frustrating to me when people have a negative relationship with failure

failure is a massive part of being able to be successful you have to get

comfortable with failure yeah you have to actually seek failure failure is

where all of the lessons are you know when you go to the gym and you work out

you're actually seeking failure you want to take your muscles to the point where

you get to failure because that's where the the adaptation is that's where

growth is successful people who fail a lot they fail a whole lot more than they

succeed but they extract the lessons from the failure and they use that the

the energy and they use the wisdom to come around to the next phase of success

you got to take a shot you have to live at the edge of your capabilities you got

to live where you're almost certain you're gonna fail that's the reason for

practice practice is controlled failure you're getting to your limit getting to

your limit getting to your limit you can't lift that you can't do that you

until you get to the point that all of a sudden your body makes the adjustment

and then you can do it failure actually helps you to recognize the areas where

you need to evolve so fail early fail often fail forward I found myself in a

room with Arnold Schwarzenegger and I was like okay I want to be the biggest

movie star in the world and Arnold Schwarzenegger he said he said

the most important thing is that you have a vision did you have a corn

because without that vision and without that core again you're drifting around

if you're never gonna end up anywhere people don't become successful just by

accident you know I mean maybe the guy that found gold in California and

started the gold rush but don't count on that that's a one-in-a-lifetime kind of

a situation so you got to really have a specific order to me to have that vision

that I want to be mr. universe they don't want to be the greatest

bodybuilder of all time that was a great vision and that specifically would look

like reg Park and to be up there on that stage and to lift the trophy overhead

and to win the championship over and over and over again so that was a great

core you have to have a corner it doesn't have to be that specific core

but it has they have some core this is why I always recommend to people sit

down take your time instead thinking about why do you want the workout what

is your core dreams without goals remain dreams jet streams and ultimately fuel

disappointment dreams without goals yearly goals like goals daily goals

monthly goals hourly gold minute-by-minute gold dreams without

goals are just dreams and they ultimately fuel disappointment goals on

the road to achievement cannot be achieved without discipline and

consistency

successful people fail a lot they fail a whole lot more than they succeed but

they extract the lessons from the failure and they use that energy and

they use the wisdom to come around to the next phase of success when you had

that third failure in a row did you think I need to pack this in why not

I don't ever give up I mean I'd have to be dead or absolutely incapacitated the

only thing that I see that is distinctly different about me is I'm not afraid to

die on a treadmill I will not be be outworked right period you know you

might have more talent than me you might be smarter than me you might

be sexier than me you might be all of those things you got it on me in nine

categories but if we get on the treadmill together right there's two

things you're getting off first yeah or I'm gonna die it's really that simple so

you've got to have some reasons that when life knocks you down there's going

to hell oh it's guard to knock you down when people disappoint you and that's

going to happen when they betray you and that's gonna happen when they lie to you

and that's gonna happen they say oh you can count on me and they won't show up

and that's going to happen when you want to throw in the towel and give up

yourself and that's gonna happen when life collapse on you and catch you on

the Blind Side it drops you to your knees to start showing you what reason

can you remember that you can call on that you can reach on that can make you

get back up find that reason cuz alive it knocked me down I said life

I'm doing this because I want to make my mama proud of me

I'm doing this because I want my children to have a better life than what

I have I'm doing this because all my life I've

been told I'd be a loser that I wouldn't make it all my life I

heard people said made me take them back to the welfare department I'm doing this

to make them Allah I believe like Frank Sinatra he said the best revenge in life

is massive success so first we have to define success for ourselves and then we

have to put in the work to maintain it take that daily tally tend our garden

keep the things that are important to us in good shape

let-let-let submit it we've all got to wolves into some good one and a bad and

they both want to eat best I can tell we just got to feed that gook

it is proven that the kids don't do as well in school

that's subcultures of crime break out in the community because if you don't see

better you don't do better what they have learned over time is that mixed

income housing does the best so that the kid who's on welfare

lives across the street from the kid whose dad is a doctor because if you can

see up oh come on you you might not have it but if you can see it in your

neighborhood you learn to put a demand on life and expect more for yourself

because you say if he can't do it but if you don't see anybody toward it you stop

reaching for and you cannot receive anything you're

not reaching for if all you've ever seen is poverty

if all you've ever seen this domestic violence let me tell you you like that

idea of happily married but you will pick somebody who's mean cuz the nice

guy is boring and the nice guy who fell in love I don't know he's nice but I'm

just not attracted to him you're attracted to what you're exposed to and

even though you say you don't want it you end up warden what's your normal is

sometimes you've got to come a little piece of yourself oh yeah

no matter how much you hurt in order to crop

tell me I believe anything is possible right I live in the world a possibility

and I also believe that anything we can accomplish anything with our two hands

and just putting in the work with our two hands and also you hear this often

but it's really really true you got to find something if you love what you do

and find and be passionate about what you do and find something that you'd be

passionate like it really helps you know it gives you that motivation when you

wake up in the morning sometimes life's gonna hit you in the head with a brick

don't lose faith I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I

loved what I did you've got to find what you love and that is this true for work

as it is for your lovers your work is going to fill a large part of your life

and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work

and the only way to do great work is to love what you do if you haven't found it

yet keep looking and don't settle as with all matters of the heart you'll

know when you find it fail early fail often fail forward you know it's always

a little bit frustrating to me when people have a negative relationship with

failure failure is a massive part of being able to be successful you have to

get comfortable with failure yet you have to actually seek failure failure is

where all of the lessons are fail early they'll often fail forward I'm not gonna

what I'm going to get destroyed but if I can just be lucid if I can still be

standing on my feet you know what life isn't so bad and I

think again symbolically at the very end of our lives if we can still say you

know we were never humbled we were knocked down but we got up and I can say

I lived life with integrity and I took all the blows as the song says and I

still prevailed I think that's that's a good epitaph for anyone

but how do you keep going why do you keep going when the world says

everything else is supposed to be opposite there's two sides of pain that

I don't think a lot of people really understand right there's there's one

side of pain that's the suffering and the discomfort side of pain that's why

everybody raised their hands when I first acts do you have everything I've

ever been through pain because that hurts you remember what that felt like

but then there's another side of pain that's called effort

it's called glory it's called if you can find a way to

push to pain there's something greater on the other side of it and and and and

if you never tap into it it's because the first time you felt that you backed

off first time you feel ah that burn the first time you feel that happen it's too

much and we rationalize with ourselves to where we automatically stop try bunch

of us give up so much in life so quickly but suppose I told you the greatest pain

of my fight is the reason I'm standing

suppose I was able to share with you my routine was so crazy man I was seeing

almost nine doctors for nine weeks 6:00 a.m.

full where you live

ten days ten days from tricep repair surgery didn't have enough strength and

I sat down 30 minutes and made up in my mind

stop crying make a choice like you just decide what its gonna be who you're

gonna be how you're gonna do it just decide and then from that point the

universe is going to get out your way this lets water once it wants to move

and go around stuff you're not wish me said auntie Oh mind be formless

shapeless like water now you put water into a cup it becomes the cup you put

water into a bottle it becomes the bottle you're putting in a teapot it

becomes the teapot now water can flow or it can crash

be water my friend pain is temporary it may last for a minute or an hour or a

day or even a year but eventually it will subside and something else will

take its place if I quit however it will last forever courage courage is the key

to life itself a lot of people who were born in

situation of us if I just I'll never get out of this so they won't I say to

people say well I would like to have done so and so on so somebody could have

done it so but I couldn't get out of here man the bus runs every day

successful people fail a lot they fail a whole lot more than they succeed but

they extract the lessons from the failure and they use that the the energy

and they use the wisdom to come around to the next phase of success I'm not

afraid to fail I'm not afraid to fall over make a mistake that often time

cripples people on the onset of getting too into anything the first time ever

picked up the DJ decks was horrible horrible now but I'm not afraid of that

I'm not afraid of that feeling it actually propels me works quite the

opposite I believe desire and will to win is everything I don't know why I'm

like I am but my butt's always burning there's always something say are

dadgummit you're supposed to go far apart dadgummit you're supposed to be

somebody you're supposed to make a difference with you lie what does the

$500,000 your person do the $50,000 your person doesn't do you're looking outside

and study those two individuals everything seems to be the same they

both are the same sex they both are the same age have the same training the same

positions the same contract the same friends benefits

they both are successful they work hard they're good family people

make tough commitments but what's the difference what does the $500,000 person

do the $50,000 your person doesn't do he pays the price a little bit more he

works Harding a little bit more he's loyal to the cutting a little bit more

he believes in a little bit more he makes Maine a little bit more he saves

money a little bit more leadership is everything you show me anything in these

United States that win I'll show you a leader at work you show me a successful

church Boy Scout troop club football team business I'll show you something

a run by leader sissy I thought at one time in my life you had to be smart to

win I used to have these smart people that dress so pretty and talk so pretty

and use these big words they just intimidated me and I said aren't you

can't ever be that good why don't you just throw in the towel and going back

coach football for living and I found two things out about smart people I

think it's almost impossible for a smart person to win in Fitness in America

today because I find smart people spend their whole lifetime figuring things out

they always trying to figure out an easier way in a quicker way and another

thing I found out about smart people's they just don't get around to doing

nothing they see something I like art Williams everybody said what he can't do

and somebody like that can't do it but he does it see folks I want you to know

almost everybody in America almost does enough to win they almost get there they

almost over the hump they almost have it going they almost in everything they do