Name: 伊麗莎白-戴從失敗中吸取的教訓 (Lessons Learned From Failure with Elizabeth Day)
Uploaded: 2020-09-20T19:10:34.000Z
Duration: 7 min

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Elizabeth Day: All of us fail in myriad ways almost

伊麗莎白-戴。我們每個人都會有各種各樣的失敗，幾乎是

every single day and yet, we live in an age where it

然而，我們生活在這樣一個時代，它

is very difficult to be honest about failure, where

it seems as if everyone else is nailing their life.

因為我們生活在一個策劃的時代

社交媒體的完美，Instagram的完美

filters and it can feel quite lonely sometimes to be vulnerable.

濾鏡，有時會覺得很孤獨，很脆弱。

Because not only do we learn more about who we are, but we're

因為我們不僅能更多地瞭解自己是誰，而且我們還能

able to connect on a very human level with other people.

能夠在非常人性化的層面上與他人溝通。

In October 2017, a long-term relationship came to an end.

2017年10月，一段長期的感情走到了盡頭。

and it was three weeks before my 39th birthday.

那是我39歲生日前的三個星期。

I face my 39th birthday was something akin to trepidation because I was

我面對我39歲的生日是類似於惶恐的東西，因為我是。

in no way where I have thought I would be at that stage in my life.

在任何情況下，我都不會想到我會在我生命的那個階段。

During my 30s, I had had a very busy time.

在我30多歲的時候，我曾經有過一段非常忙碌的時光。

我曾嘗試過生孩子，但失敗了。

I had two unsuccessful rounds of IVF and a miscarriage at three months.

我做了兩輪試管嬰兒不成功，三個月時流產了。

When I look back at my 30s, I realized that they

當我回顧我的30多歲時，我意識到，他們

had been a decade of some professional success.

已經是專業上取得一定成績的十年。

I was lucky enough to make my living as a journalist, but they had been

我很幸運，能以記者為生，但他們一直在

a decade also of immense personal transition and personal sadness.

這十年，也是個人巨大的轉變和個人悲哀的十年。

At the back of this relationship ending, I took myself

在這段關係結束的背後，我把自己

to LA, which is a very good place to go to lick your

到洛杉磯，這是一個非常好的地方去舔你的。

wounds because it's sunny and the time difference means

傷口，因為它是陽光明媚的，時差意味著

that you don't get that many emails after 2 P.M.

下午兩點後你不會收到那麼多的電子郵件。

It was while I was in LA that I find myself listening to a lot of

當我在洛杉磯的時候，我發現自己聽了很多的。

podcasts because, as anyone who has ever been heartbroken will

播客，因為，任何一個曾經心碎的人都會知道

know, when you're in that state of mind, every single pop song

知道嗎，當你在這種心態下， 每一首流行歌曲，

seems to have a peculiar, a specific resonance to your heartbreak.

似乎有一個奇特的，一個特定的共鳴 你的心碎。

One of the podcasts I was listening to was

我們該從哪裡開始和埃斯特-佩雷爾談起呢？

She is a fantastic relationship therapist and she basically opens up

她是一個夢幻般的關係治療師，她基本上打開了

the door to her consulting room during the course of this podcast.

在這個播客的過程中，她的諮詢室的門。

You get a bird's eye view of relationships

你會得到一個鳥瞰式的關係視圖

At the same time as I was listening to this

podcast, I was having the most incredible

conversations with my predominantly female friends

about what it meant to have loved and lost

and what we had learned from various heartbreak,

以及我們從各種心酸中得到的啟示。

and where we were professionally and what

this meant, and what it meant not to have

children when one had always thought one would.

子女的時候，自己一直以為自己會。

我開始以非常不同的眼光看待我的

failures and I began to see that each one had

失敗，我開始看到，每一個都有。

taught me something so valuable about who

教給我一些寶貴的東西，關於誰

It had been a nudge from the universe in a slightly different direction.

這已經是來自宇宙的推波助瀾，方向稍有不同。

I started to wonder how great it would be if we could open up those

我開始想，如果我們能打開那些... ...

For the first eight guests, I really corralled a lot of

對於前八位客人，我真的凝聚了大量的

friends and contacts and got them to do it as a favor.

朋友和聯繫人，並讓他們幫個忙。

在每個客人出現之前，我都會問他們

Three instances in their life where they felt

在他們的生活中，有三件事讓他們感到

that things haven't gone according to plan.

They could range from the seemingly superficial, bad dates,

它們的範圍可能從看似表面的，糟糕的約會。

failed driving tests, lost tennis matches to the more profound.

駕考失敗，網球比賽輸給了更深刻的人。

It is a great honor now to listen to those people

現在能聽這些人說話，是我的榮幸。

stories because the topics we've discussed

include living with depression, homelessness,

包括與抑鬱症、無家可歸的生活。

death by suicide, failed family relationships.

It really has been the most beautiful journey of discovery.

這真的是一次最美的發現之旅。

Those first eight episodes I put out into

the world genuinely thinking that maybe half

世界上真正認為可能有一半的人

those people would probably be my parents.

I sold my wedding dress on eBay to fund the first few episodes.

我在eBay上賣掉了我的婚紗，以資助前幾集的拍攝。

I drew my own logo with felt-tip pens, as you

我用毛筆畫了自己的標誌，就像你一樣。

can probably tell if you've ever seen it.

如果你看過的話，可能會知道。

Anyway, How To Fail went out there in July 2018 and within

總之，《如何失敗》在2018年7月上市，在內

three weeks, it was number three on the iTunes chart.

三週，它在iTunes排行榜上排名第三。

It was, ironically, the most successful thing I have ever done.

諷刺的是，這是我做過的最成功的事情。

Elizabeth: It's been a really incredible thing, this journey,

伊麗莎白。這是一個非常不可思議的事情， 這個旅程。

because it's made me realize how much we were all thirsting to talk

因為它讓我意識到，我們都是多麼渴求說話。

about failure and how alone so many people feel in their failures

關於失敗，以及很多人在失敗中的孤獨感。

and how ashamed they feel of acknowledging them in public.

以及他們對在公共場合承認他們感到多麼羞愧。

One of the most inspiring guests I've ever had on

一個最鼓舞人心的客人，我有史以來的。

the podcast is a man called Johnny Benjamin, who

播客是一個叫約翰尼-本傑明的人，他...

is not a household name, but is a phenomenal mental health campaigner.

雖然不是家喻戶曉的人物，但卻是一位了不起的心理健康運動家。

When Johnny was 20, he was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder.

約翰尼20歲時，被診斷出患有精神分裂症。

Shortly afterwards, he found himself standing on

the edge of Waterloo Bridge, about to take his own life.

在滑鐵盧橋的邊緣，準備自殺。

The pain had got so great that he could see no other way out.

疼痛已經到了無路可走的地步。

It was at that moment that a stranger walked past him

就在這時，一個陌生人從他身邊走過。