control over what you experience sometimes. But, there is one thing that you should know.

There is a way to see the world from a different, more positive perspective. How? I'll share

that with you right after this. This is The Josh Speaks. You're watching The Josh Speaks.

When things completely suck it's almost impossible for us to imagine that there's a possibility

of a better life out there for us. It's not until we hit some sort of rock bottom that

we begin to make our way back up to the top. And when you are ready to take that journey,

here's what you need to know. Tip #1, It's ok to cry and feel defeated. Adults will always

make it seem like you just need to take the pain and keep moving forward but that's not

always the best thing to do. If you feel sad, then feel sad. If you want to cry, then cry.

It's not always about pretending like you can't get knocked down, it's about dusting

off your knees and eventually getting back up. Tip #2 Redirect your anger into something

positive. Sometimes it's easy to lash out against the people that you know because you

know that they'll take it. But when you don't redirect your anger into something positive,

you stay in this cycle of being helpless and hopeless. You feel angry because you can't

get anything done and then you feel weak because you can't get anything done. Instead of harboring

those negative feelings, try doing something positive like going for a run, drawing or

writing in a journal. We need to push those negative feelings out in a way that you won't

hurt anyone, including yourself. And as a side note, if you are one of those people

who know someone suffering from depression check out my video right here where I share

with you 5 ways to help deal with someone with depression. Tip #3, Surround yourself

with good people. I know this can be tough but finding good people is very different

from expecting goodness from the people that you already know. Not every family member

or friend is equipped with the skills to help you out in the way that you need it, so try

finding a therapist, counselor, or a support group with trained people that can help you

in the best way possible. Tip #4. Take responsibility and acknowledge what you have control over.

For example, you have the right to say yes and no to the things that you choose to do.

No one should have the right to force you to do things under their will and if you are

in that situation, try to understand that maybe you're staying in it out of fear or

helplessness. Taking control starts with acknowledging that there is a problem and finding someone

who can help pull you out of it. And tip #5. Never forget the ones who have helped you.

I know it's easy sometimes to get lost in the problems that you're going through and

sometimes you just can't even fathom recognizing when other people are attempting to do for

you. But, try, really try to acknowledge those who go out of their way to lend you a helping

hand. Trust me, there are people out there who want to help you. Some of them are already

in your lives and some of them you don't even know yet. But you have to be open and compassionate

to accept them when they come. Living in your own head prevents you from spreading true

love and compassion with your heart. And therefore, everything that you encounter, good or bad,

makes you the person that you are. But you, right now, and every moment going forward,

have complete control over the person that you aim to be. What do you guys think though,

what are some of the tough situations that you're going through right now. Leave your

comments below and hopefully everyone there can help you out. I want leave you off with

this powerful quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson. “Cultivate the habit of being grateful for

every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all

things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.”

As always guys, love and peace. Hey thanks for watching. If you're new to the channel

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newsletter. The link is in the description below. And finally, a shout out to Alex Smith

who I think is incredibly brave for sending me an email asking me for advice on how to

not feel alone at school. If you guys have experience with this, feel free to jump in

the comments below and leave your thoughts there.

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