this career over the last 28 years,

just by being a team.

♪ Stand beside me ♪

My wife was trying to get me on the right plan,

and there was the ego.

I was a card carrying member of this toxic masculinity

and it all came through with me

realizing that I didn't know everything.

When we got married, when we started having a family,

she put everything on hold for 20 years.

There were times where I would have

three jobs at the same time,

and she was like, "I've got the kids.

"I'm taking care of the home."

All during the success of the career,

I've had an addiction to pornography.

It was always hidden in secret

and this and that and I never told my wife

during our whole marriage,

and I finally, finally broke.

When I first confronted Terry, we had it out.

He told me about the prostitute.

He told me about all the porn things.

I said: You know we're done, right?

He's like, "What, what?"

"I told you everything."

I said that's good, but now it's over.

It woke me up.

I was like, I need to get better for me.

The hardest part was knowing

that someone I loved, respected, and trusted

was nothing like I thought he was,

and now it's like a lie, everything was a lie.

I believe in the heart of every man

is this little bit of pride,

this little bit of arrogance that says,

"Oh, she won't leave."

But when he saw that I meant business,

I think it really challenged him.

He says that he made the commitment to get better,

whether or not he got us back.

Eventually, Rebecca did choose to come back.

I had to earn it, and still I'm earning it.

He suddenly became very transparent.

It was really not like him in my mind.

He put the money where his mouth was,

and he went to see a counselor,

and afterwords, I would say,

it took me probably three years

to trust him again.

I have little moments now of PTSD.

♪ When I look back over my life ♪

Rebecca Crews is my backbone.

When someone knows you,

from good all the way to the rottenest,

dirtiest part of you, and loves you anyway,

that's the rarity.

That's where you wanna be.

(applause and cheering)

Well, Rebecca thank you for joining us.

Thank you, Dr. Phil, it's my tremendous pleasure.

You guys have been married 28 years, right?

That's right.

(applauding)

You and I were talking earlier.

There have been ups and

downs clearly. Yes.

And you said that you had a come to Jesus moment

in your marriage that almost led to divorce.

Describe that moment for us.

Well, my husband was away on location, shooting a project,

and we got into an argument because

he was out late with his cast members,

but it turned out, he was out late with one cast member.

I started to hammer him with questions,

and all the sudden he starts

coming out of his skin with these confessions.

10 years ago I did this, 13 years ago I did this,

and I have this addiction to pornography.

And he starts to tell me

all this horrible, horrible stuff,

and my immediate reaction was to throw him out.

And I did.

Obviously, it brought out a lot of emotions.

One of them was anger.

I know you said when we were talking to you earlier,

you said, I thought, I'm gonna take your money

and move on with my life. Yes.

I'm still young, and I've got my groove,

and I'm gonna get a new man,

and I'm gonna keep it moving.

Yes.

When I said to him: You know we're done, right?

He's like, "What? What?

You're going to leave me? I did.

You're going to leave me?"

I said: Yes I'm gonna leave your raggedy behind

and I'm gonna take your money too.

(applauding)

You gonna pay my child support

for me and my new man. (laughs)

(applauding)

I gotta tell you man, guys operate on pride.

Tell it honey. We do.

When you're successful you feel like that buys you a pass.

That it's her.

That it's them.

It's everyone else.

But then a small voice came to me and said:

Maybe it's me.

You know, I did not go to rehab to get my wife back.

I went there because I needed

to be a better person.