to create a business and life you love, and this whole shindig is Q&A Tuesday. Today’s

question comes from Elise and she writes:

“Hi, Marie. Big fan. My question today is about my money mentality. You see, I recently

became aware that I'm surrounded by poor people. What I mean is everyone in my life at the

moment has a poor person mentality including me. It feels like my family, friends and even

my partner are stuck in scarcity. They're scrambling for dollars, stressed out about

bills, complain about the government stealing from them and say everyone’s got their hands

in your pocket. It’s gotten to the point where movies are out of the question, date

nights don’t exist and there are no more nice dinners. It sucks. So my question is

how do you break out of the scarcity mentality when everyone around you is stuck in it? Should

I cut everyone off and move to Greenland or do I have to constantly read books about money?

Help!” – Love, Elise.

Elise, this is an awesome question and you are so not alone. Not many people I know grew

up with wealth whether that’s actually cash or an abundant money mentality. Here is the

good news. You can totally break out of your scarcity mentality and create a shift in the

energy around you without moving to Greenland.

I know you put a lot of emphasis on the people around you, but as you know, the only person

you can change is yourself so that’s where we got to focus. Here are six ways to turn

that money frown upside down:

1 – You’ve got to write yourself a fat reality check. I know you probably know this

but let me remind you almost half the world, almost 3 billion people, live on less than

$2.50 a day and 80% of all humanity lives on less than $10 a day. I did a little research

on you and I'm pretty sure you don’t fall into either one of those populations.

I'm not making you wrong for wanting more but you got to get that true abundance starts

with appreciation everything you already have right now. So if you want out of that scarcity

mentality, you’ve got to start appreciating what you got and make it a habit. You’ve

got a roof over your head, you have clean running water and you have some damn cute

clothes. Girl, I've seen you; you look fine.

I think Oprah said it best when she said:

“Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what

you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.”

2 – Get an ATM. What? Steal a cash machine? No silly girl. It’s an automatic transformative

manta; that’s just a simple phrase you put on automatic repeat that transforms your money

mindset. This is something I personally use to overcome my own scarcity mentality around

money and I still use it to this day. Here it is:

Any time you part with money whether you're paying a bill or you're buying something,

say this: there's always more where that came from.

This might sound silly but there is real power in the words that we say to ourselves and

immense power and rituals. It’s a super simple way to retrain yourself in the truth

with a T about money.

3 – B.Y.O.L (Bring Your Own Luxury) Who says you can't have nice dinners at home?

In fact, I actually prefer to eat at home. My meals taste way better, they are so much

healthier and they cost a fraction of the price. You can take any inexpensive dinner

and make it a nice dinner if you plate it beautifully and you light some candles and

you put on some music and you wear something nice. With just a little bit of effort, you

can take a cheap dinner and make it an amazing dinner. In fact, one of my favorite resources

for budget friendly recipes is this magazine Cooking Light.

4 – Start a fun fund. Before we go any further I got to say, you and your partner have got

to get on the same page about money. You can't change your family or your friends but it

is vital that you and your man get and stay on the same page regarding finances. You can

make busting out of your scarcity mentality something you work on together and the fun

fund can help.

Here’s what that is. It’s a checking account or a piggy bank or a pickle jar that’s earmarked

for fun and fun only. That money is exclusively for movies or meals out or other things you

and your partner might normally say “we can't afford.” I don’t judge, but just

remember that cabbage is off limits for paying bills or other necessities.

5 – Build your knowledge bank. You said, “Do I have to keep reading book about money,”

and my answer, until you get your money game together, yes. Whether it’s books or seminars

or audios, its not just about reading or listening, but you actually have to implement it, especially

if you want to have money and keep it.

As for money seminars, they can be a little cheesy and people may try and sell you some

more stuff but that doesn’t matter. You'll still learn a ton and what's even more important,

you're going to be around people who are actively improving their own money mentality.

6 – Spread the wealth. This is another strategy that I've personally used and it’s a little

bit counter-intuitive. Anytime you're feeling a lack around money, you got to give some

away. For example, if you catch yourself in major scarcity mode, you should donate a little

bit of money to a cause you believe it. If you're not sure where to donate, we have an

organization that we love. It’s called Kiva and we also have our own lending team and

I’ll put links below this video so you can check it out.

Another way to spread the wealth is to just be generous with your friends and family.

There's something amazing about saying “I’ll treat,” even if it’s for something simple

like a coffee or a home cooked meal. As we've discussed, you cannot change your family or

your friends around their money mentality but you can be a living demonstration of a

more abundant reality.

That is my A to your Q, Elise. I hope it helps. Now I would love to hear from you. Have you

broken out of a scarcity mentality around money, and if so, how’d you do it? If you're

currently working through this, I would also love to know which of these six strategies

resonated the most and which can you put in practice starting right now.

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