So many people.

I see so much effort into trying to make someone love them by trying to change.

When if they put half the effort into loving themselves, they would attract so much love.

You see, when you're trying to change yourself, that means you must be criticizing yourself.

I'm gonna punish my body so it looks better.

I'm gonna put myself down in the hope that I will get better.

I'm gonna look at all my floors and try to get rid of them.

Don't be your own worst critic.

Be your own best friend.

What would you say to a best friend?

Darling, you're amazing.

You cares if you got rid of surly like that.

Nothing to do with how loveable you are.

You're a great guy.

You're interesting and funny.

And any girl would be lucky to have you.

You know, you would say to your best friend Say that to your south.

Do know get sucked into being a critic.

You know so often I work on the rage or maybe over the big group.

And I always want to give my group take or I want to give the audience something some little thing they could do straightaway that I know will change their life.

And I always say to them, Do not let in destructive criticism do beat yourself up.

Don't feel bad about yourself Instead of criticizing yourself, praise yourself.

I know for a fact there is nothing that can build you up the way self praised self praise this, your self esteem and criticism with a zit and diminishes it and good people praise.

And people here feel bad about themselves, criticized because critics always have the most criticism reserved for themselves.

Don't criticize yourself.

Praise yourself.

Don't put all your evidence or making someone else fall in love with you.

You need to put your effort into you, falling in love with you.

And then the world will change so dramatically.

And it's actually not hard to fall in love with yourself.

I know it's a throwaway Would fall in love with yourself.

Love yourself more.

How do you do there?

It's actually very simple.

First of all, you start by praising your South on a regular basis.

You don't wake up.

Look at the state of me.

I've gained weight Oh, my hair's a mess or I didn't do the project I should have done.

I'm an idiot.

You don't do that.

You look in the mirror and you say nice things to yourself just the way you say to your best friend or your kid.

And we all know how to do that.

And then you start to change your password.

So they say, like you're lovable.

You're amazing.

I'm great.

I'm wonderful.

I'm lovable.

I know it sounds Polyana.

I know it sounds cheesy.

I know.

It sounds cringe, E You know what else I know?

It absolutely works right.

Phrases to yourself on your mirror.

Leave little notes to yourself.

Make sure you're saying it thinking it repeating on a regular basis.

I am lovable.

I unlovable.

What's wrong with telling yourself You're lovable?

Did you know what?

If you didn't believe it, how can you expect anyone else to believe it?

And when you do believe it, other people believe it too.

And even if you say so, this is all crazy and it doesn't work.

It makes no difference when you say I'm lovable every day I'm lovable.

I'm worthy of love.

I'm deserving of love your mind goes.

There's that phrase you say every day.

It must be true.

Then it sinks in.

So say it every day because you have a choice.

We all have a choice, is your choice.

I could say every day I'm an idea.

I'm overweight.

I don't have anything going.

I'm not good enough.

The kind of people I like don't like me.

That's choice one.

His choice to I'm lovable.

I have something to offer.

I'm worth it.

I matter on a great person and you can choose which ever one you want.

But you know what?

You can't choose what happens to your health when you diminish yourself and criticize yourself on a regular basis, your immune system gets weak.

You get all kinds of issues and illnesses.

You invite depression and anxiety.

You have a choice.

Make the right choice big up yourself.

Praise yourself.

Fall in love with who you are just because you're you.

After all, what is your great person?

Go.

I love you because you're you.

I just love you because you're you.

We all want to hear that.

Say it to yourself and you know what?

The quicker you can say and believe it.

The quicker someone else is going to say to you, I believe it to start today.

Fall in love with yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.

And guess what?

It never disappoints you never bores you and it never goes away.

If you'd like to learn more, sign up for my free master class with Mine Valley, where you are going to learn how to make your mind, your best friend, your most supportive ally and you'll be surprised how easy it is and how effective it is.

I really look forward to seeing you there.