Oh my gosh, we're great! Thank you!

We went to Puerto Vallarta last week and I gotta say, he's a really good travel buddy.

Aw, you guys have been together for two months now, right?

Yeah. Yeah.

And I have to say, he's been offhandedly calling me his girlfriend!

- Ooh! - Ooh!

So, I don't think a relationship is that far off.

Well, do you want to be in a relationship?

Of course she wants to.

I'm sorry. I mean, do you?

I do.

I mean, you know, it's been like a minute since I've been in like a relationship (mumbling), but you know I think I'm ready.

You know, this reminds me of something I was talking about with a client the other day.

Oh yeah, Cassie, tell us your therapist take.

Do we think that Anna should get into a relationship with Geoffrey?

Well, I was talking to my client and I was telling her that there's one question she should ask herself before committing.

Ooh, wait! Let's guess it.

Oh yes. We love to guess.

Okay. Is the question, "Do we want the same things"?

Uh, good question, but no.

Okay. Is it "How do you handle disagreements?"

Also a great question, but no.

Am I ready for this?

No.

- What are their values? - No.

Are we sexually compatible?

Yes...?

- But no. - Oh.

How does this person treat me?

How does this person treat their loved ones?

How does this person treat waiters?

All wonderful questions, but it's not the one I'm thinking of.

I bet it's one of those like fucked up FBI questions, like, if you had to torture a baby in exchange for world peace, would you do it?

Okay, no, it's not...

Or it's the Trolley question, like if you had to choose between running over a group of strangers or killing your dad, who would you choose?

Kill my dad every time.

Why would, why would that...

Oh, or is even more obscure?

Like, you could wipe out Hitler, but in order to do it, you would have to kill baby Hitler.

No, stop talking about baby murder. No, it's not about baby murder.

Or maybe you have to live out your entire past life as Hitler, and then you have to decide whether or not you're gonna kill him after you've been him.

It's nothing to do with Hitler.

Guys, it's, it's "Where do we stand?"

"Where do we stand?" is the question.

What? That's like really underwhelming.

Yeah. Where do we stand?

So where do you stand with this person encompasses a lot about a potential relationship.

Like, if you're on the same page about life goals, if you're familiar enough with each other's paths, and if you understand and see one another.

You know, where you stand with someone could be in trust and safety, or it can be in ambiguity and anxiety.

And you can enter a relationship based on limerence and trauma bonding, or you can intentionally choose to commit to someone because of compatibility, mutual respect and a desire to build a life together.

So, where do you stand with Geoffrey?

Well, I guess I would say we stand in a good place.

I mean, he's very kind and sweet and nurturing, but there actually is one place where I don't know where he stands at all.

And that's if he would kill baby Hitler.

I really need to know this before we make it official.

Absolutely.

Oh my God.