a hard time with it right now.

Really?

Why is changing his mind?

What?

I know it's like as we're getting older and more people around us, they're having kids.

It's like he's more interested in furthering his biological legacy.

Oh my God, why?

I mean, your D.

N.

A.

Is 100% that bit.

So I get it.

I mean that's true you know but seriously it's like I'm so frustrated at this point when it's such a taboo topic.

I think women should be allowed to say I don't want to have kids and I'm going to regret this or women, you have kids aren't allowed to say I regret motherhood.

It's like I just don't think it's ok to sacrifice your whole life or something.

You don't even, Yeah that's true.

I mean I definitely I have felt like I've always wanted to have kids until maybe I hit like 30 and then I realized oh is this what I actually want or is it just what's expected of me?

Yeah totally.

So you're gonna text the dad who?

Oh yeah the dad, the dad who?

I know yeah I'll talk to him right now is his take would be important.

Yeah.

I think it's before you know for sure.

Wait is that a group text?

No it's not a group text.

It's just to one recipient.

Wait, you found a pregnancy test in my bathroom?

I don't have pregnancy tests.

Well what is this then?

Baby girl?

That's a Covid test.

Oh I guess I have Covid let's go.

I'm anaconda.

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