Let's Ah, let's film outside.

I thought, it's coffee time and though sometimes it's really annoying, you know, we may be out on a road trip.

It may be very busy.

There may be a meeting or something, but once it hits 3 p.m. I gotta have my coffee.

And that's just how it's gonna be from here on out.

I don't miss coffee time for anything or anybody.

Now I'm a very cool men.

And you may be wondering, Well, why am I so cool?

How come I'm cooler than you?

And you know, you don't often see some for engineers as cool as me.

Now, why is that?

You know, we've all seen apples last WWDC commercial that was highly disrespectful for suffer engineers treating them like some kind of strange animal people who are uncultured, not fashionable, just scruffy little 30 animals who you can feed red Bull and pizza.

And that used to be me.

I used to crave Red Bull and pizza and all you had to do was give me that stuff and I could sit down and code at the hack a thon for many hours at the time, while everybody else might be out enjoying the night's fancy dinner at a French restaurant.

Me, I would be back in the computer lab just working on my code, eating my pizza Now.

I could have easily continued on this path, and unfortunately, many engineers never get off this track.

They stay on culture, and then I see as they get to their late twenties, late thirties.

They remain like that, and they never developed culture.

They never developed refinement, and they never see that light of success.

You know, the tech is a power that must be controlled responsibly, and it can overcome you if you are not careful.

A lot of new practitioners, they lose themselves in that process, they forget who they are.

They lose their humanity, and this can lead them to being single and lonely for the rest of their life.

So there's this image that software engineers need to be a certain way, you know, they need to be hunched over.

They need to be like, really scruff.

Aled, maybe have a beard, and the way they behave needs to be very arrogant, not very sociable.

Maybe talking a certain strange drug on the way.

Now, how did I get off of this track?

Well, is very simple.

Back in college, I had applied for this ridiculous internship at Microsoft one summer.

And during that same summer, my brother decided to go study abroad in Japan.

So I decided to apply to, and I would say to myself, What depends which I get If I get the Microsoft interview, I'm gonna do that.

Otherwise, I'm going to do this study abroad thing in Japan.

I don't know what else I'm gonna do in December.

And luckily for me, actually, I didn't get the Microsoft internship.

Okay, What?

The next best thing I'm gonna do is I'm gonna go study abroad in Japan.

And what I found this day for me was allowed me to change my identity yourself.

Identity is something that I think is really holding you back in ways that you don't necessarily understand.

When I went off to study in Japan, I could reinvent myself.

Nobody could say who I was going to be.

No one had any preconceived notions of what happened, person.

I was and nobody even knew that I was a software engineer back then.

I was the biggest nerd that you could imagine.

You know, I was extremely geeky.

I didn't care about fashion.

I didn't exercise all that much.

I just didn't care about anything except the tech.

And when I went to Japan for me, I found that it was a land of coach, er a fashion and culture.

And most of all, it was a brand new environment for me to re invite myself.

This ability to reinvent yourself, I think, is a very key thing.

And unbeknownst to you, a lot of factors are holding you back from realizing your full of self.

Generally, that's going to be the people around you who are reinforcing the notion of who you are, what your limitations are, what type of person you are.

For me.

When I decided to go off their brand new country, I could completely redefined.

Why was I could say, You know what?

I'm going to be a healthy person.

I'm gonna be a cool, healthy guy, and I could just make that happen, and nobody would be there to say, Oh, Patrick, I know you.

What are you doing?

Why are you exercising?

That's not you.

That's weird.

Why don't you just sit down and you know, another burrito?

The same thing.

By the way it happened to me when I went from high school to college up through high school, I over a lot.

Every day I would drink one Coca Cola and I would eat a cup new, though maybe a frozen pizza, a can of chili, something like that.

And I would get overweight.

Yeah, I just didn't care.

My life was not really in the country off my hands.

I felt that other people were reinforcing the idea of who I was when I went to college.

I decide that you want it's time to get my life in order.

I'm gonna get the unsorted and I'm going to start exercising.

And from then on, I began exercising on the consistent basis.

In my first year of college.

I must have lost, like, £20.

So this brings us back to the topic of programmers.

Love suffering.

Junior's may be viewed themselves as nerds as geeks, and then the industry and society will view you this way too.

So it's very easy to find to this trap and the key to realizes it doesn't have to be this way.

Part of what I'm trying to do is set a new role model for what suffer Engineers might look like what they may be doing.

You've seen that I put out some videos where I'm traveling, doing really cool things, selling scuba diving and overall, being just, well, culture.

So next time you're in the project may be in the start up and people say, Well, let's just get some coke and pizza And then we can continue working.

Push back on that.

Say no, no, I don't drink coke and I don't eat pizza, Okay?

I want wine and French food.

Let them know that you're more culture than that and that you expect to be treated as such.

Now I know that you may be thinking what I like pizza and I like coke.

The truth is, everybody does.

You know, I'll never forget this funding research.

I read where they would have a bunch of monkeys, and every time a monkey tried to grab like a banana, if the monkey would get shocked and then you have a brand new monkey, go into the cage and then it's gonna go try and grab the banana.

And on the other monkeys would try to stop it and I think was like, even if the banana was not rigged to shock anymore, the other monk.

Anyway, the point of this research was to show that animals are jealous and they will stop others from achieving higher status than day.

And so what you need to realize is a lot of people around you will pull you down so that you stay at the same level as they do and you know, for me and I know a number of people other, maybe you're living with your parents, and that's fine.

That's great.

And you're saving a lot of money.

I'm living at home myself, too.

But you need to be careful that your parents will always look at you like a child, and they would treat you as such.

And because of that, it may be difficult for you to grow higher than that.

And you just need to be aware of that and make sure that you know what you're doing.

Like I like, I know what I'm doing.

And I make sure that I set my own course in life.

Um like I know what I'm doing.

I'm like, for example, I know what I'm doing.

Part of why I value is having a lot of time.

Living at home gets me more time because other people would do certain tasks and chores for me.

I don't have to take care of yard work.

I don't have to paint the house.

I don't have to repair it.

Other people will help manage that.

I get some more time.

That's the trade off I'm willing to make.

And then when you didn't need to keep in mind, though, is that the piers around you, not just your family, but also your friends and co workers will maintain a certain identity of you.

And they can be very difficult for you to break out of that.

For example, if you're known as a very shy person and then one day you go out and you're really outgoing and friendly and social, Well, that's gonna be pretty strange, isn't it?

And people will start questioning you.

And so then people would say what was going on with Patrick today?

Why is he so friendly?

I know he's not that friendly of a person that's a very strange thing to be doing now.

That said, I wouldn't just go off and start traveling because the funny thing is, I don't really recommend long term travel all that much.

You know, if you've never done that, then yeah, maybe you should do it once or twice.

But the issue with traveling is it creates a false sense of productivity for you.

You're trying to find out where the good restaurants are, where the clothing shop is were to go to buy toothbrushes, all that this is necessary and useful things to be doing.

But at the same time, it's work that you've created for yourself.

There's a lot of time that's being lost.

I think the key is sometimes as yourself where you want to be, where you are now and what's stopping you from getting to that point.

And if it's people yourself your environment, then you may need to think, Well, maybe you need to change something about the people that you hang out with.

Maybe your environment change the way you think about yourself.

It's funny that every time I live in the U.

S and Silicon Valley, I find that my sense of fashion deteriorates very quickly.

You know, it's just very difficult to act cool around here.

And even though I'm pretty cool now, when I'm abroad, I'm 10 times cooler than I am now.

And I've got a really cool haircuts.

Then when I come back to Silicon Valley for a while, I was still putting Joan my hair.

When I came back here, I was still trying to dress nicely.

Now they overtime, though that sort of just began to wear off.

People started thinking I was silly doing that.

I felt silly doing some of this stuff.

And, yeah, some of my cultural fashion sense has just evolved a little bit from their own.

Now let me know what you guys think, given the like and subscribe, and I will see you next time.

Bye.