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Hi everyone, it's Marie Forleo.
And you're watching Marie TV for a very special edition.
Because we've decided to do this interview here with my dear friend Chris Guillebeau.
And guess what,
he got an awesome new book out right now.
And it's call the Happiness of Pursuit.
And I'm so excited…I adore Chris, I adore his work.
Many of you know him already.
We did an interview for his last book – the hundred dollars startup.
And he's just the one of the sweetest, kindest, smartes,
most brilliant people
And I wanna to have a month off maybe, because I thought these concepts were awesome,
so Chris…Thank you for coming back on Marie TV.
Marie, hello and thank you.
It's a huge honor. I'm so happy to be back. Thank you!
Awesome. So tell us about the Happiness of Pursuit
Finding a quest that will bring perfect to your life
So what inspire you to write this new book?
Okay. So since we last talked,
I'm in wrapping up some personal project.
It's a request to visit every country in the world.
We talked about it a little bit last time.
I've been working on it for eight years or so.
Then, it's a ten years request in total.
I'm just kind of came to the end of it last year.
It was something that's… initially, it's just a personal project.
It was something that I believe in for myself.
And I love to travel and I love…
valuable inspiration and discovery.
So… as I presume this request, I knew I wanted to write something about it.
But fortunately, I didn't just write a book about myself.
I didn't just write I travel where because that will be kind of boring,
so…all along the way
I was meeting lots of interesting, remarkable people
who were all pursuing a quest or some kind of adventure of their own.
And, I wanna to know why did they do it.
And what's the lesson they learned along the way
and how are they changed for the process.
What did they sacrifice or give up in order to pursue it
And why about others…you know what can the rest of us learn about quests.
And then…lastly, it's not really meant to be a sociological study.
It's not just like the collect of like…this person do this, and this person do this…blah blah
The book actually has a clear message. And the message is that a quest can improve your life.
A quest can actually bring purposes and meaning to your life.
I love it. So let me ask you this…
Were you, as a young person or as a young boy,
were you always into an adventure? Did you have quest when you're little?
I don't know if I have quest. For say…I was always a list-maker.
This is something that I notice. This is actually really common. For all the people I talked to…
I really like to write things down.
I like to write down my tasks, write down my ideas and outline even in rough form.
I really like to kind of …you know break things down and just little project sort of thing
So I think it was…maybe…
a value that I have… and I'm kind of grew into it more
And then I start traveling and it wasn't like…I went to my first country
Oh I'm go to…you know, the rest of every single 193 countries in the world
I'm kind of gain confidence as I have some experience.
That was something else I saw… a lot of different people
They started with this small vision and they kind of came to bigger one later one.
Interesting. So if I heard you right,
and please correct me if I'm wrong
When you started to traveling to different countries, it wasn't necessarily like…
Well…obviously, because you might have done some travel early on in your life
But as you got that appetite web for travel,
you saw an expanded vision… hey
Why don't I set this adventure goal for myself to see every country in the world
So wasn't even like you started off like ‘this is my quest' something that evolved.
Yes. Absolutely, I have no idea.
That this would become something that will conceal my life for more than ten years
I just start traveling. I love traveling.
I live in west Africa for a while
and kind of gain some confidence
And just really enjoy the joy of being in different places
And I think it was after I've been to like fifty countries or so.
I was like …it's not difficult after like being to 50ish.
I have a thought that let me set a personal goal. Coz I always like goals.
I try to go to a hundred countries, right.
So that was the first one.
And then I start to getting close to that and I thought um…
How can I take it up a level because I'm just going to half the countries in the world.
It's kind of cheat a little bit.
So you know… I could just pick the easy countries. So yea. That was something I were into, totally.
I really…for me, what made the differences was
combining travel with goal setting,
Combining travel with something specific,
with structure, with a little bit of container to it.
And that's just kind of change the whole purpose and focus for me.
And you saw that with the people and the book as well that they perhaps started something
Their appetite got web. And all of a sudden a new bigger world open up for them
That became this quest, this adventure they want to go on?
Yes. Very often. And the specificity hunts a lot
There is one story – Robin Devin and Omehan Annarasca
she's knitter.
And she's like super excited about knitting and she's artist, she make stuff and
She has this project to make hats for people.
and that's how it was at first. She's like I'm gonna make hats
so she makes hat for a friend or family just like the other knitters do.
But then, she had the idea of creating some specific structure to it.
And at first she thought…I wanna knit a thousand hats
like…wonder what that look like you know So she's starting toward that
figuring how much time and how much money
and whether any other cost all that
And then, she decided to increase the goal and go to the ten thousands hats
So now, it's like her life quest to figure how many years it's gonna take.
You could actually go to her website and request a hat
maybe your wedding period
But eventually she's going to make ten thousand hats.
So yea, a lot of people, they found their vision expanded
but then also as they work for something. They may get it more specific.
So let's talk about the link between quest or adventure that we can go on, if you want to call it that
And happiness. What did you discover not only for yourself
but what did you discover from the story that everyone you interview in the book.
So for myself, you know…when I start to traveling and pursuing the goal
I think it kind of came out of the sense of discontent or dissatisfaction
which doesn't mean that I was miserable or I was terribly unhappy like I have a good life
You know…I have become an entrepreneur working for myself.
But yet, I guess I felt I wanted to challenge myself. I wanted more.
And a lot of people that we talked to or in the book,
they had the same kind of discontent.
It was yearning for something.
It was yearning to connect something broader in their life.
They often were happy, they have families,
they have good jobs or good businesses or something.
But yet, you know…they had this desire to go further.
That where I saw really a link between the happiness and the pursuit of the goal.
The pursuit of a goal…you know…bigger than ourselves.
Something that is really significant. Something that is really challenging.
Because there's also a link between a request and a challenge I think.
If your quest is to go down the street and get coffee and come back.
That's not really a quest, right?
When you combine it with something challenging
maybe hard but also rewarding
You know…that what I think a lot of us can find happiness.
Have you seen that people are working on multiple quests at once or
do most people kind of choose something that feels challenging, needy,
maybe a little bit scary, totally exciting?
Sure. I think there is more than one way…you know… to do it.
and I'm always the kind of person that like to work on a bunch of stuff at once.
It's just my personality you know. For better or worse.
But I also think …you know… a true quest a true adventure
Does involve some kind of sacrifice.
You know… it does involve some kind of trade-off.
I mean that sacrifice is too heavy word so let's say trade-off…you know.
To go to every country in the world, it's like…
it was a pretty big thing. There were a lot of things that I have to say no to in order to say yes to that.
Like what? Like what
like building my career…you know…like
I was on the road in central Africa and
central Asia and Bangladesh all these places a hundred days a year often
I couldn't really working my business very much…you know…during that time
But it was okay. I have to say no to lots of opportunities…you know that are coming through.
But I guess I really believe in this… prize.
I really believe in doing it and everytime I was start to think
Oh maybe I…you know…shouldn't get on that plane or go to Chad whatever.
No. I have to do it. Because this is the rule of everything.
This is the foundation of everything else.
So yes. I think you can do a lot of stuff.
But I guess it's also…if you believe in something like…
it's going to take something from you as well.
Yea. I love this discussion because
it's specially…cause I love that you share the self doubt
that can creep up I think
For anyone who's creative if you…you know…call it a quest
or if it's a project you know. To write a book or something to build a business…
To create something that's never been created before
And part of that adventure is that you're bringing it to the world.
I think that self doubt is so…
it's a topic that many of us…like…we don't like to talk about
I love hearing that you were like…should I get on this plane to Chad?
I have all these different opportunities coming in.
I mean…I'm working on another writing project right now. And I feel like
doubly the self doubt voices are like…
God. Does anyone knowing about this? Do they even care?
It's amazing. Did you notice that the other folks that you interview as well
had those wrestling with self doubt
In pursuit their adventure or quest?
Absolutely. Like almost all of them.
Almost all of them in different ways. They spoke about it in different ways.
People uses different language…but everyone is experiences that thing.
I think the bigger the challenge, the more the self-doubt and the more the fear.
But also maybe more the stern that you have to do it.
You know. It's this idea. It's not gonna leave you alone.
And I think a lot of them are maybe focus on a long-term. They are focus on outcome
and they thought about the book they wanna to write or whatever it was. And then,
imagine having that out and think about the people who will be helped by it.
That's kind of …you got them through…you know they focus on the other side.
I mean…I think a lot of them also.
The other interesting thing to say that they had in common
was a lot of them had what I call
The emotional awareness of mortality.
This also sounds kind of heavy,but it doesn't need to
I love it. We talk about death on marie TV all the time because I think
I just think it's one of the most sobering and it wakes you up
It wakes you up to value every moment so I'm not to interrupt. Let's talk about that.
Let's talk about that reality and mortality.
Right. So the emotional awareness of it is suppose to be intellectual awareness.
I think everyone has intellectual awareness and some mortality which I find in the book
That just the fact that everybody dies, right? It's a fact.
But the emotional awareness of mortality…well I notice that
A lot of these people talk about it in the interview.
And they brought it up…like I don't even ask… “Hey! What do you think about death?” You know…
It's not really a best interview question.
But a lot of them talked about different experiences they had
either with like an accident they have
Or close folk they had, or someone they love and lost
Something that just
brought them closer to the awareness that
not only everyone else in the world is gonna die one day, but I too.
You know…we all die.
And just the focus on the fact that life is short we should live with urgency.
You know…that also kind of helps overcome some of the stuff out. I think…
Okay, what really matters?
Yea. I got my own stuff I got my own anxiety
or whatever that thing is that I'm most struggle with.
But I also have this dream and I also want more.
I want to improve my life. You know…I'm taking time to watch Marie TV because
Not just I wanna to entertain but I wanna improve my life. I wanna take steps… toward that.
So that's something else that people had in common. And I think it's actually helpful.
Yea. That's one of the values of this. That's one of the values of your book.
I'm so happy that you wrote it.
And that we're sharing it today. So many of us can find ourselves different part of journey.
Struggling with…you know…is there more? Is there more meaning?
I think one of the touching storis for me was about
the young man who lost his wife.
Can you tell a little bit about that story?
Yes. Umm…this is a beautiful story it's a sad story.
But it's also a beautiful story.
This is the story that a young couple who met in South Korea.
And he was American, she was Canadian.
And they were both teaching English there.
They met when they're really young say young 20s or so.
And they fell in love. And they were beginning to plan a life together.
But unfortunately, she received the diagnoses of the breast cancer.
So they return to America and she got treatment.
But unfortunately that it was not successful.
So she ended up going into the hospice
And… before she die,
she had been writing a blog and she had her own bucket list of all these things she wanna to do in her life
And she began you know…working toward them.
And after she died. Of course this is very sad.
Adam, the young man, decided to take on her quest for himself
And he decided to take over writing her blog and pursuing all those items
You know…on the list, she wanna to learn how to knit
and so now…you know…he learned how to knit
She wanna to run a marathon so he began training for that.
She wanna to work volunteer in India.
So he made a commitment to go and do that.
And it is a beautiful story of how
he adopted the legacy that she was preparing.
So it's sad. But he also talked about how
How he found purpose… he found purpose in that
And that proves his own grief, but then
you know, also through his own foundation for the future
And he said that he'll always being inspired by Magen.
And inspired by this list that she had. So he hope to follow that.
It was so touching. It brings tears to my eyes right now
because life is so short.
And it's so fleeting. And it's just incredible …umm…
anyway. Really really great great story.
So the other thing, I know travel,
obviously, huge passion of yours.
It's a passion of mine. Many many folks and audiences.
But if someone for say…
let's say they don't have the means to travel or
perhaps some kinds of huge big… adventure is just not in their cars right now.
Let's talk about some of the smaller quest.
A smaller adventure that people took.
That were equally as fulfilling and exciting and also very creative.
Absolutely. I don't even necessarily think they're smaller.
Yea. You know in some way. I feel like they are just different.
And you should use your own abilities and desire and capacity…blah blah
So one of the stories I really really like
is from Sasha Martin who's in Oklahoma city.
And Sasha had grown up overseas,
I think her dad were working for some European company or something.
So she has this international perspectives
but then she met a guy and settle down
And she had a daughter and she wasn't able to travel much.
But she also had coordinator art degree.
And she want to raise her family in an international perspectives
She thought Oklahoma is too…like I want to have a broader road just that.
So…because she wasn't able to visit every country in the world.
She decided to make a meal from every country in the world
And this wasn't just like a half kind of things.
This is like once a week she would devote lots of time to researching all these recipes.
She would play the music from the country and she wave a flag
and turn it into a community thing. People started to visit, right.
And so her daughter…like her daughter's first solid food is Afikan chicken.
And her daughter's like three years-old now.
And is equally proficient with chopsticks or fingers you know…depending on the food .
And she's talk about how it makes the huge difference in her family.
And also, connecting it to people all over the world because she has been posted her recipes online.
And sharing this whole alternatives with other people.
So it's something started also as a personal project just like mine
But it became…you know… much more impact all the time.
That's one of my other favorite stories from the book.
Cause I really saw how fun that can be.
And how this idea of having a quest that we can do it right from our own house.
Just using our imagination, our heart and our desire
to connect with something bigger than ourselves
And to stretch ourselves which I think is really umm…
it's something that I love doing in my own life
But I never quite seen it in the framework and the context what you wrote which is again
Why I so excited to have you on.
So let's talk about something else but I thought was really interesting
We had a lot of multipassionate entrepreneur and a lot of creative folks in our audience.
Who again we talked about do a lots of different things
And one of the thing that struck me about this idea of a quest, sort of an adventure
And having a set container of beginning meddle and end
was the power of finishing something
So many of us…I know certainly myself you get this great idea as new kinda like
Okay…I'm gonna do yoga all the time.
I'm gonna meditate everyday.
I'm gonna completely change my diet.
And people take on so much so they start new project, they start a new business
They start up a new product or program they wanna put out to the world
And it's kind of half-finished.
How…strong is the connection between having you know… a quest and the power of finishing.
What can that teach us?
Well… one of the thing that I hadn't decide in the very beginning was What can that teach us?
what is a quest, right?
Because for the previous book, you know…I'm writing about small businesses.
You gotta start it without spending a lot of money.
That's really straight forward…you know.
And I find a lot of people fit that category.
But I thought about quest, I cannot headed back like…okay. That's go way back.
Right? like what is a quest? Like in ancient day…you know…
That someone whose going out to find the holy grail or defend the village or something
Or find this magic ring something
And there's also a destination in mind.
There's always an goal. It might take a long time.
There might be many different …you know…trail and sidetracks and things that happen along the way
Lots of challenges and transformation etc…
But there is a goal, right? There is a destination something that you're working toward.
That's the framework I used in my quest
And that's what most of the people I talk to as well.
You know…it is very much about the process in the journey
But we're working toward something you know…
We're hoping to reach that destination at a certain point.
And I too, work on different stuff and often get side tracks.
But I think the one reason that the quest will successful and why it kept me focus
Is I knew where was going and I had a hundred and 93 countries.
And I can check them off as I went along.
I put them in my Evernotes and put a little access to them. Watch it grow and then…
I got tired at different points but I can see the progress I have made
And it became like a cause and benefit analysis after certain point.
Like I've got to a hundred countries already. Am I going to stop?
You know…I got a hundred and fifty countries … and it's all you wanna…you know…
Forty more to go…or whatever.
It helps a lot. Again, in the other example making a meal for every country.
She could have just said. Oh I'm gonna make a bunch foreign food, right?
But not really that specific.
And Robin's quest as well is to make ten thousand hats
You know….she's always like knitting and she can just keep doing that. It's fine.
But she talked about how having the number gave her purpose.
The other thing is I like deadlines.
I think deadlines are our friends. you know…
If somebody ever gives me something without a deadline. I always tell them that it's dangerous.
It's just get push probably, right? It's my nature.
Yea. It's Parkinson's law too. If I'm accurate on that one,
I mean ‘work expands so as to fill the time.' It would just expand forever and ever and ever.
Unless we put some kind of container around.
Right. So deadlines are great. That's why I like to line an event.
Because there's a deadline… I can't even like
It thousands of people come in town or something. I can't just be like…
Oh I need two more days...you know…come back…you know
Or the book launch or something.
But for me I chose my thirty fifth birthday as the deadline…you know for the quest.
I chose that seven year prior to finishing, right?
And so as I got closer and there were different opportunities, and I felt pressure in different ways
It kind of help me to keep that in mind.
“No! I know I need to do like at least twenty countries a year.”
You know… to achieve this goal. And if it gets hard, I'll have to just figure it out, right?
So…so deadlines are our friends. Structure is our friend, right?
Structure, deadline, parameters…you know
There's another quote that I like in the book. It's is from the Alise?
She talked about how everybody's always saying like
Entrepreneur and creative. She gets out of the box, right?
But for me, I wanna get in the box. I wanna to find my own box.
I don't like someone to be like here's your box, right?
I wanna make my own box. But once I made it, I wanna to actually have clear parameters
And rules and that's the scope of what I operate in.
And I'm actually gonna be more productive.
Probably gonna help the rule a lot better, if I'm in my box. If I'm not just anywhere.
Everybody! Get in your box.
You heard it from Chris Guillebeau. And of course my mind is go in to the place you don't wanna go.
But just get in your box. People. Cause it's good in there.
Sorry. That was wrong thing.
No! are you kidding me? I like it.
And I can probably see the tweet of all this episode…
Marie and Christ are telling you to get in your box.
Umm…which is brilliant. Hashtag #getinyourbox.
Umm…so I have to comment on something else though.
Because I think you and I are a little similar
And probably lots folk that are listening right now.
The absolute joy that comes from crossing something off your list. It max.
Umm…in our team, we have this priority stocks
that have a very clear structure and guidelines for the things that we are working on, so we could all see what we're doing.
And the team, including myself. We get so freaking excited when we cross things' off
I was thinking about this in the framework of quest. And how much fun that is.
When you define that container and you have something that you're excited about and working on.
And just putting those lines through, it's like
really acknowledging the journey and the joy.
And looking forward to the destination which is great. Really really great.
Let me see here. So that's a lot I wanna talk about with you.
I just think that this is such an exciting concept and I'm really really thrilled.
If you are interested in the idea of having your own quest, please go out and get Chris's book.
It is fantastic. You'll not only learn about his but you'll learn about so many other people's as well.
Hopefully it will inspire you to discover your own quest.
So Chris, is there anything else that we haven't talk about?
Any main points or things that you find in writing this book…
you're like I really wish people would either get this or notice. Or…consider this for their own lives.
You know what I hope that they will consider is
I hope they all think about what value of adventure means to them?
I hope that they'll think like…hey…maybe I can't go to every country in the world right?
But you know there's something that I can do and
I also feel that steering of wanting something different
Maybe I'm discontent in a way which again it's not a terrible word. It doesn't mean that you're terrible.
It does mean you want for something more. You want to improve your life.
And you know…you do find joy in doing things that are fun and meaningful connects with other people.
I hope that you'll think about that. I think maybe we have a challenge for that in some fashion.
Oh yea. We, Marie TV, we always love to challenge you in the comments below.
So this is what Chris and I thought it for today.
What does ‘adventure' mean to you?
That word. If it does mean anything like travel,
if it means like pursuing the spiritual goal
Or perhaps it's athletic or perhaps it's artistic …
What does adventure mean to you?
And then the second part that we love to hear is
How can you create a personal container, a quest something specific
that kinds of homes in the beautiful adventure
That calling that you feel in your heart
And make it something not only is achievable for you,
that has a specific deadline
But of course that you could share a connect with other people.
So we love to hear all about it in the comments below
And make sure that you tell us
Chris, Thank you so much for taking the time share with us about your quest
And this brilliant new book that you sharing with the world. We absolutely adore you.
And I just want to thank you for being here tonight.
Oh thank you so much. I adore you.
I adore Marie TV of yours.
I want to say one more thing, if I can jump in. if that's alright.
Last time I had the book, we did the show…And I went on tour
and every stop on the way I think, I heard from Marie TV of yours.
And so this time I'm doing forty cities
again, people can sign up for free tickets on website. Or they can just show up. They don't have to sign up
And I would love to see you.
So please come on and say hi, take picture of you.
I'll text it to Marie and she'll probably block me.
No…absolutely not.
It was a big joy of me. it make a huge differences. So I wanna thank you publicly.
And also all your reviewers and great community.
Awesome! Thank you Chris.
And by the way, we'll put links of not only Chris' book but we'll put links back to this website
So that if you want to go see tour and meet this incredible man in person
And you'll know exactly where you can do it. Chris is amazing.
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