So, thequestionis, dogirlsliketobeapproachedinpublic?
Byhotmen, yes.
Ohyeah, forsure. 100%.
No. Well, I don't know.
I mean, youapproachedme, obviously, andthatseemednormal.
Itreallydependsonyourapproach, I think, but I thinktheoverallanswerisno.
I thinkit's different, honestly, formostgirls.
I thinkifyou'rejustniceandrespectfulandyouseethatshe's notin a rushorinthemiddleofanything, thenthat's fine, butifsheseemsbusyonthephone, shehassomethingtodo, thenavoidit.
Youthink a girl's cute? You'relike, oh, she's cute.
Oh, butthisone's hotter. Shemightnothave a betterpersonality, butshe's hotter.
I feellikebackintheday, theydidn't havetheapps, sotheywereforcedtoactuallygoupandtalktogirls, andnowthattherearethesedatingapps, it's liketheycanhidebehind a screenandtalkandnotbeshy.
Butthat's alsowhyguyshavemediocreresults, becauseifyouhavenoskininthegameandyouhavelowrisk, there's reallylowpotentialforyoutohave a reward.
What's thebestwaytoapproach a girlinpublic?
I feellikeyoushouldjustbeconfidentaboutyourselfandjustmakethefirstmove, because I likesomebodythattakesthefirststep. Justbelike, hey, what's yourname? I lovethat.
Becauseifyoucomeoffasreallystrong, thepickupline, I feellikethatcouldbecringeysometimes, sojustnatural. I definitelythinkjustbeingnice, saying, excuseme, hi, sorry, andthenjustgoingwithyourbestline, whateverworksforyou, I guess.
Presentingthemorstarting a conversationisgood, andthenifyoukindofseethere's a littlevibegoing, thenyoucangettheirnumberorgivethemyours. I feellikethere's a thingnow, though, that's like, I feellikeguysaresoscaredandcautious, but I alwaysadmirewhen a guyisbraveandsayssomethingtoyou, becausethattakesgutstobelike,
I loveyoursweater, orwhatever,
I sawyouwalking, andwhateverthelineis, I thinkthat's nice, andweneedthat. Say, hey, doyouwantdrinks? Dinner? Onme?
Whatifyou'renotat a bar, oryou'rewalkingdownthestreet, and a guywantedtostopyouandstart a conversationbecausehewasinterested? Say, hey, youlookreallybeautiful. Andwhatwouldthefollow-upbe?
Youwant a Chanelbag.
WhatisitabouttheChanelbagthatwouldenticeyou? Itjustdependsonthegirl's style, likeitcouldbe a Chanel, itcouldbe a Louis V, youknow, itjustdepends.
I thinkitmoremattersthewayinwhichtheyapproachyou. Becauseifit's insomesortofweirdandsleazyway, it's kindofuncomfortable, butifit's inmoreof a wholesome, like, hey, I thinkyou'recute, typeofway, I thinkit's lessweird.
Whatwouldbeanexampleof a weirdorsleazywaytoapproach a girl? Likegoinguptosomeoneandimmediatelyjustbeinglike, can I getyournumber?
Youknow, likethere's nointroduction, it's liketo a catcalling, thattypeofsituationisweird. Whatwouldbethebestpick-uplinethatisnotweirdandwouldactuallywork? I wouldjuststart a genuineconversationwiththegirlandthenkindofbelike, hey,
I honestlythinkyou'recute, wouldyouwanttomaybegrabdinnersometime, likewhat's yournumber?
Gotit. Nopick-upline, justbelike a genuine, likehave a conversation, likewe'repeople, justliketalklike a person. Ifitseemslikeyouguysarehittingitoff, then I thinkyoucanlikeproceedandaskfortheirnumber. Wouldyouprefertomeetsomeoneinpersonoron a datingapp?
Oh, inperson, 100%. I goforpersonality, solikeinperson,
I needtofeelthevibe. Definitelyinperson,
I'm notreallyintothewholedatingappthing. Asmuch, I prefersomethingmorenatural. Whatisitaboutdatingappsthatyoudon't like? It's justnotforme. Again, I likesomethingmorenatural, morewholesome, somethingdefinitelymoreorganic. I don't likebeingonlikemyphonethatmuchoronsocialmedia. I thinkit's prettyfakesometimes, soyeah. Whyinpersonoveranapp? Feelsmoreauthentic. I wouldalwaysratherlikeseesomeoneface-to-facethantheirprofile.
Inperson.
Whyinperson? Because I knowifthey'relyingabouttheirheightornot. Likeonthedatingapps, a lotofguyslieabouttheirheightandyouseetheminperson, theydon't lookthesame. I guessitcanbesaidforgirlstoo, likegirlsdothesame, likeyouknowwiththefaceappandeverything, so.
Whatiskindoftheminimumheightrequirementfor a guytodateyou?
Todatemeortodatelikeingeneral?
I wouldsaylike 6 footwouldbenice. Howtalldoyouthink I am?
Well, I havetogomeet a friend, butitwouldbecooltokeepintouch.
DoyouhaveInstagram? I do.
Thatis 34 minutes, 25 seconds.
Notbad. Notterrible. Couldbeworse.
Afterfailingthe 15-minutechallenge,
I decidedoneapproachjustisn't goodenough, so I decidedtodoanother. As I waswalkingdownthestreet, lookingtomakemysecondapproach, I saw a cutegirlwalkrightpastme.
Mostguyswouldquitatthispoint, butnotme.
I decidedtoturnaroundandmaketheapproachhappenanyways.
Hi. I sawyou, and I thoughtyouwerecute.
I justhadtocomesayhi.
Oh, sorry. Myhandsarekindofsweaty.
DoyouhaveInstagram? Yeah, yeah.
Cool.
Well, I don't wanttokeepyou, butitwasnicetomeetyou.
Yeah, itwasnicetomeetyou, too. Youhave a goodnight.
Notthebesttime. Therejustwasn't a lotofpeopletoapproachthatwerereallymytype, soitwasn't 15 minutes, anditwasn't 20 minutes, but I thinkallthingsconsidered, wecansuccessfullysaythatweputittothetest, anditisindeedtrue.
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Seeyouguysinthenextone.
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