express yourself or constantly feeling judged and self-conscious when you speak

English, this video is for you! Becoming fluent is not something that just

happens to you. "Okay, I'll just listen to podcasts and watch movies without

subtitles and read lots of books and speak a little bit at work and then I'll

be fluent!" No, that doesn't happen that way. It's like planning a project at work

or deciding to renovate your house, right? You're not just stumbling upon furniture

or people asking them, "Hey, do you mind breaking this wall in my apartment

because I need to renovate it." And then you break a wall. Then you're like, "Oh no!

That was not a good idea! Maybe I need to put back the wall and then break another

wall." Then you go ahead and break that wall and then you go above your budget

and the house is a mess right and you have no idea what to do. Well it's

sort of the same thing but different. If your goal is to become fluent, you

have to make it a project of yours. You have to plan it. You have to see

what's working for you and what's not working for you. You have to focus your

attention and to do only the things that get you results. You've got to stop

wasting time with the wrong teachers. You got to stop wasting times watching all

these videos without really doing something about it. You have to stop

wasting time doing things that don't advance you, but to do that you have to

know what you need and the only person that can help you with that is you. Today,

I'm gonna teach you the three steps that will help you develop your fluency

strategy to understand what to learn and how to learn it, how to practice

effectively and how to boost your confidence by changing your mindset and

owning that fluent mindset that will help you kick ass when you speak English.

The way I see it, fluency has three pillars. The first pillar is 'knowledge' -

knowledge of words, knowledge of grammar, knowledge of pronunciation,

right? Knowing how to use certain expressions, and what words to use when,

and how to structure the a sentence. So this is knowledge. The second pillar

is 'practice', which is taking all the knowledge that you have and turning it

into spoken English. This is usually the biggest struggle. Most people are having

an easier time reading and writing and listening to English, but when they have

to speak, that's the main challenge. Retrieving the right words, knowing how

to structure it fast and fluently, and of course, being able to pronounce it and to

sound clear when speaking so you actually communicate your message.

The last pillar is 'confidence'. It's great to know all those things you know you

can learn for hours on end and you can practice with your teachers and with

your friends, but if you don't have the confidence to speak up when you're

needed, when you're asked a question, when you have something to say in a

meeting or in front of people or just in the store. If you avoid conversations

like you avoid fire then you need to boost your confidence. Now confidence is

one of the pillars but it's also the result of the first two because when you

learn more and when you practice more, of course, it improves your confidence and

these three elements are essential if you want to become fluent in any

language. Now that we know these three elements we need to understand how to

improve in each and every element here. When it comes to learning English, I feel

very lucky. I think that we all are. We live at a time that there is so much

information out there. There are so many learning resources, high-quality top

resources. They can just reach your hand and grab them for free. The downside of

it is that you don't know what to focus on because if you go and try to learn

everything that is out there because you're passionate and motivated. The

result is that it can be overwhelming, a waste of time, and sometimes redundant.

Let me give you an example. If you still struggle with a past simple tense or

present simple, do not go and learn the perfect tenses. Master the basic and most

used tenses before you move on to more advanced tenses.

Phrasal verbs are very important, but if you still don't know when to use 'on', 'in'

and 'at' when you're talking about time and space, do not go and learn all the phrasal verbs out

there in the world. Focus first on the things that get you stuck because you

use them daily, okay? Understand what are your needs and focus

just on that when it comes to pronunciation. Do not go and learn all

the different nuances of the American T and all the extra sounds added when

you're connecting words, if your R's and L's are still getting confused, okay? I'm

not saying it's not important, it's not important right now. You need to focus on

the things that will get you the best results and those things are the most

apparent things, the things that you probably want to deal with the least

because you're so tired of it or and bored with it. But, these are the most

important elements that keep getting you stuck. And when it comes to vocabulary,

don't waste your time learning words that you don't know. Focus on using words

that you know but never use, that you understand when other people speak, that

you use in reading and writing but you never use in speaking. That will get you

results. Learning new words and memorizing them and never using them

along with the other 1,500 words that you already know and never use, will not

get you results. When you're planning your learning road map trying to

understand what are the topics that you need to focus on, you have to laser focus

on the things, the critical pieces, that are missing when you're speaking English.

The critical pieces that still hold you back

when you speak English. Do not go, although it's tempting, do not go and

learn everything that is out there. That's just procrastinating. That's just

not dealing with what's important for you and believe me I know. I know it's

the most boring stuff. It's the stuff that you know but it's just not a part

of you, so you know that you need to do it but it's just, it's not there yet and

then you're like pushing it to the corner.

No. Open that box and drill down and master it and then

you will see how everything is so much, so much easier. When it comes to

practicing English. Remember that it's always quality over quantity. You do not

need to study every day for two hours. You do not need to move to an

English-speaking country in order to immerse yourself and really improve. No,

you can do it from a non-English speaking country also and you can become

fluent and you can master the language and I know it because I've seen it

happen. Swear to God. I've seen my students and my

community members take huge leaps in their English and their ability to

communicate just by practicing effectively. What is to practice

effectively? First of all, to plan it out, to learn only the things that you need

to learn. You need to be aware of what you're doing. Maybe you need to record

yourself. Maybe you need to videotape yourself listening to it giving yourself

feedback, looking in the mirror to make sure that you're opening your mouth or

rounding your lips as you're speaking. All of these things turn your practice

into a conscious active exercise from which you can learn and improve. Remember

that. The small changes make all the difference, and of course speak as much

as possible. Speak to yourself in the car. Speak to a friend. You don't have to have

native speakers around you to be able to speak and to practice. You don't need

that constant feedback. Understand that just speaking, looking for the words

trying to understand how to say it, even if it's when speaking to non-native

speakers, it's a great way to improve. In fact, I find that non-native speakers

have a much easier time to practice with fellow non-native speakers. They feel

less judged. They feel a lot more freedom because they know they're both in the

same boat and this is why I started our online community and if you're not a

member, please click the link below and join us because it's a safe space for

people to discuss meaningful things in English, because you don't have to

constantly practice English to practice English. You just need to

speak. And when you speak about meaningful things and when you really

connect with other people from around the world, it makes everything so much

better, and to be honest, is the most empowering and safest space I've ever

seen online. So click on the link and join us! Lastly, let's talk about

confidence. You know that voice in your head that tells you, 'Oh, you made a

mistake. Oh, you're not gonna be able to say it. Oh, you're not gonna know how to

finish the sentence why even bother starting? You sound funny. They're gonna

think you're stupid!' Do you know that? Do you know that voice? You know these

voices. It's not just in your head. I just want you to know that it's in everyone's

heads and even in my head because, what do you think when I'm speaking to you

right now in front of the camera, there isn't this Vicious Hadar sitting up here

and they're like, 'You didn't sound good here. You made a grammar mistake.

That's the best you can do??' It's here all the time. The question is

how much space I'm willing to give this person sitting right here. Usually I tell

her to take the back seat because I'm right here making videos for you guys

and that's more important than making a pronunciation mistake or grammar mistake.

When you're communicating with other people, you give others the opportunity

to get to know you, to learn from you, to understand something about themselves or

about you or about the world, even if it's simple things. When you're holding

yourself back because of mean voices, you are denying yourself the opportunity to

be you, even if it's in the second language. You have to remember that and

there are a few things that you need to keep reminding yourself that will

completely change your mindset and those things are: being perfect is overrated.

I hate nothing more than hearing the term 'speak like a native speaker'

because when you set the bar so high, the gap is so wide that you'll feel that

you'll never be able to reach there. If this is your goal then this becomes

impossible. You don't need to sound like a native speaker, sound like

yourself, but your most fluent, expressive and confident self. That's your goal.

Don't try to achieve something that will hold you back, try to achieve something

that will empower you. Really trust me on that. I know. I know that it's hard to

change that mindset because you've been told for years that the only way to

become fluent is to sound like a native speaker, but understand that being a

native speaker is something that happens if you're born into the language

and if you're not born into the language, you can become very fluent in the

language and you can master it and you can master the accent. I know that and

again I've done it myself but I know the the journey is long and it takes a lot

of hard work and sometimes the goals should be expressing yourself, being

fluent, finding the words, sounding clear even if it's not like a native speaker,

even if people still ask you where you're from, okay? The thing is that you

need to be okay with that. You need to understand that what you bring to the

table as a non-native speaker is your gift, is your advantage, okay? Don't try to

hide it. Don't try to wash out your identity.

Become clear, have a powerful voice, say what you have to say. Doesn't matter if

it's with an accent and it doesn't matter if it's with mistakes. Which leads

me to the second thing and that is - mistakes are okay. Mistakes are the only

way to learn. Don't beat yourself up every time you make a mistake. Don't be

afraid of making mistakes because that will only result in not speaking. Don't

wait till it's perfect to speak - your pronunciation, your knowledge of English,

your thought, okay? Don't wait for you to know exactly what you need to say before

you speak. Start speaking, get stuck, make a mistake, ask for help, but speak. Once

you're okay with making mistakes, and again I'm telling you this because I

have come terms with my mistakes, with my grammar

mistakes, with my pronunciation mistakes, with my stupid typos in my videos that I

don't see because I've been writing words phonetically for years now that

I've forgotten how to spell correctly, okay, but I have to become okay with it

to be able to make those videos for you. And if you feel that you're benefiting

from my videos, then I know that I've done my work. Then I know that I did my

job in this world because at the end of the day it's not about being perfect but

it's about communicating with the world and expressing yourself, and it doesn't

matter in what language you do that. The most important thing is that you show up.

Now you know that in order for you to make things happen you have to take

action and this is why I want you to take a few minutes right now and share

with us in the comments below two things. One - where do you struggle the most? Is it

with knowing what to learn and how to pursue your knowledge? Is it sitting down

and actually doing the work practicing, or is it confidence? What are the voices

that you hear in your head? And then the second thing I want you to do is to

write down your game plan. What are you planning to focus on? What are the things

that you are going to learn in order to improve? Be as specific as possible.