in London, England, stand the statues of 10 Christian martyrs

of the 20th century.

Included among them is Dietrich Bonhoeffer,

a brilliant German theologian born in 1906.

Bonhoeffer became a vocal critic of the Nazi dictatorship

and its treatment of Jews and others.

He was imprisoned for his active opposition

and finally executed in a concentration camp.

Bonhoeffer was a prolific writer,

and some of his best-known pieces

are letters that sympathetic guards helped him smuggle out

of prison, later published as Letters and Papers from Prison.

One of those letters was to his niece before her wedding.

It included these significant insights

(quote): "Marriage is more than your love for each other.

...

In your love you see only your two selves in the world,

but in marriage you are a link in the chain

of the generations, which God causes to come and to pass away

to his glory, and calls into his kingdom.

In your love you see only the heaven of your own happiness,

but in marriage you are placed at a post of responsibility

towards the world and mankind.

Your love is your own private possession,

but marriage is more than something personal--it is

a status, an office.

Just as it is the crown, and not merely the will to rule,

that makes the king, so it is marriage,

and not merely your love for each other,

that joins you together in the sight of God and man.

So love comes from you, but marriage from above, from God"

(unquote).

In what way does marriage between a man and a woman

transcend their love for one another and their own happiness

to become "a post of responsibility

towards the world and mankind"?

In what sense does it come "from above, from God"?

To understand, we have to go back to the beginning.

Prophets have revealed that we first existed as intelligences

and that we were given form, or spirit bodies, by God,

thus becoming His spirit children--sons and daughters

of heavenly parents.

There came a time in this premortal existence of spirits

when, in furtherance of His desire

that "we could have a privilege to advance like himself,"

our Heavenly Father prepared an enabling plan.

In the scriptures it is given various names, including

"the plan of salvation," "the great plan of happiness,"

and "the plan of redemption."

The two principal purposes of the plan

were explained to Abraham in these words:

"And there stood one among them that was like unto God,

and he said unto those who were with him:

We will go down, for there is space there,

and we will take of these materials,

and we will make an earth whereon these [spirits] may

dwell; and we will prove them herewith,

to see if they will do all things whatsoever the Lord

their God shall command them;

and they who keep their first estate shall be added upon; ...

and they who keep their second estate shall have glory

added upon their heads for ever and ever."

Thanks to our Heavenly Father, we had already

become spirit beings.

Now He was offering us a path to complete or perfect that being.

The addition of the physical element

is essential to the fulness of being and glory

that God Himself enjoys.

If while with God in the premortal spirit world,

we would agree to participate in His plan--or in other words,

keep our first estate--we would "be added upon"

with a physical body as we came to dwell on the earth that He

created for us.

If then, in the course of our mortal experience,

we chose to "do all things whatsoever the Lord [our]

God should command [us]," we would

have kept our second estate.

This means that by our choices we

would demonstrate to God and to ourselves our commitment

and capacity to live His celestial law

while outside His presence and in a physical body with all

its powers, appetites, and passions.

Could we bridle the flesh so that it became the instrument

rather than the master of the spirit?

Could we be trusted in time and eternity with godly powers,

including the power to create life?

Would we individually overcome evil?

Those who did would "have glory added upon their heads for ever

and ever"--a very significant aspect of that glory being

a resurrected, immortal, and glorified physical body.

No wonder we "shouted for joy" at these magnificent

possibilities and promises.

At least four things are needed for the success

of this divine plan: First was the creation of the earth

as our dwelling place.

Whatever the details of the creation process,

we know that it was not accidental

but that it was directed by God the Father

and implemented by Jesus Christ: "All things were made by him;

and without him was not any thing made that was made."

Second is the condition of mortality.

Adam and Eve acted for all who had

chosen to participate in the Father's

great plan of happiness.

Their Fall created the conditions

needed for our physical birth and for mortal experience

and learning outside the presence of God.

With the Fall came an awareness of good and evil

and the God-given power to choose.

Finally, the Fall brought about physical death,

needed to make our time in mortality

temporary so that we would not live forever in our sins.

Third is redemption from the Fall.

We see the role of death in our Heavenly Father's plan,

but that plan would become void without some way

to overcome death in the end, both physical and spiritual.

Thus a Redeemer, the Only Begotten Son of God, Jesus

Christ, suffered and died to atone

for Adam and Eve's transgression,

thereby providing resurrection and immortality for all.

And since none of us will have been perfectly and consistently

obedient to the gospel law, His Atonement

also redeems us from our own sins

on condition of repentance.

With the Savior's atoning grace providing forgiveness

of sins and sanctification of the soul,

we can spiritually be born again and reconciled to God.

Our spiritual death--our separation from God--will end.

Fourth and finally is the setting for our physical birth

and subsequent rebirth into the kingdom of God.

For His work to succeed to "exalt us with himself,"

God ordained that men and women should marry and give birth

to children, thereby creating, in partnership

with God, the physical bodies that

are key to the test of mortality and essential to eternal glory

with Him.

He also ordained that parents should establish families

and rear their children in light and truth,

leading them to a hope in Christ.

The Father commands us, "Teach these things freely unto

your children, saying: That ... inasmuch as ye were born

into the world by water, and blood, and the spirit,

which I have made, and so became of dust a living soul,

even so ye must be born again into the kingdom of heaven,

of water, and of the [Holy] Spirit,

and be cleansed by blood, even the blood of mine Only

Begotten; that ye might be sanctified from all sin,

and enjoy the words of eternal life in this world,

and eternal life in the world to come, even immortal glory."

Knowing why we left the presence of our Heavenly Father

and what it takes to return and be exalted with Him,

it becomes very clear that nothing

relative to our time on earth can

be more important than physical birth

and spiritual rebirth, the two prerequisites of eternal life.

This is, to use the words of Dietrich Bonhoeffer,

the "office" of marriage, the "post of responsibility towards

... mankind," that this divine institution "from above,

from God" occupies.

It is the "link in the chain of generations"

both here and hereafter--the order of heaven.

A family built on the marriage of a man and a woman supplies

the best setting for God's plan to thrive--the setting

for the birth of children who come in purity and innocence

from God, and the environment for the learning

and preparation they will need for a successful mortal life

and eternal life in the world to come.

A critical mass of families built on such marriages

is vital for societies to survive and flourish.

That is why communities and nations generally

have encouraged and protected marriage and the family

as privileged institutions.

It has never been just about the love and happiness of adults.

The social science case for marriage

and for families headed by a married man and woman

is compelling.

And so "we warn that the disintegration of the family

will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations

the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets."

But our claims for the role of marriage and family

rest not on social science but on the truth

that they are God's creation.

It is He who in the beginning created

Adam and Eve in His image, male and female,

and joined them as husband and wife to become "one flesh"

and to multiply and replenish the earth.

Each individual carries the divine image,

but it is in the matrimonial union of male and female as one

that we attain perhaps the most complete meaning about having

been made in the image of God--male and female.

Nor we nor any other mortal can alter

this divine order of matrimony.

It is not a human invention.

Such marriage is indeed "from above, from God,"

and is as much a part of the plan of happiness

as the Fall and the Atonement.

In the premortal world, Lucifer rebelled

against God and His plan, and his opposition only

grows in intensity.

He fights to discourage marriage and the formation of families,

and where marriages and families are formed,

he does what he can to disrupt them.

He attacks everything that is sacred about human sexuality,

tearing it from the context of marriage

with a seemingly infinite array of immoral thoughts and acts.

He seeks to convince men and women--men and women--that

marriage and family priorities can be ignored or abandoned,

or at least made subservient to careers, other achievements,

and the quest for "self-fulfillment"

and individual autonomy.

Certainly the adversary is pleased

when parents neglect to teach and train

their children to have faith in Christ

and be spiritually born again.

Brothers and sisters, many things are good,

many are important, but only a few are essential.

To declare the fundamental truths

relative to marriage and family is not

to overlook or diminish the sacrifices and successes

of those for whom the ideal is not a present reality.

Some of you are denied the blessings of marriage

for reasons including a lack of viable prospects,

same-sex attraction, physical or mental impairments, or simply

a fear of failure that, for the moment at least,

overshadows faith.

Or you may have married, but that marriage ended,

and you are left to manage alone what two together can barely

sustain.

Some of you who are married cannot bear children despite

overwhelming desires and pleading prayers.

Even so, everyone has gifts; everyone has talents;

everyone can contribute to the unfolding of the divine plan

in each generation.

Much that is good, much that is essential--even sometimes all

that is necessary for now--can be achieved in less than ideal

circumstances.

So many of you are doing your very best.