How are you doing?

It's Aileen from Lavendaire.

Today I want to talk about 11 ways that self love will change your life.

And I promise you: It will change your life, because these are all things

that have happened to me.

These are ways that I've just become aware of

how I've transformed over the years, how self love has really made a positive change

for me and my life.

I honestly believe that self love and gratitude are the root of happiness.

Those are two things that, if you can practice them daily, then you'll be so happy.

Your life will be amazing already, with just those two things.

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Alright, here are the 11 ways that self love will change your life.

1.

Health.

When you truly love yourself, you're gonna take better care of your body

and your well-being.

You'll eat better, you'll exercise more, just out of respect

for your own body because you know your body's working really hard to keep you alive

and just letting you live your life.

You're gonna take care of your body in return.

So when you love yourself, you prioritize self care because you know that

your mental well-being is also just as important as your physical well-being

2.

Relationships.

You may have heard of the saying "We accept the love we think we deserve".

When you have high quality love for yourself, then you set that standard

to accept high quality love from others.

So you start to have low tolerance for people

who don't value you or respect you, because when you respect yourself,

then others will respect you too.

So it's kind of like "Like attracts like".

Whatever feelings and emotions you have towards yourself, you're gonna attract

more of that to you.

And anything that doesn't match that feeling, you're gonna repel it,

you know?

If you love yourself and someone treats you poorly, you're gonna be like,

"Uh uh, I don't have time for that."

You know what I mean?

3.

Confidence.

Self love definitely boosts your confidence.

Because you've learned to love, appreciate, embrace everything that you are,

then you're no longer insecure or ashamed about any of it.

You might recognize

that you still have flaws and imperfections, things that you can work on,

but you still love yourself regardless.

When you're confident, you flaunt what you've got.

You feel beautiful, you feel powerful, you hold your head up high and you have more fun

in life.

4.

Along with confidence comes more style and swag.

When your self love is high,

you develop this distinct style that is uniquely you, and that is because

you've grown to know yourself.

You've grown to know your tastes, your aesthetics,

and basically you know what you like and you aren't afraid to show it.

This basically manifests in having a more unique style,

being more confident in how you express yourself in your daily life.

5.

Self love will also change your relationships with your friends and family.

So just a couple examples: Instead of saying yes to people and being a people-pleaser

all the time, you're gonna be able to say no instead, because you value yourself,

you value your time, and you want to protect your energy as well.

Having more self love will also make it easier for you to forgive others who have hurt you.

Instead of holding any grudges or being angry at someone for a long time,

having self love will teach you to forgive.

And it's kind of a selfish reason for that.

It's because, when you love yourself, you don't want yourself to continue hurting over

anything that's happened in the past.

You don't want yourself to suffer at the expense of others.

Even if this person doesn't deserve forgiveness or whatever, you forgive

just so that you can have a clean slate, you can have inner peace,

because you love yourself.

And all you want is for yourself to be happy.

6.

And this brings me to my next point.

Having more self love will make you happier.

And this is kind of a given, but it's worth mentioning.

Think about, when you love someone,

you truly want them to be happy.

Think about, if you love yourself,

you truly want yourself to be happy.

So you'll do anything that you can to make yourself happy.

So instead of feeling like you're pulled by societal pressures, what your parents will

think of you,

what your friends will think of you, you do what's best for yourself because you love

yourself.

Having self love will give you the courage to step into the life that you want to be

in,

instead of being influenced by others.

Because you love yourself,

you'll do anything you can to make yourself happy.

7.

Self love will also give you more drive and motivation in life.

When you have this feeling

that you have a high self worth, then you're gonna believe in yourself even more.

You're gonna believe that you can accomplish anything you set your mind to.

Having this belief makes you feel more invincible, it makes you feel more powerful and strong.

And because of that, you have a lot more drive and motivation to do bigger things in the

world.

You won't settle for any less because you know that you can accomplish so much more.

8.

Another major perk of self love is that you're gonna care so much less

about what other people think of you and what other people say about you,

because I know that, when you feel insecure, you're so easily swayed

by what other people have to say.

You're easily hurt by what other people say

because you're like, "Oh my god, is it true?

Are they right?"

But in reality, no, they're not right.

If you truly love yourself, then you see your self worth and you're not gonna

take that hate from anybody.

Positive vibes only, okay?

So you're gonna learn

to keep only the people who truly love you and support you in your inner circle.

Whatever happens outside of that doesn't matter anymore.

9.

If you ever fail or mess up, instead of being hard on yourself, you're gonna learn

to be kinder and more gentler to yourself.

That's the magic of love,

is that everything is always going to be okay.

Think of how you would treat a loved one

when they mess up or fail.

You're gonna treat them with kindness.

You're gonna say,

you know, "It's okay.

Try again tomorrow."

That's because love is compassionate

and love is forgiving.

Instead of beating yourself up over messing up or, I don't know,

just being so hard on yourself, you're gonna learn to treat yourself kindly

and give yourself more love because you truly love and care about yourself.

10.

When you truly love yourself, you won't need to feel insecure or compare yourself to others.

Because you love yourself, you can love others openly as well.

So you're more supportive,

instead of jealous and envious.

And you know that life doesn't have to be a competition.

You don't have to be competing with everyone because everyone has unique value.

Everyone brings something unique to the table.

So you stand strong in who you are

and you own that.

With that, you're confident, but also humble

because you won't feel the need to have to prove yourself all the time.

11.

Most importantly, self love will set you free.

Think about it.

What can hold you back

when you are your own best friend, genuinely loving and supporting yourself

throughout your entire life journey?

Literally nothing and no one can hold you back

when you truly love yourself.

So you're free to step into your greatness,

you're free to be fabulous, you're free to be a light in the world.

You're free to be yourself.

Self love is the beginning of allowing yourself to blossom into everything that you are.

It's so important and I hope that this video shines some light on how impactful self love

can be

and how we can all learn to cultivate self love, because it's a lifelong practice.

Now I'd love to know: What ways has self love changed your life?

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Alright, have a beautiful day.

Love you all so, so much.

Bye!