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  • Hey, it's Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business and life you love.

  • And this is not Q&A Tuesday. It's a special episode of MarieTV in honor of the US holiday, Thanksgiving.

  • And today we're gonna talk about the dark side of an often cheery topic.

  • Today I wanna talk to you about the downside of gratitude.

  • Being grateful seems like a harmless turkey day ritual, but really it's a dangerous state of mind. Let me explain.

  • Look, we all have negative thoughts from time to time. "I don't have enough money. My house sucks. I'm having a bad hair day."

  • I don't have those. Just kidding!

  • Or, you know, "Why is this person flying in first class and I'm stuck in coach? "Yada, yada, yada.

  • Complaining can be an easy way to bond with people.

  • Feeling like things are less than perfect can be an automatic place for your mind to rest, kind of like a big, negative, fluffy pillow.

  • Well, watch out, because a little gratitude will yank that fluffy pillow right out from underneath you.

  • Gratitude kills. It kills self pity, it kills jealousy, it kills bitterness, and it kills regret.

  • It's kinda like Raid. It kills negative thoughts, dead.

  • And you wanna know how fast acting it is? Check this out.

  • Here is a stat from a study done by Professor Emmons at UC Davis. People who kept a gratitude journal for just 3 weeks measured 25% higher on life satisfaction.

  • They exercised more, they drank less alcohol, and their families and friends noticed that they were nicer to be around. How cool is that?

  • And the effects lasted several months beyond the initial 3 week study.

  • So here's the deal, the only downside to gratitude is that you have to give up some time-sucking, negative habits and emotional patterns that hold you back.

  • Because it's talked about so much and we're supposed to be grateful on Thanksgiving, it's really easy to dismiss gratitude as just self helpy or a once a year kinda thing.

  • But the truth is, gratitude is one of the most fast acting tools for personal transformation.

  • No matter what negative state you find yourself in, no matter how bad things seem, the simple act of writing things down that you're grateful for will instantly change your mood.

  • And if you do it consistently, it will totally transform your life.

  • If you're saying, "Yeah, yeah. I get the whole gratitude thing," but you don't actually do it, you are doing yourself a disservice.

  • Now listen up, because this is a tweetable.

  • "Gratitude is more powerful than any pill you can pick up at the pharmacy."

  • It's a natural mood enhancer! No dry mouth, no constipation, and no hot dog fingers.

  • The only effect is the one I warned you about.

  • Loss of negative thoughts, loss of pity parties, inability to stay stuck in a miserable state, absence of limiting and soul-sucking beliefs, a lack of ability to blame your parents for everything that's wrong with you.

  • Pretty great, right? So let's get this gratitude party started right now. In the comments below, I want you to tell me at least 10 things you're grateful for.

  • Then I want you to report any instant side effects, and I should not be hearing about hot dog fingers.

  • I'm gonna do it too, over where the gratitude party is taking place, at MarieForleo.com, so go there now and leave a comment.

  • Now, before I go, do you wanna know one of the things I'm most grateful for? It's you.

  • MarieTV is one of the things I love most in my life, and getting to connect with you each and every week is awesome.

  • I so appreciate your emails and your comments and everything that you share with me.

  • So thank you again, I am deeply, deeply appreciative.

  • Did you like this video? If so, subscribe and share it with your friends.

  • And if you want even more great resources to have a business and a life you love, plus personal insights from me that I only talk about in email, get your butt over to MarieForleo.com and sign up for email updates.

  • Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams. The world needs that special gift that only you have.

  • Thank you so much for watching this special episode of MarieTV.

  • I'm sending you and your family all of my love.

  • Catch you next time.

Hey, it's Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business and life you love.

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