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  • you can't be a great critical thinker or consequential thinker or reciprocal thinker until you start thinking outside yourself.

  • Hi, everybody.

  • I'm about to bring a guest on this show that I have so much admiration for, and you're gonna be hearing from him in a few moments.

  • But I wanted to start with just giving you an idea of the profound impact this person has had in my life from the moment I picked up one of his books.

  • See, I've always been someone that when I'm in Upton ACN organization, I want to be able to see waiters at ways that I can contribute the most possible.

  • I look for the white spaces, and what happened is I picked up a book from this gentleman, J.

  • Abraham getting everything you can out of all you've got.

  • And when I picked this up, I realized that there was so many ways that you can look within an industry or within other industries to get some amazing ideas that can help you grow a business in ways you never thought possible.

  • And what we're gonna be discussing today are gonna be these elements of critical thinking.

  • And it doesn't matter.

  • here.

  • If you're the person that owns the business, if you're leading a team or you're an employee within the business, you're gonna learn the tools that it takes to be the person that innovates within the company.

  • You're gonna think so differently than you've ever thought before.

  • On how are the ways that you can look outside of what you're doing and bring those ideas internally?

  • It's my immense pleasure and privilege to bring J.

  • Abraham onto the chauffeur impact to talk about critical thinking.

  • J thank you for being here and welcome Jason first about Wow, he put me on a pedestal Now got a performance anxiety.

  • I know you are going to be doing fine.

  • You know?

  • What's fascinating is when we started having a conversation about doing this together, Yes, it was so hard to find.

  • What should we talk about?

  • Because you've done so many things in so many areas and you've talked about strategic management.

  • You've talked about sales marketing.

  • You've led businesses to grow exponentially.

  • You've worked with the Fortune 500.

  • So how did we actually find ourselves getting the essence of what someone could apply was actually quite difficult.

  • And your pieces on critical thinking I think are the most valuable because you think so differently, and you see things that most people don't.

  • And I'd be curious to know.

  • How did you become that person that thinks so laterally?

  • It's a great question, and the answer is, it's It's almost laughable because it wasn't intentional was accident what the accidental tourist, the accidental critical thinker is?

  • I started out at age 18 got married, had two kids, no no skill set whatsoever, the need of somebody about 40 and nobody cared.

  • And the only people that ever gave me opportunity with crazed entrepreneurs who would stick me in a room and say, Kid, you can have a piece of whatever you create And I was very interested in lots of different industries.

  • And because I wasn't salary, I jumped around and I went from one not job but one industry to another, to another, to another.

  • And after a number of these, I looked back and thought, Wow, it's interesting that people in one industry don't have a clue how people in other industries, I think strategy business models optionality, uh, just any value creation.

  • And when you've gone through over, down, fast forward.

  • Now, at my age, many years later, I've done over 1000 industries, not businesses, industries.

  • We've done 7000 sub industries when you have the ability to look at those said that spectrum of nuances and all kinds of different ways of thinking doing and you work not just giving them a seminar, but you actually are working on the front lines, dealing with the problems, dealing with the issues, dealing with the challenges, dealing with the opportunities you get, a knowledge base of possibilities of options, of scenarios, of situations and of consequences that air so vast that most people, because of their limited sphere of experiences, of life, of probability outcome they don't really know.

  • So I've just been thrust into the vortex of so many real life issues that I had to solve embrace, uh uh manage, transcend, circumvent that it gave me after well, a day universal, sort of an understanding of not just what can happen good and how you could make it a lot better.

  • But what can happen bad and how to mitigate it or eliminated, or at least manager?

  • That makes sense.

  • Absolutely.

  • And I curious.

  • I mean, you've been to thousands of industries.

  • Yes, you've seen also, not just when it comes to the types of industries, but you've actually been around doing this for years, where you've seen changes in the market happened from the good, the bad.

  • I'd be curious to know what would be something that you've seen very common across the Board of Industries and time, like the kind of problems that seem to repeat themselves in every one of these industries.

  • Well, I think that that the biggest problem that I see that is not really address very well is that owners, managers, entrepreneurs, professionals don't recognize that all of their team members have the same kind of relative hopes and dreams.

  • They're hitching their wagon to that entrepreneurs star as well.

  • And they they're looking for that entrepreneur in that business and that commitment to produce their their success there security, their fulfillment, their economic gain.

  • And I think a lot of times there's a big, big gap between Mia's the owner thinking about my life, my growth, my success, my net worth, my prominence and not really recognizing that I have to be externally focused.

  • I think the more you can cultivate, and it's very good.

  • You're talking about critical thinking because it's predicated on being able to think outside yourself.

  • Think about all the factors that forces the elements of the scenario's going on and what the reality of it is and what probability outcome variation, uh, all kinds of things.

  • And you can't really do that as easily if you haven't experienced it.

  • But the big mistake with most people is they limit their scope of reality to what they have either experienced or observed.

  • And that's very limited relative to what's what's going on.

  • Reality, possibility, probability and also danger.

  • And so, for someone who's in the midst of and again, it doesn't matter If you are the entrepreneur you're working for the entrepreneur or you're within a corporation.

  • How does one start really expanding that beyond what they observed or date them themselves?

  • What are some steps that people could do to really expand on that?

  • Well, the first thing that I always tell people, and I don't really teach critical thinking for, say, I've done some work on it, so you're drawing out of me, Cem roar shock First time ever responses.

  • So hopefully it'll be reasonably lucid and concrete.

  • But the first thing I tell people when I talk about this sort of ad hoc is you can't be a great critical thinker or consequential thinker or reciprocal thinker until you start thinking outside yourself.

  • Meaning you have to think about what's the what's going on in this reality everywhere else, not just with me.

  • When this happens, what's the experience you're having?

  • What I'm talking and you're shaking your head.

  • Are you shaking your head just to be nice and you're thinking ahead?

  • Could you really understand me?

  • Are we having the same conversation as my intent coming across?

  • Are you embracing it?

  • Are you resenting it?

  • What is the action you're going to take positive or negative?

  • And this is the first thing is what are all the factors and forces that are being affected by whatever is happening?

  • You talk about activity, a decision on event I mean any of a number of things, and then you got to say, what is the positive, the absolute maximum positive that I can I can mine that I can extract that Aiken lever out of it.

  • And what's the maximum negative that could have.

  • What's probably what should I expect?

  • That what is everything we do implicitly, explicitly, consciously, subconsciously knowing that knowing we were expecting certain outcomes were expecting certain responses.

  • Results.

  • So when that doesn't happen, we're shocked.

  • This is sort of the hilarity.

  • I'll give you the simplest critical thinking.

  • So when anybody in any capacity is making a phone call designed to effect a result that benefits their agenda, I don't care if your business your sales person trying to get a meeting, trying to get any enemy number of of outcomes to believe that the logical result is gonna be to get a live person on the phone when you call is ludicrous.

  • About a 3% probability you're gonna get a voicemail.

  • Maybe you'll get the gatekeeper, but probably a voicemail, don't you think so, If you're shocked when you get a voicemail and that's probability not not, not a an aberration, and you haven't prepared for voicemail.

  • That's not critical thinking what you go about this is Jay, and I'm coming back and the odds of getting called back unless you're very, very important or about zero.

  • But if you say I'm calling to remind you that, uh, we've got a wayto triple your your sales and reduce your expenses 20% and we can do it tomorrow with no investment.

  • But I need your approval or something that at least is designed to evoke a response.

  • But this is a bad example.

  • But maybe, you know, everyone calls and goes there shocked when they get a voicemail.

  • I laughed.

  • My, my, my you know what off?

  • I think it's hilariously illogical.

  • You're going to get a voice mail.

  • Yeah, plan for it.

  • So that's that's interesting because, in essence, what comes to mind when you say this is There's a lot of school of thought that says, you know, positive thinking only, and it seems like it's actually a compromise of critical thinking because I think critical is positive.

  • What do you positive Indo is most probable toe happen?

  • What do you positively?

  • No could also happen.

  • What do you positively?

  • No, uh, is the difference between being reactive and proactive?

  • Explain the idea of selling a masterful, qualitative, ethical, authentic sales matter.

  • Woman knows how to preempt what are probable questions, resistance, negatives, objections in the mind before they're even verbalize.

  • That's critical thinking, isn't it?

  • If you don't and somebody just says, Okay, okay.

  • And you know, you should know.

  • But if you don't expect them to have thoughts while you're talking, if you don't engage them and get feedback If you don't learn how to listen instead of just talk, then you are deluding the potential outcome that you theoretically expect.

  • So I just wanted I've gotten very, very fanatical about trying to understand what the reality of the situation is, what the probable, Not just outcome, but what's really happening here with everybody involved.

  • You know, when I do something, when I when I counsel somebody accounts a lot of people because I've been through so many scenarios, I can say, Okay, you're negotiating This first thing you have to know is this If you bring somebody and you better make sure that you, uh you make sure that all the transactions are yours, not theirs, you got to make sure that, you know, and I think about everything that can go wrong with this picture, not just what goes right.

  • And perhaps some of it is that I've been married my third marriage, and I've you know, I've had to have, Uh uh uh, I've had, you know, we've had when we got started in our relationships, uh, marital contracts when you think about not just the glory of what goes right, but what goes wrong.

  • You get into a business partnership.

  • Do you think that every partnership last statistically, I don't know.

  • Divorce rates and our country, or about 50 55%.

  • I think they're actually exceed the ones that stay married.

  • But it's probably not too similar into business and business partnerships.

  • If you think about employment, what are the odds today view?

  • Look, att and MacMillan is having a lot of work of millennials.

  • I'm shifting, but it's not an a d d moment gonna bring it back to you.

  • So if you look at most employers today, they have no idea how to recruit, how to maximize, manage, uh, and and really multiply the capacity of performance and, um, duration of a millennium.

  • Biggest problem is millennials are driven by something totally different than just hard work.

  • They're driven by lifestyle.

  • They're driven by feeling purposeful.

  • They need to be dealt with totally different.

  • If you think they're going to be motivated by what motivated people 15 20 years ago.

  • You're gonna get a bad outcome.

  • Also, if you think they're here to stay for a career, you're making a delusional.

  • I mean, they're not.

  • Their whole lifestyle is Basically, I'm gonna go here for a while and then I'm gonna move on.

  • I'm gonna move on.

  • I'm gonna either either progress or find better environments for what gives me joy.

  • And if you're unemployed, you say, Hey, Jason, we're gonna do this for the rest of our lives.

  • And you really believe that?

  • You're deluded.

  • You're intoxicated, your erroneous in your assumption, I just want a deal.

  • Critical thinking is reality.

  • Thinking critical thinking is learning and recognizing What are the probable consequences?

  • Oven action and activity.

  • A decision and indecision.

  • Something you say something you don't say.

  • It doesn't matter whether you acknowledge it or not.

  • It the reality is not gonna care about what you think and what you understand.

  • It's gonna do what it's going to do it if you're aware of it.

  • And you are You've identified prepared and let's call it acknowledged and hedge acknowledge what should happen.

  • I figured out how all of the whatever caught all of the layers of impact.

  • Because we're doing this, Your hope is you could draw out of me content, ideas, realities, realizations, epiphanies that your viewers well, not just enjoy, but will be impacted by not just entertainment but movement.

  • If you don't get that out of me, then not only has my value been diminished, but you don't look like you've done well.

  • I may not make it off the cutting room floor.

  • So you have to think Okay, if j goes rogue on me, how can I bring him back?

  • What am I going to do?

  • How am I going to make sure that I advocate and draw out of him the best outcome I can?

  • Hopefully he's loose.

  • If he's not, what do I what can I softball lob him?

  • Does that make sense?

  • Absolutely.

  • Just giving a few response.

  • I love it because actually, I was just thinking in the process of like, I'm listening and I tried always structure because during our interviews we always have a structure which is based on what we call consciousness engineer.

  • And you can't structure how Well, actually, what we look at is what are the bullshit rules that people believe in the world.

  • And what is a new way of looking at?

  • Okay, I like that.

  • I want to position this because what we've talked about here is that a lot of people always do things the way they're done, and they'll continue doing their work without, necessarily.

  • And you need to think outside of what the way it's always been done.

  • Yes, and what we want introduce years a new model of reality, which is this critical thinking element.

  • And I want everybody to pay attention here because a lot of what we've just talked about you heard J mention is the fact that when you start thinking critically, it's not only about having the rose colored goggles, it's about thinking of every single outcome, and you start challenging the status quo within your organization.

  • And I love what you mentioned with the fact that some organizations still think that the way it's always been done is the way they continue doing it and not having the same success because the market's changed.

  • What I'd love to bring you to is the last part of our framer, which we usually call systems for living Okay, which is okay, I know.

  • Embraced critical thinking.

  • Yes.

  • How do I, as an individual within an organization, recognize if I'm in this pattern of not critical thinking?

  • Because some people fall into autopilot and my, my, my hope Here's somebody who's listening is kind of growing.

  • Okay, this is interesting, but how do I break my Of course.

  • It's great.

  • Well, I think and maybe I'm erroneous and my critical thinking that you're going to want to transition to Socratic discussion.

  • Interview.

  • So why don't I accelerate that and integrate that so I can answer your question.

  • Perfect.

  • Okay.

  • You want to be a great critical thinker, and you have a limited amount of life experience or observation or expanded knowledge.

  • You can look for divine intervention.

  • And I'm not diminishing your religious or your or your higher beliefs, and it might happen.

  • Or you can start Socratic Lee interviewing people in other roles in the company and concurrently interviewing people that you know who experienced almost anything almost anything good, bad, ugly, and asked them for perspective.

  • What have you learned that will happen?

  • Most obviously.

  • What have you learned?

  • What?

  • What have you learned about predictability?

  • What you learned about unpredictably wearing this job.

  • What are some of the things that happen that you don't think about?

  • What are the things that you've seen occur that nobody planned?

  • And you learn by asking questions and processing and being hopelessly curious and humble enough that you listen?

  • You don't mean the biggest problem with most people is they don't know how to listen.

  • And when they listen, they don't know howto Howdy.

  • Oh, leverage the answers and the first thing ethically and respectful and authentically, is to acknowledge the other person and and and show them that you heard what they said.

  • You you respected what it meant.

  • You're processing the implication, and now you have additional question.

  • That is an offshoot of that.

  • But if you don't really hear it, I mean, if you think about it, 90% of the people that have a discussion with people don't really hear what's being said.

  • One of the one of the great Pat Pat statements people say, is Jason, how you doing?

  • And I always used to say, I feel terrible.

  • I've got a crick in my neck.

  • Nobody characters.

  • I didn't hear it because they're ready for the next the next comment they want to make, it's about them.

  • And if it's about you and it's all about you and you're obsessed with you, you've lost the critical thinking.

  • The consequential thinking, critical thinking is just understanding all the things that are going on.

  • Consequential thinking is taking it to a different level.

  • What are the implications?

  • The ramifications, the positive, the negative, the good, the bad who's in effecting and how all these dynamics come back to you?

  • And how can you harness and harvest the maximum positive outcome?

  • And how can you mitigate the maximum negative?

  • There's nothing I've got three or four stacked issues that I'm fanatically focused on at this point.

  • My life critical thinking, consequential thinking, Socratic interviewing, uh, relevancy.

  • People don't realize that if you look today at our lives, this is tangential to you, and this is you gotta bring me back and we'll see critical thinking how you do it.

  • And I'll be pleased because I want to make this point and you could play off of her, get back on point.

  • But if you look at almost everything goes on in her life today, it is based on a foundation of fun of relevancy.

  • The more relevant you are in my life, the more motivated you The other side is to collaborate to work for you with you, love you, uh, you know, invite you two things come to your things, the least relevant the last year out outcome.

  • But relevancy has.

  • It's very dynamic.

  • I'm using myself isn't again.

  • Example up with all humility and being clinical, my brand is very, very elevated, my stature in the business arena, in the advisory world.

  • In Mentor World, it is very high.

  • I've been elevated on a pedestal of expectation that is almost mythic.

  • Now that's good and bad.

  • The performance expectations of people in every interaction they have with me is out.

  • It's outrageous if I let them down or if I give them something profound that is so elegantly simple, but the result of a complex understanding and distillation.

  • But it's not the silver bullet or the rock your boat that they want.

  • My relevancy just dropped and may never come back.

  • That's part.

  • It's all contained.

  • There's another issue.

  • That's another offshoot.

  • I'm giving you a headache, but if you don't recognize this, you're at a disadvantage and Speaking of advantage, it's that there are many, many tangible, intangible elements of advantage in a life in a business, and your goal in life is to put maximum ethical, tangible and intangible advantage to your to your side of the tea and move maximum ethical disadvantaged, too, if your business to the other side.

  • I don't mean thio aside, meeting your colleagues I mean your competitors in in a collaboration, which is something other people don't know how to do.

  • Either Critical thinking is is the realization that you don't have the wherewithal.

  • You don't the band with your skills, you know the talent.

  • You don't have the energy of the time.

  • You have anything to do anything by yourself that you have to creatively collaborate in order to create a creatively Excuse me collaborate.

  • You have to be able to fuel the needs, the the requirements of the other side.

  • If you're not a critical enough thinker to recognize what motivates you, what turns you on?

  • What fills your your need that I can't get you to collaborate with me?

  • I can scare you for a while.

  • I can dangle money over you for a while, but in the long term.

  • It's not gonna work.

  • So we now know from getting your intentions or this makes sense.

  • Well, there's two things that we've you've identified, Please.

  • And don't worry, this is all golden because everyone who's listening will be able to follow along the journey.

  • Good for them.

  • If ever you feel that you better reference.

  • Look at the summary notes where we're going to attack T.

  • That's great.

  • So what I first want identifies talk about relevancy, and I kind of want to go back to this because you touched on it.

  • And I think what I failed to recognize is as things are being done mostly based on how other people are relevant, and the first thing I think about this for that could be very easy for people to grasp is kind of the whole instagram movement, how people are judging people's relevancy based on the number of followers.

  • They and as soon as someone gets a certain amount of follower, everybody is attracted to them.

  • They want to collaborate with them etcetera.

  • And so is this something that's relatively new, or has it always been this way?

  • Well, I think our society today there's one thing that's that's immune, immutable.

  • It's it's human nature and it will never fail.

  • Nobody wants to be mediocre.

  • No one wants to be irrelevant.

  • Nobody wants to be average.

  • We all want to be important.

  • Special, acknowledge.

  • And how that is accomplished has changed over time.

  • You know, promotion was a way of doing it.

  • Uh uh.

  • Beautiful car, beautiful home, A beautiful wife, you know, Rolex.

  • That was a way of achieving it.

  • Designer shoes.

  • But today I think every human being sees and has the the vehicle to be acknowledged in their own right.

  • I mean, what am I?

  • And it's wild and I find it really interesting.

  • One of my the people that I mentor, somebody very prominent, won't mention his name has a business where they help people on instagram and, uh, and and things like that.

  • And they have They have a quiet who are two women who their whole claim to fame is.

  • They have big, outrageous butts, dairy years, buttocks, back ends, and all they do.

  • They show pictures of them in weird situations, and that's their That's their Their identity is I think there's not a sexually but a a uh, there's a perversion values, but I think if you bring it down to its very core, we just wanna all be acknowledged as being relevant.

  • And today I think social media gives anybody a vehicle that could be good, or it could be bad.

  • And when you become obsessed with being acknowledged, I mean, I think for me, I was just saying I went to an event the other night.

  • Was somebody very prominent when he mentioned his name and you and they all take pictures and I get a picture.

  • This person's a 1,000,000,000 and I would never put that on my social mean, you're just too somewhat.

  • I do.

  • I'm a very private person, but it depends on where you are.

  • For many years, many people were were constrained that life of quiet desperation.

  • The Beatles.

  • What is that Abigail Beecher that you know, you know that they died by themselves.

  • No one comes to the funeral, and I think everybody wants to be.

  • It's always been that way, but I think today with social media, people have the chance, and they have an infinite number of ways to be acknowledged, some very healthy, some not and then you could come very obsessive, I think, before it was repressed.

  • Now it's it's released.

  • But how it's been manifest is a little scary, if that makes sense, and the way that I interpret that is the fact that, you know, we started with the whole critical thinking.

  • And when I talk about this whole, you know, relevancy.

  • Now that everybody almost has its own platform to make a lot of noise.

  • And there's so many signals coming in, the capacity to listen has diminished so much more today than before.

  • Absolutely.

  • And so a big process to acknowledge here is that as opposed to being swarmed or overwhelmed by this noise that's happening all around you.

  • To be able to critically think you need to take a step back and really be in a position where you start listening and when you do that, you're able to actually extract a lot more information.

  • You're able to see things from different perspective and not just be following the herds that are just constantly making the ways to profound on a very, very powerful realization building on it.

  • And if you'll allow me, if you want, I won't do it But if you allow me, I will give you a life lesson that I learned in the nd and the wonderful, wonderful outcome.

  • By the way, everyone's got to realize all of life is input outcome and put out if you don't recognize that there's all these forces elements.

  • Uh, I'm having a little bit of a nadie de moment, but it's probably worth it because there's a point of recognition that will help people in their lives.

  • And you have all these wonderful, wonderful content that will help them harness this.

  • But you have to realize that in life, in my opinion, and I've observed an awful lot of being a critical thinker, I'm being an empirical thinker on being historic thinkers, on being somebody who's looked at a lot of lot of elements of life.

  • Business, careers, humanity, everything.

  • 2% of what happens to us in our lives are acts of God or the equivalent things.

  • We have no control of horrible things, uh, just just terrible things, whether it birth defects or whether they're, you know, devastating hurricanes and things.

  • And that's tragic.

  • 98% of the result of things we do or don't do decisions we make her don't make factors, forces elements in life that exists in our immutable, that we either recognize an artist or opt not to recognize them.

  • Let whipsaw.

  • So the first thing is, we have control.

  • We have free will if we want it.

  • Now Back to what you said.

  • You talked about critical thinking and stepping back.

  • There's a another level.

  • If you want to be a great critical thinker, it's deep, concentrated thinking, and that's hard to do because most of us it's painful.

  • We've never experienced going deep on a.

  • It's easy to start going deep, and it's like anything you've never done before.

  • Go back.

  • Uh, you don't have Children yet.

  • I have a lot of Children.

  • And if you think of anybody who's ever had Children, when they first start to walk, talk, uh, eat, drink, poop, right, a bike, they're terrible.

  • And it failed, and it feels uncomfortable.

  • If you ever decide you said you run.

  • I'm unless you were very gifted the first time you put on your your, uh, Adidas or your Nikes and you went out.

  • If you ran 25 miles and you were not winded, I would be very surprised.

  • You probably ran half a mile, and you probably felt like you know what, and your muscles probably felt terrible the next.

  • But you prevailed when it comes to critical thinking, consequential thinking, understanding, relevancy.

  • It's a process that you have to.

  • You have to embrace and evolve, and you're not gonna be very good at it, and it's going to seem either stupid or painful.

  • But the deeper you go in trying to understand what's all happening here, what not just with my life, me, me, me.

  • But what are all the implications?

  • How's all this interacting with everybody and you see where all the dots are and you can connect them.

  • It elevates your your comprehension of life, the situation, your career business, your power, your ethical power and the source of it and the force that it can positively impact.

  • That a lovely you can't believe what I was going to say is something.

  • If you allow me, I need to pre empt that.

  • We're talking about relevancy, but I believe I had a very profound something happened to me in my life.

  • It usually touches people, and I share it very sincerely.

  • I started when I was 18 got married, had kids very young.

  • I told you that.

  • So I'm now my shoulder.

  • I've had three midlife crises.

  • When it 41 51 in 60.

  • I'm older than 60 now.

  • The 1st 2 I'd go to a therapist and I tried to talk through trying to understand what the hell happened.

  • Could make a lot of money.

  • Didn't make me happy.

  • I, uh, achieve things.

  • I wanted to make me happy.

  • A business partner that I hadn't really recognized was a sociopath would devastate me.

  • And I feel violated when I had every chance of recognizing and I just abdicated.

  • Talk about critical thinking.

  • It's all you great.

  • I'm gonna just basically trust you implicitly and I could protect myself.

  • And every time I get into something right on the precipice of a breakthrough that there's this would say 55 minutes are up, will complete it next week.

  • So I'm maintaining their driving out meaning of my life and having to wait.

  • So the last time I went through when I bought the therapist for an entire week for five full days, eight hours and my deal was I'll come when I have time.

  • And if not, I will send grace.

  • People would never go.

  • There was really fun because a lot of people my life who needed it but would never seek it on their own because it was paid for.

  • They go.

  • But when I went, I made a profound life shift in realization, and it changed this concept of critical thinking, everything that flowed from it.

  • I was explaining to this this therapist, all the the frustrations and and disappointments and all the issues that didn't didn't produce the outcomes and the feelings I wanted.

  • And he made a very profound and very, very amazing inside, he said, The vast majority of people in life, our end product Or they think if they make a $1,000,000 if they get the fastest growing company, if they have the most muscle by most brilliant, beautiful wife, the biggest house, the most toys, that's going to really be the definitive change in the the, uh the transformative event in their life.

  • Like the heavens we're gonna open.

  • The Angels are going to sing near Van is gonna trickle down.

  • Everything's gonna be okay.

  • Doesn't happen.

  • Nothing's gonna happen, except for that the level of of complexity is going to multiply, he said.

  • If your end product or energy never be fulfilled.

  • But if you're if you're process or unit, you realize that this conversation is as good as it gets.

  • Then you're gonna have a joyous life by appreciating and celebrating every interaction.

  • And then he said something else.

  • There's nobody around.

  • There's no one who's unimportant now.

  • I took that and it transformed my life.

  • I do a lot of stuff in Malaya and that Malaysia and age and you're there and we have a protocol and it's changed my life.

  • We go there and I get Uh and your members are probably going to castigate because I like to drink and I drink a lot of great wine on great airplanes because I get to go first class.

  • So the first day I get to Asia, I'm let's say not of 100% of my intellectual capacity, so I hydrate and sleep.

  • The next day I go down to the lobby and I sit and smile at everybody to smile back and in Asia.

  • That's a great accomplishment that I got in the elevator and I face inward, not outward, and smiled to people going bad day fighting.

  • Then I get off the elevator every every floor and talked to all the the servers about really meaningful things, and you can see their body language changed because they're acknowledged.

  • And when you start realizing one of the things I'm coming 3 60 or 1 80 whatever it is back to critical thinking, it stems and flows from acknowledging the relevancy of every human being that you interact with in your life.

  • Above be belittle you.

  • Everyone's got value.

  • Everyone has has importance.

  • Everyone needs to feel that you appreciate them.

  • And when you do that, everything multiplies in in terms of the success of your life, the fulfillment of a life.

  • And now I am getting a little bit wildly rogue.

  • But hopefully that has value.

  • Actually, it's it's fascinating because I actually see a tie and perfectly because we talked about one of the first things to do.

  • To be better at critical thinking is to look at people with in different positions within your company, also in different industries, and the book that I referenced beginning your book about you know, 21 strategies to really grow a business and to make a bigger impact.

  • You talk about people in every single roll, have something to teach and its ties to relevancy because you realize that you can talk to somebody in customer support and they're gonna give you some of the best insights on possibly howto do better your role.

  • And again, it's a question of listening, seeing that there is relevance in absolutely every single person.

  • And every conversation you have is going to be something that allows you to have a bigger, better depth in the way that you think.

  • And so I think it's phenomenal.

  • It's well, I've been blessed in my life, and when I was young, I was not threatening and I was fascinated.

  • So a lot of very, very much brighter and and worldly people took me under their wings and they doled out a lot of brilliant insight, knowledge, wisdom and I ate it up and I just had a thirst sport.

  • One of the things that I learned early and it's it's denominated.

  • I think a lot of my success and I tried urge everyone to recognize this.

  • The first thing you need to do in all aspects of your life is slow down and tried to examine, evaluate, uh, understand.

  • Recognize how everyone else sees life because that is their reality.

  • And you're dealing with it in everything you do.

  • Then you need to see what their hopes, their dreams, their values are.

  • You need to acknowledge to them that you recognize that and you respect that.

  • Whether you you agree with them or not, You got me.

  • This is hilarious.

  • Uh, if I used to do a seminar experience and I'll tell you this, but it's about the fact that no two people are ever having the same experience at the same time.

  • I don't care if you're married to somebody in your in an absolute alignment.

  • You're totally having different experiences all the time.

  • But in business, even words are differently.

  • Interpreted.

  • I used to do very, very large simmers, and once I had the trust and I had the, uh, the appreciation of the audience doing I was gonna widely unknown are predictable things.

  • About halfway through the second day of a three day, I would come in purposely late, and I would say this and it's not meant to be, uh, discriminatory.

  • It was just meant to be experimental.

  • I would say I'm so sorry I'm late.

  • But I just saw the most stunning and magnificent woman I think I've ever seen in my life.

  • And I was captivated.

  • I would say nothing else, and I go on for two hours.

  • Then I'd come back to remember what I said.

  • That I want to know what came to mind and had randomly interview and solicit the impression of 20 or 30 men and women.

  • To some, it was Crash Lee anatomically denominator.

  • To some, it was, uh it was it was more hair or ethnicity to summit was style and dressed to a lot of women.

  • It was, you know how, how fashionable or how sophisticated.

  • But almost no two people have the same perception definition.

  • If you want to own ethically and and meaningfully the mind share of others, you have to appreciate what their reality is.

  • If that makes its assault comes around a critical thinking.

  • I think that you and I are having the same values, the same goals, the same interpretation.

  • If I owned the business and you work for me, I'm playing a game that I think is about me and I want to respect you.

  • But I pay you.

  • I'll give you time off on vacation.

  • I understand that you basically have hopes and dreams and problems and fears and needs, and I'm not mindful of that and respectful of that.

  • And don't make you feel that you're part of this and don't acknowledge you.

  • And then I This is related to perfect.

  • Really, It's not a d.

  • D.

  • I do a lot of work where people will say, Jason, I can't hire good people and I'll say that is such a crock.

  • There's one of two things is critical thinking.

  • You either won't hire the best and cry only once when you have to agree to pay them.

  • Or you won't hire trainable people and investment training and things like listening like Consul Tate of selling like leadership like Trust Building.

  • Because there are so many people out there that are thirsty to be made better and most people's interpretation.

  • This is another fallacy.

  • Critical thinking.

  • If you ask 100 small business owners, do you train your people?

  • They'll all say yes, but their interpretation is they train them into process of the business.

  • They trained him in their product line.

  • They trained him in their their pricing schedule.

  • They don't train him and howto deal with people that don't treat him and had it have a listen.

  • Then I'll treat any of the soft skills, and you guys know that soft skills have been they've been.

  • They've been proven by research by data to improve the success, the effect, the connection of of actions and people buy hundreds of percent.

  • I don't if I'm getting into too much, but this all reconnect to critical thing because you don't think about these factors.

  • You can't art is them.

  • If you don't hardest them, you remind me, and I'm older than you and probably many of your people.

  • But when Mad Magazine was at its peak, they had a character called Alfred E.

  • Neuman.

  • He was this.

  • This it is looking guy whose motto was, What?

  • Me worry you were about any because he didn't care.

  • But everything else is happening whether you acknowledge it or not.

  • As we're talking, life is going on.

  • One of the greatest things that can happen to somebody who lives in a vacuum is to travel outside your comfort zone.

  • That could mean mean.

  • I get people, I say, Why don't you wanna have fun?

  • Why don't you study things?

  • You're not interested in what we used to do?

  • Seminars.

  • We would go when there used to be bookstores.

  • And we buy all these out of print books, but his clothes out books on on, um, nonfiction subjects.

  • We buy all these magazines and we'd say, Jason, what is your what?

  • Your What is your army, Jason?

  • Uh, well, right now, I'm very active in health and fitness.

  • Okay, so I would give you a book on maybe cake making or or rich gourmet cooking.

  • Somebody was the total antithesis.

  • And I would send you up to the room for two hours to read if it was a book.

  • Two chapters, if it was a magazine to articles and come back.

  • And it's something profound that you gained that.

  • Honestly, you never thought about that had relevance either directly or indirectly adaptable to your life.

  • And we have people do this for everything.

  • It was amazing.

  • I try to get people to travel outside there.

  • They're very limited vertical comforts on.

  • We call it a funnel vision.

  • First tunnel vision, I say to people, and I was going to say to you, When I go to a gym, this is sort of a little tangential.

  • You see these whole lives, these whole cultures, to see all these millions of people going on.

  • And you don't think there's always stuff going on.

  • We're sitting here, you know, I was on the phone last time.

  • I do things for Vietnam and there was there.

  • Always people doing things.

  • One's got a business where they import products and sell them all over the world.

  • One's gotta.

  • They sell lubricants to manufacturing factories all over Asia.

  • All this stuff's going on, and we're sitting here thinking we're so important and limited.

  • The more you grasp the expanse of what's happening in your world, the more powerful you are.

  • But you have to expand yourself to discover it.

  • You have to be curious enough to transcend what's comfortable.

  • I don't know that all makes sense or not.

  • I'm probably giving you a headache, but not at all.

  • Actually, I find it just when you speak of this, it makes me realize, like, wow, there's so much that most people don't know they don't know, and I think that's probably the problem around critical thinking.

  • Well, I tried to get people I'm saying yes, and he acknowledges.

  • So you know that I heard what you're saying.

  • I'm gonna build on it, and that's important.

  • That acknowledges, I believe it's very important for people to force themselves to constantly evolve.

  • An evolution could be determined.

  • You can define a bunch of ways to me.

  • I mean, make it a point.

  • You have friends in lots of different fields, asked them, Interview them.

  • Socratic Lee say, Tell me about your job.

  • You know what you do?

  • Don't.

  • Your company does.

  • Tell me how you do it about that the elements of your of your department and learn about that because the more you can layer if you think about, um, Kevlar, you know what?

  • Kevlar is protective.

  • Yeah, it's bulletproof vest.

  • It's a bunch of different crisscross layers of a poly material that that makes you bulletproof and more.

  • You could make yourself bulletproof by knowledge and understanding and comprehension of not just a few things going on, but a lot of things going on in life.

  • The more you can basically control what happens.

  • The more.

  • You have the ability to be a great critical thinking.

  • You can't be a great critical thinker.

  • If the scope of your understanding like this the more you like that.

  • The mawr insightful, the more comprehensive the Maur.

  • Um, the more scenario probable.

  • And there's scenarios always going on.

  • And if you understand, we're all a bunch of scenarios, don't you think?

  • Absolutely.

  • And actually, I want you to expand on something that you touched on already.

  • Okay?

  • And this is basically how most people are operating in a tunnel vision.

  • But you speak of the funnel of, Yes.

  • Can you speak more about that?

  • So people were grasped how to take action on that?

  • Yeah.

  • So if you look at a life and you look at any variations of your personal life, your career, your business, it's it's limited very, very much to that which, you know, and that which, you know, is limited to the experiences you've had.

  • Most people have been in one or two field, so they their knowledge is based on the the element that they have experienced in that field.

  • And if you're just a worker, I don't mean that demeaning.

  • But if you're working in one department, you've done that all your life.

  • That's really all you understand.

  • That's why a lot of attorneys air dangerous because of theoretical, but not really done it.

  • Yeah, I've been on the front lines of of of capitalism, so they're looking at things theoretically.

  • But if you only have a few experiences or a few understandings to process or or use as as filaments that you weave into the fabric of your understanding, you are limited.

  • So the more you forced yourself to expand.

  • If you're in May, uses two ways.

  • If you're in an industry in your business owner on entrepreneur professional, first thing you want to do is is observe what other people in the same industry do differently.

  • Then you want to see related industries and see what they do differ Nearly.

  • Then you want to see people, and totally I'm related businesses.

  • I learned it's hilarious when we go to do a seminar overseas, I make it a point that most people in an industry default toe one way of generating business, and I make it a point.

  • I say OK, how do you feel in this room?

  • The majority of your business is generated by sales people stand up so 20%.

  • How many online?

  • Working 15%.

  • How many trade you?

  • 15% stand up.

  • But I mean, this is analogy.

  • It's not just the entrepreneurs, but didn't aspect your life.

  • Uh, work him out, have people stand up, come back to work about me and say OK and go on And I do eat different things.

  • They'll say Okay, well, why is it that their whole business is driven by word of mouth and you don't even use the word amount?

  • They're all business is different, driven by, you know, by trade shows.

  • And you know, do Trey ges.

  • These people are doing it by webinars.

  • But those were all additives you can add, Tiu the you know, to the expanse of value build your business Now the same analogy is a pro is appropriate for you how you build your life whether your career, whether it's personal, the Maur you expand your understanding of all that is going on in your world.

  • The more powerful you are, the more interesting you are, the more interesting, by the way, uh, clinically not brash, arrogant route.

  • I am probably one of the most interesting people you'll ever meet.

  • I could be on an airplane in first class and somebody who doesn't want to even deal with me.

  • By the time we're done on the flight, I have to respectfully ask them to stop talking so I can go back to my work because I can engage them and asked so many interesting questions that no one's ever asked them about them.

  • Not about me.

  • I got a great story that I could tell you if you want to hear it, please.

  • So one of the defining experiences of my life happened many years ago in Australia.

  • Do the big seminar, and at the time I was the biggest seminar giver in the in the genre in the world, and we were going to a straight into three seminars in in a row, each one.

  • We're doing $2 million a piece, which was a lot of money back that, and we were doing five and $25,000 seminars when everybody was doing 500.

  • I'm giving you the context because I was big shit.

  • Excuse my vulgarian big shit and I flew in.

  • My family was very tired and went to bed.

  • I couldn't sleep.

  • It went up to the concierge level and start sitting down and drinking.

  • Curvaceous used to like embassy.

  • That's not good, but I'm just telling it contextually.

  • It applies to the story.

  • So I am in this concierge's room and there's one other man.

  • So I go over to him and I engage him in conversation.

  • Now I was in Australia to conduct the three most expensive and profitable seminars ever conducted

you can't be a great critical thinker or consequential thinker or reciprocal thinker until you start thinking outside yourself.

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