Subtitles section Play video Print subtitles Hey again ladies and gentlemen, Brad Browning here… in this video, I’m going to list off six text messages you should NEVER send to your ex. This video is specifically for those who want to get back together with their ex, but most of these messages are still bad news even if you’re not looking to win back an ex. Before I jump into these terrible text messages, I’d just like to quickly ask you to do me a big favor and click the “like” button below if you find this video helpful… and of course if you have questions you’d like me to answer, please just leave a comment below and I’ll get back to you as soon as I can. Bad Message #1: Begging, Pleading, and Promising Change After a breakup, many people feel compelled to beg their ex for another chance… after all, it’s only natural to try and change someone’s mind when they’ve made a decision you’re not happy with. But any text message that involves begging, pleading, or promising your ex that you’ll change your ways is doomed to fail. See, no matter how logical it might seem to ask your ex for another chance and reassure them that things will be different next time around, that will simply never work. The only way to get your ex back is to rebuild their attraction for you… you can’t use words to make your ex love you again, you need to build natural attraction so that they WANT you back. After all, love is a two way street. So, don’t send your ex any texts begging for another chance or promising to change…. it’s just a bad idea, period. Bad Message #2: Asking “Why” or Bringing Up Serious “Relationship Talk” Yes, I know, you want to know why your ex broke up with you…. maybe you’re looking for closure, or maybe you just think another ‘serious discussion’ will help you work out the problems in your relationship that led to breakup. Well, maybe months down the road you can ask your ex for some closure, but it’s best to completely avoid all talk of your relationship, the breakup, and anything else that’s “serious”... remember, you want to build your ex’s attraction, and re-hashing the same old drama is not going to help with that one bit. Usually, it just reinforces your ex’s decision to break up. If you’re not sure why your ex broke up or you want to figure out whether you’ve still got a chance to win them back, head over to my website (www.BreakupBrad.com) and watch the free video presentation… I’ll share some in-depth advice about breakups and how to repair things with your ex. Bad Message #3: Resentful, Angry, or Vengeful Messages Sometimes, you may wind up hating your ex’s guts, whether they’ve done something wrong or not. But, regardless of how intense your anger and desire for revenge might be, sending your ex angry messages and trying to hurt their feelings with mean, insulting comments won’t do you any good. Honestly, it probably won’t even make you feel any better… and it will definitely kill your chances of ever getting back together. Bad Message #4: Pointless, Uninteresting Messages This is something I talk about a lot in my Ex Factor Guide program, because a lot of people think that texting their ex something like, “hey whats up” or “hows it going” will help stimulate a conversation. Well, actually, no… it usually does the opposite. Why would your ex reply to boring messages like that? If you want to get a reply, and get your ex to start thinking about you again in a positive light, then you need to be interesting and funny…. at the very least, make sure your messages have a purpose beyond just “reconnecting”. When it comes to texting, remember: be fun! If your ex enjoys texting back and forth with you, then they’ll continue to reply and will start to think of you as “fun” and “interesting” again… which is what you want if you’re trying to rekindle the romance after a breakup. Bad Message #5: Follow-up messages If you send your ex a message and he or she doesn’t reply, then that conversation is dead and you need to leave it in the past. The worst thing you can do is send more messages asking “did you get my text” or “why didn’t you reply to my last message”... that makes you look needy and desperate. If you don’t get a reply, then wait a while -- don’t message your ex again a few days, or in some cases, a few weeks. Then, when the time is right, try again with a different message and a different approach. If you’ve sent several messages and haven’t heard any replies at all, then you’re either doing something wrong or your ex simply isn’t interested in talking with you at all. Whatever you do, don’t bombard your ex with messages and don’t make it look like you’re desperate for a reply. Bad Message #6: Love notes and ‘putting it all out there’ A lot of my clients have, at some point after their initial breakup, tried to win their ex back by telling him or her how much they love them… how badly they miss having them around… sometimes, they’ll write out a lengthy love note pouring their heart out and send it to their ex as a “last ditch effort”. You probably know by now why this is a bad idea, but if not, I’m going to spare you the in-depth reasoning and just say this: don’t tell your ex you still love them, you miss them like crazy, or anything of that nature. There can be times when this is appropriate, but unless you’re at that point and know when the time is right, then you’re best just to not text your ex this sort of message… at all, ever. So, that’s it for now… if you’ve managed to avoid sending your ex any of these six messages so far, then congratulations, because most people will send at least one or two of these texts in the weeks after their breakup. Don’t worry if you already have, though… from now on, just make sure to avoid sending these types of negative text messages, and you’ll be doing yourself a big favor. If you’d like some more text message ideas that will generate a reply and help build attraction between you and your ex, you can visit www.BreakupBrad.com and sign up for my Ex Factor Guide program… the program includes a bunch of sample texts that you can send immediately to your ex to spark some positive conversation and get them thinking about you again. Even if you’re not interested in signing up for the program, you can still get some more ideas by watching the free video presentation on my website. Again, the URL is BreakupBrad.com. Thanks for watching, hope you found this video helpful… please leave your comments and suggestions below, and I’d also really appreciate it if you’d “like” this video by clicking the thumbs-up button below. Bye for now!
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