and life you love, and this is Q&A Tuesday, and today's question comes from a lovely lady

named Tammy and she writes:

"Hey, Marie, thank you for doing what you do. I am grateful for your Q&A Tuesdays. Here

is my Q. I find myself growing by leaps and bounds but it seems that I have the urge to

share it with everyone around me. I seem to feel as if everyone should listen to me and

learn with me. This is not always appreciated and it seems to be alienating some people,

so my question is 'how do I resist the urge to make everyone around me see the light?'"

Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Hold on Tammy. You want to help everybody seem the light?

Have you never seen "Poltergeist," girl? The light is bad.

Tammy, Tammy, Tammy, this is an awesome question. I've certainly experienced this first hand.

When you first start learning about personal development and all these cool philosophies,

of course you want to share it with everybody you know.

Hey Papa Smurf, did you know that if you were more in the moment, your whole life would

transform?

Grouchy, you're using your grouchiness to hide your brilliance. I really think you're

dialing an upset.

Smurfette, you really need to claim your feminine power and really own your divine goddessness.

But as you're seeing this approach doesn't always go over so well.  I mean think about

it. You're trying to push self help on people and it may actually tick them off because

essentially what you're saying is they don't know how to do their life, they're pretty

screwed up and they need you to come help them out. Essentially, they're going to say

to themselves "who asked you?"

Here's what you need to do: don't talk about it, be about it. As the saying goes, and this

is a pretty good tweetable:

"Others will follow your footsteps easier than they will your advice."

What that means is to be an example of what you're learning. Really embody the ideas and

the principles. You want to be a living demonstration of all the good stuff. You want to be a role

model; you don't want to preach. What you'll find is that people in your life are really

going to take notice and they're going to ask you "what's your secret" or if they're

really into it they'll say "yes, yes, yes, yes, yes," and that becomes the perfect opportunity

to share and see if they want to learn more.

Next you got to find your PDP, or your personal development posse. Tammy, you really need

to hang out with some like minded people who love talking about this stuff just as much

as you do because here's the thing: people who like personal development tend to be really

into it. We're like personal development zombies; we're insatiable and we gobble up books and

audios and programs kinda like zombies gobble up brains. Here's the best part: there are

tons of us around. We hang out on blogs like this and book clubs and seminars and we're

always signing up for another program. We may be an odd bunch but we're out there and

our numbers are growing every day, just like zombies. Once you find people who actually

want to talk about this stuff, you'll feel less compelled to force it on people who don't.

Tammy, that is my A to your Q. thank you so much for asking and of course let us know

how it goes. Now I would love to hear from you. Have you ever tried to show people the

light? How did it go? Did they resist you or did you need to change your approach and

try something different? As always, the best stuff happens after the episode in the comments

over at MarieForleo.com so go there and leave a comment now.

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