Ofcourse, I stilltrytogo, buttherehavebeentimesthathavehadtoleavepartiesjustbecausepeoplehavecrackerjackoutordifferentthingswithnutsorpeanutbutterdipsandthingslikethat.
Andsoifthatstuffisintheair, especiallyiftheairisnotcirculatingverywell, I feelmyselfstartingtoreactandit's justnotworthit.
Datingisdefinitelydon't I don't evenknow.
Howdidthisguydatingwithfoodallergies?
It's It's a challenge, forsure.
I can't I can't goaroundtomeetsomebodythatnightandthendecide.
Oh, I'm I'm goingtokissthembecause, no, I needtoleaninandaskthem, Hey, whatdidyoueattoday?
So I recentlywenton a dateandwastryingtofigureoutwhattodobeforehand.
Should I texthimandsay, like, Hey, don't eatthisButthenhe's expectingsomething, orshould I notsayanythingandthenjustseewhathappens.
Andthen I realizedthatwouldmakeitevenmoredifficult, becausethen I alsoneedtowatchwhatdrinkhe's ordering.
I justgottokeeptheproduct, sothat's a littlebitexcitingformeonmydrawers, whicharefullofemptymakeupboxes, twofacesanotherbrandthat I havehadsomeprettygoodluckwith, Whetherit's theirbronzersortheirlipglosses, theylabelreallywell, andtheyuseproductsthataresafeforme.
A lotoflotionshaveingredientsthat I can't uselikesheabutter, andthosewillbetheonesthattheygenerallyadvertisewherethey'resayingthatthislotionisthebestbecauseithasSheabutteroralmondoilordifferentthingslikethat.
Therearen't toomoney, whichisalwaysnice, and I havebeenabletousethisbrandforyearswithsolutions.
It's veryrarethathe'llfind a productthat I canputonmyfacethatwon't makemereadoritchyorhotoranyofthosethings.
So I cookandbake a lotofmyownfoodjustbecause a crosscontaminationandtheunknown.
Soif I'm makingsomethinginmykitchenwithbrandsthat I knowwe'resafe, I canguarantee I willnothave a reactiontothesefoods.
Butgoingto a grocerystoreinvolvesreadingtheingredientsoverandoverandoveragain, walkingupanddown a 1,000,000 aislestofindthatoneproductthat I knowit's safetoeat.
Shockingly, I cangodownthepeanutbutter I'llthoseairsealedcontainers.
Soit's fine, and I needtogotheretogetmysonbutteranyway, whichismypeanutbutteralternative.
I have a numberofrestaurantsthatareconsideredmySiefrestaurantsandthosetheonesthat I gotowherethepeoplethereknowthat I havepeanutallergyor I'veeatentherebeforeandthey'vebeenableto a comedy.
Sowhen I'm goingto a newrestaurant, it's a bitof a lengthyprocess, alsoinvolving a lotofnervesandkindofgettingoverthatesostepone.
I lookedthemenuonlinetoseeifitwillbesafeformetoevengotothatrestaurant.
Therearecertaincuisinesthat I can't eatChinese, ThaiandIndianarethemainonesthatcometomind, too.
Ifthemenuissafe, I willcalltherestaurantandsaythat I haveAh, veryseverepeanutandtreenutallergies.
I justlistthosewhen I'm callingbecausethosetheonesthatcannotbecrossedcontaminated.
Soonce I gothere, it's kindofstartingthewholethingagainandtalkingtothepersonwhoseatsusandthewaiterandmakingsurethewaiteriscommunicatingwiththekitchenstaffandanybodythatneedstoknow.
It's definitelychallengingif I'm goingto a jobinterviewandit's expectedthat I walkinandshaketheirhand, but I shaketheirhandandseethattheyhave a bowlofpeanutEminem's ontheirdesk.
That's all I'm goingtobethinkingaboutfortheentireinterview, andthere's noclearwaytocommunicatethat.
Andthen I havetokindofthinkaboutitandsay, OK, isitworthitformetosay, Oh, I havefoodallergies, I won't shakeyourhandandthenthey'llthink I'm rudeOrdo I shaketheirhandandknowthat I mightblowthisjobinterview?
Becauseall I'm thinkingaboutarethesepeanut M and M's thatareontheirdesk, situationslikethat.
It's hardtoknowwhattodo.
So I carrythesewipesaroundwithmeprettymucheverywhere I gotomakesurethat I willbeabletosafelytouchwhateveritisthat I amlookingtotouch.
Soon.
Airplanes, especially.
I alwaysbringthese.
Wegettopreboardbecausefoodallergiesareconsidered a disabilityandweusethosewipestowipedowntheseethelight, thewindowTVandthetraylikeeverythingthatyoucouldthinkof.
And a lotoftheairlineshavesteppedservingpeanuts, so I havebeenabletotravelmoreandoutofthecountrywhen I traveloutofthecountry.
I bring a foodallergycardwithmethat's inthenativelanguage.
It's doublesidedaboutthisbig, andthefrontsidesaysthat I havesevereallergiesandexplainsthat I can't havecrosscontaminationoranythinglikethatandhowseveretheallergiesare.
Andthenthebacksidelistedallofmyallergiesout.
Whilemyallergylisthereseems a littlebitlonginFrance, itwasdoublethatlengthbecausethere's nowordfortreenuts.
So I hadtolistallofthetreenutsout, andtherestaurantsandwaitersthat I wasdealingwithfoundthoseallergiestobe a bitof a burden.
When I wenttoItaly, theywereamazing.
I wasabletoeatineveryrestaurantthatwewalkedinto, andtheyhavetolabelforthetop 14 allergensonalloftheirmenus.
Sowhat?
I'm lookingat a menu I canseebasedon a littlenumberputnexttoeachitem.
Whatallergenisinthatitem?
A lotofthebudgetversionsofthingsaren't availabletome.
A Siefbrandofchocolatechipsthat's freeofthetopeightallergenscosts $8 a bagcomparedtothe $2 versionthatyoucouldgetatthestoreagain.
It's not a choicethatyouhavetousetheseproductsversussomethingthat's a littlelessexpensive.
Youhavetousetheseproductsinordertobesafe.
Once I hadmyfirstandiflacticreactionwhere I hadtoadministertheahBecuetomyself, thingsbecame a littlemoreanxietyinducing.
For a while, I didn't feelsafeeatinganythingbecauseofthisallergicreaction, so I basicallystoppedeatingandhadtowork, tobeabletofeelcomfortableeatingagain, becauseanytime I putsomethinginmymouth, I wasconvinced I wasgoingtohave a noniflacticreaction.
I hadtodevelopdifferenttacticsthatwouldhelpmekindofgetthroughmymealandmoveonwithmylifewhen I waseatingandafter, I neededtodistractmyself.
Soafter I ate, if I knewOK, now I'm goingtogotothisactivityor I'm goingtowatchthismovieor I'm seeingthesefriendsjusthavingthenextthinglinedup.
Soforthe 30 minutesafter I ateit, I wasn't sittingtherefocusingoneverysingletinything I feltinmybody, thinkingthatitwasgoingtobeanhonest, lacticreaction.
Thismorning I wokeup, knewthat I wascomingtodothis, andthefirstthing I'm thinkingispleasedon't have a reaction, butthat's somethingthat I'm dealingwithEverydaywhentherearebigdays, I wakeupandthink, OhGod, am I goingtohave a reactiontoday?