- Hey everyone.

- 嘿，大家好。

It's your girl Jen and today's video

你的女孩Jen和今天的視頻。

is gonna be about self-confidence.

會是關於自信。

I know a lot of you guys are under the impression

我知道你們很多人都有這樣的印象

that I'm a confident person and I would say

我是一個自信的人，我會說。

at this point in my life, yes, I am confident in myself,

在我生命的這一點上，是的，我對自己有信心。

I'm happy, I'm secure.

我'很高興，我'很安全。

Obviously I still have my insecurities, I'm human,

顯然，我還是有我的不安全感，我'人。

but they don't consume me like they did when I was younger.

但他們不像我年輕時那樣消耗我。

And I would say that this whole confidence thing,

而我想說的是，這整個信心的事情。

really came maybe the past four to five years

真正的到來也許是在過去的四五年裡

so all these life lessons are pretty fresh

所以所有這些生活經驗都很新鮮

so I thought I would share them with you

所以我想我將與你分享他們

so let's get started.

所以讓我們開始吧。

So my first rule is to stop judging other people.

所以我的第一條規則就是不要再去評判別人。

This is number one because I think it's the most important

這是第一，因為我認為這是最重要的'。

and if you don't apply this to your life already,

如果你還不把這個應用到你的生活中去，已經。

apply it today.

今天就申請。

I feel like this day and age it's so easy

我覺得這個時代太簡單了

to put someone down and say nasty comments

損人不利己

like eh, why would she wear that?

像誒，她為什麼會穿的？

That's like my number one pet peeve

那是我最討厭的事

is when people talk shit

是當人們談論狗屎

about what other people are wearing.

關於別人的穿著。

I feel like fashion especially, everyone has the right

我覺得特別是時尚，每個人都有權利。

to wear whatever that they want

想穿什麼就穿什麼

so let's say like we're at a club

所以讓我們'說像我們'在一個俱樂部

and someone says something snarky

有人說風涼話

about what other girl is wearing,

關於其他女孩的穿著。

that really grinds my gears, like I don't like that.

這真的磨我的齒輪，就像我不&#39；不喜歡這樣。

I feel like whether someone wants to wear

我覺得不管是誰想穿

like a fishnet body suit or sweats every day,

像魚網狀體衣或每天的毛衣。

that's their prerogative and it does not

這就是他們的特權，它不

effect your life whatsoever.

影響你的生活。

And if you are about to talk smack about someone,

而如果你想說某人的壞話。

pause for a second and think about

停一停，想一想

whether it effects your life in any way.

是否對你的生活有任何影響。

If it doesn't, let it go.

如果沒有，就讓它去吧。

It really doesn't matter.

這真的不重要'。

When you are hard on other people,

當你對別人苛刻的時候。

you are harder on yourself.

你對自己更苛刻。

Talking smack about someone else isn't gonna

說別人的壞話是不會的

bring them down to your level, it's not

把他們降到你的水準，它不

and have you ever noticed that the people

你有沒有注意到，人們

that talk the most shit are the most painfully insecure?

說的最多的狗屎是最痛苦的不安全感？

Let's just leave it at that.

我們'就這樣吧。

So the next time you're about to bad mouth someone

所以下一次你想說別人壞話的時候。

or judge someone, just realize that

或評頭論足，要知道

it's a cheap form of conversation or thought.

它'是一種廉價的談話或思想形式。

So my next tip is for those people that get a little nervous

所以我的下一個建議是給那些有點緊張的人的

when they're walking in public,

當他們'在公共場合行走時。

or they're afraid of being stared at.

或者他們害怕被盯著看。

So when I walk in public,

所以當我走在公共場合的時候。

I literally just look straight ahead.

我真的只是直視前方。

I don't make any eye contact with people.

我不與人有任何眼神交流。

I just literally walk my direction,

我只是字面上走我的方向。

because when I was younger I was always really paranoid

因為當我年輕的時候，我總是非常偏執的

about the looks that people would give me.

關於人們會給我的表情。

I'd be like, ugh like why did they look at me?

我'會像，唉像他們為什麼看我？

Do they think that I look stupid?

他們覺得我看起來很傻嗎？

Do they think I look dumb?

他們覺得我看起來很傻嗎？

And all these things, all these thoughts

所有這些事情，所有這些想法

would rush into my head and make me feel even more insecure.

會衝進我的腦海，讓我更沒有安全感。

So my solution was to literally stop looking at other people

所以我的解決方法就是不再看別人

and continue just walking my way.

並繼續只是走我的路。

And I've come to realize that if people are looking at you,

而我'已經意識到，如果人們在看你。

number one chances are it's not really negative.

一號機會是它'不是真的負。

Or number two, they're probably looking at you

或第二，他們可能在看你

because you looked at them.

因為你看著他們。

I don't know I just like to avoid that situation altogether

我不知道，我只是想完全避免這種情況。

so I don't make any eye contact when I'm walking

所以我走的時候不與人目光接觸。

on the street and I just look straight ahead.

在街上，我只是直視前方。

Tip number three is to listen to a badass playlist.

第三招是聽一個壞蛋的播放列表。

Like most people, music has a huge impact on my life.

和大多數人一樣，音樂對我的生活有著巨大的影響。

And don't underestimate the power of music,

而且不要低估音樂的力量。

it can really change you.

它可以真正改變你。

So when I was in college, when I would wear

所以，當我在大學裡，當我穿上

like a crazy outfit, something really bold,

像一個瘋狂的裝備， 東西真的很大膽。

I would just put on my playlist, walk straight ahead,

我就會放上我的播放列表，徑直往前走。

and it would literally be like I was in my own world.

它將從字面上看就像我在我自己的世界裡。

Definitely, take the time out

一定要，抽出時間來

to curate your own badass playlist.

來策劃你自己的壞蛋播放列表。

Put all the bangers in there,

把所有的啤酒瓶都放進去。

stuff that makes your heart pound.

讓你心跳加速的東西。

Stuff that makes you feel powerful and confident.

讓你感到強大和自信的東西。

It's so important.

它'是如此重要。

I am gonna leave a link to my playlist

我要留下一個鏈接到我的播放列表。

that makes me feel confident in the down bar.

這讓我對下杆有信心。

Just be warned it's gonna be a random slew of songs,

只是要注意它'會是一個隨機的一系列歌曲。

but each song is really near and dear to my heart.

但每一首歌都是我的心頭好。

You can see like, I don't know,

你可以看到像，我不&#39；不知道。

I have like random taste in music.

我對音樂的品味很隨意。

And also if you guys have a confidence like song

還有，如果你們有信心，像歌一樣的

that makes you feel amazing put it in the comments

這讓你感覺很神奇 把它在評論中

down below cause I would love to listen to it.

下面的原因，我很想聽它。

Tip number four is to expand yourself, to stretch yourself.

技巧四是拓展自己，延伸自己。

I think it's so important because if you want to grow

我認為它是如此重要，因為如果你想增長

you're gonna have to stretch,

你要去必須伸展。

and when you stretch it's gonna hurt a little bit,

和當你伸展它'的會有點疼。

but that's the only way you're gonna grow.

但這是你成長的唯一途徑。

For example, when I was younger I was terrified of driving.

比如，我年輕的時候很怕開車。

Like literally so anxious on the road.

就像真的在路上那麼著急。

Like my heart would beat really fast

就像我的心臟會跳得很快

and there were sometimes where I just like

有的時候，我只是喜歡

wouldn't even go to certain places

我是說，我是說，我是說，我是說，我是說，我是說，我是說，我是說，我是說，我是說，我是說，我是說，我是說，我是說，我是說，我是說，我是說。

because I didn't want to drive.

因為我不想開車。

But fortunately I had to conquer my fears

但幸運的是，我必須戰勝我的恐懼。

and when I lived in Davis and I wanted to go home

當我住在戴維斯，我想回家的時候

I had to drive six hours down so

我不得不開車六個小時下來，所以

that constant driving over and over and over again

兜兜轉轉

just made me more comfortable with the road.

只是讓我在路上更加得心應手。

I wasn't scared about switching lanes any more

我再也不怕換車道了。

and honestly if I can tell my 19-year-old self now

說實話，如果我能告訴我19歲的自己，現在

that I would be completely fine on the road

我完全可以在路上

with no anxiety I would've been floored, literally.

與沒有焦慮，我會'已經被浮動，字面上。

Stop avoiding stuff that you don't want to do

不要再逃避你不想做的事情了

because it's so important for you.

因為它對你是如此重要。

The more you do something the easier it becomes.

你做的事情越多，就越容易。

My last life lesson is you will grow

我最後的人生感悟是你會成長

into who you are as long as you absorb.

成你是誰，只要你吸收。

So my senior quote in high school was be yourself,

所以我高中時的聯考名言是做自己。

everyone else is taken by Oscar Wilde.

其他人都被奧斯卡-王爾德帶走了。

And this was a mantra that I really fixated on

而這是我真正固定下來的一句口頭禪。

and I just kind of obsessed over

我只是一種迷戀

because at the time, I didn't know who I was

因為當時，我不知道我是誰

and I desperately just wanted to be me,

我拼命地只想做自己。

but I didn't know who I was yet.

但我還不知道自己是誰。

And now that I look back, it is perfectly fine

現在回過頭來看，它是非常好的。

to not know who you are.

不知道自己是誰。

It is a gradual process and everyone has different times

這是一個循序漸進的過程，每個人都有不同的時間。

on when they start becoming comfortable with themselves.

在他們開始對自己感到舒服的時候。

But all you gotta do to get to that process

但你要做的就是去完成這個過程。

is just absorb as much as you can.

就是儘可能多的吸收。

I feel like the world is just like a big chaotic place

我覺得這個世界就像一個大的混亂的地方。

with tons of different information just flinging at you

鋪天蓋地的資訊向你襲來

and your brain is just like a sift

而你的大腦就像一個篩子

that's just like catching as much as it can

這就像抓住了儘可能多的東西，它可以

and what comes out of the sift it all just like

篩出來的東西就像

goes in a big pot and it marinates

在一個小耳朵裡，它醃製

goes in a big pot and it marinates

在一個小耳朵裡，它醃製

and what is in that pot like that's your soul,

而那鍋裡的東西就像那'是你的靈魂。

that's who you are.

你就是這樣的人

And the only way you know who you are is by absorbing

而你知道自己是誰的唯一方法是通過吸收

as much and experiencing as much stuff as you can.

儘可能的多，經歷的東西也多。

So don't hold back.

所以，不要忍氣吞聲。

Watch those movies you've always wanted to watch,

看那些你'一直想看的電影。

talk to those people, wear what you want to wear,

和那些人說話，穿你想穿的東西。

go to those concerts, watch those documentaries,

去那些音樂會，看那些紀錄片。

listen to podcasts.

聽播客。

I'm literally just saying everything

我只是說說而已。

that's coming in my mind.

那'在我腦海中浮現。

Now is the time to develop your interests.

現在是發展自己興趣的時候了。

And it's so important to do that

而它是如此的重要，做到這一點。

because that is gonna really shape who you are

因為這將真正塑造你的身份

and I think it's a beautiful thing

我認為這是一個美麗的事情。

because in the end we're all just like

因為最終我們都像

little bits and pieces of everything

七七八八

that we've ever experienced

我們所經歷的

and I think that is such a beautiful thing.

我認為這是一個美麗的事情。

This is just a process that I would just want everyone

這只是一個過程，我只是想讓大家

to start on because it's so important

因為它是如此重要。

and such a gift to really be comfortable with yourself,

以及這樣的禮物，讓自己真正的舒服。

and it's something that everyone can achieve.

而這是每個人都能實現的事情。

Wooh, okay guys so those were my five life lessons

嗚嗚，好吧，夥計們，所以這是我的五個生活經驗。

that I've learned to be more comfortable with myself.

我已經學會了更舒適的自己。

I know I probably missed a lot of other tips

我知道我可能錯過了很多其他的技巧

that I could've incorporated so you guys

我可以''ve納入，所以你的傢伙。

should definitely write in the comments down below,

一定要寫在下面的評論裡。

what has made you a happier person,

是什麼讓你成為一個更快樂的人。

what has made you more confident.

是什麼讓你更加自信。

I would love to just make the comment section

我很想只是讓評論區

a big, just like open forum.

一大，就像開論壇一樣。

I want to let you guys know that I appreciate you so much

我想讓你們知道，我非常感謝你們。

and this channel would be nothing without you

沒有你，這個頻道就什麼都不是

and I want to film more of these like advice videos,

我想拍攝更多這樣的建議視頻。

but I never want to come off too preachy.

但我從來不想太過說教。

Cause I don't have the answers for everything,

因為我並不是什麼事情都有答案的。

I really don't.

我真的不。

I really don't have answers to anything at all,

我真的是一點答案都沒有。

but I just wanted to share with you guys

但我只是想與你們分享

just some information that I have learned myself

只是我自己瞭解到的一些資訊

and anything I learn I want to share with you guys

我學到的任何東西都想和你們分享。

cause you guys are really important to me.

因為你們對我來說真的很重要。

So I hope you guys have a beautiful day

所以我希望你們有一個美好的一天

and I'll see you guys in the next one.

和我'會在下一個看到你們。

Bye.

掰掰

(kisses)

（吻）

(ambient music)

(環境音樂)