but decided not to because you were afraid

of what you would think of yourself

or what other people would think of you?

What if a girl heard that you were crying?

Would she even think that you were a real man anymore?

In this video, I'm going to break down exactly

why you should cry and why believe it's only the weak men

who think it's not masculine to cry

and to hold back his emotions.

To illustrate my point,

I'm going to tell you a personal story

about my friend Chris.

Chris was a guy who was incredibly good looking,

confident, funny, smooth,

and he always did phenomenally well with girls.

One day, Chris met this beautiful Brazilian girl

named Andrea.

She had long brown hair, brown eyes, dark skin,

and a very warm smile.

Chris and Andrea immediately got along

and they started to date each other for about two months.

They were not officially boyfriend and girlfriend

but Chris was experiencing real emotion

towards a girl for the first time in many many years.

One day Chris is walking home from his bartending job

and he decided to stop by Andrea's house to say hi.

When he got there, he noticed that she was not there

which was strange because it was so late at night.

He didn't think much of it

and then the next day he texted her asking her

how it was going.

But she did not reply.

He then texted her again the following day

but no response.

And he did this for the next three to four days.

And then finally, Chris receives a text

from her saying, "Sorry, I've been very busy

over the past few days and I was with a friend

that night you came by."

When Chris asked her to hang out,

she responded with, "Sorry, I'm also very busy

for the rest of the week."

Chris continued to try to plan a date with her

but Andrea kept blowing him off last minute saying

that something had come up like a last minute dinner,

a last minute surprise party, that kind of thing.

After about three weeks of her continually canceling

on him, he finally gave up trying to organize a time

to meet up because it was torture for him

to keep making plans only for her to break them last minute.

So eventually they stopped messaging

and just like that it was over.

When Chris told me the story,

I could tell that he was very upset.

I told him that he needs to cry or hit a punching bag

or something to release these bad emotions

that are currently inside of him

but he kept telling me, "Nah, I'm fine.

I just want to forget her.

Thinking about this really puts me off."

I think we all have seen a friend who has been very hurt

over someone or a bad break up to the point

where he or she was so quiet and not acting

like their normal selves, they are almost unrecognizable.

You can often tell just by looking at someone

that they have some bad emotions in them.

This can appear through their posture, facial expressions,

the inability to smile, and even the way they look at you.

Bad emotions will keep you down just like chains.

I'm also sure we all know someone

who has never really 100 percent recovered

from a bad breakup even years after it happened.

Some people go their whole lives still torn up

about a bad breakup.

The thing that most people don't understand

about emotions is that you need to take the necessary steps

to get them out of your body,

but if you don't, they will always stay inside of you.

Releasing these bad emotions can be done

in a variety of ways.

You can yell, you can workout, you can laugh,

you can even have sex.

But the most effective way to release these emotions

is the one most men stay away from which is crying

and this is because men do not think it is masculine to cry.

So let's go back to my friend Chris.

Out of these two options,

what sounds like the more masculine thing to do?

Option one: run away and hide from sad emotions

because thinking about them is too difficult

and he does not want to deal with them.

Or option two: he looks inside of himself

and faces his sad emotions head on.

He does not hide from them.

He is not embarrassed by them

and he knows it will probably make him cry

but he understands that in order to move on

he has to deal with them even though it's really hard

and it's going to really hurt him.

Strong people confront their fears and emotions.

Weak people run away from them.

You have to deal with your emotions

because that is the only option if you want to move forward

and be happy.

So if you're watching this and you have some sadness

that is laying within you,

this is what I'll invite you to do.

Go to your room, close the door, put on some headphones,

and listen to some really sad music

and think really deep and hard about that sad thing

that has been bothering you.

When you do this, you will feel that emotion come up

and you could feel these tears come up

but this time, do not fight it, do not block it off.

I want you to embrace the emotion and embrace the tears.

Confront your emotions and move on.

Share this video with a friend who needs to see it.

Thanks again for watching and I'll see you in the next one.

(soft piano music)