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  • Now, I know small talk is really, really horrible; even British people are kind of afraid of it.

  • But we feel like we have to do it.

  • So, today, we're going to really focus on some questions you can ask people when you're in a small talk conversation.

  • And these are all related to the topic of work.

  • One of the easiest things to talk about is your job, your work, your career, your studies.

  • Along with travel, I think those are the most common small talk conversations.

  • So, today, I just have some really simple questions that you can ask people in a small talk conversation to, hopefully, make it a little bit easier for you.

  • And then we get talking. Let's say we're talking with this person; we've build up a bit of a rapport.

  • Now what we want to do is keep them talking.

  • Maybe they've mentioned their career; maybe you want to ask them what they do.

  • Easy question: What do you do?

  • Let's say this person is a lady, and she says she's a doctor.

  • After she said that she's a doctor, she may then ask you, "What about you?"

  • This phrase is extremely useful, and you can use it yourself in small talk.

  • Essentially, what this question does is, it turns the question back on the person who asked you that question.

  • So, they're asking you now, "What do you do?"

  • Well, then you answer the question.

  • Maybe, then, you want to ask more questions.

  • So, why not this one?

  • How long have you been doing that for?

  • So, this is a way to open up the conversation.

  • How long have they been doing it for?

  • It shows that you're interested in what they're talking about.

  • Something I always recommend during small talk is to react to everything they say.

  • So, for example, if they say, "Oh, I've been doing it for about 10 years,"

  • respond with a "Oh, wow!" "Really?" "Nice!"

  • Little words like this just show a reaction.

  • And then maybe you can follow up with another question.

  • For example, "How did you get into that?"

  • How did you get into that?

  • This essentially means, "How did you start that job? What made you want to do that job?"

  • Now, if they're a talkative person, this is definitely a way to get someone to talk for quite a long time.

  • Do you think you'll stick with it forever?

  • Do you think you'll stick with it forever?

  • To stick with something means to stay with.

  • Stick, like when we have glue and we stick things together.

  • Stick with itwell, that simply means, "Do you think you'll stay in this job forever?"

  • Really, it's a yes/no question, but in small talk, they might explain why.

  • Now, a lot of the time with "Do you...?" questions, we use the weak forms of "do" and "you".

  • The reason why is because "do" and "you" are what we would call "function words"⏤they're not really very important in this sentence.

  • So, we've replaced the vowels with the schwa (ə) sound.

  • Do you think; do you think?

  • Do you think?

  • This makes you sound a little bit more like a native.

  • You'll also notice I'm dropping the "t" on "it": with it forever.

  • That's just a common native thing to do.

  • You could say, "Do you think you'll stick with it forever?"

  • It's entirely up to you what you want to do there.

  • It's just my native way of pronouncing it⏤I like to drop t's at the end of words sometimes.

  • Oh, OK. Have you always worked there?

  • Have you always worked there?

  • And that simply is a way of asking someone if they've done any other jobs in the past, maybe what their first job was.

  • Let's talk about the /kt/ sound; what's that?

  • That's what we call a "constant cluster", the k and the t combination at the end of "worked", OK?

  • I hear lots of different variations of this from my students taking my pronunciation course.

  • And, uh, I actually did just add a new video to my pronunciation course,

  • all about these constant clusters with [pronunciation] and, you know, things like [pronunciation], and things like that, right?

  • All of these sounds that happen at the end that are really difficult.

  • Now, this one is a very common one: worked.

  • We need to create pressure to create that /k/ sound, and then we need to very quickly release that sound to spit that /t/, OK?

  • So, /kt/.

  • Now, when we create the /k/ sound, our tongue is up high, it's kind of bent, and the back is touching the top.

  • So, what we quickly need to do is, as soon as we create that /k/ sound, the tongue needs to flick the front to the roof of your mouth, and we create the /t/.

  • /kt/, worked, worked.

  • Their response might just be, "No"⏤now, hopefully, they'll say, "No, I actually did this job before."

  • But if they don't do that, then say, "Ah, right. Well, what else did you do before this job?" OK?

  • So, always be ready to ask more questions.

  • If they say no, why did they say no?

  • If they said yes, why did they say yes?

  • And, also, is there anything you can agree with or relate to that they're saying?

  • Maybe you've had a similar situation to what they're talking about.

  • Well, tell them; they want to know.

  • So, don't be afraid to talk about things which are similar in your life to what they're saying.

  • Anyway, that's it for today's video.

  • And, like I said, I do have a pronunciation course, which has over 100 people.

  • It's doing really well; I've had some great feedback.

  • So, if you want to join the course and also have the bonus of talking to me on WhatsApp with voice recordings, then I hope to see you soon.

  • You can go to etjenglish.com and start learning perfect British pronunciation right now.

  • You might have noticed that this video is available on a Friday.

  • That's right, I have now changed my days.

  • I release YouTube videos every Friday now, just because I like Fridaysis that OK?

  • Anyway, thanks again; I will see you next week.

  • And cheers, guys; bye.

Now, I know small talk is really, really horrible; even British people are kind of afraid of it.

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