what your flirting style says about you?

你的調情方式說明了什麼？

Or maybe how your personality affects how you flirt?

或者是你的個性如何影響你的調情方式？

Well, researchers Hall, Carter, Cody, and Albright

那麼，研究人員霍爾、卡特、科迪和奧爾布賴特

wanted to assess

想評估

how people communicated their romantic or sexual interest

人們如何傳達他們的浪漫或性興趣

to a potential partner in a 2010 research study.

向2010年一項研究的潛在合作伙伴。

They had participants answer a questionnaire,

他們讓參與者回答一份調查問卷。

and gathered information

並收集資訊

on the subject's personalities as well,

在主體的個性上也是如此。

comparing the information.

比較資訊。

Here are the results of the five flirting styles

以下是五種調情方式的結果

and how they could relate to one's personality.

以及它們如何與一個人的個性相聯繫。

Which flirting style do you have?

你有哪種調情方式？

Number one, playful.

第一，俏皮。

Are you a playful flirt?

你是一個俏皮的調情者嗎？

Those who often playfully flirt

那些經常玩耍調情的人

see it as something that's fun.

把它看成是一件有趣的事情。

They wanna joke and tease their potential partner.

他們想開玩笑，挑逗他們的潛在伴侶。

Extroverts are more likely to playfully flirt.

外向的人更有可能玩命地調情。

Researchers also found

研究人員還發現

that those who often only playfully flirt

那些經常只是玩玩的調情的人

were less agreeable and less conscientious.

他們不那麼順眼，也不那麼自覺。

Dr. Jeremy Nicholson,

傑里米-尼科爾森博士。

a doctor of social personality psychology,

社會人格心理學博士。

explains in his "Psychology Today" article

他在 "今日心理學 "文章中解釋說

that playful flirts

俏皮的調情

tend to have a don't care and all or nothing

往往有一種無所謂的態度，不成功便成仁。

type of approach to dating.

型的約會方式。

Therefore, they first need to be able to cope

是以，他們首先需要能夠應對

with interpersonal rejection,

與人際間的拒絕。

which will inevitably result

這將不可避免地導致

from their more playful and outrageous behaviors.

從他們更多的玩耍和離譜的行為。

Number two, sincere.

第二，真誠。

What if you like to create an emotional bond with someone

如果你喜歡與人建立情感聯繫，怎麼辦？

before testing out your flirting skills?

在測試你的調情技巧之前？

As a sincere flirt,

作為一個真誠的調情者。

you like to make your potential partner

你喜歡讓你的潛在夥伴

feel comfortable first

先入為主

before you make your move.

在你行動之前。

You show sincere interest

你表現出真誠的興趣

and value a deeper connection with them.

並重視與他們更深的聯繫。

Women were found to have scored higher

發現女性的得分更高

in this type of flirting.

在這種類型的調情中。

Men did use this flirting style as well.

男人確實也使用這種調情方式。

If you're very agreeable and conscientious,

如果你很合群，很認真。

you'll likely use this flirting style more.

你可能會更多地使用這種調情方式。

Extroverts also use this style as well as playful flirting.

外向型的人也會使用這種風格，以及玩耍式的調情。

In the 2010 study,

在2010年的研究中。

dating success was found

發現約會成功

through sincere, playful and physical flirting styles.

通過真誠的、俏皮的和身體的調情方式。

Nicholson suggests that sincere flirts

尼科爾森建議，真誠的調情

can become more successful

可以變得更成功

by focusing on building a positive personality

通過專注於建立一個積極的人格

and developing their uniquely attractive traits and skills.

並發展他們獨特的有吸引力的特徵和技能。

He also recommends making good eye contact

他還建議進行良好的眼神交流

and practicing reading others' body language.

並練習閱讀他人的身體語言。

Number three, traditional.

第三，傳統。

Are you a traditional flirt?

你是一個傳統的調情者嗎？

Traditional flirts often stick to gender specific roles.

傳統的調情方式往往堅持性別特定的角色。

Perhaps you're at a party,

也許你正在參加一個聚會。

this could be the woman showing someone she likes them

這可能是女人向別人展示她喜歡的東西

by showing interest

通過顯示興趣

through flirty eye contact across the room.

通過嫵媚的眼神接觸，穿過房間。

The man would then often make the first move

然後，該男子往往會先下手為強

by talking to her.

通過與她交談。

The study found that introverts often flirted this way.

研究發現，內向的人經常以這種方式調情。

They also found men who flirted traditionally

他們還發現，傳統上調情的男人

often already knew their potential partner

往往已經認識他們的潛在夥伴

before flirting this way.

在以這種方式調情之前。

Those who flirt this way are often looking for commitment.

以這種方式調情的人往往是在尋找承諾。

Those who use this style

使用這種風格的人

often have a hard time getting dates

往往很難得到約會

and creating many deep relationships.

並創造了許多深刻的關係。

Although some benefited

雖然有些人受益於

from taking things slow in their relationships

在他們的關係中慢慢來

and letting them form over time.

並讓它們隨著時間的推移形成。

Number four, physical.

第四，身體。

Do you flirt by subtly touching others

你是否通過巧妙地觸摸他人來調情？

and displaying open body language?

並表現出開放的身體語言？

This type of flirting show sexuality

這種類型的調情顯示了性慾

and interest through non-verbal behaviors.

通過非言語行為，使人產生興趣。

Many people were found

許多人被發現

to often have great chemistry and emotional connection

往往有很好的化學反應和情感聯繫

when they flirt this way.

當他們以這種方式調情時。

Relationships are often developed faster this way as well.

關係往往也是以這種方式更快地發展。

Extroverts often use this flirting style

外向的人經常使用這種調情方式

and were found in the study

並在研究中發現

to be moderately agreeable and conscientious.

是一個適度順從和認真的人。

Nicholson's suggestion for this type of flirting to succeed,

尼科爾森建議這種調情方式要想成功。

he suggests that learning to be confident and curious

他建議，學會自信和好奇心

rather than anxious

而不是急於求成

can assist the physical flirt

可以幫助身體調情

in creating a smooth and passionate interaction.

在創造一個平穩和熱情的互動中。

And number five, polite.

第五，有禮貌。

Are you more polite when you approach your crush?

當你接近你的暗戀對象時，你是否更加有禮貌？

Polite flirts are often moral and cautious in their flirting

禮貌的調情者在調情時往往是道德的和謹慎的

to avoid embarrassing themselves

以避免自己出醜

or out of fear of rejection.

或出於對拒絕的恐懼。

They have great manners

他們有很好的禮節

and approach, as the name suggests, politely.

和接近，顧名思義，有禮貌。

They're interested in commitment,

他們對承諾感興趣。

so they often clearly share

所以他們經常清楚地分享

what they want in a partner when appropriate.

在適當的時候，他們在伴侶中想要什麼。

Polite flirts are often introverts.

禮貌的調情者往往是內向的人。

They also often have a hard time

他們也經常有困難

getting dates with potential partners,

獲得與潛在夥伴的約會。

but the few relationships they have are very deep,

但他們為數不多的關係是非常深刻的。

emotional and meaningful to them.

對他們來說是有感情和有意義的。

So how do you flirt and what does it say about you?

那麼，你是如何調情的，它說明了什麼？

Which ones do you often use?

你經常使用的是哪些？

Are you trying to find a new flirting style?

你是否想找到一種新的調情方式？

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