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  • I am going to tell you today about my hero.

  • My hero is my mother.

  • She was a child of the 60´s in the Netherlands

  • which meant that before she got me,

  • and she was 25 when she had me,

  • she had squatted many buildings,

  • she had opened up the first meditation and yoga center in the Haag,

  • she had opened up her own restaurant of vegetarian organic food

  • that they were growing on their own farm

  • and that people were just waiting

  • outside in line to get in and to eat there.

  • Having a mother like this and living in a time where

  • because of her and her friends - what they did for my society

  • I was growing up in a perfect country.

  • We had spiritual freedom, I went to Waldorf school with my friends.

  • I can't remember that we had anything to fight for.

  • Life was absolutely perfect.

  • I had a beautiful community around me that supported me

  • and I always knew that I had to thank my mother for that.

  • Then I decided to move to Slovakia and my mother visited me here.

  • She did not really connect to Slovakia.

  • She did not really connect to what she saw here.

  • But she was positive about few things. She said WOW!

  • Slovakia in the contrary to the overcrowded and overdeveloped Netherlands

  • is a country that can really take care of its own agricultural production.

  • So she felt safe that I lived in a country

  • that could really take care of itself in a time of crisis.

  • [audience laughing]

  • You are all laughing!

  • And that has a reason.

  • Because you don't believe that your country is capable of something like that.

  • This is a truth that I did not want to tell my mom.

  • Because I didn't want to worry her.

  • Because... what... Should I tell her,

  • No mom, I live in a country where the majority of people

  • grew up within socialism

  • and they don't believe that there is a chance

  • to change things for the better

  • because after socialism there came corruption for 20 years?

  • And that most people are just burying their heads in the sand

  • as they saw their mothers and their grandmothers do?

  • That they don't believe

  • that you can change anything

  • because there are just few people in power

  • grabbing everything they can

  • whenever they can and leaving very little

  • for the weakest in society,

  • e.g. for healthcare and taking care for old people.

  • Was I gonna tell this to my mom?

  • No, I didn't tell her all this.

  • I told her what the reason is why I DO live in Slovakia.

  • The reason that I live here is that I met from the 1st second,

  • I mean the 1st person that I met in Slovakia

  • that really opened her heart for me was Bety Majernikova.

  • I was surrounded by people that were just amazing.

  • I could see that despite all this sht.

  • Despite all this...

  • The country that does not really work in a perfect way.

  • In a way that I knew about society and community.

  • They just do what they love.

  • Despite of everything.

  • And they would fight for what they wanted to do.

  • And I told her how great inspiration that is for me.

  • The next time I saw my mom I had to go to her.

  • Because she was very sick.

  • She could not leave her own bedroom.

  • She had cancer.

  • This was an amazing time.

  • I have to say that this was a great gift to be able to spend this time with my mom.

  • We used to sit and I used to massage her feet or her back.

  • One day we were just cuddling and sitting and she told me

  • "Illah", just out of the blue "I have to thank you.

  • I have to thank you for the fact that you were born."

  • And I looked at her and she said

  • "Yes, because you were born I learned what is most important in life.

  • And that is unconditional love and patience. "

  • Of course she died... maybe month later.

  • She died,

  • thanks to amazing healthcare system in the Netherlands,

  • in her own bedroom.

  • With her own surroundings, with her own family around her.

  • With flowers every day.

  • We were able to take care of her in her own bed.

  • We took night shifts and day shifts.

  • We had nurses and doctors coming taking care of her and giving her medicine.

  • So she died in the most wonderful way.

  • Two years later I was in a Slovak hospital

  • and I gave birth to a really beautiful beautiful little girl called Meda.

  • But instead of feeling this love and patience

  • I was so angry and so disappointed.

  • Because what happened was that

  • during my labor the nurses and doctors they were grumpy,

  • they were yelling at me and asking me weird questions.

  • The doctors just looked at their watch and they said

  • "OK. It's time. We're gonna take the baby.

  • And we're going to do a C-section on you."

  • Something that I agreed before that that was the last thing to do.

  • They put me under full anesthesia.

  • And they kept me in the bed for 4 hours when I woke up

  • without telling me if I had a baby or not.

  • So I was furious because I could not explain to myself,

  • Why the hell was I living in Slovakia?!

  • What came to my mind that I wanted to have

  • a child in this country and raise it here?

  • And so I fell out of my bubble of this beautiful positiveness

  • that I had from the beginning through all these people that I met.

  • I fell into the hard reality that all of you have experienced

  • in some way in this country.

  • I realized at that moment that I have to make a decision.

  • Either I'm going to get the hell out of here

  • or I'm gonna do something.

  • But what can I do?

  • I'm a photographer.

  • My field is the public space.

  • I made some nice books.

  • And I'm telling everybody: "Hey, man, these billboards you really don't need them."

  • But is that gonna make a better world?

  • I don't know.

  • One day I was sitting with my friend Barbara Zavarská

  • she is responsible for taking PechaKucha, for instance, to Slovakia.

  • We were talking

  • and complaining about Bratislava

  • and all of a sudden we came to this simple and small plan.

  • We said, We LOVE markets.

  • We miss markets here. So we´re gonna make a market.

  • We were thinking

  • what we should do --- Oh, Panenska ulica is perfect!!

  • It's in the center.

  • It's a beautiful one-way street so we can close it.

  • There's a beautiful caffee, there's a church that has a garden, there is a hostel, there's some shops

  • there's some design and jewelry store.

  • OK, we said, let's do it there.

  • We started by making research in the neighborhood - by questionnaire

  • asking people

  • 'Can you imagine having a market in your street?'

  • And they said, NO!!

  • Well, then I asked them

  • 'Would you like to have a market in your street?'

  • And they said, YES!

  • So I learned one thing: if a Slovak says something's not possible, you should do it.

  • [audience laughs and claps]

  • What happened was really amazing.

  • The city was absolutely cooperative.

  • We founded a facebook page and that was it.

  • All of the sudden people were calling me.

  • Everybody was calling me.

  • I was on vacation and this guy called me

  • Hi, I'm Honzik, we don't know each other but do you need help?

  • I said, What can you do? And he said he worked for the Greenpeace.

  • And I told him I needed a farmer who can sell vegetable at the market.

  • He said, OK, give me 2 days.

  • The lady from the jewelry store said:

  • "Hey, I have a band. I'll get my boys together and we'll play."

  • I remember, in the morning I was standing in the street.

  • It was completely silent and empty.

  • Except of the stands and people who were taking things out of the boxes.

  • There was this guy called Michal from Girraffe Bakery.

  • He started his business that day with his girlfriend.

  • They baked little cupcakes.

  • He was like: "I couldn't sleep last night

  • because I baked 700 cupcakes

  • and I'm afraid that I'm gonna take them home tonight."

  • And all these things were happening.

  • And all of the sudden people started to come.

  • Street full of people.

  • All of the sudden there was this crowd that did not stop.

  • If you here have been there for this 1st market you know the feeling.

  • Because it was really amazing.

  • I would see the same people at 11am and would still see them at 2pm

  • chatting and hanging out, their kids were playing

  • and they were drinking and buying or whatever,

  • meeting friends, dancing.

  • At 2pm I remember looking at Michal.

  • He was standing there with all these empty boxes around.

  • And he said, We sold everything!

  • And that was exactly the moment that I felt

  • Slovakia is hungry.

  • [speaker and audience alughing]

  • It's hungry for [audience clapping]

  • real things, real people that meet in real life.

  • Meeting real friends, or 2 or 5 at the same day.

  • What can be better than that?

  • Real food, good food, local food.

  • Real wine that's made in your region,

  • real bread that is like heavy - you can squeeze it and nothing happens to it.

  • [audience laughing]

  • This is when I realized that I had created my bubble.

  • I hadn't fallen out of my bubble or gone away.

  • But I had taken this bubble and I just invited all of you in it.

  • All these people came.

  • And the bubble just grew and grew and it became a hub,

  • a place for all these people to meet

  • and to do the things they love.

  • I realized that these nurses and doctors in the hospital,

  • they don't do what love.

  • Or they stopped doing what they love at some point.

  • I understand it's really difficult if you want to support local people

  • or local producers of local things.

  • But these are the people who do things with love

  • and do what they love.

  • But it's not going to be easy all the time.

  • I mean I created the market which is work that I love.

  • But last time it was really not funny.

  • There were some things that went wrong

  • and I went home really depressed and I was so sad.

  • In the morning I woke up and I saw on my table this bag.

  • I opened up the bag and I saw this bread.

  • Sorry but you know!

  • It's organic bread that is made in Modra.

  • And I saw this pot of honey that is made by family where the mother

  • and the grandmother were selling it.

  • And their son was on the farm

  • and the daughter was in the shop that they just opened in the center.

  • Then I saw the wine of these young kids

  • that are renewing the winery of their parents

  • that was destroyed during socialism.

  • Then I found another thing.

  • I found a book of this homeless guy that came to us in the market

  • and he paid us for his place where he was selling the book.

  • He gave us his book and he wrote

  • "Illah and Barbara, I am wishing you lot of smiles,

  • health and sometimes a full wallet.

  • And I realized, YES, this is it!!

  • All that I can do is to create an environment

  • where the people that do what they love

  • are stimulated to keep doing what they love.

  • And to keep loving what they do.

  • I remembered, this is what my mom was trying to tell me.

  • It's like in a marriage.

  • It's the same with work, it's the same with everything that you do.

  • Because you can do what you love.

  • You can marry the man that you love

  • but it's not always gonna be easy.

  • So you need patience and unconditional love

  • to keep loving this person.

  • To keep doing what you do.

  • This is what I can give as a gift to Slovakia.

  • Something I am doing with all these people

  • who are constantly calling me that they want to do something

  • perform or sell something.

  • Every day people are calling me and writing me.

  • I realized this is what I can do to help

  • to create a society that I am confident

  • that my daughter will feel very good in

  • and will feel that it's really normal to have this kind of luxury.

  • And I am very grateful for that.

  • And I want to thank you for this beautiful bag.

  • Because this work made me understand

  • what my mother was trying to tell me.

  • [Audience clapping]

I am going to tell you today about my hero.

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TEDx】愛你所做的事。Illah van Oijen在TEDxBratislava的演講 (【TEDx】Love what you do: Illah van Oijen at TEDxBratislava)

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    阿多賓 posted on 2021/01/14
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