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  • Maybe we're just going through a rough patch.

  • Maybe it'll get better.

  • We tend to feel guilty when we're about to let someone go.

  • It could be a friend, a romantic partner, a crush, a family member, or even a colleague at work.

  • You might feel like you are making the wrong decision or being a little extra, especially if it's a relationship you have poured so much of your time and emotions into.

  • But whether you initiated the separation or you are considering doing so, here are some signs that letting them go is the best decision ever. It is a distraction.

  • A valid reason to end a relationship with someone is when it has become a huge distraction from your aspirations.

  • The moment you begin to lose sight of who you are and find yourself sacrificing all your time and energy in pleasing and satisfying them is the moment it may be in your best interest to go your separate ways for you to get your focus back.

  • Research from Ashley E.

  • Mason at the University of Arizona had even found that people experience a new sense of identity and direction after a breakup.

  • This same result applies to platonic and formal associations that have grown to become somewhat toxic. Different values and beliefs.

  • Although it can be thrilling in the beginning to be with someone who holds a different worldview, eventually some lines just can't be blurred anymore.

  • You both have to agree on certain aspects of life and convictions.

  • Differences in political, moral, societal, or religious values can lead to conflicts and resentment, which is not beneficial for either of you. Do you relate to these reasons?

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  • Do you want the same things as them?

  • Living in the moment with someone can be fun, but there are some things to consider as your relationship progresses.

  • Depending on what the big life goals are, if they don't align, this can be a deal breaker.

  • Says licensed marriage and family therapist Heidi McBain to Bustle.

  • If they're thinking of pursuing a profession that ties them to one place while you want to travel the world, it's difficult for your futures to align.

  • Differences in your career paths and personal goals and an unwillingness to compromise for one another are valid reasons to let someone go.

  • Even if the relationship continued, you might end up regretting tagging along altogether if it meant sacrificing your wants and dreams for them. Abuse.

  • It is abusive.

  • Another deal breaker for a relationship and an intolerable excuse is abuse.

  • Abuse can be physical or emotional, and if there are potential instances of domestic violence or manipulation, then you have every right to end the relationship.

  • You deserve better and walking away is the right thing to do.

  • If you're interested in learning more about what constitutes abuse, feel free to check out our video on emotional abuse available on our channel. You have outgrown them.

  • Are they still acting the same way as when you were children?

  • One reason to let someone go is when they are comfortable at a level you have outgrown.

  • This doesn't make them bad people, but you just happen to want more out of them and out of yourself.

  • People grow and change at different times and in different ways, writes psychologist Leslie Becker Phelps.

  • As much as you try, you cannot force people to grow along with you, and sometimes maintaining these relationships can prevent you from living up to your best self.

  • Know that some people come into your life for a season, and once that season comes to an end, so does their time in your life.

  • Although they will always have a place in your heart, it's okay to prioritize your own growth and well-being. It just isn't working.

  • Sometimes there might not even be concrete reasons you can point to, you just weren't happy and fulfilled in the friendship or relationship.

  • You may feel frustrated and guilty because the relationship is perfect on paper, yet for some reason, the real thing doesn't feel right and you just can't tell what it is.

  • Cutting ties with them doesn't make you cruel, petty, or dumb.

  • If you communicated your feelings in a clear and empathetic manner, you have committed no crime.

  • Your inner god spoke and you listened.

  • Walking away from someone you genuinely care for can be painful, especially if you are the you had for making the decision in the first place.

  • The art of letting go is one of the most empowering things a person can master.

  • It is an integral part of adulthood.

  • If anything, it shows you have a high level of self-awareness, self-love, and responsibility to make the best decisions that matter to your personal growth and journey. Need more signs it is time to let go?

  • Watch this video to find out if you have become overly attached to someone.

Maybe we're just going through a rough patch.

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