of mine and she's pretty explosive like she's always very loud with the emotions

and when we tell her don't be explosive she kind of gets a little offended

because the word explosive has more of a negative connotation and that Ock's her

even more. So I decided to tell her that you're very dramatic. Dramatic? Yes a

better word than explosive. So this is what today's lesson is about, replacing

negative, okay. That means not so nice behavioral

vocabulary. So of course there are times you want to describe certain

characteristics of people and those characteristics may not be very positive

but it is important to you know to not use very negative vocabulary when you

describe their characteristics. So let's see what are certain words that we could

replace and make that particular characteristic sound better. So the first

one is 'short attention span'. Now what is short attention span? Someone who cannot

focus on one thing for a very long period of time. Now it could be you are

at a project at work and you know beyond half an hour or an hour you just lose

interest and you kind of you know you deviate you start looking into your

phone or you research or you play a game. So basically you have a short attention

span that means nothing captivates you for too long. Not a very positive word I

mean imagine if someone came and told me, "Rachna you have a very short attention

span" that means I'm not a very focused person. Well so you could replace it by

'many interests' now for example a teacher tells a parent that "your child has short

attention span," now that could be a little offensive what she could say is

"your child has many interests" that means he cannot stick to one thing for a very

long time. So yes, use 'many interests' instead of

'short attention span'. The next one says 'irresponsible' well this is one of the

most offensive adjectives you could use to describe someone. I wouldn't like to

be called 'irresponsible'. So if a manager has to tell his subordinate that you are

very 'irresponsible' that could create further animosity between the two. So

well, do not use irresponsible what you could

use is 'carefree'. Now, look how the whole meaning changes so the manager tells us

subordinate, "Richard, you are very carefree about your work." Still a little

better than irresponsible? I mean imagine you're very irresponsible

not nice. You're very carefree. Well a better word then irresponsible and it's

a nice way to give feedback when you want to tell someone that you are

irresponsible. Yes the next one is 'hyperactive'. Now hyperactive is a person

who is highly energetic he cannot sit in one place he needs to talk aloud he's

talk a lot he screams, he yells... So active beyond normal

you know tendency. Now hyperactive again is it has more of a negative connotation

because it shows that it is over and beyond a normal tendency. Okay, so if I have

to tell my little niece that, "you are very hyperactive, can't you just sit

quietly?" I don't think people around would like the idea. But if I tell her,

"Wow you are very energetic for your age" so obviously energetic means a person

who has high levels of energy and obviously that means he is hyperactive.

So if I tell my niece that you are very energetic instead of very hyperactive

maybe people will look at it more positively. Okay?

Now I'm sure at work you have certain colleagues who are very you know playful

and full of mischief and who play pranks all the time who just can't sit

still even for two minutes instead of calling them hyperactive what you could

say is you know this group of my colleagues is

very energetic. So remember friends always try to use

more positive adjectives even when you describe negative characteristics of

people. The next one says 'loud'. Well avoid using loud because loud means someone

who's very you know not only vocal but also very boisterous and likes her

presence or his presence to be felt. So imagine if you say "Oh God, you are too loud I can't

stand you." and that's rude and that's more of a negative meaning the nicer way

to say is you are very enthusiastic so enthusiastic again means that you're the

one who was initiative takes initiative you know for everything and who is also

very boisterous but again you don't use the word like boisterous and loud but

enthusiastic again means who's very participative in everything and a better

way to say loud because loud by enlarge has a negative connotation so if you

tell someone you're loud they could get pretty offended but if you say oh you're

pretty enthusiastic well it would be taken in a better way then louder okay

so the next one is stubborn a complete negative adjectives now stubborn you

know who's stubborn stubborn is a person who just doesn't want to listen or take

advice from others he has his own set thinking set of thoughts and probably

even fixed concepts and doesn't want to listen he doesn't want to budge I will

do what I want and I will do it my way and it has to happen my way

so there people who don't really like to adjust or are not flexible and you know

do not budge from the opinions so someone who is stubborn is definitely

someone who's very difficult to handle and deal with and well trust me

most people are stubborn I am but just a little bit not too much yes

so if you tell some you're stubborn and even if you say to a

child they could get pretty angry because stubborn is not a very positive

adjectives so instead of using stubborn all you could say is you are persistent

now imagine in you know you are at your feedback appraisals at work and your

manager tells you you know your work is good but you're very stubborn I mean you

would not take it too well but if he says your work is good overall

but you're a little persistent you know that would be a better feeling because

nobody likes to be called stubborn so when you want to tell someone or when

you want to talk about someone being stubborn the better word to use is

persistent that is the same thing they're headstrong and basically they

like that one way yes next is poor planning this planning is a very

important part especially when you work when you're working so you need to plan

your day it could be plan your week plan meetings or plan for targets for the

next three months and if you're someone who cannot forecast or cannot see things

clearly or have a fixed plan that you would like to go by that means you're a

poor planner and probably you just you know take it take things as they come

you know each day at a time so there are a lot of people who do not

get into planning so they are poor planner but if you tell someone and

especially if you tell someone at work or if you talk about your senior and say

you know he always gets things done last minute he's a poor planner mmm it's not

a very good thing to say and it's not a good way to describe your seniors at

work so what you could say is he is present focused now present focused

means he only lives you know like for the day by the day and doesn't think too

much into the future or doesn't plan too much about the future so present focused

means he is someone who focuses only in the present for today he lives in them

now yeah so he is right now your

today and he only has things in his basket for today he does not look into

the future so remember poor planner better what to users present focus okay

friends well the next one is disorganized I think most of us are

disorganized or somehow we just kind of happen to be disorganized none of us

like it but I think many of us fall into this category

disorganized is someone who doesn't you know who obviously was not organized it

could be his cupboard his his room his office desk his cabin anything or even

his own his own structure in the head you know you're not organized you're

disorganized again a very negative way to describe someone so if you say that

my friend is disorganized at work or my friends cupboard is completely

disorganized believe me it's not a very nice thing what you could say and a

better and a more professional and a positive word is unstructured okay so

for example if I'm at a meeting and if I tell you if I if I see that I am very

disorganized in my head with a lot of thoughts I mean obviously I'm not

speaking too well about myself but if I say I'm unstructured with my thoughts it

is better than you know using the word disorganized and that is how this

replaces disorganized in a better way anxious okay something that all of us

feel and we do feel anxious when we take big decisions in our life now and just

comes from anxiety yeah so it's a feeling of nervousness a little fear you

have butterflies in your stomach it could be before your examination results

it could be when you join a new job it could be during appraisals it could be

you've done something wrong at work and now you're heading to your boss's cabin

so you feel anxious now for example if I'm taking a dishes big decision

obviously I'm going to feel anxious so instead of saying I feel anxious I'll

say I'm cautious cautious means you do not rush into things and obviously an

anxious person will be cautious he will be careful

before he takes a step so remember avoid anxious use cautious okay and the last

word for today is disobedient complete no in your vocabulary list do not call

anyone disobedient now this obedient is someone who just doesn't listen and

doesn't take your advice and again does his own thing so if you tell him to do a

he will do exactly the opposite now kids can be disobedient employees can be

disobedient your friends can be disobedient you can be disobedient to

your doctor also and not take his advice so someone who just doesn't like to

listen okay again if someone tells me that I'm disobedient I'm not going to

take it in my stride so what he could say is you are self-directed now

obviously someone who is disobedient does not like to listen will do what he

wants that means he directs himself to do things his way so a better word to

use is self-directed so if you talk about your children being disobedient

all you could say is they are self-directed find something more

positive something better so we're friends these are the list of negative

words that could be replaced by positive ones I'm sure you could use this in your

daily conversation I'll be back soon with a new lesson till then take care

and bye