a business and a life that you love. Wanna give it a big hug every single day. And this

is Q&A Tuesday, which means there’s questions and answers, Q’s and A’s, and today’s

comes from Tamara and she writes:

“Hi Marie. Whenever I see a little progress in my business I wanna hide under a rock.

The moment I’m pushed outside of my comfort zone, I wanna run back in. What can I do to

continue moving forward without running and hiding? Thanks so much, Tamara.”

Oh my goodness Tamara, you are describing something that so many of us struggle with

but we just don't know it. It’s this idea called an upper limit problem and it was coined

by my friend Gay Hendricks who wrote the fantastic book The Big Leap. So I first discovered this

concept because I got really sick after having a huge spike in my business. Here’s what

happened.

Second year that we launched B-School things took off. It reached a whole new level. So

more financial wealth, more impact than I could’ve ever imagined. It was the middle

of summer, I find myself in this yoga class so excited and I’m in my downward dog and

all of a sudden I start to feel really, really sick like I’m gonna puke. Now, you’ve

gotta get, I’m not the kind of person that gets sick very often, so this seemed weird.

So I’m thinking, “Well, maybe it’s just a 24 hour bug.” I get home, I try to take

care of myself, and it just kept getting worse. For 6 days I had skull crushing headaches,

I couldn’t keep any food down. I was a complete and utter mess. Finally I got myself to the

doctor because I thought maybe I have salmonella, maybe I have a parasite, who knows? Got these

tests done, went home, chilled out. My friends came over that night to try and take care

of me, I told them about what was happening, and they all said, “You know what, Marie?

I don't think you’re sick. I think those tests are gonna come back negative. This is

an upper limit problem. You have so much great stuff happening right now you probably just

don't even know how to handle it.” I thought that was a little wild, but whatever. I listened.

Turns out the next day the doctor calls me. I’m waiting for my test results figuring

I’ve got something bad. He said, “You know what? Nothing is wrong with you. No salmonella,

no parasites, no nothing.”

So for me when I hit an upper limit I typically get sick. It sounds like for you you wanna

run and hide. Some people get themselves in accidents or they pick a fight or they start

dropping the ball at work. Why? Well, the theory goes like this: when you hit your upper

limit your upper limit is basically the limit that you allow yourself to feel happy and

successful. It’s almost like an internal thermostat, like your success comfort zone.

And as Gay Hendricks says, each of us has a limited tolerance for feeling good.

Now, when things start to get amazing and we go beyond that upper limit, many of us

start to unconsciously start sabotaging ourselves so we can get back to our comfort zone. Now,

this is a really universal problem, and thankfully we can actually do something about it. It

has everything to do with turning up the volume on our awareness. So if anything good starts

to happen in your life or you have a big breakthrough, you’ve gotta keep the lookout on for all

the ways that you might self sabotage, and don't do it.

So if you’re like me and you get physically sick, then you’ve gotta just chill out and

rest and take it easy. If you’re someone who always drops the ball at work, pay extra

attention to the details. And if you’re someone like you, Tamara, who really wants

to run and hide when things get good, don't retreat. Just stay and let yourself feel it.

Here’s the thing about upper limits, you’re gonna keep facing this throughout your entire

life and the more awareness you bring, the more you reset that thermostat and re-calibrate

yourself to handle all kinds of good stuff.

Now, if you’re someone who’s into mantras you can use this one from Gay Hendricks. “I

expand in success, love, and creativity every day as I inspire others to do the same.”

Or you can use this tweetable.

When it comes to joy and success, your built in upper limit is completely adjustable.

That was my A to your Q Tamara, I really hope it helps. And now I would love to hear from

you. How do you bust through your upper limits and do you have any fun stories to share on the topic?

As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com, so go

there and leave a comment now.

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