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  • I

  • Started that I started the beginning of the class

  • three months ago talking to you about

  • What it what the problem was that I was trying to address?

  • and

  • The fundamental problem was the problem of belief systems

  • and

  • the issue is was

  • what precisely constitutes a belief system and

  • Then a secondary question was why are people so inclined to

  • even engage in conflict to Maintain and Expand their belief systems

  • and then maybe a sub question of that and is there an alternative to conflict with regards to belief systems and

  • then the last issue

  • Was something like well. Is there a way of judging the relative quality of belief systems?

  • And so those are all very very complicated questions, I

  • mean the first one is something like

  • How is it possible to understand the structures by which we orient ourselves in the world the second one is something like

  • What's the pSychological significance?

  • Precisely of those systems. What role does it play in?

  • psychological health and maybe also in Social health

  • the next one is

  • can you make a [non] [relativistic] case when you assess an array of different value systems and

  • then link to that is is it possible to

  • hierarchically organized value systems in

  • The manner that's justifiable, so that something can be reasonably considered in

  • a superior or subordinate position

  • now the last question

  • Drew my attention because because of the implications of the first set and the last

  • question drew my attention because I

  • Was trying to sort out the metaphysics in some sense of the cold war?

  • the question was was this just a battleground between

  • two hypothetically equally

  • appropriate belief systems which would could be a morally immoral relativistic perspective right it's belief systems are arbitrary and

  • So combat between them is in some sense inevitable and even more to the point there isn't any other way

  • around the

  • discontinuity in some sense other than

  • combat or

  • subordination because there's no way of

  • adjudicating a

  • Victor because there's no such thing as victory if there's no way of ranking value systems. It's arbitrary

  • As a frightening prospect because it means that if you have a value system, and I have a value system

  • And they're different and they're different

  • [I] mean we can talk or you can subordinate yourself, or I could do the same

  • But there's also no [reason] why we shouldn't just engage in Flat-out

  • Conflict

  • now it's complicated in the modern world obviously by the fact that conflict can become so

  • [untraveled] that it risks destroying everything and that doesn't seem necessarily to be in anyone's best interest unless

  • Your interest haps happens to be in destroying everything and certainly there are no shortage of people whose interests tilt in that direction

  • Alright, so the first question was well. What does it mean to have a belief [system] and

  • That's a very complicated problem, and I think

  • It's a subset of the question of being

  • Maybe you can break the question of being into two

  • domains

  • Which we've done in this class, and you could say well, you can assess being

  • From the perspective of what exists and then you can assess being from the perspective of how?

  • You ought to act?

  • so it's like you walk into a room and you can describe the furniture or

  • You can determine how your going to conduct yourself in the room

  • Maybe it's the difference between a play and the stage setting for a play now

  • the Modernist

  • Perspectives Roughly speaking is that the fundamental reality is to be found in the description of the furniture?

  • So to speak in the description of what is that's the scientific?

  • process

  • [and] the scientific process seems to involve

  • the stripping off of the subjective

  • from perception and to some degree from action and

  • the extraction of the commonalities across

  • perception as a means of

  • delineating the Nature of reality

  • Now obviously that's a [very] powerful

  • process, and it has many advantages, but exactly what it is that

  • science is doing is not precisely clear one perspective might be is that

  • we are

  • genuinely

  • Discovering the Nature of objective reality [and] perhaps even the nature of reality itself

  • but

  • There are some problems with that perspective

  • one of them being that

  • The scientific process seems to strip the subjective from the phenomena. It does that technically right?

  • I mean you have [a] hypothesis about what something is and you have a hypothesis about what something is and you have [a]

  • hypothesis [about] some [what] something is and we undertake a number of procedures to assess what the

  • Fundamental phenomena is and then we look across our perceptual set and we extract out the commonalities

  • And we dispense with everything that is superfluous everything that's merely subjective

  • So what you feel about the chair is not relevant to the objective existence of the chair and so it

  • eradicate subjectivity, and that's a very useful process because it does seem to enable us to

  • Grasp reality in a fundamental sense more profoundly, but it leaves the subjective behind and maybe that's a problem

  • Because it annoys okay, okay? Thank you. [what] [if] I just didn't alright appreciate it, so

  • so then the issue might [be] well is something you retrieve ibly lost if you dispense with this objective and and

  • also, how

  • Deep a hole do you dig when you dispense with this objective?

  • and

  • I think that that's

  • intrinsically

  • associated with the

  • Problem of the relationship between is [an] [dot]

  • because

  • That's an old

  • Philosophical conundrum, I think first put forth by D. David hume

  • Who made the claim that?

  • No matter how much you know about something from an empirical perspective?

  • You cannot use that as an unerring guide to action in relationship to that?

  • To that empirical object or set of empirical objects and people it's a tricky [issue]. You know because obviously you can use empirical

  • information to inform your decisions

  • But I think

  • But the problem is is that there's multiple pathways of action that are implied by any set of data that seems to be the fundamental

  • Problem, it's something like that. Is that you can't draw a one-To-one

  • Specification between the empirical district description and what you should do about that and like maybe an [example] is

  • But you can gather a lot of information about aids

  • and you can gather a lot of information about cancer and you can gather a lot of information about educational outcomes and

  • Economic outcomes and so forth but it isn't obvious. How you then use that?

  • empirical information

  • For example how to guide policy decisions because you might say well, how much money should we spend on education?

  • compared to cancer prevention and how much money should be spent on cancer prevention compared to curing aids and or

  • Addressing disease in the third-world country what happens is that the set of variables that you?

  • Encounter while trying to make your empirical calculation get to be so massive so rapidly that there doesn't seem to be any

  • Logical way of linking them to a behavioral outcome now. It's kind of associated with the postmodern conundrum as well

  • Which is well if you have a set of data, and it could be a literary work without better

  • There's a very large number of interpretations that you can derive from [that] set of data

  • And there's no simple way of deciding which one is going to be canonical

  • and so it isn't it I think the reason that you can't derive a naught from an is is because you run into something like

  • Combinatorial explosion it's like you have an infinite [number] of facts at your disposal

  • Roughly speaking and then another infinite number of ways that you can organize those facts and that

  • massive array of facts and and

  • [Andrey] categorized facts doesn't tell you what to do in a given situation

  • and so maybe the question of what to do in a given situation is a different domain of question and

  • I believe that to be the [case]. I think it was Stephen Jay gould who talked about religion and science as

  • - I think he called them different

  • Magisterium to different fundamental domains that and that each had their realm of operation and one was the

  • description of the objective world obviously that's on the scientific end and the other was the realm of ethics and so you could put

  • Religion Mythology narrative the humanities all of that history even for that matter to some degree into the into the

  • ethics

  • Category and

  • because I don't see a

  • [straightforward] way of

  • Taking a set of facts and then transforming them into a behavioral compulsion

  • then I do think that these two [things] are reasonably regarded as overlapping and

  • intrinsically

  • associated but

  • But technically and philosophically

  • separable

  • [alright], so then then the next question emerges well if they're separable if there has to be a

  • domain of inquiry into the structure of [values]

  • What might that look like?

  • like how is it that you would understand the

  • psychological and sociological

  • phenomena that are associated with a Moral stance

  • [Howhow] would you understand the details of that and then even more to the point is there any way of

  • subjecting different sets of ethical interpretation to

  • Testing so that you can judge their comparative validity because that's sort of the way out of Moral relativism

  • Roughly speaking. It's like

  • First you make the proposition that there are value structures and that they're independent from empirical investigation

  • and then the next is that you investigate the possibility that you can compare and contrast different structures of ethics and

  • Draw some sort of conclusion. That's not merely arbitrary

  • Now it might be turtles all the way down. That's how the old joke goes right, but

  • But maybe not then I was interested in that again because I thought well are we fighting the cold war

  • merely because we're having an argument or

  • is

  • there some

  • Manner in which one of these systems can be just determined to be wrong and of course

  • There was more weight behind that query

  • because

  • The soviet system and the maoist system and and the system. That's in place in North Korea

  • were not only

  • Predicated on different assumptions than in the western system, but they were also extraordinarily murderous and so that seemed to add additional

  • Weight [to] the to the sequence of questions

  • so

  • I was reading young at the time and young was carl young was

  • fundamentally I would say a psychologist of narrative of story and

  • and

  • He he outlined this

  • He outlined the idea for me that

  • people inhabited Stories Roughly speaking

  • He said actually they inhabited myths and even more to the point whether they knew it or not

  • They inhabited archetypal myths or even that they were possessed by them

  • And so it was the first time I'd really come into contact with the idea directly put that

  • there was a direct relationship between the

  • structures that you use to orient yourself in the world and

  • stories, and so then I started to

  • assess

  • the fundamental elements of stories what what - story looked like and

  • while I was doing that that was informed by a number of other things that I was reading about including a

  • set of I

  • Read the Neuroscience literature with regards to information processing fairly extensively

  • And that introduced me [into] a whole set of other ideas including cybernetic ideas which have been incorporated into what I was

  • describing to you, and this basic cybernetic system is a

  • system [that] has [a] starting point in a system that [has] an [endpoint] and

  • A system that has a subsystem that monitors progress or deviation from progress

  • Along the pathway to the endpoint, and I thought well [that] looks a lot like a story

  • Or a map that's another way of thinking about it, and I thought okay

  • Well that's where the overlap is and the fundamental story is something like it's very [straightforward]. It's

  • it's also the frame that you inhabit when you conceptualize the world and narrow and

  • Narrow and simplify the world which you have to do because it's so complex because you have this infinite number of facts that

  • Are laying around you well so what are you doing? Well? You're a mobile creature a living creature not a static information processor and

  • You're targeted you're a targeted creature, and otherwise you wouldn't move

  • Right to move is to be a targeted creature because you have to move towards something or away from something so the targeting is built

  • Right into the fact that you're a mobile creature, and then you might say well

  • What do you target [and] answer to that is well, you target?

  • Target you could say you target what you aim for but?

  • Then you could say well you you aim for what you want you target your desires

  • And then that leads you into a discussion of the underlying neurobiology essentially you bring to the table a set of inbuilt

  • desires and

  • the targets that you pick

  • Have to address the fact that those desires exist and the desires are actually grounded in Necessity

  • and this is this is a sidebar, but this is where I think piaget theory is weaker than it should be because

  • piaget and you know I'm a great admirer of piaget believed that the

  • Human infant came into the world with a fairly primordial set of reflexes mostly sensory motor reflexes and then bootstrapped

  • Him or herself up on the basis of those reflexes in the sociological in

  • the Social Surroundings

  • Viewpoint [that] the child comes in with a few basic elements that can get it going

  • elements of exploration and memory essentially and then it builds itself

  • Of the consequence of its exploration in the social community now. I think that's true except that

  • It's too empty because what it fails to

  • take into [consideration] is the fact that and

  • I think this is this is an observation in some sense philosophically that was first made by immanuel, Kant when he criticized pure reason

  • so that

  • You can't come into the world structureless you have to come into the world with an inbuilt structure

  • And then it's the interaction of [that] structure with the world

  • That provides the information that you can use to build yourself, but the structure has to be there

  • And I would say that's the sameness logically speaking as the idea that the [great] [father] is always there, right?

  • There's the great mother is always there. That's Chaos itself the great father is always there that's order

  • That's the interpretive structure that you use to interact with the Chaos and then of course the individual is always there at the same time

  • that piaget in some sense ree-ree

  • told that story

  • except

  • He didn't

  • give enough credence to the fact that the infant comes into the world far [more] fully formed than

  • his theory

  • His theory presumes now the problem see that the problem with that is [that]

  • Without that additional underlying set of let's call them neurobiological constraints the interpretation universe gets too large you

  • [need] constraints to narrow

  • The domain of phenomena that you're contending with and and it's in the analysis of the constraints that the answer to

  • How do you stop drowning in an infinite number of Potential interpretations emerges?

  • The interpretations are subject to constraints

  • And that's also the way out of the Moral relativist

  • Paradox as far as I can tell now one of the things I really liked about Piaget was that

  • He describes some of the constraints one of the constraints was is well

  • if I'm going to exist in a social world

  • And I'm going [to] because I won't exist at all if I don't exist in a social world

  • then there are constraints on the way that I have to interact with other people and

  • Piaget is essential point was I have to organize myself

  • To play a joint game with you

  • But the Joint game has constraints and one of them is you have to want to play?

  • Because you have other options [and] then there are other constraints

  • You and I have to be able to play in a way that other people don't object to or maybe even that you and I

  • Have to play in a way that other people

  • will be

  • look support

  • and then you can imagine another constraint which is

  • You and I have to play a game in a way that other [people] would support that will last more than the moment

  • So it has it has to work today and tomorrow and next week it has to work across the span [of] times it has [to]

  • Work not only for you

  • And I but it has to work for our future [cells] and so the damn constraints are starting to pile up

  • That's just on the socio-Cultural side that's on the constructionist side only

  • But there's about the biological constraints are equally important because not only does the [game] that you and I have to play

  • Have to satisfy those

  • emergent

  • sociological constraints, but the game also has to be organized so that the internal polity that

  • that's composed of

  • Let's call them the fundamental motivational and emotional systems that make that

  • Constitute us. They have to all find satisfaction because otherwise the system grounds halt [and] so

  • This seems to me to be the beginnings of an answer to the postmodern conundrum looks like okay?

  • Any set of facts is amenable to an infinite [number] of interpretations fine got it

  • That makes deriving and is from an [Oauth2] very difficult endeavor right no problem. [all] right, but that

  • Doesn't mean that any old solution will work

  • why well first of all it's merely because we introduced work into the

  • Conversation to begin with the interpretation has to be functional and again. That's what it seems

  • That's what seems to tie. It back to the story. This is also

  • what got me interested in pragmatism, technically speaking and so because if if

  • your conundrum is here you are and there you have to be and

  • How to get there then one of the constraints on the Manner in which you interpret the world is

  • When you apply your interpretation

  • Do you end up moving from the point you're at to the point you want to be and if the answer that is no?

  • Then the solution is insufficient now. You could call the solution untrue, but I it's dangerous, too

  • to introduce the truth

  • Falsity Dilemma because because it isn't its functionality more its functionality more than truth although

  • I think you could say that in the final analysis truth

  • Is integrally linked to function?

  • But I'm not going to touch that question for the time being the point is is that

  • your interpretation of the world carries within it implicitly a theory about its own validity and the

  • Theory about its own validity is that if you enacted in the world it will produce the result that you

  • Desire and then the consequence of that is [that] if it doesn't produce the result that you desire then it isn't good enough theory

  • period and that's how you grapple with

  • The fact that although you don't know everything you still have to orient yourself in the world

  • You lay out partial theories that make partial predictions, and if they do a good enough job

  • Then you don't worry about it [any] more and you go on to the next thing, okay?

  • So then you think there's a lot of constraints piling up on your interpretations number one

  • They have to work for [the] creature that you are and so you know we can lay it sort of like maslow's hierarchy of needs

  • something like that's not exactly the same because I don't [think] [that] he got the hierarchy right for for very complex reasons, but it's it's

  • reasonably obvious to to

  • Observe that well you're not going to work out very well if you don't have anything to eat

  • And you know you've got about a week in you if you don't have anything to drink and obviously you need shelter

  • And you know you need you need companionship and by need what I mean is that if you don't have these things then you die

  • The whole game comes to a halt [so] we can ground that in?

  • Self-evident reality without any real problem, and you might say well, what's the list of human necessities and that that's that's a difficult thing to

  • parameterize

  • Because you can argue about the degree to which something is necessary, but there's some things that we know about

  • Well, we covered the basics

  • Temperature regulation elimination food intake shelter right, but then there's more subtle things like well

  • children for example died without touch

  • So there's there's something integral about

  • Tactile interaction with other people so we could call that love if you want to do that. It's not optional

  • Right play is the same thing

  • children do not develop properly

  • unless they play and

  • I would say that adults also can't maintain their mental health or physical health unless they play, [too]

  • And so you can say well, there's a core set of necessities, and then off of that. There's a secondary set of like

  • What would you call them their own ultimate necessities?

  • But they're pretty hot they're going to be pretty highly valued by people and more or less universally pain avoidance for example under most circumstances

  • [most] people don't really like to be in terror most people really don't like to be disgusted

  • You know you can lay out the basic emotions

  • You can lay out the basic motivations

  • And you can say well the [game] that you're going to play has to operate within a space

  • That's defined by that set of a priori constraints fine now things are getting [pretty] constrained here

  • so they had the game you play house to satisfy that set of

  • biological demands

  • Intrinsic biological demands and it has to be something that you can utilize with other people

  • Voluntarily and it has to be something that will [be] playable across multiple iterations, and I would say

  • there's a very limited number of

  • Interpretive interpretive structures that are going to satisfy all of those preconditions simultaneously, and to me that just blows out

  • The two things it blows out the claims of Moral relativism, and it it it also

  • Demolishes and this is the same thing in some sense it demolishes this ideas that the manner in which people

  • Organize themselves in the world as individuals and in societies is somehow

  • arbitrary

  • doesn't look to me to be arbitrary at all and

  • So in ampere days genius. I think in some part was observing that in children spontaneously in that when children

  • passed the egocentric phase which means after they're about two years of old old, [they're] maybe [they're]

  • What they're approaching three years old they've more or less got their internal mechanisms organized so that there are

  • unitary being

  • Roughly speaking at

  • Three they start to develop the ability to use fictional frames of reference

  • So and that's an interesting thing because I would say that the fundamental

  • biological systems come armed with their own frame of reference, so [if] you're hungry

  • Poof up comes [a] frame of reference [and] within that

  • Your perceptions are shaped the action proclivities are are

  • primed and

  • The world lays itself out around that particular

  • Biological Necessity and you can lay those out same if you're thirsty same if you're too

  • Hot same if you want to play all those systems come

  • built in but then the problem with that is that

  • they compete because it isn't obvious which one should take priority and then

  • It's not that easy to organize them in a social space

  • [and] so what seems to have happened to human beings is that we've been able to replace

  • the frame that's

  • predicated on

  • motivational necessity with abstracted frames that are more voluntary voluntarily constructed that

  • Incorporate multiple motivational systems simultaneously

  • And that's in some [sense]

  • That's also what it's the same thing as we learned how to think abstractly

  • and so the frame

  • that you're going to lay out on the world if it's a good frame is one that solves a whole set of problems at the

  • same time and

  • so that

  • [and] you can slot different frames you can you can experiment with [different] frames?

  • and that's a

  • Precondition to being able to play because one of the things that piaget pointed out you can see this when children pretend play. It's like

  • Four and even more clearly in games that have rules, but let's say they're there in pretend play, and they're going to say well

  • We're going to lay out a little fictional schema here

  • We're going to play house

  • And you can be the cat and all be the I'll be the dad and then you negotiate a bit to see if those rules

  • Are acceptable and then you run it as a simulation, and that's what kids are doing when they're playing and they're experimenting with different

  • Superordinate frames of reference that are active all in the world, and they're in there

  • they're [learning] how to develop those perceptual schemes and also how to

  • Interact in a manner that allows the scheme that they're using to find its social acceptability and its successful

  • the child

  • assumes that

  • the Scheme is successful if

  • both children have fun while they're doing it and

  • So that's the volunteerism and so piaget made a very interesting point about that that I think is [absolutely] brilliant. He said that

  • there's a difference between a game that people will play voluntarily and

  • One that has to be enforced and so then you can imagine an environment

  • Where game a is played voluntarily it has a certain end and game b

  • is played by Force but both of them are moving towards the same end and

  • Piaget his claim was the game that's played voluntarily or even more to the point the set of all games that are played

  • Voluntarily will out-Compete the set of all games that are played by Force if they're put head-to-head in a competitive environment

  • [I] thought God that's such a brilliant observation because there you have the basis for a pragmatic grounding of

  • For the evaluation of ethics. It's like

  • You can pick the Target. It doesn't matter whatever Target

  • You pick if the game is voluntary and aimed at the target it will defeat a game. That's imposed by Tyranny now

  • It's a proposition, but it's a pretty good proposition

  • and I would say there's a fair bit of evidence for this proposition and a fair bit of it is actually derived from

  • observation of animal Behavior because I ran you guys through the emerging literature on the stability say of Chimpanzee hierarchies and the

  • Chimpanzee tyrant

  • Hierarchy isn't very stable and the reason for that is that to subordinate chimps who are?

  • 3/4 as strong as the dominant tyrant can take them out and they do and so then the question might be well

  • How do you have to conduct yourself as a high dominance chimp if you're not going to be torn apart by those who are?

  • Hypothetically your subordinates and the answer to that is well. Don't be too much of a

  • Tyrant

  • formulate some social connections engage in some

  • reciprocity with regards to your social relationships

  • Don't oppress the females don't torment the children

  • It said ETC because that makes you unpopular

  • And then you'll get torn to shreds and so there are

  • practical limits on the expression of Tyranny that are a consequence both of biological limitations because people are going to

  • object if the system is set up so [that] their fundamental needs are met and they're also going to object if

  • The game that's being played isn't functioning socially and so this is very very tight set of constraints

  • And then the question might be okay if you take that set of constraints

  • What sort of systems can operate?

  • What would you say well?

  • Just that what set of systems can operate within those sets of constraints?

  • Then you might say if you take that the set of all systems that might operate within those constraints

  • And you look at what's common across them then you could extract out what's essentially a universal morality

  • It's something like that and I

  • Don't see how that proposition is precisely questionable. It seems to me [that] all of that's built on rock like there's no [doubt] that

  • Infants bring biological necessity to the table. I think that's fully established and it's established

  • Physiologically, it's established

  • behaviorally

  • it's established with regards to evolutionary history because we can take the

  • Motivational systems that are part and parcel of our being and we can trace their development back in some cases half a billion years

  • so

  • So the idea that the the infant is a blank slate when it's born and that's subject to infinite

  • Sociological manipulation is a it's a dead in the water. That's just not the case

  • So okay, so far. So we've got that nailed down

  • hard and then the idea that

  • Your identity is also shaped

  • Sociologically well I don't think anybody disputes that it doesn't matter where they are on the interpretative framework they might

  • dispute the degree to which [that] occurs and the mechanisms by which it occurs, but

  • The fact that it occurs. That's

  • That's close enough to self evidence so we can just leave it there

  • well then the question is what are the consequences of the

  • sociological of

  • socio of socialization and

  • Once you admit the nifty

  • existence of the realm of biological necessity you instantly put a set of constraints on

  • How societies can structure themselves so that they will not be?

  • torn down and overthrown

  • Well that if you look at. How kids are socialized. I think that psAys developmental observations are Bi and Bi correct

  • The first two years it's mostly interactions between the infant and the parents

  • It's it's bi-directional though

  • Because the infant has to come to terms with the mother but the mother also has to come to terms with the infant

  • So it's not even top-down at the level of infant maternal relationship

  • Quite the contrary and if you watch a new mother adapt to a baby

  • you can see that the mother is doing as much out apt ation to the baby as the baby is to the mother because the

  • Infant has this inbuilt character already and has to be

  • Charmed into a relationship that's love does that and and attention

  • it's very little different than establishing a relationship with someone who's older it's it's lower resolution and

  • It's harder to make the observations because of course the infant is only capable of behavioral display

  • [can't] can't speak but nonetheless the necessity for establishing the individual relationship

  • Is there to begin with so even in the early stages of the infant's realization the process isn't?

  • State downward it's not great farther down work. It's

  • Mutual and then of Course by the time the child is old enough to be launched out into [the] social world

  • Then all the constraints that are associated with the playground are immediately placed on that child and that's a very unforgiving landscape

  • right because the last thing a child wants really the last thing a child wants is not to have any friends or

  • even perhaps equally seriously not to have a best friend [I]

  • Read something so idiotic the other day that I couldn't believe it. So the newest prince

  • So [queen] [Elizabeth's] I guess great grandchild is off to daycare in in the uk and in this daycare

  • They don't let the kids have best friends because that's unfair [I] thought you know

  • Something times you see something that's so stupid. You can't even believe it it

  • Exists, and that was one of those examples because it's been known for quite a long time that one of the developmental Milestones

  • the children attained somewhere between say the age of five and ten is they pick a best friend and

  • So they and and you know the hypothesis well that's unfair to all the other children

  • It's like well first of all you can't be the best friend to everyone because you didn't

  • Maybe there's a billion children so each of them gets one second

  • It's like that's just not a very deep relationship. So the idea that you can be equally friendly with everyone is

  • It's a preposterous, but even worse the thing is the thing [that] the child is doing is actually becoming

  • there they're stepping out of their egocentricity because their best friend becomes more important than they are and that's a precursor for

  • Adult relationships where you know if you're married?

  • [well] your your partner should be at least as important as you are and the relationship should be more important

  • But then when you have children, it's like they're more important than you [that] that's that

  • It's unless there's something wrong with you. You come second and your children come first and their way first

  • They're not just a little buddy. You're necessary because without you. They're not going to manage

  • So you have to take care of yourself?

  • But you're not number one [anymore] once you have kids unless

  • Seriously unless you didn't learn the lessons in the playground and when you have a best friend. You're not number one. They are and so

  • So anyways there are these constraints that Emerge in in the social landscape

  • you have to have friends and also you have to single someone out as particularly unique among those friends and establish a

  • Genuinely reciprocal and caring relationship. I can't remember the psychiatrist who studied this so intently

  • unfortunately

  • He was the first person [to] to do a detailed analysis of the best friend relationships that children

  • established and I'd like to give him credit for his ideas, but unfortunately I can't remember his name, so

  • Okay, so what are the propositions so far?

  • You inhabit a structure the [dorian] [Cu] in the world it has something. That's akin to a narrative structure. [I'm] here

  • [I'm] going there, and this is the [way] I did it its narrative if you describe it

  • It's based in biological necessity, but it's shaped by Social

  • socialization and the fact of that

  • Base and that shaping means that the set of interpretive schema that you can lay out in the world are bounded

  • Those would be functional

  • Hypothetically functional systems and maybe they compete over over the evolutionary time span

  • but there's something in common across that set of functional interpretations, and if you extract that out you can get the

  • Initial images of what you might describe as an archetype you never cilmi. That's what archetypes are

  • fundamentally

  • So and to say all that is no more than to say that people can extract across instances, and we can obviously do that

  • So then the question is can you start to develop an articulated picture of what that?

  • archetyPal

  • structure of universal morality might be and

  • so my answer [to] that was basically well let's look at old stories as many old stories as we can collect and

  • If their stories are stories that have survived for a very long period of time so much the better because it

  • [that]

  • indicates that they're acutely memorable and

  • Peculiarly functional because if they weren't memorable then they'd have been forgotten

  • and if they weren't functional they wouldn't have managed to be the foundation stories for four

  • Cultures that lasted for thousands or even tens of thousands of years

  • So and then we could say well

  • Let's collect a whole variety of these stories and see if there's patterns across them now the danger that is

  • Have you collected an unbiased set of stories danger number one how do you know that you're not just reading into the stories?

  • That's the postmodern problem

  • Reasonable reasonable objections and so that those objections have been laid

  • against people like

  • Wrote the Golden bough fraser who is the fraser who was one of the first?

  • Anthropologists to collect stories from all over the world and to start to look for commonalities the same

  • Objection has been laid at the feet of people like [Richie]. Le odd or carl jung or Joseph Campbell

  • it's like how do you know you just

  • How do you know you're not just cherry-picking your damn interpretations perfectly reasonable?

  • Perfectly reasonable objection, and I would say that the reason I [don't] believe that

  • I'm cherry-picking my interpretations is because I used a method and

  • it's a method that's akin to the Multi Trait Multi method method of

  • [construction] that that clinical psychology and other disciplines of psychology rely upon

  • But it's also akin to a process put forward by E.O Wilson that he called consilience the process is something like

  • Well pick your level of analysis

  • Does the phenomena manifest itself at that level of analysis? Yes?

  • Pick another level of analysis and another level of analysis and another level of analysis and see if the same phenomena

  • Manifests itself at every single level and then assume that the probability that that will happen by chance

  • Decreases with each additional level of analysis [that] fits that where this concordance, and I thought okay that that that makes sense

  • So it isn't only that you can look for patterns and stories because you know what if you're a hyperactive?

  • Pattern detector

  • Which basically means like there are people like that people who tilt towards Paranoia?

  • People who tilt towards conspiracy theories you can see it manifest itself in new age thinking all the time

  • Because new age thinkers are very high in openness

  • But not very good at critical thinking and so they see phenomena a and B and C and D

  • they think [Pad] then they think universal pattern but they don't attempt to

  • Disconfirm their pattern prediction and so what I tried to do when I was starting to see Patterns Emerge in the stories

  • Informed by people like dealing in a leotta and so forth was to see if what [they] were describing

  • Manifested itself at any other levels of analysis that [were] independent intellectually from that stream of thinking and I found it in two places

  • targeted cybernetics, and I found it in neuroscience and so

  • On and that that and the neuroscience element that includes the physiology

  • But also the behavioral analysis that was done by by people most particularly like like like Jeffrey Gray and and the animal

  • Experimental is who were brilliant Brilliant scientists, and who've done a very good job of laying out the manner in which

  • interpretive frameworks exist

  • Within the realm of animal cognition and and and to describe how they manifest themselves in the world, so [I] thought okay

  • That's not too bad because we've got maybe four different levels of evidence all pointing in the same Direction

  • So that's why I walk you guys through the neural psychology. It's like a story is you're going somewhere

  • You're somewhere, and you're going somewhere, and you're tracking your progress, [okay]?

  • That's the story well what what happens when you look at how people lay out their called cognitive maps well

  • It's the same thing you specify a target an endpoint. You specify a beginning point

  • Which is just where you are and then there's a mechanism a comparator mechanism that [operates] or multiple comparator mechanisms that operate?

  • Neural

  • Physiologically to orient yourself towards that goal and [the] emotions

  • Basically Emerge as a as a consequence of [that] positive emotions indicating that you're moving forward properly

  • Negative emotions indicating that you've encountered some kind of obstacle. It's like well. That's the basic. That's the basic

  • structure of a narrative, okay fine

  • So now we can see how its instantiated neural physiologically that adds a fair bit [of] credence to the to the entire

  • process

  • so

  • now normally when you look at the

  • Basic cybernetic work there's a hypothesis that the system is oriented towards a goal

  • And that it's comparing what is manifesting itself in the world to that desired end state as the system moves?

  • but it's too simple because

  • People don't precisely have gold

  • they have nested hierarchies of goals and

  • so

  • The issue of emotional regulation becomes more complex than are you proceeding happily towards your current goal

  • because your goal is composed of micro goals and it's a

  • Constituent element of a set of Macro goals and so that makes the problem of error Far more

  • Complex than it would be if you only had one frame of [reference]

  • [and] you were only adjudicating your error within that frame of reference the question starts to become

  • what does it mean when you make a mistake and

  • Answer to that

  • The Behavioral answer to that was well you encounter a stimuli

  • That's a threat or maybe a punishment or an incentive reward or a consumer [tori] reward something like that

  • It's very it's a it's a unit dimensional and oversimplified answer. I'm not complaining about it

  • Has great [utility] but there's the problem

  • there's a problem and the problem is it doesn't take into account the nested structure of this of your goal hierarchy and

  • What that means is that it underestimates the difficulty of responding to an error?

  • Because the problem with an error is that you don't know what the error signifies, and that's a huge problem

  • And that's part of what I want to delve into even in more depth today

  • And so this is like Ellis and the what in wonderland going down the rabbit hole it's exactly the same thing

  • That's the [hole] the rabbit hole is you made a mistake [right]? You made a mistake. You've got your

  • oversimplified

  • Representation of the World Laid upon it it validates itself in its execution [if] it executes properly if it executes

  • Improperly, [then] what does that signify and the answer isn't precisely that you've made a mistake

  • The answer is it

  • signifies that there's something in the world that you excluded that shouldn't have been excluded and that's a big problem because

  • when [you've] laid out a simplified

  • Schema on the world you've excluded virtually everything and so what that means is that as [soon] as you make an error

  • the search space for the error immediately tends towards the infinite and you experience that

  • It's part of it human

  • Existential experience and the way you experience that is especially if your mood is Shaky is

  • you lay [out] a small plan like maybe you go out for coffee with someone that you're romantically interested in and they're

  • There, they're not they're not pleasant to you and and so that's an error. It means well. What does it mean well?

  • You've construed yourself wrong. You've construed them wrong. You've construed the opposite sex wrong. You've construed human beings wrong

  • You're a walking catastrophe, [and] you might as well not even exist

  • It's like well, that's that's pretty extreme, but it's not that extreme

  • I'll tell you like it's not that uncommon for people to have exactly that set of catastrophic

  • Responses to even a minor Setback now. It's not good for them and I would say

  • you know just because you

  • Scraped your foot doesn't mean you should dig a grave and jump into [it] pull the dirt on on top of you. You know

  • So you don't want to start by taking yourself completely apart, but that doesn't mean people won't do it

  • They do it all the [time] in fact to me. It's always a mystery that they don't do it every single time

  • Because the logical inference for why didn't you get someone interested in?

  • You could easily be because you're a failure as a human being and at some level that's actually true now

  • It's all it's true in a way

  • That's not that helpful [right] because it's just too catastrophic

  • but it isn't obvious at all how people can defend themselves against that cascade of a

  • Kotak

  • Catastrophizing, [I] mean after all if you are everything you could be then maybe everyone would be attracted to you

  • I mean perhaps not but you get the point [and] no and no easy rationalization is going to let you just brush that away

  • Especially if you actually happen to be interested in the person because that's even worse because then not only are you rejected?

  • But you rejected [by] someone

  • Who's who upon whom you've projected an ideal or perhaps on?

  • From whom you've actually observed an ideal so it's worse you're you're rejected by someone that you want to have

  • Be [attractive] to you to validate your old miserable existence. It's a non-trivial problem

  • So you're in this protected space that I?

  • You know I made an analogy between that in the garden of eden

  • Or the city that buddha was raised it. It's all protected and everything inside it is beautiful and functional and

  • That's by definition because if your frame of reference is working properly

  • then what's within it is things you control that are functional and and and and

  • and they're serving your purposes, so

  • When you're successful

  • You're in the garden of Eden that's one way of [thinking] about it when the things that you're laying out in the world are delivering

  • What they're supposed to deliver

  • That's what you inhabit, but the problem is is that there's always a snake inside the garden

  • And it's that's the story that's echoed in the story of Buddha in that case

  • It's Buddha's own curiosity that happens to be the snake and you could actually say the same thing about human beings

  • Maybe it wasn't the snake maybe it was eve's curiosity

  • They're the same thing in some sense

  • And so it's Buddha's curiosity that drives them outside the city to find disease and death and to blow apart his

  • paradisal

  • conceptualization of the world and so

  • When we're looking at unit for universality

  • The first thing we might say is well you have a frame of reference that you've laid on the world

  • it's a story you live inside a story and

  • The second thing week it's and that's universally true the content of the story can differ. That's okay. I don't care about that

  • it's the structural equivalence that I'm interested in you live inside the story and you have to because

  • you have to live in something like that because you are [goal-directed] and you have to be and

  • You [have] to simplify the world because there you're just not

  • Enough of you to take into account everything at once in fact you can hardly take into account anything at once so you

  • [have] to narrow things unbelievably and

  • by narrowing

  • And including only certain things you exclude virtually everything else, so you're always in the problem in the situation

  • where you have this little bounded universe that you inhabit, but outside of it is Chaos itself and

  • And so that's the existential landscape order

  • surrounded by Chaos

  • Right it's like a tree. It's like the

  • The evolutionary home of primates the tree with the snakes on the ground

  • that's that's our landscape or it's the fire for tribal people and the terrors of the forest that are Beyond the

  • that would be on the

  • Light that the fire casts

  • It's explored territory versus unexplored territory

  • and that's that's an archetype as well that that you can't not be in a situation where that's the case even

  • [if] you're among friends, you know

  • You think that's explored territory. That's not exactly right because what happens if you're among friends is that

  • they

  • Carefully reveal new parts of themselves all the time, so it's like. They're blasting little

  • Elements of unexplored territory you territory at you constantly and if they don't then what happens

  • You get bored

  • And you look for new people

  • And we know there's empirical data on that with regards to intimate relationships because there was a nice study done a while back showing that

  • Looking at the ratio [of] positive to negative emotional experiences that were most predictive of long-term

  • relationship success and the answer was now obviously it depends on how you would measure an

  • event and how you would measure positive and negative emotion, but that aside the finding was something like

  • If you're in a relationship, and you only have five positive

  • Interactions [-] One negative interaction then the relationship will end. It's [too] negative, but if you have more than Eleven positive

  • Interactions - One negative interaction, then it also ends, and you think well

  • That's pretty bloody [acuter] what why in the world would that be don't you want like a hundred to one positive to [negative]?

  • interactions and answer that is what makes you think that you want a relationship so that you could be happy or

  • At least happy moment to moment. Why do you think that?

  • It's not it's certainly not the case as you [know] that - because

  • You I mean I bet you there's not a person in this room who hasn't rejected someone because they were too nice to them

  • Something like that [person's] no challenge. It's something like that

  • You want someone who you know you can get along with them, but now and then they bite you and you think oh?

  • That's that's interesting you know

  • I didn't really expect that and then you go and puzzle over it for a while, [and] you torture yourself about it

  • And that's one of the things that keeps you really linked [in] [to] the relationship and the reason for that is that

  • Part of the reason that you want the relationship isn't so that you're happy [right] now

  • [it's] so that you can live a high-quality life across multiple decades

  • And so you're looking for someone

  • [that] you have to contend with who's going to push you beyond what you already are and who's going to judge you harshly?

  • Often for your limitations [now] [that'll] make you angry and all about you. You know and resentful

  • And maybe you'll take your revenge and and all of that

  • But you don't want someone who thinks you're perfect in your current form partly because why would you want to go out with someone that?

  • deluded

  • so

  • okay, so

  • [you've] got this interpretive schema laid out on the world and

  • It excludes the entire world and because it excludes the world

  • the world tends to manifest itself inside that protected space on a in an uncontrollable manner and that

  • [can] take you down and it takes you down the rabbit hole and down the rabbit hole is where everything is because

  • when you make an error what that is is the manifestation of the excluded world and

  • The problem with that is that's too much

  • Right because if you step out of the lifeboat into the ocean then you drown, and that's that's not any good

  • You can't drown every time

  • Something manifests itself that you didn't expect

  • there has to be a mechanism for

  • Orienting you in the face of error

  • all right, so

  • What exactly does that imply the question is what do you discover when you go down the rabbit hole?

  • I was thinking about that [a] lot today. I

  • Showed you that diagram that I thought was like a map of the phenomenological world

  • The the lowest resolution Category is something like the dragon of Chaos and so you might say

  • Well what you discover when you make an error and the answer is

  • First it's a brief manifestation of the dragon of Chaos

  • and that's no more to say then when you encounter the incursion of

  • Unexplored territory into explored territory the circuitry you use is

  • the same circuits that we use to to

  • respond instantaneously to the presence of

  • Predatory Forces

  • We use that circuit and that makes perfect sense because the predator is almost by definition

  • The thing that lurks Beyond the safe confines of the community and I told you I believe a story about rats

  • raised in naturalistic environments

  • the Rats are

  • We've got the burrows on one end of the little field

  • That hierarchy they're doing their [little] rat social things they're playing and they're laughing and they're tickling each other and they're there you're you know

  • Raising the rat families, and that's all working out

  • Just fine rats in that situation by the way are very difficult to get addicted to cocaine

  • If you want to dick the rat to cocaine you have to put it in a cage and isolated

  • It's not really a rat any more than any more than you're a person if you're in solitary confinement, right?

  • I mean, you're sort you're mostly [your] just misery

  • Anyways in solitary confinement [you'd] be after cocaine non-stop and maybe under other circumstances

  • but like a normal [rat] it's not that interested in cocaine, so

  • Let's just decide

  • No

  • [anyways] the rats are doing their thing and then they've learned that they can go out to the other side of the field and they

  • can get food [and] so one day the

  • experimenters instead of putting food out there put a cat out there and

  • the rat goes out and gets a whiff of the cat which they do not like and then the rat runs home and

  • Pokes is because of the burrow and screams for like two days

  • Ultrasonic LI and all the other rats are like frozen stiff because of that

  • They're not going anywhere, and so a 2-day rat screaming V is no a trivial [thing]

  • That's be I calculated that be the equivalent of use

  • Screaming for two weeks, so you have to be pretty upset to scream for two weeks, right, so this is hard on the rat

  • But the reason I'm telling you this is the rat doesn't expect the cat to be there the rat goes out

  • And there's a cat and what it uses is its predator

  • Detection and alert systems to signify the presence of the cat and what we've done with the dragon imagery Roughly speaking is make an amalgam

  • Of predatory monsters and state that's a symbol for what lurks Beyond safety

  • because we're observing our own responses in some sense and

  • And it's not only that we're observing our own responses, but we also have a category

  • Categorical set of responses to Predator and we again

  • There's no speculation about this we already know this like if you go study monkeys for example they have

  • Distinct sets of vocalization [that] are associated with Predator Detection that have distinct circuits

  • We know that there are predator Detection circuits, and it's not unreasonable [to] also

  • Presuppose that they underlie the phenomena for example that human beings are [very] good at learning fear to snakes

  • Snake fear might be innate like that's pushing the argument but at minimum

  • Psychologists have already concluded that even if snake fear isn't innate and it probably is that it can be learned like that

  • So you can condition people to be afraid of pictures of snakes?

  • way faster than you can condition them to be afraid of pictures of electrical outlets or handguns, so

  • And that's well documented. I don't think anybody disputes that at all, so

  • the first

  • Assumption is when something unexpected

  • Emerges, so we'll call that the snake in the garden that

  • Your prey and that's a predator and that the monster has come to get you. It's something like that now the

  • Representation of the Dragon is more complex than mere Monster because the dragon the mythological

  • Dragon also is the thing that hoards Treasure, and I really like that symbol

  • I think it's I think that's also why it will never go away

  • It's such a great symbol because it says well the unknown can take you down

  • [it] can it can right you with its fiery breath like poisonous snake and it can burn things like fire

  • and it's a

  • aerial predator that can take you from the air and it's a carnivorous predator that can take you from the ground and [it's]

  • Reptilian it's the sort of thing that can pull you down into the water

  • And it's easy to see that as an amalgam of of the threats that have been

  • Laid Forth for Human beings since the beginning of time and

  • Monster is an amalgam of predator, and you might say well. There's no such thing as a dragon. It's like. Yes

  • There is it's just a loose category

  • What's common across all [predators] equals dragon?

  • It's not like it's a knot. They're not real. They're hyper real. They're more real than the phenomena themselves

  • Just like an abstraction can be more real than the phenomena the result and then the canonical dragon for human beings isn't just a predator

  • We're not rabbits

  • You can imagine that the dragon for a rabbit is just a dragon

  • There's no damn treasure there at all but for human beings its ambivalent because the thing that you don't know about is

  • Also, the thing that holds the greatest gift and why is that?

  • It's [because] the unrealized world manifests itself when you make an error and the unrealized world is something that can take you down

  • Obviously, but it's also the source of all new information

  • it's an infinite source of information, and that's a really useful thing [to] know error is an infinite source of information and

  • [that's] one of the things that can help you recalibrate the way that you interact

  • [with] the world you think well, we're interacting

  • let's say we're having a conversation and

  • It's flowing

  • Melodically and all of a sudden. [I] say something, and there's a disjunction right you're offended by it

  • There's some negative emotion that comes up or or

  • Or or you know maybe I've said something to impress you or to be arrogant, and you respond badly

  • It's like we've got this melodic thing going on

  • It's a consensual frame and something pokes itself up to put a disjunction in the conversation

  • It's like well, that's where the information is

  • It's like something went wrong something didn't work out

  • I'm not looking at the world properly or I don't know you well enough or as well as I thought there's something

  • There and if I have any sense, I'm going to focus my [attention] on that like not obsessively or anything like that

  • But where all the information is because as long as what we're doing is working then we both know enough already

  • As soon as what we're doing together

  • It'll working then that's instant evidence that there's something about us that needs to be updated and you might think [well]

  • [that's] a terrible thing and the answer is yes of course it is

  • It's a terrible thing

  • But it's also the thing and this is the next stage of the development of this let's call it universal morality. It's like

  • The universal morality might be found in the answer to the question. What should you do when you make a mistake now?

  • [one] answer is catastrophic dissolution. That's

  • that's a collapse into Chaos well, that's

  • No one is going to pick that voluntarily let's put it that way that's it unbelievably unpleasant terribly anxiety-Provoking

  • shameful and

  • painful all at the same time

  • Worse it can mean [the] absence of positive emotion because if you really collapse into Chaos not only are you overwhelmed by negative emotion?

  • but the positive emotion system shut off and that that's what happens to someone who's

  • Extraordinarily depressed and also hyper anxious at the same time not only are they suffering from an excess of negative emotion?

  • But they've got no incentive movement forward Whatsoever [okay], [so] that's not an optimal solution because it takes you out

  • The other possible and so I would call that a nihilistic solution or a chaotic solution

  • It's not a solution. It's a dissolution, and you could think about it as a precursor to a potential solution

  • But it's very easy to get stuck there

  • and that's why

  • [Jonah] could have stayed in the belly of the whale along with all the other people that were eaten by the whale and never got

  • Back out, and you see people like that all the time their error [has] come along blown out their frames of reference

  • they've collapsed into the underworld into the chaotic underworld and

  • They don't know how to get out they have post-traumatic stress disorder or they're depressed or they're hyper anxious or or

  • they're they're resentful and aggressive and destructive like there's any number of

  • states of being that can overwhelm you when the bottom has fallen out [of] your life, [so]

  • [it] isn't something that people are going to

  • It's not an optimal solution. Let's put it that way well [that] the other

  • That's a nihilistic solution a collapse

  • the other solution is

  • We're talking and I don't get what I want from you, and so I say you'd better not do that again

  • I don't want to see that from you again

  • and so that's a tyrannical attitude right what I'm going to do is I'm going to take my

  • universe of order and its predictions, and I'm going to say you go along with this or I'm going to punish you [and]

  • That's that's a no there is a an element in

  • Society Like Society is made up of

  • threats like that to some [degree]

  • It's an erratic level in

  • Erratic apart of Society that would be the tyrannical aspect of the Greek king let's say you know

  • We've organized a set of punishments and threats that keep each of us in alignment

  • however

  • Generally speaking in a society that's functional we've decided to adopt

  • Agreement with that set of principles more or less voluntarily?

  • We say well you have rights and responsibilities, and I have rights and responsibilities

  • And I'm willing to pay a price for yours including the acceptance of punishment if I transgress

  • But you're going to do the same for me. So there are there are

  • intelligent ways that punishment and threat can be used and bounded so

  • but it that could easily degenerate into Tyranny and one of the

  • methods that I can choose to [use] if I don't want to encounter error is just to enforce my will on everyone else and

  • I think when that happens

  • personally and in the family and in the community and in the state all at the same time

  • then you get the emergence of a Tyranny and

  • So I would consider those two counterproductive

  • Reactions to the emergence of the unrealized world. It's like you say something. I don't like I collapse completely

  • Children don't like other children who do that by the way right? It's something that's very interesting to [observe]

  • So let's say kids have organized themselves to play a little game of baseball with a plastic bat in a ball

  • And you know one child pitches and the other child hits the ball

  • The child Catches it and puts the puts the batter out and the batter bursts into tears

  • Well, what happens is the other kids you know the first time that happens they'll be sympathetic [the] third time that happens

  • They won't invite that kid out to play baseball anymore

  • so the answer to

  • We're not getting along is not you get to burst into tears and and and manifest extraordinary emotional distress because if you do that

  • no, one's going to want to play with you and

  • [that's] a lesson that many people could stand learning again one of the things. I think that's really destabilizing our society right [now]

  • Maybe is that I'm not sure [that]

  • Kids have been encouraged or allowed to play enough in the last

  • [2530] Years and I think a lot of this identity stuff is actually

  • Fantasy play, it's delayed fantasy play because it's sort of what you do when you're seven years old. It's like well

  • I'm going to be this identity

  • That's what you're doing when you pretend you're going to go along with that because we're going to play this out

  • It's like that's fine

  • You don't impose that though right not not if you're a kid that has a clue you invite people to play you don't insist on

  • Your identity and their compliance with it

  • It's not a playable game

  • and

  • You don't burst into tears and run off when [someone] won't play your game because then they won't play with you

  • And then you have to turn [to] force, and that's that's fine. If that's what you want to do, but you better look out because

  • You better be ready to use it

  • Those crazy me were some morality come to responses

  • insurance [applied] in [your] [city] and [will] [thank] [you] [buy] this if we can say

  • Researcher a is better than this structure being from a pragmatic perspective

  • Does it come with responses of making sure that people who are trapped perhaps the [treadle]?

  • restructuring

  • Somewhere else that we have a responsibility [against]

  • Good question. I mean that that's part of the question that that I in some sense

  • Motivated in some sense motivated the American incursion into Iraq

  • Right so what's our responsibility in relationship to tyranny that's a good question all of the increases of families are

  • Getting is for non processing about the situation of [human] and say solidarity yeah, you know

  • I think that's I [think] that criticism is more emerging because of because it's apparently

  • it's apparently paradoxical and they've laid out a set of principles to which in principle they they adhere and

  • One of those principles is to reduce the destructive power of the patriarchy it's like okay

  • There is some destructive Patriarchy for you radio silence. It's like hmM now

  • What am I supposed to do about that am I supposed to question your adherence to those principles?

  • Which is exactly what should be done, so I think it's a it's it's a criticism of performative contradiction

  • [you] say you're for this, but when it comes to acted out you don't selectively in this situation, so there's something wrong

  • There's something about your game that you're not being straight about that's the criticism, and maybe there's rejoinders to that you know

  • Well, okay, okay? Well

  • responsibility well you know then you'd have to look at different levels of

  • Analysis with regards to interactions. You definitely have a responsibility to your partner and

  • Your children okay, so your responsibility to your children as far as I'm concerned is

  • don't it's twofold one don't let your children do anything that makes you dislike them and

  • There's a corollary to that

  • which is don't be an idiot you know so that's partly why you need a partner because your partner has to tell you when your

  • Demands on your children are excessive because you're kind of you know you're not 100% oriented properly

  • but still you're their target adult and

  • So it's up to you to help them choose a path that makes you want them to be around right?

  • And that that's your critical responsibility, and hopefully you're enough of an an analog of the broader community

  • so that if they can figure out how to get along with you it radically increases the

  • Probability that they'll be able to get along with everyone so for example if you're playing with your children

  • two years old

  • You you help them you encourage them to play in a manner

  • That's fun

  • And if you get that down, then you know when you introduce them to another child don't know how to play in a manner

  • That's fun, and so great

  • You've solved the problem the problem is to get your child to enter into the collaborative social world, and so yes

  • You have a primary responsibility for that and then with regards to your partner. Here's something to think about

  • With regards to role so my wife and I have had this discussion many times and one of the discussions is well

  • How are we to treat each other in public?

  • And it isn't her name is Tammy the discussion isn't

  • How should Jordon treat Tammy in public or how should tammy treat Jordan that's not the discussion this isn't personal

  • It's how should a wife treat her husband, and how should a husband treat his wife

  • It's impersonal and it's partly you don't put your partner down in public

  • Why well it's not because you're hurting that person's feelings

  • That's not why it's that you're denigrating the relationship that you are in voluntarily

  • You know I've some of the most painful days. I've ever spent one in particular

  • I spent with a group of men who had been in therapy for their marriage and

  • who bloody well needed that I can tell you that and

  • They spent their whole day complaining about their wives. I could just made me sweat the whole day

  • I thought I can't believe I'm here with you guys that I

  • Can't tell you why I was it's just you know it was just happenstance more than anything

  • And I thought how can you be so damn dumb it's like

  • It's certainly possible that you marriage barbaric married Barbarian witches fine

  • You don't have you're so lacking in sense that you would discuss that in public not noticing that you picked them

  • So basically all you're doing is holding up a sign and waving it constantly that says I'm an idiot. I'm an idiot right and so

  • well

  • back to responsibility

  • You have a responsibility to those whom you love and are obligated to

  • To ensure that they manifest themselves in a manner that's most beneficial to them over the long run

  • Now you have the same responsibilities. I would say to yourself, but you'll have blind spots other people have to help you with that

  • But so the rule is you know you don't let you don't you help your wife figure out?

  • How not to make [a] fool [of] herself in public and she extends to you the same courtesy and it's partly

  • Maintenance of the sacred Nature of the relationship it has nothing to do with you or her precisely

  • It's broader and wider than that okay, so then that's two levels of responsibility child

  • partner next level of responsibility

  • You're asked at your workplace to go uncut to undergo unconscious bias retraining

  • You say yes, it's like okay

  • You've just admitted that you're a bigot right because you're acting about it's like

  • I'm a racist bigot obviously I need [to] be retrained and so you might say well

  • I'm not going to make a fuss about it right or I've been told to do it for maybe you agree with it fine and

  • If that if you agree with it, no problem, you can make a case for it

  • I [think] it's a weak and appalling case personally, but you can make a case [for] it

  • you could say well, you know why I'm interested in my

  • Biases and how to rectify them and like fair enough, you know people are biased

  • But if you object to it, and you don't say anything

  • then you're complicit and

  • then it's on you, and you know like a

  • Causes [B] and C and B causes C and D and so forth the thing tends does noise?

  • But it has this tendency to expand and you'll come home angry and upset and [you'll] go to the training program

  • And you'll think this is ridiculous because that is what you'll think in all likelihood, and you won't say anything

  • But it eats at you well

  • Gated your responsibility and so and then you might say well

  • So then then that's how the community becomes corrupt that's how the community starts to be corrupt is that people turn a blind eye to

  • Emergent Pathology when they know it's pathological. That's exactly what the egyptian story says

  • Osiris is

  • overcome by Seth

  • Because he's willfully blind

  • Willfully blind which means he knows?

  • But refuses to he knows quote his predator Detection systems have gone off

  • Monster well, then you're supposed to look okay? Exactly what sort of monster is this what doesn't have wings?

  • it doesn't have a tail you know you cut it down into the

  • You cut it from the monster that it could be into the monster that it is

  • That's the first step and then you take the appropriate steps and then you also notice the other monsters because here's something [to] think about

  • You're going to pay a price for speaking up

  • But you're going to pay a price for not speaking up

  • So it's like monsters on the right monsters on the left pick the ones you want to battle with if you decide not to

  • Make your stand

  • You weaken yourself if you do it a hundred times

  • Then even if the monster was only this big now

  • You're this big it's going to eat you you know when it was this big you probably could have kicked it across the room

  • It's too late for that you've capitulated and capitulated you know and so what what you've done?

  • And this is a way to think about it from a union perspective

  • This is what jung was trying to get [at] when he was talking about elka elka me. It's like the thing that pops up

  • to

  • object to you is

  • this incredibly complex

  • Entity it's it's the entire world encapsulated in the event

  • If you interact with it

  • You unpack it you differentiate your sense of the world and you and you you gather new skills, so for example

  • Let's say there's something going on at your workplace, and you need to object to it cuz it's driving you crazy

  • And you talk it over with your wife so that you've got your head screwed on straight say

  • Oh, I've got to say something and you go there, and you say something

  • And you know you're stumbling and awkward and all of that

  • But but you watch the response and maybe you get what you're aiming at. Maybe you don't but you've learned a bunch

  • You've learned while I noticed coherent as I could be I'm not as good at putting my arguments together

  • My boss is more of a son of a bitch than I that he thought it was this is a worse problem that I knew

  • about it's like

  • Differentiated differentiated so now the landscape is higher resolution and so are you?

  • Well so good

  • So maybe you're a little bit next

  • Better prepared the next time you have to do that and so the issue here to some degree is

  • Don't lose an opportunity to grapple with something that objects to you, especially when the object

  • Objection is rather small

  • Because that's something you can you say well, I can put up with it

  • It's like fair enough like you don't want to make everything into a war

  • I usually use a rule of three if we're interacting and you do something that I find disruptive. I'll note it

  • It's like potential dragon go on and I'll leave it be and then if you do it again. I think oh yeah

  • That probably wasn't merely

  • Situation but I'll leave it be because that's still not enough evidence, but if you do it a third [time], then I'll say hey

  • I just noticed this and you'll say no that didn't happen and I'll say yeah, not only did it happen

  • But it happened here, and it happened here, [and] I'm not making this up

  • So there's something going on here like I'm not ignoring it and we can get to the bottom of it

  • And then they'll come [up] with a bunch of objections about why that isn't necessary and you push those aside

  • [and] they'll come up with [a] few more objections, and they'll push those aside

  • And then usually they'll get mad or burst into tears and if you push that aside

  • Then you get to have a conversation

  • Right and then you can solve the problem

  • but man

  • it's you got to be a monster because first of all you need six arguments about why they're objections aren't going to stop you and

  • then you have to not be intimidated by the Anger and you have to not be swamped by compassion about the tears and

  • Then you can have a conversation and people don't do that

  • They won't do that

  • And so they don't solve the problems and so then the problems accrue

  • Right and if they accrue over 15 years of a relationship then that then they end up fat ugly and in divorce court

  • so and that's you know, that's not a

  • That's not a great outcome. It's an it's

  • Divorce Court and cancer are

  • similar in their in their seriousness, not always, but

  • But sufficiently often so when that error emerges it's a it's a glimmering

  • now

  • You know we talked a lot about the hierarchical structure of goals you know and so

  • Here's something

  • here's something to think about so

  • the thing that

  • Announces itself is error has a two-fold nature

  • That's because it's Chaos and order at the same time or it's because it's all the archetypal structures at the same time

  • It's dragon of Chaos. It's the great mother positive and negative. It's the great father positive and negative. It's the

  • Individual hero and adversary all of that manifests itself in the moment of error

  • Right the architects come forward did you make an error because you're a bad person?

  • Could be now so so one of the things to [think] about with regards to that is you know in the mesopotamian creation story?

  • when

  • When when time out comes flooding back. It's so interesting that story

  • You think about what she does?

  • So she's the archetype of error. Let's say the error that can take you out that can dissolve you in salt water

  • tears

  • Well, she's irritated because absolute was destroyed so that the structure is gone carelessness is destroyed the structure up comes time at she's not happy

  • What does she do she prepares a Phalanx of Monstrous Monsters?

  • It's exactly what the story says she produces a whole horde of monsters to come at you

  • and she [puts] king you at their head and

  • Kenya was the king of the Monsters and

  • Later so he's the ultimate bad guy he's satan for all intents and purposes in the mesopotamian version. It's out of him that

  • Marduk makes human beings out of his blood that marduk makes human beings. That's a critical issue man the mesopotamian said

  • Imagine the worst monster you can possibly imagine the king of all the monsters

  • That's the blood of human beings

  • Wow

  • So what does that mean?

  • Well it means that one of the terrible things that lurks

  • Let's say that you've been in a long-term

  • Relationship and it collapses let's say you were

  • You know you had a tendency towards alcoholism. You weren't so great with regards to your drug use [you]

  • [know] that conscientious, and you had like four or five kind of

  • low-rent affairs, and you know it

  • your marriage collapses bang

  • Well who do you first meet when you fall into Chaos?

  • You meet king of the monsters and he's you it's like. Why did my marriage fall apart?

  • [what] did I do wrong bang bang bang bang? [I] [did] all these things well? Why?

  • Because that thing inhabits me. What is it well? That's the most horrifying question

  • Well, that's why

  • So down there in the archetypal space all these things lurk

  • The hero and the adversary you've just met the adversary right well

  • Maybe your tyrant that's certainly possible. Maybe everything around you was chaotic. So what do you encounter when things fall apart you?

  • [encounter] the adversary you encounter the tyrant you encounter the catastrophe of nature and you encounter the dragon of the Chaos, and they're all intermingled

  • You have to sort that out. That's what happens to Ellis when she goes down the rabbit hole right she meets

  • the Red Queen

  • [and] the red queen is always running around

  • Off with their heads off with her heads and she says in my kingdom you have to run as fast as you can just to

  • Stay in the same place

  • right down the rabbit hole you meet the archetypes and

  • so

  • Okay, so back to [responsibilities] well one of the things solzhenitsyn detailed. We said well, how does societies. Go corrupt said it's easy

  • one Little sin at a time

  • You go to work someone's lording it over you you know that they're tyrannical?

  • You don't have the wherewithal to stand up. It's like okay

  • You're a slave

  • And so if you continue to agree [to] be a slave you will continue to generate tyrants

  • Right and the only thing that can stop you from doing that. I think is the right kind of terror. It's like careful

  • What you give up?

  • Because that's this [logos] okay, so so [alright]

  • that's this logos the logos is the thing that enables you to mediate between a

  • Between order and Chaos and maybe you have to have some faith in that it's like well

  • What should you do [if] someone is harassing you?

  • Well, you should fight back okay? What is that?

  • What's the most effective way to fight back well sometimes it's physical, but that's not necessarily for the best

  • Maybe it's through articulation

  • Maybe it's through analysis right you want to be sharp you want to be able to decompose a problem you want to be able to?

  • Formulate an argument and a counter response and maybe you want to be so good at that that people don't mess with you to begin

  • With and then you're a perfectly articulate counter monster, and you never have to take your sword out

  • That's that's the place that you want to be. It's like people should know

  • after three seconds of interacting with you that harassing you [would] be a seriously bad idea and then

  • You'll have a perfectly fine time with them

  • So and that's part of you know, so there's some utility in meeting the devil in the underworld

  • Right because maybe he's got something to teach you that's certainly possible that

  • [and] one of the things that you can be taught is that your

  • Normative morality which is basically your harmlessness and your naivety masquerading as virtue is

  • Completely insufficient to protect you in the world especially against the sorts of things [that] you're talking about which are tyrant tyranny

  • Tyrants will push until you push back. It's in their nature

  • They don't have internal controls

  • So they just push and push and push and push and push and push even kids do that like little kids

  • Do that all the time they'll just push you until they hit that wall they're actually quite

  • Happy when they hit a wall because the last thing a child wants is a universe without walls

  • It terrifies them right they want to see while I'm in a swimming pool. There's an edge

  • They don't want to see oh, no this isn't a swimming pool

  • This is [an] ocean [I'm] in the middle of an ocean I'm going to drown

  • That's a terrible thing for children. That's why they need discipline and structure because

  • It's consistency and predictability and routine and all the things that are extraordinarily

  • helpful to them okay, so now think of that hierarchy [that] we talked about so

  • You're not in a story. You're in nested stories

  • And the nested stories round themselves in action [in] actual embodied action, so if you're going to sit if you're going to be a good

  • partner maybe you help

  • Prepare the meals and to help prepare the meals means you pick up a plate with your hand

  • And you move it physically through space, and you put it on the table. That's where it stops being an abstraction

  • So at the bottom of an ethical

  • Hierarchy of value are

  • actions not things that's the scientific world, but actions and

  • then you can

  • label the actions with abstractions as you move up the hierarchy, so

  • You're good at setting the table so that means you're good at making dinner

  • so that means that you've got one element of good being a good partner [in] place and

  • being a good partner is one element of being a good person and so

  • You you're not so good at setting the table, and you say well. I'm [not] a good person. It's like well

  • No, you should go down [to] the higher resolution levels of the hierarchy and start there

  • and that's what you do when you're arguing with [people], but there's another thing that's really useful about conceptualizing the Hierarchy in this manner, so

  • So I think what we'll do is

  • We'll stop now [for] 10 minutes and all because I want to bring up this diagram because what I want to do next is

  • it's a bleak story at the moment because the story is something like

  • You're going to lay out oversimplifications in the world, and they're going to be prone to catastrophic error, and then you have to encounter

  • What's terrifying in order to Progress and so what that means is that progression is always dependent on terror something like that

  • And there's some truth [in] that and that's why people don't progress, but it's not a sufficient truth

  • And I want to unpack that when we come back, so let's come back in 10 minutes, and then I'll die can unpack that

  • There's this parable in the new testament [that] just came to mind

  • I'm going to mangle it a bit because it's not one that I have well memorized but

  • And I'm probably going to conflate two or three stories together, but I think I think [I've] got it, right

  • Christ is walking down the road and someone picks them up

  • the person is rich and

  • and

  • like well wealthy and

  • He has a talk they have a talk and the wealthy man, basically

  • tells him all the things that are wrong with his life and

  • then he asks him what he should do about it and

  • Chris says to him you have to give up everything you own and follow me

  • And that's often be read as a criticism of wealth

  • And that's actually not what the story means what the story means is this this guy has a lot of wealth

  • but he's still miserable and so that means that what he has is the

  • Obstacle to what he could be and so that's the message of the [story] is that if you're miserable with what you have then you?

  • have to let go of what you have so that maybe you could have something else and

  • And so and then there's some commentary on that story

  • I think other people are listening and they say well if that's the price to be paid then

  • no one is ever going to pay it, and I think that's where the

  • statement it is easier for a man to go through the eye of a needle for a camel to go through an eye of

  • The eye of a needle than for a rich man to [enter] paradise. [I] believe that's the derivation of that

  • Story and like I said that's been read as a critique of wealth, but it isn't it's a critique of attachment now

  • You know in the buddhist doctrine

  • one of the

  • impediments to enlightenment is attachment and

  • People read that as saying. Well you shouldn't care for anything in the world, and that's there's a nihilism

  • That's associated with that and not and there is a strong nihilistic tendency in buddhism that has to do with

  • Abandonment of the world do you see that in?

  • Christianity to some degree with people going off to lead ascetic lives and to you know it's part of multiple religious

  • traditions that idea of asceticism

  • and there's some utility in it if it is your attachment say to material things or status or whatever that's

  • Interfering with your pSychological progression now the idea is that you [should] let go of whatever it is that's interfering with your pSychological

  • Progression because no matter how valuable what it is. That's interfering is

  • It's not as valuable as what you're giving up

  • Okay, however the Criticism still stands and the Criticism was well

  • if the task is that difficult then no one's going to do it and

  • so in in

  • the Brothers karamazov, [there's] a famous story called the Grand inquisitor and

  • it's a story told by

  • Ivan karamasoff to his brother [Elia] and Ivan is a very

  • High-status

  • intelligent attractive

  • Tough minded

  • Soldier and

  • Alyosha is his younger brother and he's kind of softer and less rational

  • more

  • spiritual and

  • also training to be a no vitiate at the local monastery and Ivan likes to tear strips off it because he's a

  • cynic and an atheist and and and in Dostoyevsky's normal

  • Brilliant Manner he makes Ivan an incredibly powerful

  • articulate and

  • Admirable character, so when dostoyevsky wants to take someone on in his literary investigations

  • He doesn't take his enemy and turn him into some sort of weak

  • Puppet he takes his enemy and turns them into the strongest possible enemy he can imagine and then

  • Goes to battle against that it's a hallmark of Great literature

  • It's what distinguishes dusty sp for example from [Ain] Rand

  • Because what ain't rand does is she takes her she's a darling of the I would [say] libertarian, right?

  • She takes her enemies

  • And they're all the same first of all every single one of her negative characters is exactly the same as every other one

  • And they're all bad you know there's there's no redeeming qualities whatsoever in them

  • And they also I would say make their weak characters who make weak arguments

  • That's not the way to progress the way to progress is to take your enemy

  • Seriously and to even inflate them into something Beyond their [capacity] to inflate themselves

  • and then see if you can hammer out a solution to the genuine problem that's being posed anyway, so

  • Dusty else he does that brilliantly always and what makes him, so absolutely remarkable

  • But anyways, I even tells le Osha this story

  • He calls it the [grand] [inquisitor] and that in the story christ comes back to [Earth] in the Spanish inquisition

  • [and] he's he's out by a fountain and

  • People sort of notice him and he starts performing miracles and a big crowd Gathers around and it's like happy days. You know

  • But then the inquisitor shows up this old, you know harsh

  • Tyrannical guy and he has his guards arrest him [he] [throws] them in Prison and

  • so now christ is in prison and the

  • Inquisitor comes down and says to him while you're probably wondering why which are you in prison you know?

  • especially given that were the members [of] the you know were the representatives of the church that you hypothetically found it and and

  • christ remains silent through this entire episode and

  • the inquisitor basically says look you know you laid down this ethic that

  • it's wonderful, but it's

  • Superhuman no one can do it

  • It's asking way too much, and so you're you put the burden you put on people was just far too great

  • And so what we've done in the catholic church in the centuries since the church was founded is was lightened the load

  • we said well we take ordinary people and say well there here are some things you can do to be a little bit better and

  • You [know] we've instituted confession and repentance and all that we've kind of toned it down

  • So that the average person has some hope of progress

  • And we're making Headway and the last bloody thing we need around here is you coming back and like?

  • Screwing up all our all our good efforts is like. It was nice to have you around once but once was plenty man

  • We don't need you around anymore

  • and so christ listens to this doesn't say anything and then the inquisitor turns to leave and

  • Christ grabs him and kisses him on the lips and the inquisitor turns white and

  • Then leaves and when he leaves the door he leaves the door open

  • And that's the end of the story and it's an amazing story

  • It's an absolutely remarkable story in every possible way and and you know

  • Dostoevsky was objecting to some degree to the tyranny [of] the catholic church or even of the Christian church for that matter

  • But the thing that he did [that] was so damn brilliant is that he even made the inquisitor leave the door open

  • No, and as a [bellas] critique of Catholicism even during the inquisition. It's so brilliant

  • It's so emblematic of dostoyevsky's take on the world that he criticized the inquisitorial

  • Aspect of Christianity and of course, it's the tyrannical aspect of any belief system, but noted that they bloody well left the door open

  • Right so it's Brilliant. It's Brilliant

  • It's it's it's remarkable. So anyways the whole point that I'm making here. Is that there are terrible?

  • impediments to enlightenment and

  • the light is the impediments are the necessity of sacrifice and the necessity area of

  • Necessity of the Voluntary acceptance of suffering [I] mean you see that in buddhism

  • You know because one [of] the canons of [buddhist] one of the fundamental [principles] of buddhism

  • Is that life is suffering and that attachment makes it worse and well?

  • It isn't it isn't precisely attachment [its]

  • Attachment to things such that you cannot release the things when it's time to let them go [right] [so] like you're a Phoenix

  • You're [a] hundred years old your feathers. They're not working anymore, right? You're all wrinkly you're done

  • It's time to burst into flames and be reborn

  • but you don't want to burn off your feathers you want to cling to them and

  • That's not good because you have to be willing to undergo that

  • Transformation process and that involves

  • Like you know if you if you take your po self apart because you've made a mistake and you find out

  • What it is about you that's not?

  • Set up properly

  • And that's why the mistake occurred that's really going to happen for example when an intimate relationship breaks down

  • then you have to be in a position where you're willing to let

  • the

  • Errors that are part of your character that define you right they might even be part of your [identity] you have to let you have

  • To be willing to let them go you have to be willing to let them burn off and that's a hell of a thing to

  • Ask and so then the [question] might be well is there a less radical solution to the problem then then then?

  • Crucifixion and resurrection or the total emulation and regeneration because that's the archetypal

  • What's that's the archetypal end point that if you want to put your self together you have to die and be reborn?

  • [I] mean that in that motif comes up all the [time]

  • In in popular popular stories and in mythology and so they here's here's

  • How I think that problem can be?

  • resolved so

  • Let's go back to the Enochian Story momentarily

  • so what happens and that the pinocchio story to me [is] analogous in its structure to the sermon on the mount so I'm going to

  • make a

  • Parallel between those two things so basically what the [sermon] on the [mount] suggests is that?

  • you should

  • conceptualize the highest good that you're capable of conceptualizing and orient yourself towards that and

  • That having done that you [should] live in the moment

  • So it's not like you should live in the moment

  • It doesn't say [that] because that's often christ the hippie

  • You know so the hippies who have adopted that or that?

  • That's sort of that that element of Christianity say well

  • you live for the moment you know and and

  • And in meditation and other practices some of the attempt is to get you to live in the moment

  • But you know just to tell people to live in the moment

  • It's like what what the hell kind of advice is that what about the future? You know that is not helpful advice

  • Somebody comes to you, and they're suffering dreadfully because you know their mother has alzheimer's and they're unemployed well live in the moment

  • It's like that's just not helpful. It's it's and because it's even worse than that

  • It's judgmental you say well

  • the only reason you're suffering is because you haven't oriented yourself property to live in the moment like no you're suffering because your

  • Mother has alzheimer's and you don't have a job. It's like. It's not because you aren't living in the moment, so

  • Living in the moment isn't the right answer

  • The right answer is something more like orient yourself towards the highest good that you can imagine and then act in the moment

  • That's a whole different story now. That's what happens in the pinocchio story, basically what happens is that Geppetto?

  • sees the star beckoning in the distance

  • And he orient's himself towards the highest good he can imagine he wants to take this creation of his and so this is

  • Manifesting itself conceptually at multiple levels simultaneously because there's a there's a story about the destiny of humanity in relationship to God

  • Nested in the story. It's like take your

  • fallible creation your puppet and

  • Set [up] the pre. Set up the condition such that. It's capable of taking on full functional independence. It's something like that

  • So that's what you do if you're a good parent with your children. You don't protect them. You don't offer them safety

  • You don't do any of that except insofar as it's necessary to facilitate

  • their

  • Development as

  • Fully confident and courageous beings the purpose of the protection is only to allow that developmental process to to continue

  • So you you orient [Geppetto] orient's himself and so the farther orient's himself and then the son undertakes the voyage and so

  • [alright], so let's say that that's the case

  • you orient yourself first then you can start to rely on your

  • Then you can start to concentrate more on your orientation to the moment

  • now

  • I'm going to tell you another story. So you know I was just watching harry Potter the other day the first one and

  • I was watching the quidditch game

  • And the quidditch game is very interesting because there's a game and a meta game going on at the same time

  • So the game is just the standard quidditch game

  • It's kind of like basketball played on brooms right you have to throw balls through hoops and if you get enough points you win

  • But at the same time so there's the normal players

  • and then there's two seekers one from each team and the seekers aren't playing the same game the

  • Game is nested inside the seeker game actually because if you're a seeker, and you perform your task that everyone wins right you win

  • But everyone wins and so you're not even playing the normal game

  • You're playing the seeker game and the thing that that that

  • Harry Potter chases is this thing called the snitch and the snitch. This is one of the things that's I can't

  • I don't know how the hell Jk. Rowling figured this out

  • I cannot figure it out because that snitch is a winged ball right and there's there's actually a symbol of that winged Ball

  • Called the round Chaos which jung describes in his works on alchemy and his works on healthy are really really difficult

  • It's [not] [easy] to figure out what he's talking [about] at all, but the round Chaos which is a winged ball is

  • it's it's a manifest a of the spirit Mercury and Mercury is an emissary of the God, so you can think about mercury [uh] the

  • Unconscious manifesting itself in your in your field of experience something like that

  • In any case the the round Chaos is the container of the primordial

  • Material from which the world is made and I think about it like this

  • It's this thing

  • there, it's [that]

  • So when you encounter an anomaly an error?

  • It's a container. That's a way of conceptualizing it and what is it contained?

  • Well it contains in some sense it contains the whole world but but here's an example like look let's say

  • God let's say that you've had repeated fights with your wife about how

  • domestic duties are going to be arranged among around meal time and

  • you believe me you're going to have those fights and

  • So and so what's happening? Is that mealtimes are unpleasant because there's a war for power going on in the kitchen

  • right and

  • So then you think one day while you're going to you know?

  • note that and you're going to

  • Do an archeological investigation and find out just what the hell is going on and so you start?

  • unpacking the fact that mealtimes are not pleasant and

  • So what's in that little thing that you're unpacking that package well?

  • the entire power dynamic between men and women in the Modern world is inside [that] dispute and

  • you might find that part of the reason [that] your wife is upset about the way that mealtimes are arranged because is because

  • Her [grandmother] was beat by her grandfather

  • And that's playing a role in it played a role [in] determining her unconscious expectations

  • And that's pathologizing one of the day to day rituals in the house

  • and if you're going to unpack that you're going to have to unpack all of that into you take a

  • Little Monster, and you decompose it you find out it's a hydra

  • it's got 50 heads then you have to work through every single one of those it's really really difficult, so

  • It's a container that [contains] everything, but the thing is if you unpack it

  • Successfully let's say and you deal with it you go see eight a consensus

  • Then all of a sudden you get you get peace say around your mealtimes. Which is a major accomplishment

  • Man, because you have to eat three times a day

  • And it's the center of the household and all of them, so but the thing is is that

  • often

  • when you're especially in the context of an intimate relationship

  • Things will Emerge that produce discontinuities and the question is what should your attitude towards that discontinuity be?

  • Well you can punish the person for manifesting the discontinuity

  • That's the tyrannical aspect or you can let it take the whole thing apart and that will happen

  • I mean that's often how relationships end. Is that a discontinuity emerges and

  • People get into it and things go sideways so badly that the whole relationship descends into [Chaos] and people bail out of it

  • so it's no wonder that people want to ignore it and

  • It's also no wonder that. They want to tyrannize it. It's like quit bothering me with that well

  • Possibly, but probably not and also if my attitude towards you is quit bothering me with that your attitude towards me when I?

  • Have the same sort of problem in reverse. It's going to be exactly the same and so we're not going to get anywhere with it

  • All right

  • But that still is

  • painful now, let's go back to the

  • Quidditch issue now. Here's what happens is that?

  • harry Potter is picked to be the seeker so that means he is the seeker whatever he represents is the seeker [and]

  • He's an interesting character [because] he's touched by evil, and he's a rule breaker, and he's also kind of a normal kid

  • He's not [a] hyper intellect or anything like that. That's hermione's rule, right?

  • so he's normal but but super normal at the same time and he gets picked to be the seeker and and

  • Then you think about what is it he seeks, and he seeks this thing that glimmers rioted it flashes in front of him

  • It's made out of gold and it has wings and if he grabs it then he wins and so the question is

  • What does [that] represent?

  • Now it's interesting that when people watch that movie

  • They actually find that you know they think that that's kind of cool that it's a cool game

  • and

  • It is [a] cool game. She laid it out very nicely and the idea is that well

  • There's a game and if you play it normally you win the game

  • But in that game is a meta game and if you play that properly then not only do you win?

  • But everybody wins so then the next rule is the meta game supersedes the game and that's the same idea that

  • I'm chasing here with you today about this

  • Meta morality it's the it's the morality that emerges as a consequence of the analysis of a set of morality or it's the morality

  • It's the morality to which other all other morality should [be] subjugated that's another way of [thinking] about it, and [I] said well

  • That's a terrible thing because it involves painful sacrifice or maybe it involves confronting the thing you least want to confront

  • That's the union dictum right if your life, isn't all that

  • it should be then you should find out the thing that you least want to confront that you're avoiding and confront that and that's the

  • Easy to say but it's a terrible thing because it means you're going to have to turn your gaze [to] the place where you are

  • Weakest and most vulnerable that is asking a lot [of] people

  • so then you might say [well] is there an alternative and

  • I think there is an alternative, so this is the anomaly right this is the ball that contains everything

  • I think there is an alternative. I think it's associated with this idea, so

  • Imagine

  • Imagine we have a we could have a conflict if we were in a relationship

  • We could have a conflict that would blow the relationship apart all right

  • So we don't want to have that conflict and then we could have no conflict whatsoever

  • [which] means that you would never get to say what you wanted and I would never get to say what I wanted because

  • We're either

  • Identical which is just not happening or we're going to have conflict because you're going to want some things that I don't want and vice-versa

  • So if there's no conflict, we are not in a relationship

  • [all] right, so zero conflict is the wrong amount and conflict it destroys the [relationship] is the wrong amount and then you might say well

  • Okay, what's the optimal amount of conflict?

  • Well, so so so then we can think about how people respond emotionally

  • So let's say if you go after the person that you're arguing with and you say you're a bad person

  • And you really make that case [you're] bloody well [hammered] home you remember 50 things they've done that

  • We're bad and you lay them out like I'm going to stomp you

  • You're a bad person you really need to change okay?

  • Well first of all you're going to meet tremendous resistance

  • And that's like you've got the hydrogen you bring in a hydrogen bomb to the war right and maybe

  • Unless you want to destroy everything maybe that's not the most logical solution, but then by the same token

  • Everything is [alright], and we never have any conflict that's not helpful either, and you're going to get bored of that

  • And you're not going to develop and so then the [question] is well. Maybe there's some happy medium here

  • Maybe you want to be repairing this structure. You know the structure that goes from micro actions up to higher-order?

  • Conceptualizations, maybe you want to be updating that on a constant basis, and you want to update it in a manner that doesn't

  • Drop you into Chaos or place you in too much spaces

  • And then that answer is well how then then the question is how is it that you can calibrate?

  • your approach to error so that you get the benefits of doing it without the disadvantage of collapsing into Chaos and

  • then the issue the answer to that is something like

  • it's something like

  • Once you have decided to adopt

  • Responsibility for being and will say that what that means is that you have

  • conceptualized

  • A

  • Good that you're willing to devote yourself to and I think you you're perfectly welcome to do that on an individual basis

  • [I] think you should do it on an individual basis. You should consult with your ancestors [while] you're doing that because generally speaking

  • the route to

  • optimal

  • the route to to quality of Life and productivity

  • Has been laid [out] by other people we kind of know what the parameters are

  • you need to do something that other people find is useful and

  • and and you have to regard it as useful as well or

  • At least you have to be entertaining there has to be something about you

  • Have value to other people that you have to pursue with a fair bit [of] diligence

  • So you have to play a productive social role?

  • probably need friends

  • Probably need an intimate relationship, and if it could be medium to long [term] in for an intimate relationship perhaps all the better

  • That's what most societies hold up as ideal could assume. Well. There's probably a reason for that

  • I think one of the reasons is is that your life gets fragmented otherwise Badly fragmented you know it's

  • Because every time you have a long term relationship

  • And it fragments. It's like your identity is blown into pieces you get fragmented across time it's it's not it's not good

  • It's it breaks you into pieces and you don't necessarily recover that well

  • It makes everything

  • much more in

  • permanent and

  • Unreliable all of those things so it it introduces a tremendous amount of uncertainty into your life

  • And it also means that you don't have anyone around that you can really trust

  • and that's bad because if you have someone around you can really trust and you have two brains instead of one and

  • Like you probably need two brains to manage your way through life. It's pretty complicated

  • So you orient yourself towards some good?

  • The highest good that you can conceptualize and it has to be

  • Through a consultation with your ancestors because you need to do the things that people have always done

  • [and] you need to do them properly and

  • You need to assume that that's the way that you should live unless you have a very good reason

  • To change it dramatically and maybe you do, but you got to start with some

  • Axiomatic set of presuppositions because otherwise you have to invent everything on your own, and you don't have enough time to do that

  • So you have to use normative guidelines and if you don't then people won't know what to do with you

  • That's another big problem. If you live completely outside the norm. I mean you know

  • Remarkable artists manage that to some degree, but of course they pay [for] the privilege by being remarkable artists

  • so if there's something truly remarkable about you perhaps you could justify deviating from the normative path, but if there isn't

  • First of all there's nothing remarkable enough about you to justify deviating in every way [from] the normative path no matter how remarkable you are

  • so

  • So that's part of the the rescuing of the father from from the depths is to

  • Reunite yourself with the structures of your community you can do that in a way that you feel

  • Suits your own needs best, but I don't think you cannot do it because it makes you weak, and then you'll drown

  • All right, so let's say you have oriented yourself

  • But not perfectly because you're full of mistakes and errors

  • So then what do you do because you have to fix those errors, but you still have to be oriented

  • And this is why I started getting to to get interested in the phenomena of meaning

  • As a phenomenological experience to experience something as meaningful, it's not exactly obvious what that means to experience something is meaningful

  • [I] think that you can you can approach it obliquely

  • You know like if I said watch yourself for two weeks and notice when you're doing something that you regard is meaningful

  • I could say well. Here's some here's some

  • Markers you lose a sense of time you lose a sense of vulnerability, you're deeply engaged in it it seems

  • It seems worth the effort right you forget yourself while you're doing [it]

  • Maybe you forget your existential concerns while you're doing it you're not

  • Ruminating or obsessing about the meaning of your life, right so so there's markers for it's like the flow states that [cSIkszentmihalyi] described

  • and

  • Then you can experience it you experience it under certain Sort of ritualistic conditions

  • You might experience it when you go see a great movie you might experience it when you listen [to] music

  • I think music is a very very standard pathway for people to have that kind of experience because

  • Virtually everyone gets intimations of mute of meaning from music and I think music

  • music is

  • Hierarchically structured patterns that are representative of being laying itself out properly

  • It's something like that, so it's an abstract representation of proper being and so

  • We can we can grapple with the phenomena of music and we can we can bach or phenomena of meaning we can box it in?

  • A little bit and start to conceptualize it

  • We can start to conceptualize it perhaps as the manifestation of a deep instinct, and so I would say well

  • Meaning is what NFS itself?

  • when you are

  • when you've oriented yourself properly and

  • when you've

  • optimized the

  • flow of information

  • between you and you

  • between you and Chaos that might be the right way of thinking about it because [literally] you think about a piece of music because you

  • Want it to be predictable?

  • but you don't want it to be perfectly predictable you want to be it to be predictable with some interesting variations and

  • Predictable with some variations that make sense. Maybe you can conceptualize that as something like this. It's like

  • it's predictable at this order of

  • Stability, but it's it's varying down here from time to time and so you've got stable stability there

  • But variability there and you can handle that so you want

  • an

  • overarching structure of stability with some internal variability and

  • Maybe that's the way that you update yourself without falling apart

  • and then I would say you can find the pathway to the optimal rate of

  • Update by relying on your sense of meaning. That's what it's for

  • what it tells you is that you're you're wandering your way through the world between the

  • Catastrophes of Chaos and the catastrophes of order and now and then you swing into the proper locale

  • You're where you should be and what happens is you get engaged by that you get meaningfully engaged by that and it's fragile

  • It'll move on you right because it's very difficult to exist at that

  • point

  • Constantly your bad habits all sorts of things your situation

  • There's all sorts of things that are going to interfere [with] that

  • But that doesn't mean that that isn't where you should be and so then you might say well

  • That's where you should strive to be all the time and then the question might be well

  • What would it be like if you [were] there all [the] [time], and I [think] that's where intimations of Paradise

  • Come from I mean when words think it was wordsworth talked about intimations of immortality and childhood people tend to romanticize

  • their childhood because of the sense of

  • Intense engagement that goes along with [being] a child and it's one of the wonderful things about being around children actually it's it's one

  • They pay you for their care and the way the children pay you for their care

  • Is that they turn normal things into Magic again when you're around them because you've seen it a hundred times before

  • And so when you see it, you don't see it

  • You see what you already know

  • But when a child sees it they don't because they don't know they see it and then when you watch them see it

  • You see it too, and so it's just tremendous fun

  • Leading a small child around to do things that you've done before because they're [sold] you know, they're like this

  • They're like all the time, and you know maybe that's too much and they cry and they get upset and all of that

  • but a good part of the time

  • It's just wild-eyed wonder and then you can see the world through their eyes

  • And it's payment, and so that's that sense of being engaged like that is something that people love about children and rightly

  • so, but it's also a marker to

  • the proper way of being you know there's a dictum in the

  • As a union idea that there's no difference between the archetype of the wise old man and the archetype of the child

  • They're the same thing because the wise old man is the person who found what he had in childhood, but lost

  • Right it said that's a very powerful motif is that the purpose of maturation is to return to the state of childhood as a mature?

  • Being not to stay in the state of childhood

  • That's peter pan, but to make the sacrifice is necessary for Maturation and then return

  • So well how do you do that? Well you do that in part by noting what it is

  • That's meaningful you for you to engage in I would say it's your nervous system reporting to you right hemisphere and left hemisphere

  • Balanced that the balance between Chaos and order produces an output that says you are [in] the right place

  • It's a perception the meaning is a perception of being in the right place. It's the genuine thing however

  • because it can be

  • Pathologized that's the thing and that's why I think there's a call to virtue in most great religious traditions if you're going to rely [on]

  • Your sense of meaning to orient you you have to play a straight game because otherwise you warp and twist

  • The inputs and then the mechanism won't function properly you [know]. It's like if you if you were only

  • if you're if you've blinded yourself to half the world you can't use your

  • Perception story and your self properly because the half the world that you're ignoring is going to pop up at you

  • unexpectedly and take you down, and so if your

  • Relationship with the world isn't pristine

  • Honest primarily, then you can't rely on your own internal orienting mechanisms

  • And then you either fall into Chaos which is an absolute catastrophe

  • Or you have to rely on some kind of external authority and that makes you prone to

  • Possession by Tyrannical

  • Ideologies for example which give you that sense of meaning that you should in fact have as a consequence of your own action

  • but okay, so if if all relationships are

  • our sort of

  • predicated on of this balance between

  • no, conflict and

  • conflict that destruct

  • [that] if we will look if we were to look at this at a more macro level

  • We see this

  • sort of

  • matte effect in in history in our world like with conflict in between countries in the two systems

  • Ideology EtC

  • But what is this sort of navigation between?

  • The exact line of no consequences [conflicts] how does that not imply that some people are inherently?

  • due to Chaos

  • It might

  • imply that you know what are the things so look so

  • sometimes

  • Sometimes you don't have an answer [that] works

  • you can answer that produces the highest probability of success and

  • Like I could view the archetypal world from a religious perspective and say that

  • There's such a thing as ultimate and final [redemption]. That's a metaphysical claim. I don't I don't want to do that

  • I think it's independent of what I'm talking about what I'm saying. Is that there's an archetypal path

  • That's laid out in in the mythology of the hero, and it's your best bet

  • That's all it's your best bet. It doesn't mean that if you apply it that everything is going to turn out

  • The way you might want it to turn out but but I would say this

  • There's a way of there's an interesting twist on that, too

  • this is one of the things that I came to understand about trying to speak the truth is that

  • You can make an assumption you can make a fundamental assumption based on your ignorance

  • Let's say and the in eradicable quality of your ignorance, but you can't compute the best possible outcome

  • What you can do instead is make a decision and one decision is well

  • I'm going to say what I think and see what happens and

  • Then you can define that as the best possible outcome

  • Now you might say well now and then that's going to lead you into Chaos. It's like yeah, it is

  • It is it's a strange. It's a strange inversion

  • But regardless of all doubt I would still say

  • Human beings are finite and limited and mortal you know and death is final. Let's say

  • I'm not saying that but we could easily say [that]

  • Doesn't matter this is still the best pathway forward

  • it isn't certainty there's no certainty and

  • It's very frequently in life you have poison a or poison B

  • Like you get to pick [your] poison [you] don't get to pick the elixir of life

  • but I would but I would say I would also say I don't think there's any reason to be particularly pessimistic because

  • We don't know what would happen if [people] really tried hard to get their acts together

  • Like if they understood the [necessity] of that and really put it forward I mean I

  • Mean I've had lots of experience with my clinical clients now. You know I've seen dozens and dozens of [people] and

  • We have tried jointly

  • To get their lives straighter, and it works almost inevitably now that doesn't mean I've had clients who died. You know we were

  • three-quarters through A

  • Wonderful process of psychological renovation and they got cancer and died so so there's there's no certainty associated with this

  • But it's the best

  • solution available [and]

  • And it's also possible that it's a good enough solution

  • Now I was talking to my class yesterday about this you know so you

  • If you pursue the things in [your] life that [are] meaningful once you've oriented yourself and that means accepting the challenges that come along with

  • That because one of the things that you'll find you even find this in music if you know a piece of music completely

  • Then you can not want to listen to it anymore this still has to be some challenge in it

  • You still have to track it and sometimes music is so complex

  • you just can't it just sounds like noise Modern music is often like that because it's so

  • Well it tends towards the chaotic and so it's I find it difficult to listen to because I can't get a handle on it

  • But then you know so it's too challenging, and then there's other music pop music is often like this

  • It's Catchy the first two times you hear it then you never want to hear it [again]. It's too much

  • There's too much predictability and not enough Chaos and hopefully you find a piece of [music]. That's somewhere in the middle

  • You can listen to it 50 or 100 times and each time you listen to it

  • There's still some new nuance in it that you didn't that you didn't

  • Expect before and so well you kind of want to set up your life like that, so that

  • And I think you see that the phenomena of meaning

  • manifests itself at the area at the Locale of Optimal challenge

  • So if the thing so one of the things for example, or might say well

  • Let's say you want to set some goals for yourself. [we] say well. They're remarkable goals, but they're all there to unattainable

  • You're just going to find it frustrating to pursue them

  • It's going to be too punishing, and then we might say well. Here's a goal, and you think well, I could do that

  • You know standing on my head. There's nothing in it

  • well both of those two extremes are going to leave you in a state that isn't characterized by the

  • Optimization of engagement and meaning one is too difficult [too] punishing

  • It's the judge and nothing else and the [other] is the ultimate and merciful mothers. It's like you win, no matter

  • How you play so then you calibrate and say well? You know [I] need?

  • I'm I'm up for a challenge at this level I

  • Wouldn't recommend that because that's just a bit like people do that you [want] it might want to

  • Investigate your character in detail and decide you know

  • What's going on at this level of analysis? That's pretty harsh, but you can certainly

  • continually retool yourself at more micro levels and

  • That and I think what you do is you pick the level of retooling that

  • optimizes your willingness to be engaged in it and

  • then what's so interesting about that is that I think is that you get the benefits of

  • perfection so to speak while still being imperfect

  • The imperfect your actual imperfection has nothing to do with it

  • what's relevant is the Jerk is the journey that you're undertaking to rectify the

  • imperfection so instead [of] aiming to be the entity without flaws

  • You're aiming to be the entity that continues to realize its flaws and overcome them. Well. That's a game

  • You can play forever and that's maybe the ultimate in being an unplowed entity

  • It's something like that so so I want to show you some pictures [that] I think are associated [with] that

  • so this one to begin with

  • This is an absolutely amazing picture. I think

  • so this is bert hold [firt] meier tree of life flanked by Eve and Mary Ecclesia and

  • This in some [sense] this this picture summarizes the biblical stories in one picture

  • which is that's pretty amazing that that a picture can do that and

  • So let me explain the picture a little bit so the first thing you see [here]. Is [that] this is the tree?

  • this is the tree of life and

  • So it echoes the tree of the [of] the knowledge of good and evil

  • But this is [post-fall]

  • so we

  • interpreted the story of Adam and Eve already

  • is that human beings became self conscious they discovered death they discovered morality it was all a consequence of

  • Interacting with the fruit and the snake something like that, and you can read that as an as an evolutionary tale

  • you can at least read it as a

  • Representation of the emergence of self-consciousness in human beings, so what does that mean well it [means] that?

  • the

  • [Apple] in some sense was equivalent to death, and that's what you see here

  • You see eve is picking fruit from the tree here

  • But the fruit is it's on the skull side of the tree and so eve. It's the vulnerability of Eve

  • She's naked there and displayed to the world. It's the vulnerability of Eve

  • That's one way of thinking about it was the vulnerability of Eve

  • That was the catalyst to the development of human self-consciousness, and I think that that's true

  • It seems to me to be a reasonable proposition and so

  • Eve

  • eve's relationship with the fruit and the snake

  • Doomed human beings to the realization of mortality that's what this side of the picture

  • represents and

  • So it's a catastrophe, and it's associated with here with the snake in the fruit

  • It's human beings attempts to understand how it is that they emerged into a self-conscious world?

  • Okay, so fine. So that's on this is on the the fall end of the story and this is on the

  • Solution end of the story now what you see here [in] there's a skull there, and there's a Crucifix here, and you see

  • There's all these little fruits on this tree, so it's the apple of death that eve is handing out on this side

  • and it's the host that plays a role [in] the cannibalistic right that's at the center of

  • Christian ritual that mary as the church is handing out as a medication for yes

  • So she's handing out the antidote

  • Well, what's the antidote well? It's a strange thing. It's associated with this Crucifix, and that's

  • Translated into this wheat and host so you're supposed to eat that and that

  • That is the incorporation of whatever this represents well the question, then is what does that represent it to assist?

  • It's a symbol of suffering obviously it's a symbol of the ultimate in suffering. It's the weirdest thing because the picture proposes that

  • to ingest the ultimate in suffering is to

  • simultaneously

  • Ingest the antidote to the catastrophe of the knowledge of death

  • It's a very strange paradox but but it's the it's the proper paradox. It's at the center of this of the great drama

  • that's represented by this picture a

  • Little knowledge of Death destroys you

  • Full voluntary acceptance of it is the [cure]

  • That's the idea

  • Well, that's a that's a hell of an [idea]

  • It's not only to and to accept it is

  • Simultaneously in some sense to take responsibility for it

  • Because you don't take responsibility for things that you don't accept

  • You only take responsibility [for] things that you do accept say well, the world is fundamentally flawed because it's fundamental nature is

  • Vulnerability Intolerable vulnerability, I'm not going to take any responsibility for that, but that's really [kane's]

  • attitude in the in the story of

  • cain and Abel

  • he externalizes responsibility for the catastrophe of his life and

  • Therefore he doesn't make the right sacrifices and so the paradoxical injunction here is

  • accept responsibility for the catastrophe of your life and

  • That way you transcend it

  • Simultaneously, and there's a there's an unbelievably hopeful message in there and the message is you're actually strong enough to do that

  • You just don't know it, and you won't find out till you do it. You can't find out till you do it

  • But if you did it you'd find out that it was true. It's a massive risk

  • It's the ultimate in risks right you have to be willing to lose your life in order to find it. It's like exactly right

  • So that picture when I started to understand that picture look every time I look at it. Just blows me away. I can't

  • Unbelievably, it's an unbelievably sophisticated set of ideas

  • But I don't think it's much different really [than] this idea. I mean buddha finds his enlightenment under a tree

  • It's not fluke that that's the case that's his natural [environment], and he's sitting in that lotus here the lotus [opens] up

  • [it's] [a] this thing that springs up from the depths. He sits there illuminated the same way. He's got a halo

  • that's the sun that stands for higher consciousness and he's

  • Transcended by accepting the fact that life is suffering he's transcended

  • the limitations that [are] part of mortality

  • You see that symbol there

  • That swastika you see it there. It's reversed the Nazis reversed it

  • Well think about that. I mean they weren't stupid as symbolism

  • They're symbols had meaning is what the swastika were represented was what this represents?

  • reversed

  • Well, that's a very bad idea

  • This is the thing that this this idea is what enables people to transcend their suffering and buddha said well

  • Don't don't be too attached to things and what does that mean?

  • It doesn't mean deny the world it might mean deny the world if you're too in love with the material

  • like with material well-being

  • Let's say then your pathway to

  • transcendence and meaning might be to Abandon that because it's [it's] constraining you it's making you less than you could be but the

  • Fundamental lesson the more fundamental lesson that's underneath that is don't let what you are stop you from being what you could be

  • Right and so then the [question] is well. What do you identify with do you identify with what you are?

  • then [your] tyrant

  • You identify with with Chaos because that's the opposite of order say

  • Then [you're] nihilistic

  • Well, you don't identify with either of those you know that they're both necessary

  • You know that you have to live with both of them, but you would you identify?

  • With the capacity to continually transcend what you are and then you seek out error

  • That's what humility is like. I'm error ridden

  • It's like so I want to see I want [to] put myself in the [situation] where I can discover one of my errors hopefully not

  • In [a] way that's going to knock me completely out of the game right. I want to I want to seek out a challenge

  • I want to find out where my limits are I want to find out where there's not enough of me yet

  • And I want to do that in a way that's engaging because you know you can wear yourself out fighting dragons

  • Obviously, you can exhaust yourself completely, and that's not helpful. You know [what] one of the things I learned for example when I was coaching

  • when I was coaching

  • Warriors who these were people who had very [high-end] careers and so they had an infinite workload no matter how much they worked?

  • Flat-out there was always way more work that they should do. It's very difficult thing to learn to manage and

  • So they were exhausting themselves, and I said well, you know you have to work less per day. It's like well

  • No, that's not happening. I can't do that and so

  • What I learned over time was [ok]

  • So this is what you have to do every three [months] you have to block off [4] days and go have a vacation [you] have

  • To plan that in advance, so it's in your calendar so that your secretary doesn't book your time

  • and then you need that because you have to recuperate enough so [that] you can work as hard as you're going to work and of

  • Course they were nervous about that

  • And I said well look we can we can calibrate this

  • Let's keep track of your billable hours over the next year and see if they increase or decrease

  • Because I bet you if you take more time off, you'll actually have more billable hours, you'll actually have your cake and eat it

  • too you'll get to have a vacation and you'll be more productive and

  • That inevitably that was what happened?

  • [and] so that's a matter of calibrating the game properly right you want to play [a] game that you can [play] today?

  • But also one that you can play next week and next month. We're not talking about

  • You know your your career this week?

  • We're talking [about] you having a career that lasts 30 years that doesn't kill you that doesn't make you hate yourself or the job that

  • Doesn't make you better that doesn't wear you to a frazzle so it has to be optimized and so I think that you can

  • Fact decide to take on the load that's optimally meaningful if you want and then you get to have your cake and eat it

  • Too you're on the pathway to continual incremental improvement

  • You only have to burn off a feather at a time instead of having the whole bloody thing burst into flames

  • But it's a constant

  • It's a constant source of renewal, and there's an idea that to be renewed you have to drink the water of life, [right]?

  • That's an old mythological idea and what's the water the water of life?

  • Chaos is water water water is Chaos water is what washes away too much order

  • And to stay continually let's say

  • refreshed by the water of life is to take on exactly the right [amount] of Chaos [to] make sure that your

  • Garden is properly nourished, and I think meaning is actually the marker of that and and as I said you know that

  • [I'm] not I wouldn't consider myself either naive or particularly optimistic person

  • I don't think I'm [either] of those, but this is an actually an idea

  • This is one of the only ideas that I've ever found that I really believed to be rock-solid

  • I actually think that it's true

  • And [it's] very optimistic because it says you can use your sense of meaning to calibrate your progress through life

  • It but there's rules you have to aim at the highest possible good that you can conceive

  • Now in that subject update because what the hell you know

  • but you start by aiming at the star you can see rather than the dimmer one that you can't yet perceive and

  • Then you decide that you're going to do that honestly right. There's that that's a big decision, so

  • the first decision

  • I think in some sense is a decision of love

  • You're going to decide that being is worthwhile, and that you're going to work [for] [its] betterment, and that's a decision

  • That's based on love and the second decision is based on truth having made that decision

  • You're going to play a straight game having made those two decisions

  • I think that you can allow your sense of meaning to calibrate your pathway

  • And then what's so interesting is [that] you hit a state that's as close to paradise unless you're going to hit

  • Right away, because being engaged like that

  • It's better to be engaged in the solution of a complex problem than not to have a problem at all

  • And that's that's no different than saying it's better for there to be being that non-being because being is a problem

  • and so if you want to have no problems

  • then you have no being and

  • You could say well being is so miserable that maybe that's the route

  • We should take and fair enough, but maybe you can have your cake and eat it, too

  • You can have the damn problem. It could be a problem

  • [we're] [solving] and you can be so engaged in solving the problem that it justifies the fact that the problem exists and

  • Then you get then you get to have

  • you get to have the problem and the solution at the same time and maybe that's better than not having the problem at all and

  • I [believe] that because one of the things I have seen and I've seen this so interesting

  • Being so interesting when I'd be lecturing to people especially

  • More recently and and this is also manifested on you itself on YouTube

  • I'm talking to people a lot about responsibility, and it's young men in particular that seem to be responding to that

  • And I [think] that's partly because I [think] that young women in some sense have their responsibility map already laid out for them

  • It's also less voluntary in some sense for women because they have more complicated problems to solve in the first part of their life

  • Right because they have to get the family problem solved but whatever I've been talking very in a very

  • delineate 'add Matter about

  • responsibility, which is a strange thing to sell to people but

  • Responsibility is what gives your life meaning and so then you might say well then take on ultimate responsibility

  • and what happens you have an ultimately meaningful life and then you might say well if your life is ultimately meaningful doesn't matter if it's

  • Punctuated by tragedy or even predicated on tragedy. It's worth it

  • and

  • I think that's true and everything I've seen indicates to me. That's true

  • Every time I get my clients to take on more [responsibilities]. You know it and it isn't an injunction

  • You're a bad person. You should take on responsibility have nothing to do with that you can define the damn responsibility

  • It isn't something that that someone else should impose on you

  • It's not a matter of doing what you [should] do in some abstract Manner. It's not that

  • It's the choice of what game you're going to play and you know you can play the game of the seeker?

  • I would say and if you play that game then everyone wins and it's the best game you can play and so the

  • The answer in some sense to the tragedy of life to the catastrophe of life to the fall is

  • to

  • Adore the responsibility of mortality that goes along with that and to play that game

  • maximally and

  • Paradoxically, it's in the willingness to do that that the solution emerges

  • And I don't you know I have [done] my best with every single thing

  • I've talked to you [guys] about I have done my best to do what does tSD does in his novels?

  • Which is I make a proposition, and then I spend

  • months or

  • Years trying to figure [out] if I can take the bloody thing apart [if] there's something wrong with it because I want to find out

  • I want to hit it with a [hammer] and see if it breaks and

  • what I've been trying to do is to tell you all the [things] that I've

  • Gathered let's say or

  • laid out or

  • articulated or discovered over the last [thirty] years

  • that I have not been able to break with the biggest hammer that I could take to them and

  • I guess that's the fundamental one. Is that I believe [that] the the

  • the idea that lurks in these images

  • derived from very different cultures

  • It's the same idea

  • Life is suffering

  • right indisputable

  • What do you do about that?

  • you you voluntarily accept it and then strive to overcome the suffering that's a

  • Consequence of that and you do that for [you]

  • and you do that in a way that makes it better for other people and then that works and

  • One question might be well, how well does it work and the answer is?

  • You the only way that you can find out is by trying it

  • That's it. That's [the] essential element of it the proof is to be derived by the

  • incarnation of the attitude in your own life no one can tell you

  • How it will work for you? It's the thing that

  • your destiny is to discover that and

  • You have to make you have to make the decisions to begin with it's like because you can't do this without

  • Commitment you have to commit to it first. That's the act of faith that the kierkegaard was so insistent upon

  • You have to say I'm going to act as if being is good

  • I'm going to act as if truth is the pathway to enlightenment

  • [I'm] going to act as if I should pursue the deepest meaning possible in my life, [and] there's reasons to do none of those

  • They're real reasons. So it's really a decision

  • But you can't find out what the consequence of the decision is unless you make the decision

  • I think the same thing happens [when] you get [married] by the way, so

  • if you think you might leave you're not married and

  • Then you think well the marriage didn't succeed. It's like well

  • Maybe you were never married because the rule is you [don't] get to leave and there's a reason [for] that rule now

  • I'm not saying that there aren't situations where there should be exceptions made for that

  • that's not the point the point is that there's some games you don't get to play unless you're all-in and

  • The other thing that's so [interesting] about being alive is that you're [all-in]

  • No matter what you do you're all-in this is going to kill you

  • So I think you might as well play the most magnificent game. You can

  • While you're waiting because do you have anything better to do really?

  • Why not pick the best thing possible that you could do?

  • Why not do that maybe you could justify your wretched existence to yourself that way

  • I think [you] could that's what it looks like you know people find such meaning in the responsibilities

  • They adopt it stops making them ask questions about what life is for if you have a newborn child for example

  • Like unless you're really in a bad way

  • Psychotically depressed or maybe your personality really needs some retooling you stop thinking about

  • anything but ensuring that that baby is doing well and

  • If someone comes along and asks you an existential question about your commitment to that

  • the right response is why are you asking me such stupid questions when when

  • When this this is manifesting itself right in front of your eyes like how blind can you be that isn't a time for?

  • For questions about the meaning [of] life the answer is right in [front] of you, and if you can't see it

  • It's not because life has no meaning. It's because you're blind. I mean, that's what the image of

  • The virgin [mother] and the child is all about it's like what's the answer to the meaning of life?

  • Here's an answer. It's like well, I'm going to criticize that well go right ahead

  • You know it's like. It's like what you're like, a you like a

  • What do you call that a termite?

  • Going on a temple

  • there's no, there's no utility in that sort of criticism, you're

  • It's blindness and it's the same thing with regards to the path of the hero

  • It's like it glistens in front of you, and you can criticize it. It's like

  • fine put the cart before the horse and and see how far you get

  • So I thought to bring full closure to the class. I was trying to solve

  • this terrible puzzle that confronted me for and many other people about

  • How it was [that] human beings got themselves in such a tangle about what they believed such a tangle that we were pointing

  • The ultimate weapons of destruction at one another which by the way, we are still doing [I]

  • Thought okay. Well I understand that we need their belief systems they orient us and

  • That means there will be conflict between belief systems and that can be a catastrophe

  • And that's being played out everywhere again in very many ways

  • What's the solution to that well one possibility is there's no solution. It's just

  • Mayhem all the way around could be the case but

  • [it] seemed to me as I delved into it that the proper solution to that was to live properly as

  • An individual because you're more powerful than you think

  • Way more powerful than you think I mean God only knows what you are in the final analysis

  • You're blind to your own

  • Weaknesses, but you're also blind to your own strengths and so then I think well if you've got your act together

  • It'd be better for you, and instantly it would be better for your family assuming

  • They wanted you to get your act together and not everyone does but and then it would be better for the community

  • It's like how far could you take that if you stopped wasting time and if you [stopped] lying and if you oriented yourself to to

  • The highest possible good that you could conceive of and you committed to that how much good could you do?

  • Well, I would say might find out

  • So that's what I think you should do

  • You should find out

  • You don't have anything better to do and there's nothing in it as far as I've been able to tell there's nothing in it

  • But good

  • so

  • Maybe you could sort yourself out. So that you wanted nothing, but the good and

  • and then maybe you could help make that manifest in the world and

  • maybe we wouldn't have all these terrible problems then at least we'd have fewer of them, and that would be a start, so

  • It's it's that the answer to the problem of humanity

  • Is that is the is the integrity of the individual?

  • That's the answer

  • so and states that are predicated on that realization are healthy, so

  • [in] states that aren't are doomed to stagnation and catastrophic collapse and

  • personalities that are predicated on

  • self Tyranny and the Tyranny of others are doomed and

  • doomed to collapse

  • [so] and then you think well, what's the barrier the barriers are you willing to accept the responsibility and

  • Part of the answer to that is reduce the Dam

  • Responsibility until it's tolerable you don't have to fix everything at once you could just start by fixing the things that you could fix

  • Or you could even do it more?

  • You can do it with even less self-sacrifice. You could start by fixing only the things that you want to fix

  • God you can get a massive way that way

  • So do it see what happens that's what you should have been talking university right from the beginning

  • [it's] like a mathias good tool yourself into something [that] can attain it and go out there and manifest it in the world

  • And everything that everything that comes your way will be

  • Everything that comes your way will be a blessing and so

  • All you have to do is give up your resentment and your hatred I know that's a hard thing to give up

  • Because you have plenty of reason [for] it

  • That's probably a good place to stop so to the pleasure

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