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This is the MarieTV live call-in show, this is Gregory Patterson.

Well hello there.

If you ever wondered who's responsible for the coiffing of the coif...

Hey, hey.

It's him.

So what we do here is we take live calls from our amazing audience, folks just like you,

and we do our best to give them insight and some answers and some focus to move ahead.

So let's get started.

Hello?

Hi, is this Lily?

Yes it is.

Hi, Lily, it's Marie Forleo and you're on the live MarieTV call-in show, and Team Forleo

is here and we are so excited to talk to you.

I'm so excited to talk to you Marie, thank you so much for taking my question.

Absolutely.

Okay, so let's get right into it, woman.

Tell us your question.

So I started a day coaching business with B-School 2018, so exciting.

I'm looking to partner with podcasts and bloggers to get my name and business out there, and

in this process I found someone with a large following and a popular podcast and I reached

out and they were really interested in speaking about a collaboration.

This person is lovely and talks about some things that my ideal customer definitely deeply

cares about, and then I was researching more into her podcast and I found that her podcast

values and some of her episodes specifically on dating, religion, sex, don't align with

my own and given the opportunity, do you think I should appear on the podcast to get my name

out there, the risk being my brand would be associated with one I don't resonant with

or do I just go on if given the opportunity to see if it can grow my following?

What do you think?

Lily, I am so clear on this one.

Girl, oh my goodness.

I'm really excited about this.

So I was actually recently flying back from Los Angeles to New York City and I watch this

amazing documentary that I actually recommend for everyone including you about Warren Buffett.

I always take notes when I watch documentaries because there's always such great gems that

pop out.

One of the quotes from Warren is this, "It takes 20 years to build a reputation, and

five minutes to ruin it.

When you think about that, you do things differently."

Stay off that damn podcast.

Ain't nothin' worth ruining your still small but trying to be building––right––reputation,

and I love how much respect that you crafted around this particular person, the fact that

she's lovely, she was open to talking to you, but when you dug a little deeper, that you

found that the values, there was no alignment there.

That is gonna happen at many parts of your career and we can love people, we can respect

them, we can appreciate what they do and who they are in the world, and we do not have

to align ourselves with them or do any kind of business with them.

So my recommendation clear as clear can be for you is don't go on the damn podcast.

Thank you so much, I appreciate that.

It's just like that's it in a nutshell, and yeah I don't know, Greg's here with me.

You know Greg if you watch the show.

Greg, do you have any thoughts that you wanna share with Lily?

Yes, I do.

Lily, it's so funny because I was in a position in my life recently and I remember showing

up to your house one day.

I got chosen to be a part of a fabulous group on a gigantic television show.

It was so against my brand, and remember when we were talking about it and I'm like, "Marie,

this just, in my soul does not feel right to me."

Probably the biggest career opportunity of my life, but it didn't feel right for my brand

and Marie's like, "What do you feel?"

I'm like, "It's not right."

She's like, "Move on, buddy."

To this day, the moving on bit of protecting my brand has been so freeing and liberating

and it's peaceful knowing I made the right choice, you know what I mean?

Yeah it's a real good simplifier for all of us.

If someone's values don't align with them, again, it doesn't mean we don't respect them,

we don't appreciate who we are, we can love on them from afar, but it's not the kind of

thing you wanna get mixed up with.

So Lily, is that helpful for you?

So helpful.

Thank you for the encouragement to value my own brand.

Yes.

Yes.

As one that has its own voice and its own potential, and that's clear as day.

So thank you so much for all that advice, Greg and Marie.

Aww, you're so welcome.

This is just a reminder...

Thank you.

For all of us, it is never worth it.

Again, I know in this world, it's really hard 'cause all of us are constantly doing whatever

we can to be of service.

We're doing what we can to build our businesses and sometimes it can be really tempting when

people put things in front of us and it appears to be an amazing opportunity that can "catapult

us" but something inside is like, 'This doesn't quite feel right.'

You have got to trust those senses, those intuitions, those feelings, and especially

for you, Lily, reiterating this just for everyone listening.

When you're clear about a values' misalignment, don't go there.

Don't every go there again, ain't nothin' that's worth more than your reputation.

Awesome.

When...

How do you say that to someone if you've already begun the conversation about collaboration?

Sure, that is really a values choice.

Some people...

Friends often know me as one of the most honest people they'll ever meet.

I have friends that say, "Girl, you just tell it.

You tell it like it is."

Then there's other folks that find that their personal style is perhaps, they'll position

it a little differently, like, "You know what, I'm actually changing direction for my business."

So Lily, I'm gonna leave that up to you, I feel like there's always a way to communicate

in a way that's honest and respectful and true to yourself without hurting another person.

Also, I think the thing that's great about this conversation is that you guys aren't

locked in yet from what I've heard.

It's not like you have a date that you're supposed to make this podcast happen, it feels

like it was more in the discovery phase.

Right.

Right?

Yeah.

So what may happen for you in has certainly happened in my life, when you get clear on

alignment for yourself, those situations that could've been possible don't even materialize.

Yeah.

You have to trust yourself that if this person does call and ask, you'll wanna take some

time and craft an email or response that is really respectful, as honest as you wanna

be, and just trust that when you're kind and compassionate to another person, if you let

them know that you're ... Something has shifted for you, or if you wanna say, "Hey, I've discovered

not everything is in alignment, but I really respect you and I'm just gonna go a different

way."

There's many different ways you can approach this, but I wouldn't stress out about that.

Based on how you communicated here, and I've checked out your website a little bit, you're

an excellent communicator, so I know you're gonna be just fine.

Thank you so much, Marie.

Thank you for helping me believe in myself.

You got it, darlin'.

Thank you for callin' in-

Thank you.

And keep us updated on how things go and can't wait to see you in B-School next year.

Yay, can't wait.

Have a great day.

Bye.

Thanks, bye.

Hello?

Hi, it this Natascha?

It is Natasha from Germany.

How are you?

Hello.

Hi Natascha from Germany.

It's Marie and Greg and the MarieTV crew and you are live on the call-in show.

It's so great to talk with you.

It's so, so amazing to be here.

Thank you so much for this opportunity.

Absolutely.

So woman, tell us your question.

We're gonna see if we can help out.

Perfect.

So can I just add one more thing really quick before we start?

Of course.

Perfect, I just feel I need to get this off my heart.

So I just wanted to say thank you for not just you Marie, but for your whole team.

I think you have no idea how tremendously I inspire you and you helped me so much with

your day to day work where I am right now in life and also in my business, so I just

want to get that out before I jump into the question.

Thank you.

Aww thank you.

Everyone's faces here...

I'm crying.

They're all saying thank you.

You're getting thumbs up, everyone around, there's tears in Greg's eyes, so thank you

for that Natascha.

Perfect.

It's people like you that we honestly do this for.

If it wasn't for you and everyone else who paid attention.

I'd have nobody to make a show for.

I'd just be sittin' in my room with green screen and doin'... Wearin' silly outfits

and stuff, so thank you.

Yeah, no, I can imagine.

I'm sure you could.

Yeah, no, I can imagine.

But honestly I've never met someone or saw something who really took their tagline, create

a business in life and love to heart like you guys do, so if anything, that message

is helping the world, so thank you again.

I will jump into the question.

Great.

'Cause I know you need to answer that.

So I did launch my business, which I of course it put a lot of time and effort and money

into it.

Even though from the…

I would call it environment publications, people I talk to, I get really, really great

feedback on, I haven't sold anything yet.

So my question to you and your team would be, if there are any indications that a business

idea is simply not good enough to survive, and when it the right time to step away from

it?

Okay, yes.

Okay this is a brilliant question.

I'm gonna ask you some follow up just so we can get some more clarity for you and also

for everyone listening as well.

So Natascha, can you tell us what your business sells?

Yeah, sure.

So I created a meditation program for couples which go through, have to go through infertility

program to help them to visualize and with the help, with meditation and positive affirmation,

to prepare themselves going through IVF.

Brilliant work.

Really, really brilliant.

Okay and how long have you been doing this?

Not that long, but where obviously my impatience come into play.

Yeah, sure.

So I started that business about six months ago, launched the actual meditation program,

which is an MP3 you can download from my website, about three months ago.

Of course, I have my marketing plan, a lot of the things you talk me on your show I implemented,

and as I mentioned sales has been so far almost none, so my question or the question mark

is how much more should I invest in terms of marketing, in terms of developing new things

because the industry or the feedback I'm getting is why don't you do this, and that and this

even more, but all the requests I'm getting is tied to more investment.

At some point I need to see is that really a good idea or was it just me because I had

to go through the same experience when my idea came up.

I wanted to help the world with something I felt the need for and I was missing out

going through the process, but I don't know if it was...

You know, if that whole thing is a mistake and I should step away from it or if I just

should keep going and just listening to more Marie talks and all of this.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

There's a lot that I wanna say to you.

So I wanna share a quote and this is not just for you Natascha, so we're gonna have a great

conversation.

But it's actually from my friend Tim Ferriss and it's something that I come back to whenever

I'm working with entrepreneurs because you're right, when you've put a lot of work in, and

when even people are giving you great feedback and they say, "Wow, this idea's amazing."

If that's not translating into sales, rightfully so, you're asking some really good critical