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We're about to get real deep today,

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Are you single,

and you feel like you'll never be in a relationship?

Why do you feel that way?

If you're watching this,

it might be that you believe your appearance

is the reason for your single status.

A lot of us have felt the same at some point,

but this is not fact, it's perception,

both your perception of yourself

and how others perceive you.

So let's talk about why you are not too ugly

for a relationship

and how to change this perception.

Here are four things you can do

to help you not feel too ugly to be in a relationship.

Number one, question, where did these feelings come from?

Negative feelings about physical appearance

can come from a multitude of places.

It can be something you are genuinely insecure about,

something your ex told you they prefer or don't prefer,

or maybe someone made fun of you for that thing.

Identifying if this is something you feel

or something you were told

can help to determine your true feelings.

If you were always told that brown eyes were ugly,

it would make sense that you don't like your own brown eyes.

But what if someday someone takes a picture of you

in amazing light that makes your eyes sparkle?

You might see the true beauty.

Think about any insecurities you may have,

then ask yourself, why do I feel this way?

This can be the first step to turning your outlook around.

Number two, what do I do with these feelings?

Identifying the issue is the first step.

Once you've figured out

where your negative feelings come from,

you can figure out what to do with them.

You can write everything down in detail

to work through these feelings

with a trusted mental health professional.

As you go through your thoughts,

take note of which things are facts and which are opinions.

An example would be, I have red hair,

versus, the color of my hair is gross.

Once you've found the things that are opinions,

decide if you agree with them.

You can also talk to a loved one

who you can be completely open and honest with.

Dissecting these thoughts and feelings

will help you identify what you believe about yourself.

Coming up with small actions

can help you be in control of how you see yourself

and help change how others see you.

Number three, why you should care.

When you feel icky about yourself,

you portray that to others.

Because of the negative vibes,

people may not wanna spend too much time with you.

When you're confident and have a positive self-image,

that radiates from you, too,

and that increases the odds of them being attracted to you.

And not all physical attractiveness

is based on what you see.

(laughs) Mind blown.

In 2015, a group of researchers

found that physical attraction isn't just what you see,

but also what you pick up with your other senses,

things like the sound of your voice, your smell,

the way the person feels when you touch them,

and you being confident.

These are just as important in determining

if someone is physically attracted to you.

Added bonus, relationships are like dominoes.

If one gets knocked over, the rest usually go with it.

When your self-image and confidence go down,

so does your mental health, quality of relationships,

issues with work or school, et cetera.

When you build that confidence back up

by changing your perception,

it makes to improve those other areas of your life.

Number four, long story short,

you are beautiful inside and out.

If you weren't, you wouldn't care how others see you,

and you wouldn't be watching this.

You're not too ugly for a relationship.

Make some time to sit with yourself, a loved one,

or a trusted mental health professional

to explore these thoughts and feelings

and where they come from, create an action plan,

and work towards a more confident you.

It's so important that we're comfortable

and confident in ourselves

in order to live a healthy, positive life,

not for the sole purpose of finding a relationship.

Once you love yourself,

the relationship will fall into place.

If you found comfort in this video

or you have something you like to do

when you're not feeling your best,

share it with us in the comments below.

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with others you think it might help.

The references and studies used

are listed in the description below.

Thanks for watching, friends.

Have a beautiful day, and see you next time.

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