Have we ever been skating before together?

I don't think we have your high like birthday parties so long ago.

Yeah.

Episode 18 Season two I feel like it's been gloomy for the past five days.

Maybe I'm no expert in anything.

But one thing I feel that saved my life here was admitting everything that I'm struggling with and struggled with, really growing up, I just assumed that it's not OK to not be okay, because if you aren't okay, that means there's something wrong with you.

Um, it's not really easy admitting all the things that I've done wrong living abroad or just in life.

But I feel like people need to admit those things.

And e mean, there's so many things that I'm doing wrong now, and there's a lot of things that I'm doing right now.

And, um, that's just how life is.

I think the one thing that I can start off with living abroad or just in life in general is I think I was constantly, um, wanting to be with people despite being an introvert.

When I moved to Japan, I was kind of an introvert and at the same time being an introvert, you could be quite lonely.

And, um, I think being alone, I felt like I was kind of going crazy in a way because, ah, part of me was like, I'm in this foreign country and I don't have my family around me.

So I'm always gonna be alone unless I find that group of friends I needed that secondary family.

If I don't have that, then I'll always be alone.

And I wasn't OK with being alone.

And I think before you move abroad, you should be OK with being alone and you should have a relationship with yourself.

And I realized something that I'm doing wrong at this moment is I'm not going out enough by myself.

I'm starting to feel myself become more introverted, and although I do have friends that I can hit up, I can call.

That's something that I did wrong, and something that's very related to that today is that I'm not admitting that I am not doing enough by myself.

If you don't admit what you're struggling with, it's kind of difficult to change, and nobody is struggle free, especially if you're living abroad waiting because we're way Ever been skating before?

Together, I think way I rely on my husband way too much.

Once you get married to somebody who's Japanese and from this country, you just get really, really attached to a person like that and you get lazy with language.

And I'm admitting I'm not good at Japanese anymore.

E used to be.

I graduated with a degree in Japanese and I passed with very good grades and obviously I can speak to an extent.

I'm not like beginner level.

If I go out or make phone calls, I have to do that.

But now even that I'm getting lazy with which is really bad, because before I met my husband, um, I was doing all those things on my own.

My Japanese is so far gone because I was a teacher here for so long and focusing on my creative works and projects.

But I lost it a little bit.

So it's something that I really want to grasp and get better at.

And I want people to see this because there's something in your life that is lacking and you need Thio.

Find out what that is.

This'll is me trying to lose weight, Talk to there's a game going on today, way around and go back to where we came from on, like go out and then around.

Yeah, okay.

I don't want people to think that everything is perfect.

It's just it's not.

Everybody has challenges.

Everybody has things that they wish they could have done.

So you need thio admit those things in order to move forward and in order to take action.

And I'm admitting those things now we're here.

We live in our junior high school dreams.

I've never done this.

He's never done look so hard.

But we have this drama in just staring after three every day.

E Mr Rush of He'll be fine because you snowboard e feel like I'm a baby e.

I'm just learning how to walk e m.

Ready to.

It's been a really long time, so hopefully I can get behavior of it.

But nobody somebody's.

Yeah, it's actually makes me some ancient, but sons in dog That shit was amazing.

Way back to 1985 way screen every day and I e Mr Russia Evelyn in your life don't get your bologna.

Don't get your glory.

You're what you got in that bag, Kenny.

Cigarettes and a playboy might have done the same thing.

Work?

No way.

We're talking about the nineties and how in American nineties skating rink way used to get all of the nineties food, snacks and things like Slurpees.

And not so Pressel's.

What else?

Um, Popcorn.

Yes, You said Slurpees and pizza.

He was a big thing.

I don't see how that so.

I don't know.

I don't think we can fully relive our childhood without that.

Yeah, it was so good.

But like the music here is Solo Can't hear it.

I feel like you need, like, head.

I wanna get funky, get pumping.

She's like dancing on her own and like, awkward with no music is that actually is kind of not is exciting.

And last but not least, my health.

When I moved to Japan, I thought, Oh, gosh, there's so many healthy foods.

I'm gonna be so, so healthy.

And that wasn't the case, because growing up, my parents would always cook for me.

My mom was the best chef, and I would eat all of her food.

And I loved coming home to a home cooked meal.

And then when I moved to Japan when I went to college, you know, when I went to college, I had a lunch ticket in a dinner ticket, so I was able to go to a cafeteria and eat.

And then I moved to Japan and it was totally different, and I didn't know how to cook very well.

I knew how toe follow a recipe, and I wasn't that bad.

So I would buy Bentos.

And in Japan, you get the bentos are gorgeous, you know, there, they're healthy, they're fresh, so you would think that it would be good for you.

But in reality, there's a lot of sodium and things and salt and sugar.

I ate a lot of that and I ate a lot of rice, and it didn't help with my gut health and everything like that.

And I was eating out a lot and drinking with friends, and I think that you're gonna lose the weight.

And then I mean, at the time I was I was a good weight, like I was at a weight that I wanted to be, and I now I'm struggling a little bit.

I'm 30 now and I gained weight from quarantine.

I think I neglected my health a lot because I wanted to travel and have fun and all the good food.

And I didnt really take care of myself.

I was always skinny.

I never was overweight.

I was.

I could eat and eat and eat and never gain weight.

I was just I was in love with food.

I started to suffer.

And you know the consequences to started coming in.

I'm no health coach.

Um, not a nutritionist.

I'm not a fitness coach.

So those are things that I wanna learn more of taking care of your health.

It's very important.

Japanese e sweating e absolutely so hard, e even over here, I honestly think we neglect our health a lot when we're in an exciting situation.

Moving to Japan was literally one of them, and it made me feel like I was on a permanent vacation most days and it still does sometimes.

So I love to indulge.

So be careful.

The food may look healthy, but a lot has secret ingredients.

E o E o E.

Whenever you're in a new situation, always keep a beginner's mind.

Also known as Shaoshan and Japanese.

The concept teaches us to view ourselves as works in progress, and it takes confidence and the ability to admit we aren't always doing everything right in order to live without pressure.

In the end, it's all about resilience, innovating, pivoting and analyzing new perspectives and new ways of doing well.

Anything does it look?

Whoa, that looks so crazy.

Whoa!

Eso Yeah, There you go.

We have language, health, independence as something that I struggle with today, and I'm going to be on this continuous journey with these things.

But when it comes to my accomplishments, which is something that you always have to recognize in in the middle of change you have to go back to your accomplishments and recognize those to keep you going to make changes in other parts of your life.

And I have accomplished so much since then.

I've found somebody that treats me like a queen that loves me.

I'm in this beautiful home that we have, and I started my own service in my own business, which I'm so grateful for the fact that people believe in it and that people have signed up for it and we have a little community and just gonna grow from there.

And I'm so happy I found my purpose in life and that I'm working towards goals.

And I'm recognizing the things that I want to change.

And I want to share that with you.

I wanna document every day of my life, which is why I started girl abroad.

So I can show you my transformations in life in another country.

And it's intriguing to me.

And I'm sure hopefully for you I want to start a challenge.

Take out a piece of paper, right?

A timeline of all of your accomplishments and then next to that, right?

What you got out of it?

Did it give you some strength?

Courage, confidence?

What did those accomplishments?

Those tiny ones, too.

Don't forget the tiny ones, even the ones when you when you were two years old.

If you can remember, what gift did that give you?

Write it on a piece of paper and tag me tag Kelly Marie, Suzanne.

And show me your accomplishments because sharing them with the world is the next step in doing something that's out of your comfort zone.

Just do it.

Trust me.

You're gonna feel really good.

Yeah.

Thank you guys for watching.

And I just wanted to let you know that my geeky guy lifestyle courses now open.

So find your purpose.

Live the life you want and gain confidence today.

And I will see you in the next video.