you receive a call from a friend.

你接到一個朋友的電話。

This is a friend who was nowhere to be found

這是一個無處可尋的朋友

when you needed her,

當你需要她的時候。

but she constantly asked you for favors.

但她不斷地向你求情。

You dread these phone calls, but you still pick up.

你害怕這些電話，但你還是接了。

Hey, Susie, what's up?

嘿，蘇西，怎麼了？

- Hi, I need you to send me your homework.

- 你好，我需要你把你的作業發給我。

I forgot to do mine.

我忘了做我的。

- [Amanda] This is the sixth time that this has happened.

- [阿曼達]這已經是第六次發生這種情況了。

Even though you're exhausted from work,

即使你已經被工作搞得筋疲力盡。

and you hate it so much

而你卻如此討厭它

that she constantly asks you for favors

她經常向你求情

that she is capable of doing herself,

她自己有能力做到的。

you reply, yeah, of course, I'll send it over now.

你回答說，是的，當然，我現在就把它送過去。

- Thank you.

- 謝謝你。

- [Amanda] You just wish that she would grow up,

- [阿曼達]你只是希望她能長大成人。

and realize that she is responsible for her own life.

並意識到她要對自己的生活負責。

But if you hate it so much, why did you say yes?

但如果你這麼討厭它，你為什麼要答應呢？

It's because you're a good person,

這是因為你是一個好人。

and you don't wanna cause any conflict, right?

而且你不想引起任何衝突，對嗎？

The truth is no.

事實是沒有。

Even though you think that you're doing this out of kindness

儘管你認為你這樣做是出於善意

and care for your friend,

並關心你的朋友。

the truth is you are being unkind to yourself,

事實是你對自己太不友善了。

not giving yourself the self-respect you deserve.

不給自己應有的自尊。

So now, what is self-respect?

那麼現在，什麼是自尊？

Here are eight pillars of self-respect.

以下是自尊的八個支柱。

See how many you cross off.

看看你劃掉了多少。

Number one, I'm my own best friend.

第一，我是我自己最好的朋友。

Having self-respect means knowing how to respect

擁有自尊意味著知道如何尊重

and befriend yourself.

並與自己交好。

Showing others that you treat yourself

向別人展示你對自己的態度

the way you treat someone you love

你對待你愛的人的方式

is one of the strongest signs that you have

是最強烈的跡象之一，表明你有

a high level of self-respect.

有高度的自尊心。

Being kind and caring,

做一個善良和有愛心的人。

and maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself

並保持與自己的健康關係

are all great habits to practice, to have more self-respect.

都是值得練習的好習慣，要有更多的自尊心。

Others who see this are more likely to treat you

其他人看到這一點，更有可能對待你

with more respect,

更加尊重。

because gaining respect from others

因為獲得他人的尊重

starts from having self-respect.

從擁有自尊開始。

Number two, I know my priorities.

第二，我知道我的優先事項。

When faced with difficult situations,

在面對困難的情況下。

a person with self-respect sticks to their priorities.

一個有自尊心的人堅持自己的優先事項。

For example, let's say you have a choice

例如，我們假設你有一個選擇

between attending a party

參加聚會之間

that might heighten your social status,

這可能會提高你的社會地位。

or staying home and babysitting your younger sibling

或留在家裡照看弟弟妹妹

that you promised your parents you would.

你答應過你的父母你會這樣做。

If keeping the family obligations is a higher priority

如果保持家庭義務是一個更優先的事項

than increasing your social status,

而不是提高你的社會地位。

you may choose to keep your responsibilities,

你可以選擇保留你的責任。

and sacrifice the fun for the time being.

並暫時犧牲掉這些樂趣。

Not only would you be reinforcing to yourself

你不僅會對自己進行強化

that you have self-respect,

你有自尊心。

but others will also respect you

但別人也會尊重你

for being confident in your decisions,

因為對自己的決定有信心。

and not being swayed by outside influences.

並且不被外界影響所動搖。

Number three, I respect others.

第三，我尊重他人。

Those with high respect show respect to everyone,

那些有高度尊重的人對每個人都表示尊重。

regardless of class, age, gender, sexuality, et cetera.

不分階級、年齡、性別、性取向等等。

CEOs and political leaders know that showing respect

首席執行官和政治領導人知道，表示尊重

to those in less powerful positions

對那些權力較小的人

is one way to gain respect from others,

是獲得他人尊重的一種方式。

because they have enough self-respect

因為他們有足夠的自尊心

to know they gain others respect

知道他們獲得了別人的尊重

by the way they treat others,

通過他們對待他人的方式。

not purely through their high level positions.

而不是純粹通過他們的高級職位。

Number four, I know when I'm in the wrong,

第四，我知道我什麼時候做錯了。

and can show humility by apologizing.

並能通過道歉來表示謙遜。

One of the best combinations

最佳組合之一

found in the most self-respecting leaders

在最有自尊心的領導人身上發現

includes both confidence and humility.

包括自信和謙遜。

Remember that knowing you are always growing,

記住，知道你一直在成長。

and have room for improvement is a sign of self-respect.

並有改進的餘地是自尊的表現。

Number five, I maintain healthy boundaries.

第五，我保持健康的界限。

A self-respecting person

一個有自尊心的人

understands that their time and energy are valuable.

明白他們的時間和精力是寶貴的。

They're more likely to invest those things in people,

他們更有可能在人身上投資這些東西。

and activities that bring them true fulfillment.

和能給他們帶來真正成就感的活動。

Instead of cutting out toxic people from life,

而不是將有毒的人從生活中剔除。

or immediately going cold turkey on activities

或立即對活動進行冷處理

you know don't support you,

你知道不支持你。

find ways to gradually create boundaries

想辦法逐步建立界限

that'll help bring you more inner peace.

這將有助於給你帶來更多的內心平靜。

With practice, you'll learn to trust yourself

通過練習，你將學會信任自己

in weeding out what is toxic from your system.

剔除你係統中的有毒物質。

And with more self-trust comes more self-respect.

而更多的自我信任帶來更多的自尊。

Number six, I stand by my values, regardless of a witness.

第六，我堅持我的價值觀，不管是什麼證人。

True self-respect is holding yourself to values, morals,

真正的自尊是堅持自己的價值觀、道德觀。

and ethics, whether or not others are there to witness.

和道德，無論其他人是否在那裡見證。

When your words and actions are rooted in integrity,

當你的言語和行動紮根於誠信。

you will naturally gravitate

你會自然而然地傾向於

towards a self-respecting mindset.

走向自尊的心態。

Integrity is the voice within

正直是內心的聲音

that is most grounding in the whirlwind

在旋風中最接地氣的是

of tempting influences.

誘人的影響。

Follow it wisely,

明智地遵循它。

and you'll always find yourself in a place of self-respect.

而你將永遠發現自己處於一個自尊的位置。

Number seven, I know I have reasons to love myself.

第七，我知道我有理由愛自己。

An easy exercise for developing more self-respect

培養更多自尊心的簡單練習

is writing down characteristics and traits

是寫下特點和特徵

that make you feel highly valuable,

讓你感覺到高度的價值。

and worthy in your own eyes.

而且在你自己的眼中是值得的。

Maybe it's the way you treat people with kindness,

也許是你善待他人的方式。

your consistent punctuality,

你一貫的守時性。

or how you always have courage in the face of your fears

或你如何在面對恐懼時始終有勇氣

that makes you respect yourself.

這使你尊重自己。

Read the list back to yourself

把清單讀給自己聽

when you need a reminder of your values,

當你需要提醒你的價值觀時。

and practice self-respect every day by sticking to them.

並通過堅持每天練習自尊。

And number eight, I surround myself with people

第八，我的周圍有很多人

I know respect me too.

我知道也要尊重我。

Once you've solidified a strong sense of self-respect

一旦你鞏固了強烈的自尊感

for yourself,

為自己。

and have maintained distance from those who don't,

並與那些不這樣做的人保持距離。

finding a tribe that loves and respects you

找到一個熱愛和尊重你的部落

will become second nature.

將成為第二天性。

When you know who you are,

當你知道自己是誰的時候。

and why you deserve to respect yourself,

以及為什麼你值得尊重自己。

you'll refuse to allow anyone

你會拒絕讓任何人

who wants to convince you otherwise

誰想說服你呢？

to have any influence in your life.

以對你的生活產生任何影響。

Everyone struggles with self-confidence and self-love

每個人都在與自信和自愛作鬥爭

from time to time,

不時地。

but they aren't meant to be final destinations

但它們並不意味著是最終的目的地

where healing and growth stop.

癒合和成長停止的地方。

What matters is maintaining

重要的是保持

a consistent amount of self-respect for ourselves

對自己有持續的自尊心

and one another throughout the ups and downs of it all.

在這一切的跌宕起伏中，我們彼此相依相伴。

There has been a huge decline

已經出現了巨大的下降

in mental health around the world,

在世界各地的心理健康方面。

which is why we are so committed

這就是為什麼我們如此致力於

to creating more content than we ever have.

以創造比以往更多的內容。

Thanks for being a part of our journey.

感謝你成為我們旅程的一部分。

Can you relate to any of these signs?

你能與這些跡象中的任何一個聯繫起來嗎？

Let us know in the comments below,

請在下面的評論中告訴我們。

and share this with someone who might benefit.

並與可能受益的人分享這一點。

As, always the studies and references used

正如，總是使用的研究和參考資料

are listed in the description box below.

在下面的描述框中列出。

For more tips and resources

更多提示和資源

on how to grow respect for yourself and others,

關於如何增長對自己和他人的尊重。

be sure to check out our Psych2Go YouTube channel

請務必查看我們的Psych2Go YouTube頻道

for more videos.

獲取更多視頻。

Thanks so much, and see you next time.

非常感謝，下次再會。