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  • MENG TAN: My dear friend Daniel Goleman

  • is one of the world's most recognized experts on topics

  • relating to emotion intelligence.

  • He is also an amazing author.

  • He has written more than ten books, and his book \"Emotional

  • Intelligence,\" that one book alone,

  • sold more than 5 million copies.

  • He has received many awards, and he

  • has been nominated twice for the Pulitzer prize.

  • On a personal level, Dan is also the person most responsible

  • for me becoming an author.

  • So back in 2007, Dan and I, with a bunch

  • of distinguished friends, co-created something

  • called \"Search Inside Yourself,\" which is

  • became a very popular curriculum in Google and beyond.

  • And I remember in 2009, Dan and I

  • were taking a walk right there.

  • I remember the exact place and exact time.

  • We were taking a walk where I was

  • trying to convince him to write a book on \"Search

  • Inside Yourself.\"

  • And what he told me was, he said, I'd love to do it.

  • I just don't have the time.

  • And then he looked at me, he pointed his finger at me,

  • and said, Meng, why don't you write the book?

  • I was like, me?

  • I'm an engineer, not a doctor.

  • Dammit, Jim.

  • Eventually, because of Dan's support and his confidence

  • in me, I did end up writing a book.

  • So thank you so much, Danny.

  • I'm really excited about Dan's new book,

  • \"Focus-- the Hidden Driver of Excellence.\"

  • Skillfulness over attention is the foundation

  • of all higher cognitive and emotional abilities.

  • Attention creates the conditions for personal excellence.

  • Attention is so important that in \"Search Inside Yourself,\"

  • it is the first thing we train.

  • The first thing we train is attention.

  • Yet I think the subject of attention

  • itself is not getting enough attention, ironically.

  • And I cannot think of anybody better to write a book

  • on an important topic as Dan.

  • So my dear friends-- my dear friend, Danny,

  • I'm delighted that you wrote this book.

  • And I'm delighted that you didn't

  • ask me to write the book.

  • My friends, please welcome my friend,

  • and Google's friend, Dan Goleman.

  • DANIEL GOLEMAN: Thank you.

  • That's sweet.

  • I'm always happy to come to Google.

  • 2007, that reminded me of something.

  • In 2007, there was a short squib in \"Time\" magazine.

  • And it said, there's a new word in the English language.

  • The word is \"pizzled.\"

  • It's a combination of \"puzzled\" and \"pissed off.\"

  • And it describes how you feel when the person you're with

  • takes out their BlackBerry and starts talking to someone else.

  • Think about that.

  • Both things have died.

  • That word and BlackBerry too.

  • Things change quickly.

  • That says something.

  • I remember when I went around to publishers and said,

  • I'd like to write a book about attention.

  • One of them said, that's great.

  • Keep it short.

  • Because I think attention is a capacity-- a vital capacity,

  • as Meng was hinting-- that's really under siege today.

  • I'm most worried about our kids, actually,

  • but I think we all are kind of victims.

  • Here's something rather provocative.

  • Herbert Simon, Nobel Prize winner,

  • said, \"What information consumes is

  • the attention of its recipients.

  • Hence, a wealth of information creates a poverty

  • of attention\"-- to the extent that you understand

  • that there are two kinds of attention.

  • There's the attention that we voluntarily direct,

  • and there's the attention that seduces us.

  • There are actually different systems in the brain.

  • One is a top down system from the prefrontal area.

  • This is when we decide to concentrate on our work.

  • We're applying that kind of attention.

  • But then there are the little seduction--

  • the endless seductions.

  • And there are more and more and more of them.

  • I get-- I'm writing away on my book and I get a little pop-up,

  • you've got an email.

  • That's a seduction.

  • That's an intrusion in sustained focus.

  • And because of the excellence of our technology

  • and the cleverness of people who design technology--

  • some of whom are right in this room,

  • I just realized-- our attention needs

  • to be paid more attention to if we're going to maintain or even

  • increase our capacity for it.

  • This also-- the fact that attention is threatened,

  • along with the fact that there-- in the last two or three years,

  • there's been an explosion of neuroscience findings

  • about the attentional circuitry, which

  • has vast implications for us.

  • This has really, since I'm a science journalist,

  • enticed me to write the book that Meng refused to write,

  • perhaps luckily, now that I think about it.

  • And as I got into it, I realized I

  • had to rethink emotional intelligence.

  • You didn't mention that \"Harvard Business Review\" art--

  • yeah, the next issue of \"Harvard Business Review,\" which

  • will be out next week, has a cover article by me

  • on the leader's focus, the kind of focus,

  • intentional capacities, that anyone who's a leader needs.

  • And we're actually all leaders.

  • I think of leaders as anyone with a sphere of influence--

  • not people on the chart, necessarily.

  • But to the extent that we all need

  • to get more control over our attention,

  • and it makes us good at the things that

  • matter in performance these days,

  • it's led me to revise emotional intelligence,

  • or my thinking about it.

  • And I'll share that with you.

  • There's an effect called-- in statistics, many of you

  • are probably familiar with it-- the floor effect.

  • It occurs at a place like Google.

  • It occurs at an Ivy League college.

  • It occurs anywhere, for example, that there's

  • a premium put for admission on IQ.

  • And it's an interesting phenomenon,

  • because it's rather paradoxical.

  • What it means is that IQ, which is a fantastic predictor

  • of the level of cognitive complexity that you can manage,

  • and that you can understand-- and therefore sorts

  • people into job roles and so on-- abilities.

  • Once you get selected for IQ, then excellence

  • becomes defined largely by things other than IQ.

  • And it's because of the floor effect.

  • And are you all familiar with the floor effect?

  • OK.

  • So a little statistic-- so if you were to plot, say--

  • how's this going to be?-- IQ and emotional intelligence

  • into a scatter plot, you get a fairly random distribution,

  • because those are largely independent aspects of ability,

  • and they partake of different parts of the brain, largely.

  • So you have this pool of people.

  • And if this is the IQ axis, and you select the 99th percentile,

  • and this is the emotional intelligence access,

  • there's much less range of variation for IQ

  • than there is for emotional intelligence.

  • And the way this manifests in the organizational world more

  • generally is that if you look at what's called

  • a competence model-- does anyone know

  • what a competence model is?

  • Another term I should explain.

  • So when I was a graduate student,

  • my professor at Harvard, David McClellan, wrote an article.

  • It was very controversial.

  • He said, if you want to hire the best

  • person for a job, any job in any organization,

  • don't look at their IQ.

  • Don't look at their GPA.

  • Don't look at their personality profile.

  • Look at people in your own organization who

  • hold the role you're hiring for.

  • Identify the top 10% by whatever metric makes

  • sense for that job, compare them systematically

  • to people who are only average in that role,

  • and determine the competencies or ability

  • set that you find in the stars that you

  • don't find in the average.

  • That's now called competence modeling.

  • And it's done by world class organizations,

  • pretty much worldwide.

  • And what's interesting about competence model-- at least

  • what interests me-- is if you aggregate many different models

  • and they're all independently derived-- they're proprietary,

  • actually, because a company or organization wants

  • to know for competitive reasons, what

  • should we look for in our hires?

  • What should we promote for?

  • What should we develop in people?

  • And they want to hold that closely.

  • But I aggregated 100 or 200 models

  • after I wrote \"Emotional Intelligence,\" the follow-up

  • book.

  • And I only looked at two dimensions

  • in the competence models.

  • One was, if you look at the distinguishing competencies--

  • not the entry level competencies,

  • but distinguishing, the ones that mark the stars--

  • and you separate them in terms of purely cognitive abilities,

  • like IQ or technical skills, and on the other side of the ledger

  • you have emotional intelligence--

  • which is how we manage ourselves and how

  • we manage our relationships-- it turns out

  • that for leadership, about 80% to 90%

  • of the competencies independently identified

  • are on the emotional intelligence side.

  • Well, that makes sense, because leadership is not

  • about being the smartest person in the room.

  • It's about helping other people be as smart as they can,

  • which is a people skill.

  • And so emotional intelligence has four parts-- self

  • awareness, self management, empathy, and social skill.

  • And when I looked at that through the lens of attention,

  • I realized that the first and third components, self

  • awareness and empathy, are varieties of attention.

  • And social skill, actually, is a combination

  • of how we manage ourselves and what

  • we read in the other person.

  • So managing ourselves turns out to be

  • based on how aware we are of ourselves.

  • So I revised the model.

  • I'll walk you through some of that in looking at-- well,

  • I'm going to share with you this article that is coming out

  • next week in the \"Harvard Business Review,\"

  • so you don't have to buy it because you got

  • the \"Reader's Digest\" version already.

  • So the first ability, or set of abilities-- inner focus,

  • I call it, which is being aware of what's going on inside you.

  • And that's exactly what you're teaching, Meng,

  • in \"Search Inside Yourself.\"

  • You're teaching self-awareness.

  • And by the way, I see every variety of meditation,

  • including mindfulness, as a retraining of attention.

  • If you strip away the belief system

  • of any meditation from any tradition in the world,

  • you find an attentional mechanism

  • is being strengthened.

  • Would you do agree with that?

  • Yeah?

  • Yeah, exactly.

  • So for self-awareness, self-awareness

  • is really important in many rather surprising areas

  • of life, I think.

  • I have a friend-- I grew up in the Central

  • Valley of California, in the horrible midwest of California.

  • Don't stop there.

  • Just keep going to Lake Tahoe, really.

  • And there was a guy who lived down

  • the road in the next town who I got to know pretty well.

  • He was a really bad student.

  • He almost flunked out of high school.

  • He managed to go to a community college, found

  • his way to a film course.

  • He loved film.

  • So he got into a film school.

  • He did pretty well-- did a student film that

  • caught the attention of a director, got

  • hired by the director.

  • The director liked his work so much

  • that he let him direct a film.

  • He did so well with that that they let him--

  • a studio actually backed him to direct a script that he had

  • written before, when he was much younger.

  • That one did so well that a studio

  • wanted to back him to do another script.

  • But he hated the fact that the studio had final cut.

  • That meant-- he considered himself a creative artist,

  • and he hated what they did in the final edit.

  • So he said, no way am I going to take that money.

  • I'm going to use the money that I got from the film,

  • finance it myself.

  • Everyone he knew in Hollywood said, you are crazy.

  • You do not risk your own money on a film.

  • He did it anyway, ran out of money.

  • Only the 11th bank he went to gave him the money to finish.

  • You have seen that film.

  • \"Star Wars.\"

  • George Lucas is someone who considers himself,

  • and considers himself, first an artist.

  • The factory he stumbled into Lucas Film

  • was an accident of his living by his values.

  • And one of the strengths of good self-awareness

  • is that it helps us answer the question,

  • is what I'm about to do in keeping

  • with my sense of purpose, value, and meaning or not?

  • And the way it does it is by tuning us

  • into subtle signals that come from the bottom-up part

  • of the brain-- which is involuntary, automatic, and out

  • of awareness for the most part-- which also holds much

  • more information than the top-down.

  • And parts of that brain as we go through life

  • extract decision rules-- when I did

  • that, that worked pretty well.

  • When I said that, that bombed.

  • And when we face a decision point,

  • it summates that information for us and presents its advice.

  • Problem.

  • It has no direct circuitry to the part

  • of the brain thinks in words.

  • It has extensive circuitry to the gastrointestinal tract.

  • You get a gut feeling-- feels right or doesn't feel right.

  • Then we put it in words, after we get the gut feeling.

  • So George, I assume, had a very strong gut

  • feeling-- I just can't do it that way.

  • This is an ethical rudder for us.

  • Howard Gardner, a friend of mine at Harvard,

  • studies what's called \"good work.\"

  • Good work combines our best skills--

  • what we're excellent at-- with what we love doing,

  • what engages us, and what we believe

  • in-- our sense of ethics, values, purpose, and meaning.

  • In good work, when you align excellence, engagement,

  • and ethics, you have something to do that you love doing,

  • that it's a pleasure to do.

  • In fact, it gets you in an attentional state

  • which is the state where-- it's called

  • the state of maximal cognitive efficiency,

  • or maximum neural harmony.

  • Simple schematic.

  • This is performance.

  • And this is stress hormones in the brain.

  • And the relationship between stress and performance

  • is very well known in psychology.

  • It's curvilinear.

  • It's an inverted \"u.\"

  • If you have good work, you're very likely to be up here.

  • This is the state some of you may know literature on.

  • It's called flow.

  • The flow state was determined to-- was actually identified

  • by researchers at the University of Chicago who asked people

  • in many, many areas of competence and of work

  • to describe a time you outdid yourself-- you were absolutely

  • at your best.

  • And they asked chess champions and they

  • asked basketball player and they asked neurosurgeons.

  • It didn't matter who they asked.

  • They're all describing the same phenomenological state.

  • There was a neurosurgeon who described

  • a very difficult, challenging piece of surgery he had to do.

  • He didn't know if he could pull it off before he started,

  • but he did it brilliantly.

  • At the end of the surgery, he looked around

  • and there was a little rubble in the corner.

  • He said to the nurse, what happened?

  • She said, well, while you were operating,

  • the ceiling caved in over there, but you didn't notice.

  • You were so concentrated.

  • It's 200% concentration in a flow state.

  • And one of the pathways to flow is

  • through developing and enhancing concentration.

  • Other elements of concentration--

  • it calls on your best skills.

  • You're challenged at the top of your skill set.

  • Another, you're totally adaptable.

  • You're very flexible.

  • Whatever happens, you can change.

  • You're not set in some rigid behavior pattern.

  • Another element of flow that's very important-- it feels good.

  • The things we choose to do in life

  • generally are things that get us in some kind of flow

  • or micro-flow.

  • Flow is also where people work at their best.

  • Now, the state down here is basically boredom.

  • Because you're under-- you have a skill

  • set-- you may be a fantastic programmer,

  • but you're driving a taxi or whatever it is.

  • So you're under-challenged.

  • You're disinterested at what you're doing.

  • Actually, I doubt that it's true here at Google,

  • but in the working world at large,

  • disengagement-- which is what this is called by HR people--

  • is an enormous problem.

  • People will just do enough to keep their job.

  • They're not interested.

  • They're not engaged.

  • It's not good work.

  • However, what they do here is daydream.

  • And daydreaming is another attentional state

  • that has value.

  • Every kind of attention has a purpose and a place.

  • It's when they're out of place they're a problem.

  • Daydreaming, it turns out, is what

  • the brain chooses to do 50% of the time.

  • There was a study-- psychologists at Harvard

  • gave people an iPhone app that called them

  • at random times of the day and asked them two things,

  • what are you doing now, and what are you thinking about?

  • In other words, is your mind somewhere else?

  • Are you daydreaming?

  • That's the 50% data.

  • The most daydreaming was when people are commuting, sitting

  • at a computer terminal-- I'm sure it's not true

  • of the people in this room, but other people.

  • And work, generally.

  • The most focused?

  • When people are making love.

  • Who would answer an app at a time like that?

  • This is just totally puzzling to me.

  • It happens.

  • So these are two different attentional states.

  • The third is when people are stressed out.

  • There's actually an article about this.

  • By the way, this axis-- the metric

  • for this is the levels of stress hormones,

  • particularly adrenaline and cortisol, in the brain.

  • So if you're way up here, it means

  • you're having what's called an amygdala hijack.

  • The amygdala is the part of the emotional brain

  • which is the radar for threat.

  • Our amygdalas right now are answering the question

  • amygdalas have asked all through evolution.

  • And it is, am I safe?

  • Is there a danger?

  • That's what the amygdala cares about.

  • The brain, you have to remember, was designed for survival.

  • The neocortex, the part of the brain that we use all the time,

  • that was like a later-- it's still a beta.

  • That was added way later in evolutionary history.

  • And in fact, the brain is designed still

  • to give precedence to the survival mechanisms.

  • So if the amygdala thinks there's a threat,

  • it can hijack the rest of the brain, particularly

  • the prefrontal area, the part of the brain we take pride

  • in-- the part of the brain that manages attention.

  • And the amygdala has a privileged position

  • in the brain.

  • One neuron-long connection from the ear, from the eye,

  • from the senses.

  • So if gets an instant picture of what's going on.

  • There's a problem.

  • I don't know if many people in this room

  • are old enough to remember when television had static.

  • AUDIENCE: Yes.

  • DANIEL GOLEMAN: You remember the non-digital era.

  • Some people do.

  • OK.

  • So that's what the amygdala's looking at.

  • It has a staticky picture, because most of the signal

  • actually does go up to the top of the brain.

  • But the amygdala has a hair-trigger mechanism.

  • It has a kind of \"rather be safe than sorry\" point of view.

  • So it calls emergencies when actually there's not really

  • an emergency.

  • And just to complicate it, we now

  • live not in the biological reality, where there are saber

  • toothed tiger type threats, but we

  • live in a complex social reality.

  • So the amygdala is misinterpreting

  • social signals-- or interpreting them.

  • That guy's not treating me right.

  • That's unfair.

  • The amygdala is very childlike too.

  • So the amygdala might have a reaction

  • like, this guy's not treating me fair.

  • I'd like to slug him.

  • That's the way the amygdala thinks.

  • So the good news is that that signal

  • goes from the midbrain up to the prefrontal area.

  • And the prefrontal area brings together information

  • from all parts of the brain.

  • So it might add something like, oh, but this is your boss.

  • So you don't hit him.

  • You smile and change the subject or something.

  • That's called emotional intelligence.

  • So people who are in this state-- which, were there

  • was an article in \"Science\" about that state called

  • \"The Neurobiology of Frazzle.\"

  • People who are frazzled have an attentional hijack going on,

  • because one thing the amygdala does

  • is redirect attention to whatever's upsetting us.

  • If you're having a problem in a relationship,

  • you're going to be thinking about that problem at times

  • that you might want to be thinking about something

  • else-- like 2 AM, when you want to be sleeping.

  • That's the amygdala.

  • It forces our attention away from where

  • it might be if we were here to what it is that's upsetting us.

  • It also reshuffles memory.

  • Memory is in a hierarchy.

  • So when you're having a fight with your partner,

  • you can't really remember so well why am I with this person.

  • That's how the amygdala works.

  • So this is an attentional state which is very inefficient,

  • particularly when people ruminate.

  • There's a difference between constructive worry

  • and rumination.

  • Rumination is thought loops you can't stop thinking about that

  • are upsetting, and you go over the same thing over and over.

  • Constructive worry is when you think about it--

  • the amygdala wants you to think about it--

  • and you come up with something you can do.

  • And then you stop the thought.

  • You can go back to having more voluntary control

  • over attention.

  • So those are three very important kinds of attention.

  • I want to call your attention to one aspect of this

  • that I think is really crucial, particularly for kids today.

  • And that is the voluntary ability to get here.

  • It's called \"cognitive control.\"

  • When you do mindfulness, you're amping up cognitive control.

  • Just mainly for your information,

  • yesterday I was in Chicago.

  • And I gave a talk, and Roger Weissberg

  • was there from the Collaborative for Social Emotional Learning.

  • And he said he really sees this as a next step, the integration

  • of, basically, attentional training

  • with emotional intelligence.

  • So cognitive control is talked about,

  • depending on people's point of view,

  • in a lot of interesting ways.

  • Sometimes it's called the delay of gratification,

  • the allocation of attention, working memory, the resistance

  • to distractions, impulse inhibition, goal focus,

  • and learning readiness.

  • The level of cognitive control in a young child

  • determines how well he or she can pay attention

  • to what the teacher is saying, to the textbook, to the lesson.

  • It's absolutely essential for comprehension.

  • And there's a bell curve for this.

  • One of the first tests of cognitive control-- actually,

  • the most famous-- was done very near

  • here, at Stanford, in the Bing Preschool

  • there, which is on campus.

  • And they brought four-year-olds in, sat them down

  • at a little table, put a big, juicy marshmallow on the table,

  • and experimenter says, you can have this marshmallow

  • now if you want, but if you don't

  • need it till I run an errand and come back,

  • you can have two then.

  • And then she leaves the room.

  • This is a predicament that tries the soul of any four-year-old,

  • I promise you.

  • I've seen videos.

  • Some go and lick it and then jump back,

  • like it's a dangerous thing.

  • Some just sing and dance-- you know,

  • sing to themselves to distract themselves.

  • About a third can't stand it.

  • They just gobble it down on the spot.

  • Another third wait the endless 10 minutes or whatever and they

  • get the two.

  • The payoff finding comes 14 years later,

  • when they're tracked down and the two groups are compared,

  • the ones who grabbed and the ones who waited.

  • And it turns out the ones who waited still

  • can delay gratification in pursuit of their goals,

  • which is what that's a test of.

  • But more interestingly, they have a 210 point advantage

  • out of 1600 points on the SAT.

  • Now the SAT is an achievement test,

  • it's a test of what you have learned.

  • It's not an IQ test.

  • And when I told this to the people

  • at Princeton that make the SAT, they were stunned.

  • Because they said, that's bigger than the difference

  • that we see between kids who come from a family where

  • parents have only an elementary school education and those

  • where one parent at least has a graduate degree.

  • But these are all children of people at Stanford University.

  • So what's emerging is that cognitive control

  • is an independent asset-- the ability to pay attention well.

  • This was really nailed by a study done

  • in New Zealand, where they took every child born in a city-- I

  • think 1,037 children-- over one year,

  • between ages four and eight.

  • They tested them rigorously for cognitive control.

  • And then they tracked them down when they were 32.

  • You can only do this in New Zealand.

  • Do not try this in Silicon Valley, I assure you.

  • And what they found was that a child's cognitive control

  • between four and eight predicted that child's financial success

  • and health in their mid 30s better than IQ

  • or the socioeconomic status of the family they grew up in.

  • Think about that.

  • It's very, very compelling.

  • And it's made me feel-- that and many other findings--

  • that we should be paying more attention

  • to this aspect of attention for children.

  • It should be part of education.

  • Because in the study in New Zealand,

  • they found that children who between foreign eight

  • managed to boost their cognitive control had the same benefits.

  • And one of the conclusions was that, yes,

  • we should teach this to kids.

  • And in fact, if we taught it to all kids,

  • it would help the productivity of the economy.

  • People would be much more effective in their work.

  • So there are a number of ways to do it.

  • One of them I find really interesting.

  • I visited Sesame Workshop.

  • Sesame Workshop is where they put together \"Sesame Street.\"

  • The day I visited, they're having a meeting

  • where all the writers were meeting

  • with two cognitive scientists.

  • Because it turns out that every segment of Sesame Street

  • is the translation of a finding in developmental science

  • wrapped in entertainment.

  • So they told me about one that's aimed specifically

  • at cognitive control in preschoolers.

  • It's called \"the cookie connoisseur club.\"

  • I don't know if you've ever seen Sesame--

  • how many people have seen \"Sesame Street?\"

  • So you may remember Alan.

  • He has the store on Sesame Street.

  • Alan wanted to establish the cookie connoisseur

  • club, just like a wine club.

  • You take a cookie.

  • You examine it to see if there are any defects.

  • Then you sniff it.

  • And then you take a nibble.

  • Cookie Monster, of course-- this was meant for him.

  • He wanted to be in the cookie club.

  • But he could not manage to nibble.

  • He only could gobble.

  • So Alan used several reframes for him.

  • And the one that worked was like the marshmallow test.

  • \"Cookie, if you can just nibble now,

  • you'll get a lot of good cookies to eat later.\"

  • And that was the one that did it for him.

  • That is a lesson in cognitive control

  • that's aimed at toddlers, because the way toddlers learn

  • is through modeling.

  • When little kids watch other kids or grownups operate,

  • their brain is taking that all in.

  • So if they see someone manifest cognitive control,

  • that helps them a little bit.

  • Older kids.

  • I was in PS 112 in Spanish Harlem in New York City.

  • And I watched the kids who are from a really

  • impoverished neighborhood.

  • Is East Palo Alto still poor?

  • Sort of?

  • Not like it used to be?

  • OK.

  • So-- anyway, in New York, it's a-- the kids

  • there live in a huge housing project next to the school.

  • The teacher in this classroom said, you know,

  • the other week, a child came in really upset.

  • And I said, what's wrong?

  • And she said, I saw someone who was shot.

  • And she said to the class, how many of you

  • know someone who's been shot?

  • Every hand went up.

  • That kind of childhood-- very traumatic, very difficult.

  • And typically you would find that kids

  • who come from such a chaotic background

  • manifest that in classroom.

  • But this classroom was absolutely calm and focused.

  • And I realized why when I saw them

  • do what they call \"breathing buddies.\"

  • Breathing buddies happens every day.

  • Each child goes to their cubby and gets

  • their favorite little stuffed animal,

  • finds a place to lie down on the floor,

  • puts the animal on their belly, and watches

  • it rise and watches it fall.

  • And they count one, two, three on the inhalation and one,

  • two, three on the exhalation.

  • Basically, it's training in attention.

  • When you train the circuitry for sustained attention,

  • you get a \"two for,\" because it's

  • the same circuitry-- it's intertwined

  • with the circuitry the brain uses

  • to manage distributing emotions and impulse.

  • So that's why you get the calm along with the focused.

  • There's another way to do this.

  • Meng might know about it.

  • It's from SEL.

  • It was developed by a friend of mine named Roger Weissberg.

  • It's called \"the stoplight.\"

  • SEL is Social Emotional Learning.

  • Many schools now across the country

  • have a curriculum in emotional intelligence.

  • Basically in managing emotions, being

  • aware of them, in empathy, in getting along

  • and collaborating.

  • The stoplight is on the wall of every room.

  • It's a traffic light that says, when you're upset,

  • remember the stoplight.

  • Red light, stop.

  • Calm down.

  • Think before you act.

  • Yellow light, think of a range of things you could do

  • and what the consequence would be.

  • Green light, pick the best one and try it out.

  • And that's another way to teach cognitive control.

  • Yet another way, I had my grandchildren

  • play the beta version of a video game that's

  • being developed for the iPad at-- a group at Wisconsin.

  • Every time you breathe out, you tap the screen once.

  • And on the fifth breath out, you tap it twice.

  • And if you keep doing that, it gets

  • more difficult-- in other words, the challenge gets better

  • and you learn more and more.

  • And secondly, you get a visual reward--

  • like if it's a desert scene, flowers will bloom.

  • They loved it.

  • But that is also explicitly designed

  • to teach-- to enhance cognitive control.

  • And then, of course, the best way

  • is what Meng has developed for us.

  • What's that?

  • MENG TAN: We developed together.

  • DANIEL GOLEMAN: We developed together.

  • I'll give you the credit.

  • OK.

  • So that's inner focus.

  • Inner focus is both self-awareness

  • and managing our inner world, particularly

  • our distressing emotions.

  • The second kind of focus is other focus--

  • knowing what's going on with people around us.

  • There are three kinds of empathy.

  • The first is-- what time is it now?

  • MENG TAN: It's 3:40.

  • DANIEL GOLEMAN: When am I supposed to stop?

  • MENG TAN: 4:00.

  • DANIEL GOLEMAN: You mean I have 20 minutes?

  • Is that right?

  • Well, forget other empathy.

  • OK.

  • So there are three kinds; cognitive,

  • understanding how a person thinks;

  • emotional, understanding and feeling what the person feels,

  • and feeling with; and empathic concern.

  • Empathic concern is not, I understand

  • what's going on in you, but if you're in pain, if you're

  • suffering, if you have a need that I can help you with,

  • I'm inclined to help you with it.

  • It's the basis of compassion.

  • And compassion, by the way, starts

  • with noticing what's going on with the other person.

  • There's a spectrum that runs from noticing the person

  • to tuning in to registering what's happening

  • within them, empathizing, and then, if you can help,

  • doing so.

  • And I have a lot more to say, but it's all in my book.

  • Because what I wanted to get to is the third kind of focus,

  • because I think it's very salient here.

  • And there's a real problem in the world

  • that I think Google, or the talents in this room

  • and in this valley, could really help with.

  • Outer focus is a systems awareness.

  • And I think we all need to be aware of systems.

  • It could be organizational systems.

  • In an organization, who do you need

  • to influence to get a decision made

  • that you are trying to put through?

  • That's a kind of systems awareness.

  • There are family systems too.

  • Family dynamics are systemic.

  • And then there are the broader systems.

  • And it's the broader systems I want talk about,

  • because it's really a mess.

  • And I don't know if you know the terms

  • \"wicked problem\" and \"mess.\"

  • They're actually technical terms.

  • A wicked problem is not understood

  • until after the formulation of a solution.

  • It has no stopping rule.

  • You don't know when you're done.

  • Solutions to wicked problems are not right or wrong.

  • Every wicked problem is essentially novel and unique.

  • Every solution to a wicked problem

  • is a one-shot operation.

  • There's no chance for a learning curve.

  • Now, to compound a wicked problem,

  • you have to look at what's technically called a mess.

  • A mess is a wicked problem that interacts

  • with other wicked problems.

  • Another characteristic, there's no authority

  • in charge of solving the problem.

  • The people trying to solve the problem

  • are also creating the problem.

  • And time is running out.

  • Welcome to the Anthropocene dilemma.

  • The Anthropocene Age started with the Industrial Revolution

  • and has been increasing in ferocity ever since.

  • Geologists use this term for the current epoch where

  • we exist now to describe the fact that one species is

  • altering the global systems that support

  • life in the wrong direction.

  • That's the Anthropocene dilemma.

  • The real dilemma is that there are three systems operating

  • that don't mesh.

  • One system is-- one domain, rather,

  • is human systems-- systems of energy, transportation,

  • construction, industry, and commerce on the one hand--

  • are systematically degrading the eight global systems that

  • support life on the planet.

  • The poster boy, of course, is carbon.

  • But that's just one of many, many different kinds

  • of problems.

  • The real problem is that the human brain is not

  • designed to notice the problem.

  • The human brain does not have any perceptual apparatus

  • that lets us directly perceive this,

  • because it's too macro or too micro.

  • I mean, we're-- the human brain is designed to register, honey,

  • we have to talk-- that's threat--

  • but not what's actually happening to the planet.

  • The amygdala doesn't care.

  • It shrugs.

  • So this is a big, big problem.

  • And, you know, it puts us all in the predicament

  • of collectively doing evil, just by living.

  • Because everything we use has a footprint.

  • And a footprint is another way of saying

  • it has some level of destructiveness

  • for natural systems.

  • So there's actually a metric for this.

  • It's called life cycle assessment.

  • Some of you may have heard of it.

  • It looks at, for example, these glasses.

  • And it says, well, glass.

  • In making-- glass is not a product.

  • It's a process.

  • You could start the history of glass when you get some sand.

  • And you're going to mix it with chemicals.

  • And you're going to transport it.

  • You're going to bring it to a place

  • where you cook it at a high temperature

  • for many, many hours, all of that.

  • At every step along the way, you can break down what's going on.

  • And life cycle assessment does it in a very fine-tuned way.

  • It says there are almost 2000 discrete steps

  • in glass, from beginning to end.

  • And at each step, you can analyze

  • an array of emissions and impacts on the environment,

  • on the health of the people who are connected with it,

  • and on the social well being of the people that

  • are connected with it.

  • And the metric-- there's a science.

  • It's called industrial ecology.

  • It's a combination of physics, chemistry, biology,

  • environmental science, industrial design,

  • and industrial engineering.

  • They are the ones who have this metric.

  • So now there is a way to analyze precisely

  • the damage we do just by living.

  • So I have-- this, by the way, is the depressing, guilt-provoking

  • part of my talk.

  • Sorry.

  • I have a friend who teaches life cycle assessment at the Harvard

  • School of Public Health.

  • He has his students analyze their footprint.

  • And they say to him after, and it's a very depressing thing

  • to do, the world would have been better off

  • if I hadn't been born.

  • Isn't that right?

  • And he says, that's the wrong conclusion.

  • He says, instead of just looking at the footprint,

  • we should look at our handprint.

  • The handprint takes the footprinted baseline

  • and then calculates the metric for everything

  • good we do, everything that reduces our footprint.

  • He says, instead of just moping around about the footprint,

  • think about how you can keep building your handprint.

  • People can do it.

  • Families can do it.

  • Schools can do it.

  • Companies can do it.

  • There's an aggregate handprint as well as

  • an aggregate footprint.

  • If we're really responsible to the generations who

  • will bear the cost of how we're living now,

  • we would take this pretty seriously.

  • And I'm hoping somebody will.

  • My job is to tell you about it and to tell you

  • what I think some fixes might be.

  • But really, I don't have the answer.

  • There's a group at Berkeley and in San Francisco that

  • built something called Good Guide.

  • It's a website.

  • G-O-O-D-G-U-I-D-E. goodguide.com evaluates consumer products

  • in terms of their footprint using LCA,

  • and compares products against each other so you can make

  • a better choice.

  • There's one called \"Skin Deep\" just for personal care

  • products.

  • Personal care products might have 50 different ingredients

  • you never heard of.

  • They look in medical databases to see, well,

  • is this a carcinogen?

  • Is it an endocrine disruptor?

  • And it ranks lipsticks, eye gloss, according to toxicity.

  • Toxicity is one of the dimensions in this.

  • And that gives people choice.

  • I feel it's great that these exist,

  • but you have to look them up.

  • I would like to see the cognitive cost of finding out

  • the impact of what we do and buy reduced to zero.

  • The cognitive cost is the effort you

  • have to make to find out the data.

  • So the cognitive cost is high now,

  • even though the metric exists, because people

  • have to look it up somehow.

  • It should be-- ideally, it would be there and evident the moment

  • that we are about to engage in the activity

  • or about to buy the product, or B2B if we're going to purchase

  • for an organization from another organization.

  • So one solution is transparency-- at least,

  • a partial solution.

  • The second is handprints.

  • The third-- I think we're in this predicament

  • because most of the platforms that are used-- chemically,

  • industrial, and so on-- were invented

  • before we knew about LCA, before we thought about consequences,

  • before it was really a factor.

  • The chemicals we used are largely

  • based on petrochemicals.

  • Well, petrochemicals, excuse me, suck.

  • The reason is that oil and water don't mix.

  • They never die.

  • Plastics, bad idea.

  • Styrofoam, bad idea.

  • Better idea?

  • Two students at Rensselaer Polytech

  • invented a styrofoam, which also never dies,

  • that is made out of rice husks and mushroom roots.

  • And it works just as well.

  • In fact, General Motors is using in the dashboard of cars.

  • Who knew there was styrofoam in the dashboard of you car?

  • But still, better they use this than the other kind,

  • because it decomposes.

  • And we really need to start thinking along

  • the terms of bio mimicry.

  • How does nature do it so elegantly?

  • We do it so crudely.

  • We could be much better at it.

  • There are wonderful models everywhere.

  • So that's another thought I had about what we could do,

  • reinvent everything.

  • Another thing I'd like to see is systems education

  • for kids in school, so that this way of thinking

  • came naturally to kids because it's

  • embedded in the curriculum, K through 12.

  • And LCA is part of your math.

  • You could be-- this whole science

  • could be part of all kinds of courses.

  • And the other solution, I don't know.

  • What do you think?

  • I'm just leaving you with a question.

  • Because, just to wrap it up, I went to a conference at MIT

  • on global systems.

  • And I struck by two things.

  • One was John Sterman, who's the head of the systems dynamic

  • unit at MIT, said, our biggest problem is system blindness.

  • And the other was what the Dalai Lama said.

  • He said, whenever we face a decision,

  • we should ask ourselves, who benefits?

  • Is it just me, or a group?

  • Just my group, or everyone?

  • Is it just for now, or for the future?

  • Thank you.

  • MENG TAN: OK, we have about ten minutes for questions.

  • Jordan, do you have the mic?

  • OK.

  • So Jordan has access to Dory.

  • He can ask the first couple questions.

  • And then the rest, if you have questions,

  • you can queue up behind Jordan.

  • JORDAN: Hello.

  • What's the relationship between focus and creativity?

  • Often, if I pour all my focus into a problem,

  • I fail to see better solutions that

  • are obvious when stepping back a bit.

  • DANIEL GOLEMAN: Yeah, you named the solution.

  • Actually, it's the good side of this state.

  • It's daydreaming.

  • Because the classical stages in solving a creative problem

  • are begin with focusing, with effort, and gathering

  • all the information, trying out all the solutions

  • you can think of.

  • And if you're still baffled, you let it go.

  • And you daydream.

  • You go for a walk.

  • You take a shower.

  • The annals of science and math are

  • full of instants where-- for example, a mathematician

  • grappled with an equation for years, could not solve it,

  • and the answer came to him as he was getting on a bus.

  • Because in that day-dreamy state where your mind is wandering,

  • you have more access to the bottom-up part

  • of the mind, which, remember, registers everything you know.

  • And that can put together two discrete elements that

  • have never been combined, but that

  • operates in a useful way, which is a creative product.

  • Then, of course, you have to focus again to execute.

  • That's another-- I mean, then you need venture capital

  • and oh my god, it's like a headache.

  • Did you have another question, Jordan?

  • JORDAN: Yeah.

  • Can you give us the top three points

  • from the \"Harvard Business Review\"

  • article on leadership and focus, please?

  • DANIEL GOLEMAN: That's what my whole talk was.

  • It was that leaders need the three kinds of focus--

  • inner focus to manage yourself and lead yourself,

  • other focus to read other people effectively

  • and to be able to communicate in a way which is persuasive,

  • and that motivates and that has the right impact-- I mean,

  • you could say the art of leadership

  • is helping people get and stay in this state.

  • And the third is the systems awareness,

  • because you need that for strategic thinking,

  • for example.

  • You need to understand what's happening

  • with the technologies.

  • You need to understand what's happening with the economy.

  • You need to understand the larger systems

  • that your organization operates in.

  • And so, for example, with the economic problem,

  • a lot of companies promoted people

  • who were very good at getting the numbers

  • but really trampled on people.

  • And now they're realizing that that lack of empathy

  • is costing organizations.

  • So what I'm arguing is that leaders need all three

  • in balance.

  • Will that do?

  • JORDAN: One more.

  • People with ADD are told that they are most effective when

  • they follow their impulses, instead of forcing themselves

  • to control their attention in a top-down manner.

  • How does this fit into your model?

  • DANIEL GOLEMAN: So ADD is a big problem during the school

  • years, when there's a premium on being

  • able to focus on what the teacher's saying and so on.

  • ADD also means that people's minds

  • wander more, which is why it's a problem during the school

  • years.

  • But it turns out that people with ADD tend on,

  • average, to be more creative than other people.

  • They are more naturally entrepreneurs, for example.

  • JORDAN: Does anyone else have questions?

  • DANIEL GOLEMAN: Someone's behind you here.

  • AUDIENCE: So my question is about cognitive control.

  • And you mentioned a lot of studies

  • where certain children or certain people

  • had better cognitive control than others.

  • And my question is, what factors affect that?

  • Do you think it's something people are born with?

  • And is it affected by things like their socioeconomic

  • situation, by culture, by the education

  • they've already received?

  • DANIEL GOLEMAN: All of it.

  • In other words, it's both something

  • that people have some level of naturally-- it's innate.

  • It's genetic.

  • But you know, the brain is plastic through life.

  • And the centers for cognitive control

  • are part of the brain that's the last to develop anatomically--

  • doesn't mature fully till mid 20s.

  • And during that period of plasticity, roughly childhood

  • and adolescence, what you learn, and systematic training,

  • has enormous effect.

  • So the basic repetition for cognitive control

  • is you focus on one thing, your mind wanders,

  • you notice it wandered, and you bring it back.

  • Does that sound familiar?

  • And every time you do that, the neurons for that circuitry

  • strengthen in their connectivity.

  • It's exactly analogous to being in a gym and lifting weights.

  • And every time you do a repetition,

  • that muscle gets a little stronger.

  • So the more we can help children and teens

  • do that-- which reminds me, I actually

  • have some instructional CDs for kids and teens on this,

  • from morethansound.net, if anybody's interested.

  • Because I think it's very important

  • that parents do this for kids and that schools do it

  • for kids.

  • The more you do it, the better you get at cognitive control.

  • Then you asked about chaotic childhood and all of that.

  • And that is a negative factor.

  • That's why I was so impressed by the school in Spanish Harlem.

  • AUDIENCE: Hi there.

  • I'm one of the fortunate Googlers that has teens.

  • And I would like to know a little bit about the amygdala

  • hijack and the response that different teens may have.

  • I have one team when I think they're

  • hijacked that goes angry, and I have another that goes tearful.

  • Is that a relationship to the amygdala hijack

  • or something else?

  • DANIEL GOLEMAN: Angry and tearful, I don't know.

  • There's a wonderful book coming out

  • by Dan Siegel called \"Brainstorms.\"

  • It'll be out December 26.

  • And it's about the adolescent brain.

  • It's actually written for teenagers and their parents

  • to read together.

  • But one of the things he talks about

  • is the phenomenon that during adolescence, there's

  • a wider discrepancy than at any other point in life

  • between two neural systems.

  • One is the system for instant gratification, which

  • surges ahead, and the other is for delaying gratification,

  • which lags a little behind.

  • And so individual teens may differ

  • in the gap between that circuitry,

  • but I've heard a definition of maturity

  • as widening the gap between impulse and action.

  • AUDIENCE: Thank you very much, Mr. Goleman,

  • for this incredible lecture.

  • I'm wondering with this structure

  • that you have here and traditional medicine

  • and what they look at in the mind.

  • And as far as I can tell, being an epileptic,

  • this really doesn't apply much to us.

  • We have cognitive problems that cannot be corrected and have

  • been heavily-- heavy medication has been used.

  • I'm on medications that are very dangerous.

  • And I'm working with a couple neuros,

  • a Jim Fallon-- I don't know if you know Jim, he's a guy--

  • and I'm told that I don't have much

  • of a chance of doing a lot of this stuff.

  • And for me to focus actually takes a lot of work.

  • And I was wondering if you have any suggestions for epilepsy?

  • DANIEL GOLEMAN: I'm not a neurologist, not a specialist.

  • I have friends who are in the same situation.

  • But I think that-- one of the things I didn't mention

  • is that there's a decline in cognitive control with aging.

  • And they've developed a set of training tools

  • which are web-based to reverse or slow that process,

  • and you might try those, because the medications are

  • like a shotgun in the brain.

  • They hit many different systems.

  • And the brain still remains plastic.

  • So you can go to the mental gym and see--

  • that just might help you keep that focus.

  • AUDIENCE: Thank you very much.

  • DANIEL GOLEMAN: Good luck

  • MENG TAN: With that, for those of you interested

  • in [INAUDIBLE], the CEO, [INAUDIBLE]

  • is sitting right here.

  • Feel free to talk to him.

  • The book is \"Focus, The Hidden Driver of Excellence,\"

  • for those in the room, you can buy

  • it fom the back of the room.

  • Danny will do a book signing after this.

  • For those not in the room, it's available where books are sold.

  • So with this, \"Focus,\" Danny Goleman.

  • Thank you, my friends.

  • DANIEL GOLEMAN: Thanks, Meng.

MENG TAN: My dear friend Daniel Goleman

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