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  • I loves Thanksgiving.

  • I love Thanksgiving.

  • I love, I love, I love Thanksgiving.

  • Love Thanksgiving.

  • What?

  • Love Thanksgiving.

  • Love it, love it, love.

  • I love Thanksgiving.

  • That was just a little song.

  • Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

  • and life you love.

  • Now, this week here in the US we are celebrating one of my favorite holidays, Thanksgiving.

  • Come on, guys.

  • Can we hear it for some Thanksgiving?

  • Now here’s the deal, I love this holiday because it’s not about material gifts.

  • It’s about friends, it’s about family, and connection, and food.

  • Glorious food.

  • Do you guys know how much I love to eat?

  • I love to eat.

  • Now, as you may know, a typical practice is that people sit around the Thanksgiving dinner

  • table and they often take turns sharing what theyre grateful for.

  • Well, this season I have got something new for you to try and here’s what’s great.

  • It’s something that you can do all year long.

  • So instead of saying what were grateful for, what were gonna do is say what we

  • appreciate.

  • Now, you might be thinking, “Hold up, Marie.

  • Aren’t those really the same thing?”

  • And my response to you is not really.

  • So for our purposes I want you to think about gratitude as the quality of being thankful.

  • Now, most of the time when we talk about things that were grateful for were referring

  • to things we have in our life like, I don't know.

  • “I’m grateful for my jobor “I’m grateful for my husband.”

  • Now there’s nothing wrong with that.

  • Gratitude is a very transformative force.

  • But appreciation is different.

  • It’s about recognizing something great in someone else and letting them know about it.

  • And as Steven Covey taught us, “the greatest need of a human being is to be understood,

  • validated, and appreciated.”

  • So this year, why not go around the holiday table and publicly appreciate each person?

  • So talk about something specific that you love or admire about them.

  • I want you to brag on them.

  • Just give them a shout out.

  • Kind of like this:

  • Zach, I appreciate how creative you are, how thoughtful you are, how much you juje

  • the set of MarieTV, and, most importantly, how you are willing to do the Flashdance solo

  • anytime, anyplace.”

  • Jams, I appreciate your sense of humor, your laughter.

  • And you, my friend, are a snazzy dresser.

  • I appreciate how you laugh at my jokes when nobody else does, and that’s the thing I

  • care about the most.”

  • Mashed potatoes, I appreciate you.

  • I appreciate how creamy and fluffy and light and delicious and salty you are.

  • You get better every year and you make me feel so warm and fluffy.”

  • Jams, that was really sweet.

  • But can you make it to a person?

  • Mashed potatoes is my nickname for Eric.

  • Aw.”

  • Now, I think you get the idea, right?

  • And if youre not used to giving people compliments, here is an appreciation template

  • to get your creative juices flowing:

  • First name, I so appreciate your BLANK,” and here youre gonna insert a quality like

  • courage or tenacity or thoughtfulness or sense of humor.

  • Next youll say, “I say that because of BLANK.”

  • Then youre gonna share some specific details and evidence of how they embody that trait

  • or how they make people feel.

  • If you put some thought into this, I promise you will find truth in this here tweetable:

  • What you appreciate appreciates.

  • Now, even though I love that statement, I did not make that one up.

  • You know, it’s one of those classic bits of wisdom that’s almost impossible to trace

  • back to a single source.

  • But I do know that Lynn Twist, the author of one of my favorite books called The Soul

  • of Money, has done a brilliant job spreading this idea too.

  • And here’s what it really means to me.

  • You know, the grass is always greener where you water it, and this is especially true

  • in our relationships.

  • The more you can express genuine appreciation for people in your life, the stronger your

  • relationships will become, and the more fulfilling your life will be.

  • And now I would love to hear from you.

  • Let us get this appreciation party started right now.

  • In the comments below, tell me at least one person in your life that you appreciate and

  • why.

  • And please be specific.

  • And if you really want to blow their minds, send them a link to this post so they can

  • see all those kind words you said about them publicly and in print.

  • Now, as always, the very best conversations happen after the episode over at the wonderful

  • land of MarieForleo.com, so head on over and leave a comment now.

  • And once youre there, be sure to subscribe to our email list and become an MF Insider.

  • You will get instant access to a powerful audio training we created called How To Get

  • Anything You Want.

  • Youll also get some exclusive content and special giveaways and personal updates from

  • me that frankly, I don't share anywhere else.

  • And one last thing.

  • I want you to know something.

  • I appreciate you.

  • I appreciate you for watching our show, for sharing our show, and for allowing us to be

  • a part of your world.

  • So stay on your game and keep going for your dreams, because the world needs that very

  • special gift that only you have.

  • Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time on MarieTV.

  • B-School is coming up.

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  • For more info and free training go to JoinBSchool.com.

  • I’m feeling it.

  • I’m feeling it.

  • Bro.

  • Broski.

  • Jams, I want you to know.

  • I appreciate you, your laughter, your sense of humor, and your ability to make love.

  • I meant to saysorry that was a flub.

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