the athletes didn't stop though .. after the race a news reporter came in to ask the winners

運動員並未因雨而停止賽跑。比賽結束後，記者採訪得獎的運動員

The guy who took fourth place said , "I came fourth place you know because the weather was bad today

得到第四名的運動員說：「因為今日天氣不佳，所以我才會只得第四名。」

My feet got cold and it was raining hard ." This is what reactive people do

「我的雙腳越來越冷，雨又下得這麼大。」這就是易受外界干擾者的反應

They always focus on the things that they cannot control . On the other hand

他們總是聚焦在他們無法控制的事物上。另一方面

The guy who took the golden medal wasn't complaining at all he said that bad weather didn't affect his performance,

得到第一名的人卻完全沒有任何抱怨。他只說他的表現並未受到壞天氣的影響

he wasn't focusing on why did mother nature

也就是說，他完全沒有在意大自然

chose to go against him at this very important day .. because he knows that the only thing he's in control of

為何選在這麼重要的一天和他唱反調，因為他明白，只有一件事是他能控制的

is his emotions and thoughts and if any negative thought

就是自己的情緒與想法。假如有任何負面想法

comes in the radar he's going to reframe it quickly , so HABIT NUMBER ONE : BE PROACTIVE

跑進腦海中，他就會快速重構，所以【好習慣之一：主動為上】

you're not responsible for what's being thrown at you

你不需對外加於你的事物負責

but you're responsible for your reaction over that event .

但你需要對自己面對該事件的情緒負責

Now I want you to imagine that you have the disease an incurable disease , you have very little time left for you on this planet ..

現在，我要你想像自己罹患不治之症，你只剩很少的時間可活…

at that moment one of the most powerful questions you can ask yourself is

在這當下，你可以問自己至關重要的問題，那就是：

What did I do with my life ? well to be honest you already have a disease that is going

活到現在，我到底做了些什麼呢？坦白來說，你已經得到一個必死無疑的疾病了

to kill you ..you're going to die .

你已準備要離開人世

death is an inherent disease .. I'm not saying this like : Oh ! guys we're all going to die

死亡就是個「與生俱來的疾病」…我並不是要說：噢！大家！我們要死了

let's cry and feel victims about it No , i'm saying choose what to leave out wisely

一起哭吧！一起叫屈吧！不！我的意思是，你該留下什麼給還活著的人？

Do you want to be remembered as someone who was a great role model ,

你希望可以留芳百世，樹立典範供後世學習呢？

an inspiration like someone who wrote a book that influenced others to come up with valuable ideas , products .

成為後人寫書的靈感啟發，留下重要且有價值的好點子或產品呢？

Or Do you want to be remembered as the guy who spent 30 years of his life

還是希望他人記得你是一位花了三十年歲月

trolling people on the internet and making them feel horrible about themselves .

只會不斷上網當「網路小白」，並讓他們害怕？

So HABIT NUMBER TWO : BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND , value your time ..

所以【好習慣之二：把每天當成生命中最後一天來活】重視自己的時間價值

because once it's all spent , there is no coming back ..

因為時光一去不復返

Now i want you to consider this scenario :

現在，我要你想像以下畫面：

You're having coffee with some friends and then you apologize because

你正在和好友們喝咖啡，之後你和他們道歉，因為

you need to get back home work on your project , but honestly here's what working on your project really means :

你需要回家寫報告，但實際上你做的事卻是：

you're going to go home and open up Facebook , spend two hours in

回到家後，點開臉書，耗個兩小時

and then you're going to go watch some self development video on how can you manage your time better ..

之後再看個勵志影片，教你如何做好時間管理

and finally one hour before going to bed you'll start working on that project.

最後發現離睡覺時間只剩一個小時，你才真的開始寫報告

This is what most people do.

這就是多數人的人生百態

So HABIT NUMBER THREE : PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST Stop focusing on meaningless activities and

所以【好習慣之三：首要事件絕不延後】停止耗時間在無意義的活動上

do the most important things first that will bring great success upon your life

先去完成重要的事，這會帶給你生活上的成功

i remember the time when I was six years old , I was walking down with a friend in

我記得在我六歲時，我和朋友沿街走到

this place called souk where you could buy toys and clothes for very cheap prices

這個叫「露天市集」的地方，在這裡我們可以用非常便宜的價格買到玩具及衣服

i remember back then we were standing at this toy stand and my friend said

我記得當時我們站在玩具攤前，我朋友說：

look, look! There is a camera over there.

「你看，這裡有台相機耶！」

So i look under the stand and there was a camera .. it could have fallen from the other toys

所以我朝攤位底下看了一眼，發現真的有台相機，可能是從檯面上掉下來的

we lived in a very poor neighborhood back then where nobody could actually afford

我們兩個住在一個非常貧窮的社區，在當時，根本沒人買得起

these types of luxuries . My friend said, "you know what ! wait for the owner to look around and take it !!"

這種類型的奢侈品。朋友說：「你知道嗎？等到老闆不注意的時候，我們就把相機拿走！」

I said, " Well isn't that considered steeling we should give it to the owner right ? "

我答：「我們不應該打偷竊的如意算盤，而是還給老闆才對吧？」

He said , " Nah , don't worry about it , you have a plastic bag right ?

他說：「才不是，你不用擔心，你不是有個塑膠袋嗎？

I don't , just put it in there and let's go." So I took the camera and our way home

因為我沒帶，所以就把相機放在你的袋子裡，我們就走人。」所以我拿走相機，和他一起走回家

my friend stopped and said, "Hey let me see the camera .. it looks really cool but i think

途中，朋友停下來並和我說：「讓我看一下相機，它真的超酷，不過我覺得

it's broken .. yuy .. you know what ? my neighbor is a camera-man I think he can fix that ..

它很像壞了…嗯…你知道嗎？我的鄰居是個攝影師，我想他應該可以修好

you leave this to me okay ? " so i said , "Okay , but .. it's "OUR" camera right ? I mean

你把相機留下來給我保管，可以嗎？我回應：「好吧，不過…這是『我們的』相機，對吧？我的意思是

you go fix it .. and keep it for like a week or so and I'll use it for a week and give it back ."

你把它修好，然後可以用一個禮拜，之後再輪我用一個禮拜，我們就把它還回去。」

He said, "Of course, we're like brothers ." So we both gone our separate ways ..

他說：「當然，我們情同兄弟耶！」所以我們就各自回家了

I was waiting for a call from him

從那之後，我一直在等朋友的電話

But unfortunately I've never seen my friend since that day (laughs)

但不幸的是，我再也沒見到那位朋友了(笑)

So HABIT NUMBER FOUR : THINK WIN-WIN

所以【好習慣之四：擁有「雙贏」思維】

never sell friend for a stolen camera ..

不要把壞相機交給你朋友…

Now imagine that you have a kid named Robert . You guys work on a farm and

現在想像你自己有位名為羅伯特的兒子。你們在農地辛苦耕種

live in the countryside Robert wants to travel he wants to start working on his comfort zone

你們住在郊區，羅伯特想要去旅遊，他也想要在自己熟悉的環境工作

but there are very few people around living in small farms

但住在小田地附近的人並不多

Robert came up to you one day apologizing that he has to go find a purpose and work on his social skills in the big city.

於是羅伯特有天和你道歉，並告訴你，他想要找到工作的目的，也想到大城市工作，增進社交技能

Of course most people's response will be like no .

可想而知，許多父母的回應都是：「不可以！

you can't do that . you need to stay here and work on the farm like your

你不可以這樣做。你必須留下來工作，就像你

grandfathers and your grand grandfathers did before you. Now here's what you want

的祖父一輩、你的曾祖父一輩一樣。」現在你希望

Robert to transform into a box . so you can move him around anywhere you want.

羅伯特「變成一個箱子」，如此一來，你就可以把它移到任何你喜歡的地方

And when you come back from somewhere you want that box to say where you've left it.

而當你回到某處，你希望箱子可以告訴你，你把它落在哪裡

it's easier to judge , impose your opinion or wait for your turn to talk back

評斷是如此容易之事，增加意見的影響力或等待自己能夠應答的時機

Rather than listen , diagnose sympathetically and ask yourself maybe

比起傾聽，試著發揮同理心評斷，詢問自己，或許

that person is trying to pursue other values in his path that I cannot see

那個人試著追求他人生中的價值，只是我並不知道罷了

Maybe he sees reality differently. How can i come up with a solution that's win-win

或許他看待現實的角度與我不同。我該如何創造一個雙贏的解決方法呢？

Satisfying both of us . if you respond without even trying to understand from where the other person is coming from,

讓彼此都能滿意的解決方法。如果你的回覆並沒有考量到他人的處境

you're simply treating that person as a box

那麼，你不過是把他人當作一個箱子而已

HABIT number five: seek first to understand then to be understood.

【好習慣之五：先了解他人，再試著讓他人了解自己】

I want you to imagine two people. They're trying to take a sword out of rock.

想像兩個人：他們正試著拔出石中劍

They keep trying for hours and hours.

兩人已努力了好一段時間

but what they haven't thought of this is to try and take the sword out by combining their efforts.

然而，他們卻沒有想到，如果可以同心協力，就能將劍拔出

this is called synergy. the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.

這就是所謂的「協同作用」，兩個人的力量總和遠大過個別力量的加總

Like combined mental and physical abilities, focus. So you should always be looking for these

就像結合心智與體力再加上專注力。所以你應該持續找尋

synergistical opportunities with others. making the task easier for everyone.

協同的機會，讓人人都能輕鬆完成任務

habit number six: Synergize.

【好習慣之六：發揮協同力】

Now let's say we are both avid readers. both very passionate about self development books.

現在，假設我們都是書籍愛好者，我們都對自我發展類的書籍充滿興趣

And one day, i offer you a book to read. titled "the art of breathing"

有一天，我推薦一本好書給你，名為《呼吸的藝術》

now what do most people respond to this kind of recommendation ?

現在，通常多數人會如何回應像這樣的推薦呢？

(laughs) the art of what ? Dude are you kidding ? Am I trying to read "Eckhart tolle" here.

(笑聲)什麼的藝術？先生你在開玩笑嗎？現在是要我讀「艾克哈特．托勒」系列嗎？(譯註：美國最受歡迎的心靈作家)

Don't joke around with that. This is what it means to judge a book by it's cover.

不要亂開玩笑。這就是你只憑書的封面就判斷它的價值

When I look at a book. I don't see it as a book anymore. I say: here are some of the most

當我看一本書時，我不會認定它只是一本書而已。我會說：「這是一部個人的精華思想集，

biggest ideas this individual has struggled throughout his entire life to come up with.

濃縮作者一生所經歷的一波三折而成

Wrote it down in this $8 book like with editors and stuff, for you to read it.

寫在這本價值八塊美金的書，再加上編輯與內容，絕對值得一讀。」

i'm not saying you should read every book. But be willing to seek out new role models, new big ideas

我並不是要說如此一來，每一本書你都要讀，而是願意尋找新典範、新思想的心意

Because no matter how much you think you know, there will always be that something that you don't know.

因為正所謂，生也有涯，知也無涯

habit number seven is about accepting the journey of endless learning: Sharpen the saw.

【好習慣之七：接受學習的旅程無垠，並好好磨練自身實力】