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  • No Fap” - the name for the practice of giving up pornography and self stimulation

  • as a means for self improvement.

  • Easily the most frequently requested topic on this channel, so here it is.

  • Before we start I want to clarify that masturbation by itself or even pictures of naked people

  • are not necessarily a problem.

  • This discussion is about the brain changes made by high speed internet porn - a recent

  • phenomenon that didn't exist until around 20 years ago.

  • Naturally, any discussion about porn is going to start with a bit of cell biology.

  • We are made up of two types of cells, the germ cells and the somatic cells.

  • The germ cells' job is to hold and spread genetic material.

  • The somatic cells' role is essentially to protect the germ cells and make sure they

  • are able to do their job.

  • What you consider to be yourself, your body, is the soma.

  • What nature wants the soma to do is to live long enough to allow the germ cells to pass

  • the genetic material off to a new soma.

  • Whatever DNA resides in your body arrived there thanks to the perpetual relay race a

  • countless number of somas took part in before you or your ancestors came into existence.

  • Nature's expectation for you is to pass the baton to what will be the next soma carrying

  • the precious genetic material.

  • The point of this is to highlight just how high on the priorities list sexual reproduction

  • is going to be for living things.

  • Take for example the small, mouse-like creature called an antechinus.

  • The males have very short lifespans, because at a certain point they will have finished

  • making all the sperm that they can and lose the ability to make anymore.

  • When they reach this point, they will aggressively mate with as many females as they can.

  • Tirelessly having sex hours for on end to the point that their fur falls off, they bleed

  • internally and their immune system fails, leaving them riddled with gangrene.

  • And they will then continue to have sex, until they die.

  • Luckily, us humans naturally do not lose the ability to produce sperm and we are very keen

  • on staying alive.

  • We have a very strong imperative to protect ourselves, to feed ourselves, to survive - and

  • many mechanisms are set in place to motivate us to do so.

  • In particular, the brain has within it the all powerful dopamine system.

  • It's there to motivate you to do the things that would help you survive.

  • And of course reproduction is the other very strong imperative.

  • Maybe unsurprisingly, the dopamine system seems to be much more reactive to chances

  • for reproduction.

  • Comparing a 1999 study from the University of Cagliari to a 1997 Study from the University

  • of British Colombia, we can see that the dopamine output from sex is about twice as strong as

  • what you get from food.

  • If we go all the way back to the Paleolithic era when the hardware for the human dopamine

  • system - the brain was being developed , these reproductive opportunities didn't come very

  • often.

  • As James McClellan says in his book "Science and Technology in World History," "Over the

  • entire 2 million years of the Paleolithic, beginning with the first species of Homo,

  • population density remained astonishingly low, perhaps no more than one person per square

  • mile..."

  • Potential reproductive opportunities would have been very limited simply by the fact

  • that there weren't that many people to reproduce with.

  • So, the brain developed certain strategies to maximize reproduction.

  • For example, an animal will reach a sort of sexual satiation after having sex multiple

  • times with the same mate.

  • And, you will see a decline in dopamine that matches the waning motivation.

  • However, if you introduce a totally new partner, then the dopamine and the motivation to have

  • sex will shoot back up- this is a great strategy, it would maximize the total potential babies.

  • This is known as the coolidge effect.

  • "As you can see from this Australian experiment, subjects watched 22 porn displays.

  • See that spike?

  • That's where researchers switched to porn the guys hadn't seen before.

  • The result?

  • Subjects' brains and boners sprang to attention again.

  • It's not mere nudity, but novelty that sends arousal skyrocketing."

  • And herein lies the appeal of high speed internet porn.

  • It takes advantage of this programming by giving you instant access to a virtually limitless

  • supply of new mates engaging in whatever novel position or fetish you like.

  • Nowadays, in 30 minutes, you can see more members of the opposite sex erotically displaying

  • themselves than the total number of humans our ancestors could see in their lifetime.

  • Not to mention the number of those humans they'd actually get the chance to have sex

  • with is much lower.

  • In this way, novelty packed internet porn takes advantage of your brain's programming

  • to keep your attention for hours on end.

  • The wasted time is unfortunate, but the real problem is how each porn viewing session changes

  • and molds your brain.

  • I think most people are familiar with the fact that the brain is plastic - it can change

  • based on your environment and your behaviors.

  • But it's not often apparent how powerful this plasticity is.

  • In Norman Doidge's bookThe Brain that changes itselfhe describes how In certain

  • stroke patients who lost function in their limbs, doctors thought recovery was impossible.

  • If a muscle atrophied surely you could re-strengthen it, but since the stroke knocked out the portion

  • of the brain controlling that limb, surely nothing could be done.

  • A new strategy was put into play.

  • By doing things like putting a patient's good hand in an oven mitt and taping it up

  • with duct tape, patients had no choice but to attempt to use the dysfunctional limb.

  • After much frustrating practice, their brains started to change in response to this behavior.

  • The brain reconfigured itself to map different areas of the brain to the task of controlling

  • that limb.

  • This would be like being able to use the fingerprint scanner to control one portion of your smartphone's

  • screen after you cracked it.

  • This remapping of the brain produced remarkable recoveries of function in the stroke patients'

  • dysfunctional limbs.

  • Before, this type of recovery was thought to be impossible.

  • Over many other incredible examples throughout the book, Norman Doidge demonstrates how the

  • brain can adapt itself to actuallyget betterat almost anything, positive or

  • negative, by actually changing its physical structure.

  • The phrasethe medium is the message” - coined by Marshall McLuhan, highlights the

  • problem with internet pornography.

  • The point of this phrase is that the way some content ormessagegets into your brain

  • is just as important, if not more important, as the message itself.

  • In our case, without the medium- high speed internet, the message- sexual content, would

  • have far less power to instigate negative changes in the brain.

  • Since the medium is so important, let's first look first at how just the internet

  • itself can be addicting - even if you're looking at totally safe for work content.

  • The previously mentioned neurotransmitter dopamine is the door to addiction.

  • You can open that door with substances or behaviors . It's not often clarified, but

  • dopamine isn't the pleasure molecule, it's the molecule that controls wanting - the seeking

  • of pleasure.

  • Dopamine is released when you get a new or unexpected reward, at first its purpose is

  • to make you learn what behavior got you that reward.

  • After that step is done, dopamine is released when you recognize that you are in a situation

  • where that particular behavior can get you a reward.

  • Now, the purpose of this dopamine is to now motivate you to do the behavior.

  • This is how drugs take advantage of the dopamine system.

  • All drugs of addiction provide a massive dopamine release - so your brain thinks you just received

  • the best unexpected reward ever.

  • So everything that led up to getting that substance is strongly written into memory.

  • This is how addicts develop strong triggers - they might see an alleyway where they bought

  • some narcotic in the past and their brain will surge them with dopamine that saysHurry

  • up and do the behavior necessary to get that substance!”

  • In the same way your nose can get used to a bad smell if you hang around it long enough,

  • the brain can get used to high levels of dopamine.

  • When the brain is frequently exposed to elevated dopamine, the dopamine receptors decrease

  • - they downregulate.

  • And then, more dopamine is necessary to create motivation.

  • Dopamine receptor downregulation is a universal symptom of addiction.

  • So, the drug user loses interest in everyday activities because they don't provide near

  • as much dopamine as the drug so they're not motivated to do that activity.

  • The brain comes to favor the thing with the highest dopamine payout and the wanting for

  • the substance gets stronger and stronger.

  • And, Behavioral addictions cause this same dopamine receptor downregulation as seen in

  • substance addictions.

  • The internet's addictive power comes from the fact that it is a novelty machine.

  • Novelty is something dopamine is particularly reactive to.

  • New information is interpreted by your brain as a reward, and this reward comes for very

  • little behavior.

  • You can get a new picture for a swipe on imgur, fresh links for a click on reddit, and new

  • tweets for a scroll on twitter.

  • Very quickly your brain learns that, when you're holding a smart phone, you can perform

  • a very simple behavior - a swipe of the thumb, to get new information.

  • So, seeing your smartphone triggers a small rise in dopamine, which motivates you to swipe,

  • and you get a reward - a new picture.

  • But the chance to be rewarded with a new piece of information reappears as fast as your internet

  • can load the page.

  • Your brain understands that now, there's another chance for reward, so your dopamine

  • rises again and the cycle repeats.

  • This never ending novelty keeps your dopamine levels elevated, which leads to your dopamine

  • receptors downregulating and the other symptoms of addiction come with it.

  • It might be hard to see how say twitter could cause a surge in dopamine like heroin - well,

  • it doesn't.

  • It's the frequency of the dopamine rise that's important here.

  • A quick thumb swipe is all you need to reinforce to your brain that using the internet is a

  • valuable, important experience.

  • David Linden points out in his bookThe Compass of Pleasurethat Cigarettes hook

  • 80% of those who try them, but heroin actually only hooks a small minority of the users.

  • The cigarettes don't provide near as much dopamine per puff compared to shooting heroin,

  • but with frequent multiple puffs and therefore multiple rises in dopamine, cigarette smokers

  • can very frequently train the brain that smoking is a very important experience.

  • Now, take this already addictive nature of the internet and combine it with the fact

  • that our brains' most ancient programming wants us to be super motivated by anything

  • sexual, and you start to see how internet porn has such high potential for negative

  • molding of the brain.

  • "We predicted that based on the way sex causes these reward chemicals in the brain to be

  • produced, that we would see some of the brain scan findings that we find with drugs

  • ...And the latest research seems to be proving him right"

  • Gary Wilson, author of the very thorough bookYour Brain on Pornand host of the website

  • yourbrainonporn.com, points out that studies on internet porn all show that the users experience

  • the same brain changes as those suffering from substance addiction: Sensitization to

  • porn, desensitization for other things, and hypo-frontality - less activation in the prefrontal

  • cortex - the area of the brain responsible for self control starts to shut down.

  • This means your reward circuit gets more responsive and excited about porn, less excited about

  • everyday life, and it gets harder and harder to control yourself.

  • Now you might be wondering how much is too much, how many high speed porn sessions can

  • you have before your brain develops these negative changes.

  • But that's not how it works.

  • The changes appear on a spectrum.

  • That is, you can use internet porn a little bit and have a little bit of these brain changes

  • or you can use it a lot and the changes will be much worse.

  • A study from Korea University showed that in healthy young adults, marked sensitization

  • to video games developed in as little as 5 days.

  • The gamers weren't technically addicted, but they found that their cravings to play

  • actually aligned with an observable elevation in brain activity.

  • As for Internet porn itself, a study at Germany's Max Planck Institute found that men who were

  • not classified as having an addition showed addiction-related brain changes.

  • More hours per week of internet porn viewing correlated with a reduction in grey matter

  • in areas of the brain involved in motivation and decision-making.

  • The nerve connections between the reward circuit and prefrontal cortex worsened in sync with

  • increased porn watching.

  • Remember, the prefrontal cortex is the driver of self control.

  • This is the hypofrontality we talked about before, showing the connection between internet

  • porn use and impaired self control.

  • Gary Wilson points out that there are hundreds of studies showing the addiction like brain

  • changes that come from using the internet in a way that over-engages the dopamine system.

  • As of 2015 there were only 4 studies he found that looked specifically at internet pornography.

  • But, they all showed the same negative brain changes we just discussed.

  • And they also found: -60% of compulsive porn users had Erectile

  • Dysfunction or low libido.

  • -Very high cue-induced reactivity in the reward center - Meaning something like seeing a bikini

  • model while reading the news could set off strong cravings to look at internet porn

  • -The users reported greater wanting and craving, but lessened enjoyment of the experience of

  • looking at porn.

  • This is a key pattern seen in addiction to drugs.

  • Other symptoms based on Gary's research and user's personal reports include:

  • -Difficulty maintaining an erection for a real partner, but no problems getting it up

  • for porn.

  • -Uncharacteristic, worsening social anxiety or lack of confidence

  • -Inability to concentrate and extreme restlessness -Depression, anxiety and brain fog

  • Several men have participated in a “reboot” - the act of giving up internet porn to allow

  • their brains to reverse these negative changes.

  • This rebooting process is the point ofnofapMany of these men report impressive boosts

  • in confidence, reversal of anxiety and enhanced concentration.

  • Some men diagnosed with ADHD found that their symptoms drastically improved to the point

  • that they stopped relying on medication.

  • Gary says: “There's good reason to believe these symptoms

  • can often arise from addiction-related brain changes, as the reward circuit contains structures

  • that influence emotions, moods, cognitive function, stress response, the autonomic nervous

  • system, and the endocrine system.

  • For example, many of the complaints such as social anxiety, depression, low motivation,

  • ED, and concentration problems, have been linked to low dopamine and low or altered

  • dopamine D2 receptors.”

  • When it comes to engaging with a real partner, internet porn can rewire the brain to change

  • what it expects from a sexual experience.

  • While a heavy user of internet porn might understand cognitively that their partner

  • is very attractive and they should be more excited about thereal deal,” if their

  • brain has wired itself to understand sex as a... rapid cycling through multiple partners

  • that provide no other sensory input than just visual information on a screen... the experience

  • of real sex probably doesn't do much for the reward circuit of that brain.

  • I remember when I first came across this concept, what struck me was how much it reminded me

  • of this segment on Munchies about a South Korean Mukbang star - Mukbang is a relatively

  • recent trend where people livestream themselves eating.

  • There was a point in the segment where the fans of the streamer BJ Hana got to meet her

  • in person over dinner.

  • The dinner was broadcasted as a replacement for her usual streaming.

  • But what about the fact that they couldn't draw their eyes away from their phones - the

  • whole time they were locked into the broadcast - that was their comfort zone, they still

  • had to have BJ Hana in that format.

  • They couldn't just enjoy the real thing even though she was right there in front of

  • them.”

  • Now without commenting on whether these people were already very socially awkward in the

  • first place, I thought it was very interesting how even with vanilla experiences one could

  • be so used to reducing themselves to a voyeur that they come prefer that rather than the

  • real deal.

  • Even without discussing the complicated nature of dopamine, it's not surprising that internet

  • pornography has similar effects on the brain as narcotics.

  • What we humans love to do is identify some component of an experience that we like, isolate

  • that component from the rest of the parts, and then amplify that one component as much

  • as possible.

  • Daniel Lieberman points out in his bookThe Story of the Human Body,” that the sweetest

  • thing (other than honey) an ancient hunter gatherer could find was probably a piece of

  • fruit about as sweet as a modern day carrot.

  • Now you can buy a pound of granulated essence of sweet for about a dollar.

  • Farmers in the andes chew coca leaves for a mild boost in energy.

  • Extract that energy boosting power and you wind up with the highly addictive cocaine.

  • And, Columnist Damian Thompson sums up the situation with alcohol,

  • "As a general rule, the distilling of pleasures is a quick route to addiction.

  • ... In the mid-18th century, parts of inner London suffered the world's first mass epidemic

  • of alcoholism.

  • ... The gin craze was eventually stamped out by legislation banning home distilling.

  • Once cheap gin ceased to be available, addicted drinkers kicked the habit."

  • And, with internet pornograhy, we isolated the experience down to only the visual component

  • of sex and then amplified that one component with endless and instantaneous novelty.

  • Our ancestors' ancestors developed a very effective method for making sure our genetics

  • would stay alive as long as possible.

  • In the case of humans, a big brain has been a very effective tool for protecting the important

  • germ cells and the genetic information they carry.

  • But, we're a little too smart for our own good.

  • We learned how to exploit the programming that paired survival and reproduction with

  • pleasure.

  • With a few taps on a magic rectangle, we can access pure distilled pleasure, completely

  • separated from its original purpose: survival and reproduction.

No Fap” - the name for the practice of giving up pornography and self stimulation

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