This is fine.

Yup. My personal life just kind of exploded recently, and it has been difficult, to say the least.

I've actually had several people reach out to me.

Hey, so, real talk. Are you okay?

Umm, your tweets... lately have me... concerned.

And no. No. Just in case you're wondering,

definitely not okay.

But when life explodes, like, what else can you do?

Seriously. All I've been doing is drinking, ugly crying, and trying to distract myself from this whole mess

because the only thing that's actually gonna help me is time.

And lots of it.

So if you've found that your life has also fallen apart, here's some things you can do.

First off, you definitely want to lean on your friends and family.

Everyone should have a support group,

and I have been using mine. I've been using mine a lot.

It'll be like 10 pm, and I will just feel like the dark, cold feelings of loneliness and despair start to seep in,

so I will just frantically text everybody I know.

And I'm really lucky,

I have amazing friends who are down to like, hang out with me till sometimes 3 in the morning.

And just listen and offer advice, and let me wallow in despair the appropriate amount of time.

Thanks guys!

The next thing you want to do is go to your therapist.

Or if you're not in therapy, get into therapy.

Because he or she can offer a lot of valuable insight into the tragedy that is your current existence.

Well, it sounds like all you've been doing to cope with this situation is drink.

And cry.

And that's good, but I think you should also start incorporating more healthy coping mechanisms into your grieving process.

Like making sure you're getting enough sleep, maintaining exercise and a healthy diet.

I've been to 3 strip clubs alone this month.

Okay, that's -

And if I don't listen to like, music or podcasts in the car, and it's just totally quiet,

I just, I just burst out into these guttural sobs.

Well, that's a little -

Yeah, I can feel myself cracking, you know.

It's like everything's up in flames, and the house is gonna go down at any moment.

Okay. Why don't you just take a deep breath for me now.

And depending how terrible life is, you'll be in these phases for quite a bit,

but eventually you need to start taking care of yourself and rebuilding your life.

Full disclosure, not there yet. I'm still in the despair part.

But I've definitely started taking steps to kind of reach that.

Like, I enrolled in a new Pilates class because I need endorphins now more than ever.

I'm picking up a new hobby of bouldering and rock climbing

so I can like, hang out with my friends and do a human puzzle with my body and mind.

And I've adopted a new cat!

Just kidding.

But seriously, at this point, like who cares how many cats I have anymore.

I'm gonna die alone.

But if your life is falling apart, I encourage you to try to embrace the shitty parts of it.

Like you could be crying at a strip club, but at least you're at the strip club you know, hanging out trying to have a good time!

You could go to the bar with your friends and end up falling down the stairs

and walking into the mens room and wanting to die of embarrassment,

but at least you're at the bar with your friends trying to have a good time!

You could be trying to write a YouTube video and just feeling all of these sad, despairing feelings come up

and want to just cry yourself to sleep,

but you're still writing the video trying to have a good time!

Just 'cause your life falls apart doesn't mean you have to lose your desire to live it.

I'm Anna Akana. This is not a cry for help.

Stay awesome, gotham.

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