Sograb a cupofcoffeeand, like, wecanjustgetstarted.
I dohave a planofwhat I wanttotalkabouttoday, andthatishowtofinishtheyearstrong.
I personallyamsuch a goalcenter.
I justloveNewYear's.
It's myfavorite, a holidayofalltime, andwe'rehalfwaythroughtheyearrightnow, whichis a greattimetoreflectonmaybethethingsthatweforgotaboutthatweweregoingtodowiththeyear, andthey'restilllikeplentyoftimeintheyearwhereyoucoulddefinitelyachievesomethingsthatyouhadinmind.
When I wasengagedtoZach, onethingthatsomeonetoldmewasBethany.
Justsqueezeeverylittlebitofhappinessoutofthismoment, and I'vekindofkeptthatwithme.
And I'vetriedtohaveputthatinpractice.
No, onlywhenwewereinourengagementtime, butalso, like, through a marriageandjust, youknow, being a dailylivinghuman.
It's reallyimportanttosetintention, andthat's reallythegoalofeverythingthat I talkabouthereiswhatam I intentionallytryingtodowithmylifewithmyclothes, withanythingthat I buy?
Am I doingitwithintention?
Andbydoingitwith, like, leaningintomyownthoughtsandnotjustbeinginfluencedbywhatotherpeoplearesaying I shouldbuyortrends I shouldfollow, etcetera.
Okay, that's a rant.
That's a tangent.
I'm gonnastayontrackhere.
Thefirstthingthat I wanttotalkabouttodayis a littletipthat I learnedfrommybookthat I haverighthere.
It's calledhighperformancehabits, and I'm halfwaythroughthebookrightnow.
Andonelittlenuggetthat I wanttoshareis, too, whenyou'reinbetweenmomentslikeokay, a goodexampleis, ifyou'retryingtogothroughtrafficandyou'reinreallyheavytrafficandyoudrivehomeandnowyou'vegottawalkintoyourhouseandseepeoplethatyouknowinlove, that's a momentinyourlifewhenyoubreathe.
Releaseendsthatintention, and I feellikethatsoundssogeekyandcheesywhen I sayit.
Andactuallyquite a fewofthetipsthat I wanttotalkabouttodayarefromthisbookthat I'm reading.
I feellike I amsuch a geekwhenitcomestogoldsetting.
I loveNewYear's.
It's myfavorite, butalso I just I justlistenedallsortsofpodcastsaboutgoalsettingandachievingyourdreamsinallofthesethings, I justlovetowritedownmylistofgoalsandnoonlylookatthemonce a yearbutactuallybreakthemdownintolittletinypiecesandputthemintopracticeandthenlookbackattheendoftheyearandseehowmuchthat I canputtogetherislike a paragraphofwhat I accomplishthatyear.
Soinstead, I liketosetspecificgoalsthatareincategoriessothat I feelwellroundedinmylife.
I believeitwas.
MichaelHyattdescribedthisaspegsin a wheelwhereeachPaigeis a categoryinyourlifeandyouneedallofthosepegsinyourlifetoturnthewheel.
I believeDanMillerhastalkedaboutthis, too.
Hehas a bookcalled 48 DaystotheworkYouLove.
Itwassomovingandandreallyhelpedmethinkaboutthethingsthat I liketodoinmylife, that I couldmakecareersoutofsosomespecificgoalsthat I liketosetourhowmanyouncesofwater I want a drinkin a day, actuallyaskedmydieticianhowmany I shouldbedrinking.
I useitnotonlylikeeveryoneelseintheworld, like a schedule, but I alsouseitas a todolistandthejournal.
Sowhat I dois I willhavemydayplannedout.
I havemaybejust a littlechickenscratchlistofthingstodoonpaper.
Butthen I wanttoactuallytakeittomycalendarandputthemastodoitems.
Buttodoitems I makealldayeventsthat I putatthetopofmydaywhen I think I candothat.
Soifit's iftomorrow I think, yes, I candefinitelydothisitemtomorrow.
That's gonnabeinmycalendarasanalldayevent.
Andthenwhen I actuallyfeellike I canfindtimetodoit, I'm gonnadragthatitemdowninmydayandfind a timetodoit.
Thisalsoworksas a journalbecausethenextweek I canlookbackatwhat I didthisweekandkindofassesswhattherewastodointhatweekso I canlookbacktoandseethemcolorcoordinated.
IfyouwanttogetreallyTuckeyandreally, reallyintothecalendarthing, I liketocolorcoordinatesothat I canlookpastitatlookatmypastweekandseewherehowmuch I workedoutorwhen I workedout.
Did I missdaysthat I reallyshouldn't have?
Should I havebeenrestingmorelikeyouwanttoputresttimeonthere, too?
Andthatbringsmetomynextpoint, whichistheideaof a worklifebalance.
A worklifebalancecanbe a bitofah, mysteryor a myth, or a lotofpeopledebatehowtomakethatworkorhowmuchyoushould, howmanyhoursyoushouldbeputtingintorassversuswork.
I actuallydon't thinkithasanythingtodowithours.
Ithasmoretodowiththequalityoftime.
That's actuallywhatthisbookistalkingaboutto.
I juststumbledup a pine.
Thisexacttopicwhen I wascomingupwithideasforthis.
Inthisideaof a worklifebalance, I'vebeentryingtosortthisoutinmyownlife.
I subscribetosomany e mails, and I justthinkthat I spend a wholelotoftimetryingtosortthrougheverything, and I justfeellikeeventhesortingthroughistimenotspenttothebestofwhat I couldhavebeendoing.
Andsoinstead I cancompletelyeliminatepartsofmydate.
That I lovedoinganotherwaythatyoucandothisistodelegateanythingthatmaybeyou'rejustnotparticularlygoodatorenjoy, like.
Onething I starteddoingwhen I cameto a biggercityisgrocerydeliveryisnojoke.
Itsavesmesomuchtimethat I reallydidn't likedoing.
I don't particularlyenjoygettingmygroceries, especiallyifthere's a lotofthem.
Andsoonce a week, maybenotevenonce a week, maybelikeonceeverycoupleweeksorevenonce a month, I willgetmygroceriesdeliveredwhen I needtohavethathappenthemost.
Andthathashelpedmetoinsteadspendtimecreatingvideosorworkingoutorspendingtimewithfamilyoranythinglikeyounameitandsofindinglittlepocketsoftimewheremaybeyoucouldbedoingsomethingelsethatyouaren't you'reirreplaceableatthatissoworthyourtimeonthingsthatyoulovedoingitdoesn't necessarilyhavetohave a dollarsignattachedtoitofhowmuchyou'remakingornotmakingorwhatever.
Instead, focusonhowmuchfulfillmentyou'regettingoutofthattimeinthat, myfriends, ishowyou'regoingtomake 2019 youryear, and I feellikethisis a blessedmomentbecausethesunjustpopsthroughreallybright.
And I justfeellikethisismymomenttospeakmytruth, whichis I lovegoldsetting, and I feellikeitreallyishow I makethemostofmyyear.
And I swearthethingthatyoureallyneedtodo, though, afteryoulookbackoneverythingthatyou'veaccomplishedin 2019 writehimdown, makesurethatyou'rewritingdowneverylittlesmallincrementsofachievementthatyou'reYou'vedonethatyou'vewantedtostartforputtingintoyourlifeandhavingfulfillmentinWritedowneverythinginmoreof a paragraphformofthingsthatyouaccomplishedfortheyear, andyoucandothatnow.
Youdon't havetowaittillit's December.
Youcandothat, youknow, assoonasyouhavecreated a goodamountoflistsofthingsthatyou'veaccomplishedfortheyearandmaybeevenwriteanotherparagraphofthingsthatyouwouldlovetoseeinyourlifethatyoucouldmakehappenwiththerestofthesesixmonths.
Onewaythat I didthisiswhen I wasabout 18 I foundthat I hadoneabsolutelyamazingfriendthatjustwaslikethebestfriendshipthat I'veeverexperiencedbefore.
Andwhat I didis I madeupmymindtojustneverspeakpoorlyaboutthatpersonunderanycircumstance, toanybody, evenjustlikejokinglyorwhatever.
Andwhatendeduphappeningwiththatfriendshipisthat I feltpersonally, verystronglythattherewasnothingthatcouldhavebeentwistedormisunderstood.
Sowhen I wastalkingspecificallywiththatperson, wehadnoboundariesoranylikesecretsororweirdstuff, anditwasjustanhonest, goodfriendship.
Then I starteddoingthatwithmoreandmorepeopleinmylifetowherepeoplestartedtakingnoticethatwheneveryoneelsewaskindofchummingitupaboutsomebodyjokinglyandthat I didn't reallyparticipateinthatsomuch.
Butthemorethatyoumakeconversationspositiveorifthereisdrama, justgolike a grayrockmethodiswhat I'vehearditdescribedasmeaning.
Ifpeopletrytocausedrama, justbelike, Ohyeah, okay, like, justbecompletelyboringtowherethey'renotgoingtotrytomakeyouparticipateindramaandjusthavingmoreof a positiveaspectaboutotherpeople, like a positiveinsight.
Ourviewpointaboutotherpeoplehasreallyhelpedmenotonlyandcareer, butinfriendshipsandjustmyownconfidenceofknowingthatotherpeoplearen't goingtogetthewrongimpressionaboutsomethingthat I saidandhopefullyinsixmonthstime.
Andsojustbeingmorepositiveaboutotherpeoplecanbe a reallyimpactfulthing.
Andin a nutshell, thosearemytipsforhowtomakethemostoutofyouryear.
I hopethatthisisinspiring.
I willdefinitelylinkyouguysdownbelowinthedescriptiontextwhereyoucanfindallthepeoplethat I listentoforpodcastsandthebooks I readregardinggoldsettingandjusthaving a morefulfillingeverydaylife.