Good question. Um...

Uh... We gossip because we know nothing better to do. Make time pass.

Why do we gossip? Ah... I think to feel better about ourselves.

And to attach ourselves to the other person that we're gossiping with.

To connect.

We want to compare our own to theirs.

We wanna see that they're just as valuable as we are that they make just as many mistakes.

Most, uh...likely because it's kinda fun and it's kind of interesting,

and it plays to that low part of everybody.

I think people gossip because they're focused on what's outside of them rather than what's inside.

The ego loves drama, so the ego creates drama and focuses on drama.

So it doesn't have to feel its own pain.

It makes people feel like better to talk about other people's damage and brokenness.

It seems inbuilt in human nature, though there're people who don't gossip, particularly.

I suppose the person who is gossiping gets a certain satisfaction out of what they're saying,

even though it may be not very pleasant or very nice.

It may be harmful.

It's the one time we get to completely forget about our own flaws and just focus on other people's.

So there's a certain amount of joy going like,

"You know what? You know what? That guy really needs to do it if he wants to improve his life,"

and then you go through all the things that they should do, and really a lot of it you should probably do as well.

Yeah, I've heard about gossip that people have said about me. I've seen it online.

People think I just like dress the way I do for attention.

That I try to be like others, but I really don't.

I was with this girl for a while and then we broke up and people start talking about like why we broke up.

That stuff there wasn't true but because other people are talking about it, people think it's true.

Someone I knew many, many, years ago...

We were very close.

I happened to come in one time and saw a letter in the typewriter.

They painted me in an unpleasant, negative way.

It just brought the friendship to a crashing halt,

which could never ever again be revived in the same confidence or the same closeness.

When people gossip about me, it hurts my feelings, and I didn't want to get hurt.

I don't want to hurt other people.

Just talking about someone in no way or shape or form helps you or helps them.

But if you talk to the person as opposed to talking about them, you actually get somewhere.

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