idea of being cool. Am I cool? Is he cool? Am I cool? What is cool exactly? You know

what I'm going to look up the exact definition of cool. Not the cool I'm looking for. It's

all about being impressed, I guess. Being impressed by this person or this thing and

I think that's hard because it's so subjective, right? We are all impressed by very different

things. I'm impressed whenever someone does a backflip, but a gymnast who has done backflips

before maybe not so much. But maybe, maybe they think cracking knuckles is really cool

and in that case I am so cool. So coolness is subjective, being impressed is subjective.

For example, celebrities. Let's take Justin Bieber. Some people think he's really cool.

They like the way he dresses, the way he sings, they want to date him, they want to be him.

He is cool. But other people, not so much. And so how do we say whether he's cool or

not? On a personal standpoint, in high school when you're walking down the hall and everyone's

like "oh my god, she's so cool!" Is she though? Because maybe you think oh no she's not cool

because to me coolness is her being nice and her being kind to others and she's not. But

then to someone else cool might be she wears the hippest clothes, she uses the coolest

slang. Peace signs. I'm not exactly sure where I'm going with this video, but I think it's

to deconstruct the word cool. And get us to thinking there's not just one definition of

cool. Especially in high school and middle school, I think it's very easy to get this

idea that oh the popular crowd, or what I'd call the "think-they're-popular" crowd, like

that's the definition of cool, that becomes the standard of cool and so in order to be

"cool" you have to talk a certain way, you have to dress a certain way, you have to do

certain things. And I think that's crap. There' s these different spheres of coolness and

just because you don't fit into one of the spheres doesn't mean you don't fit into another

one. There's just so many different definitions of what cool can be and is. I was listening

to Rhett & Link's podcast, Earbiscuits and they were talking to Hank Green. And Hank

was saying it's so weird for him when he comes to LA because he gets to hang out with all

the cool kids like Grace, and Rhett & Link, and Hannah. They thought like no you're cool;

you've created all these things, you made Vidcon you are such an intelligent dude you're

cool. And there were these mutual feelings of inadequacy with one another. They both

felt like they weren't cool enough for the other person. Everyone think that they're

uncool. It's just this viscous cycle of insecurity and inferiority complexes. We meet people

and we might be really intimidated like "oh my god they are so awesome!" they might be

saying the exact same thing about you because maybe you're doing something they really want

to do in their life; you're acting a certain way, you look a certain way, you're carrying

yourself a certain way that they really admire. A lot of times we are insecure about things

we think of as "flaws" We think are uncool parts about us. When there are probably a

lot of people out there who see us and see those flaws as actually the coolest things

about us. Cool is not something that's etched in stone; it doesn't have a certain look,

it doesn't have a certain style or a way of speaking or a favorite hobby or TV show. There's

no standard for cool. I think we always like to think that the grass is greener on the

other side, and that's just not true. We always think that if we just do this one thing, if

we get this haircut, if we lose this weight, if we wear these clothes, if we achieve this

award that we'll somehow get there, get to this status of cool kid. Instead we need to

shift our focus and realize that what we have now, if we just let it be and be ourselves

the coolness is going to come out. Maybe not to everyone, but it's impossible for everyone

in the world to think you're cool. Someone out there is going to think you're uncool,

it might be your mom I don't know. But you're not going to have everyone's approval, that's

okay. You really only need your approval. Okay well I'm hoping I got that point across.

I'm not entirely sure because I didn't have this scripted I just had a few notes because

I really wanted to talk about this and it's something that I think is really interesting.

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