This is probably one of the most powerful rules of the mind.

Here's your minds job.

It's got a very clear job.

I'm your mind and I'm going to do I think you want.

And when you say, Oh, this commute is killing me My boss makes me want to die.

My kids are making me go up the wall.

I am stressed out of my mind by the freeway.

Your mind goes, Oh, you keep telling me that something is killing.

It appears to be your job or your commute.

Why don't I just give you a lovely ulcer?

And then you can stay home and avoid that place that's killing you?

It's That's its job.

Why didn't you do your job and talk to your mind better?

The commute is a pain, but I have great CDs to listen to.

I have stuff to do.

My boss is difficult with everyone.

It's not me he's not there.

And having sex with my wife is no in the ribbon or having a lovely dinner.

This is temporary.

He's an unhappy person.

Do it better.

You will get what you want when you tell your mind what you want.

But here come the words.

Let's imagine you're going to give a speech and the words Oh, my God, I'm freaked out.

I'm terrified.

I'm gonna go bright red at my mouth ago.

I haven't got the time, right?

I'm so nervous your mind goes.

Do not get on that stage.

If you walk to that says I'm gonna give you a massive panic and middle of the room because you told me you don't want to do it.

And I've got to do what you want or you can go.

I am fantastic.

It's speaking.

I've got something to say.

People like me.

Why I have to say, is a value speaking to the stage Is that speaking to my wife or husband?

And then your mind goes, Get on that stage and do it.

You always have a choice.

But your mind's job is to do what it thinks you want when you go.

I want a week off who's ever done this?

What I would give for a week off lying in bed, your mind goes, Leave that with me now.

You got the flu.

How call and I I listen to you.

You wanted a week off lying around watching Netflix.

Now you got it.

That's not what you wanted.

You need to say I need some time.

And I'm like a battery.

I need to recharge.

And I'm okay at working full out all week.

Is it weekends?

I recharge like a battery.

Now your mind understands.

But saying I'd give anything not to have a chair that meeting my girls.

How about a nice dose of diarrhea?

I could bring that for you.

You don't share that meeting.

You said I'll do anything not to go.

I'd rather kill myself than give that presentation to my bottom because I don't kill yourself.

I just give you really upset stomach.

Now you can't even leave the bathroom.

There's no chance you're meeting your boss.

Done what you wanted.

I know I'm making it funny, but it is funny that so many people don't understand Your mind Job is to do what it thinks you want and it bases that on one thing.

The words you use on the pictures you put in your head on.

Here's some great news.

You can change those words and change those pictures like that.

And when you do that, it changes everything.

So your mind tries to move you towards pain away from pain and towards pleasure too.

Every time in so many kids again.

And I want to ask out this girl.

I want to talk to that boy.

But I'm so nervous they won't like me.

And they're going to reject me and laugh at me.

And if they keep doing that, the mind is gonna go.

No, don't go there.

Stay the way you are.

So you have to say people like me.

I'm a great kid.

I get all my young kids to write on the mirror.

I'm an awesome kid.

I'm enough.

And it really changes them because they start to feel it.

I'm an awesome kid.

I can talk to a girl like I can talk to my friend, and then they feel okay.

But if you keep linking paints and your mind goes, don't go there.

Don't go there.

And if you link pleasure to it, you go there because you're giving your mind and easy job.

I've gotta work on my website all weekend and all my friends were in the bar so I can link paint.

That is not fair.

It's not fair that I've got to spend a weekend and writing when I could be in the pub.

Now.

Your mind.

You know, I think you should tidy up your sock drawer.

Make sure all your fox face the right way.

Then pump up the cushions and then go to the pub because it's very clear you do no want to work on your website.

But oh, boy, getting those forks and knives in line is really compelling.

Who's done that Most of us do that I suddenly need to do the laundry, which I don't even know I'm tidying up.

My house is one thing.

I don't want to write that bit of work.

How about saying it thrills me to work on my website?

I'm elated working on my weather.

There's nowhere I'd rather be in the whole world right now than sitting in my office working on my website.

Your mind goes, I'm going to set you on fire.

Now.

You're gonna be doing this till two in the morning.

You told me you love it and it throws you.

Let me fill you up with energy and passion.

I'm a writer.

I know how this works.

I never go.

Oh my God, I got to write a book had so lonely it's so isolating.

And what if no one liked?

What if it goes on Amazon?

Go.

I hate that book and it gets no stars or I can go.

I love writing.

How cool is that?

I get to write.

People pay for my books and they like them and they give me great reviews because there's the choice going on again.

So whatever you want, you must link massive pleasure to what you want, and you can link pain to what you don't want.

But I don't bother to do that.

Let's think of all the pain your books never published.

You go into your coffin, it's still in a drawer.

You don't have to do that.

Just focus on the pleasure bit.

I'm a writer.

It's amazing.

My book is published.

I used to always imagine my book in stores.

I'd imagine going to an airport, people reading my book, and when I did, it was like, Wow, but your mind went well.

I took you there because you showed me very clearly what you wanted.

I had that image to take you to cause what you want wants you on.

What you are moving towards is moving towards you.

Don't move towards fear.

Don't move towards failure.

Don't move towards it.

Going wrong.

Move towards it.

Going right So we've actually done the next bit Your mind respond to the pictures and words.

The fastest way to change anything is to change the pictures and works.

And it's such an easy thing to do.

I'm terrified.

I'm elated.

I'm useless.

I'm amazing.

I have no memory.

My memory is compelling.

I can't speak to people.

What I have to say is easy.

I find it easy to speak to anyone.

This is the most vexing rule of the mind.

For every therapist and coach in the room.

It's the one.

My clients have the hardest time with your mind.

La Harvest waters Familiar?

If your mind could choose, it was stay with what's familiar and never go to what's unfamiliar.

We're in a walled city, and that's interesting because years ago at night they shut the door on.

We stayed in the war.

We didn't think, you know, I feel like going for a midnight stroll.

I think I wonder, a bit bored of being in this same old same.

What I want some variety.

I think I'll open the gay Wonder often.

Find another tribe.

They might have killed Your eating you, We learned familiar, made a safe.

Who here noticed with their kids?

And they really want the same cop, the same bowl, the same cereal.

I took my daughter to Finland to see Santa Claus.

She watched the Mermaid and finished the whole time.

And she didn't that was okay and finish because she knew she'd watched it 100 and 10 times.

All right, babe.

His father Christmas is only money I want to watch.

The Little Mermaid is like the next time we just stay home and watch a movie Them She did actually get into it, but it made her feel good.

She's to play this game.

She had so many Barbies and Ken would come up in his car and he was picked the same one.

He never picked another one to go to the ball because they like familiar.

It makes them safe.

You know how many kids you they want?

The same story every night, but familiar also makes us safe.

So here's a rule of the mind, and it's a very important role to put into practice.

My mind likes what is familiar, and it doesn't like what's unfamiliar.